Unsure of what path to take

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I was also thinking of trying to get into the military but my eyesight is pretty shit and i'm not fit. However i'm willing to become fit, and the military is something i've always kinda fantasised about since it's so different to normal life and there's the travelling and always being outside, so it interests me a lot. I know I could probably make some good friends in the army, there'll probably be a few people similar to me (one of my old HS friends who used to be like me but fitter recently joined the RAF). However there's no girls and people seem to look down on soldiers, my teachers used to say it's a bad idea to join the military too and so do my parents. It's again a 4 year contract, but it would probably force me to learn discipline and I could save a little money, the pay is around £20,000 avg a year.

Essentially, I can't decide which would be best for me to become a better happier person. I am currently moderately depressed and see a therapist, which I think was because of my isolated lifestyle and lack of social contact. I've also never really achieved anything before and I want to start my life properly now that i'm an adult.

A summary of my personality is: "introverted" (I get anxious in social situations that have more than 1 other person, but I do really enjoy being in a good environment with people if I know them a little and if they are friendly), gamer, chronic internet user, I know a little bout a lot, but i'm very lazy and find it hard to dedicate myself. All of this I want to change to the opposite. I want to be one of the people like my old buddy who spends most of their day doing 'real' stuff, lots of friends and socialising, successful in doing long-term things, and not reliant on internet or anything to stimulate my mind. I also want to be fitter, but I think all of the options above will help me become fitter and active.

If anyone has any input it will be much appreciated. Thank you for reading this long ass post.

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>>18254421
eh, I guessed it would get that reaction. A bump is better than nothing though, maybe someone will end up reading it out of boredom.

>>18254406
Right now, the world needs tradesmen. You can get good fucking money and plenty of work going into the trades. However, automation is a thing, and trying to predict what the labour market is going to look like in 10 years, let alone 20, is a crapshoot.

The military is a great option for SOME people. If you need to be disciplined and can't do it yourself, then it can give you some much-needed structure in your life. However, it means you'll be devoting 4 years of your life to advancing the interests of sociopathic warmongers & fucking up the lives of innocent people. And you might get dead for your trouble.

You seem to be looking for a crystal ball, but unfortunately, no one here has one. There's no way to accurately predict what life decisions will make you a happier person, and once you do choose something, there's no way to compare it to your other previously-possible choices. You just have to pick something and jump in, OP.

>>18254470
Thanks, I am still finding it hard to decide if a trade is the best thing in the UK. We don't get anywhere near the salaries i've seen stated on 4chan and reddit for americans.

If I joined the military it wouldnt be in a combat role, something in intel would be cool, or even engineering would be interesting.

The crystal ball thing is exactly right but I wish there was a way to predict what's best. I wish I knew myself well enough to figure out what to do with my life. Maybe i'm delusional but I always wanted to be rich enough to never worry about money and I wanted to be seen as 'successful' by family and friends but I dont think it will happen now because I don't know how to attain it.

Thanks for your advice.