How to move on from this

most men experience this at some point, they just dont understand it as well.

its okay ot have feelings for someone and not date, kiss, or fuck them. its okay for two dudes to love each other but still date owmen and just be platonic friends. you dont /need/ to escalate this.

and if you talk about it, it ruins it, as once you open that door you can't close it. just keep on enjoying whats happening and if it escalates naturally, you can at least have that.

>>18249055
Are you gay?
Are you hetero?
Are you bi?

Whatever is answer, he has gf and he is basically taken. Move on. Or stay with them and wait for change which might never come.

>>18249055
What do you want from him? Buttsex?

>be me
>move to new country
>start making friends
>one guy seems a bit odd
>i get to know him and it turns out hes not odd, he just makes me feel odd
>begin to hang out with him cuz despite this we get along pretty well
>loads of same interests
>over time we get REALLY close
>one day im sad cuz my father just died and i couldnt go to his funeral
>friend holds me all night long
>wake up in his arms and realize, im in love with him
>i know this owuld never work, he has a girlfriend
>several months go by and we keep getting a little too close, we spend most of our time together, even more than with his gf he lives with
>one day he comes over to my place in tears
>says he and his gf had a break up
>turns out she didn't like how close we were
>gave him an ultimatum, either stop being friends with me, or break up with her
>he chose me
>this time I hold him all night as he cries about how much he loved her
>says im his best friend and couldn't give me up even though he knew her way longer
>in the morning he wakes me up with a kiss on the lips
>he freaks out, didnt think id wake up from it
>he admits he has feelings for me
>i admit i have feelings for him
>things are about ot get intense, but i stop it
>if were going to do this, i ant to do it right
>i take him out to dinner that night
>we go see a movie
>we go get dessert
>we actually hold hands at one point
>its going great
>we get back to my place
>finally we are about to make love
>turns out were both tops

and now were dating girls again

>>18249055
This is the best thread ever bump

>>18249055
I love my best mates like brothers, but im not romantically attracted to them, It's called being straight
You're just a fag in love with a straight man who loves you like a brother

>>18249067
>most men experience this at some point

What color is the sky on your planet?

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>>18249165

>they just don't understand it as well

sorry you're dumb

>>18249173

no...you're just a fag

>>18249067
Are you one of those "everybody is gay at some point" people?

>>18249180

i wouldn't call it gay, i just think the lines of affection blur a lot. we act like there's some scientific point claiming that romantic feelings are reserved for a monogamous relationship with the opposite sex, but love is love, sometimes you feel strongly for people who are outside your sexual interest, and when we feel strongly for someone wehther it be for a friend, a family member, an animal, a child, or a pillow with the picture of an anime girl, we get confused. because society says we DONT feel romance for these people.

but sometimes we do. doesn't make you gay, particularly if you're not sexually interested and can't fuck em.

but if you look at the large trend of straight men pretending to be gay with their best friends you can tell there's an edge of confusion, of romance and flirting with possibility.

most people just smack their friends ass a few times say 'no homo' like they're just messing around and realize they aren't interested in pursuing it sexually and then better come to terms with the idea that strong feelings doens't mean sex.

>>18249165
>>18249173
>most men experience this at some point
Where's the truth?
http://www.strawpoll.me/12805360
http://www.strawpoll.me/12805360
http://www.strawpoll.me/12805360

>>18249193
>http://www.strawpoll.me/12805360

>they just dont understand it as well

you can't survey someone who isn't self aware.

>>18249077
Not sure, probably bi.

>>18249083
Not literally buttsex, but an occasional hug or a kiss which will allow me to physically express my love.

>>18249190
But that's where you're wrong, love isn't love.
Love can be so many different things, in so many different forms.
I love my cat, ferrari's and my mom in 3 different ways, and wouldn't stick my dick in either three.
I love girl's in the way that i actually feel some sort of connection to them, the constant need to show my appreciation and express my feelings for them.
I love my mates because i would trust with my very life and it doesnt matter how much of a pillock i am or what i say and do, they feel indifferent regardless, the bond is that strong
You're just getting love as in romance confused with love as in an unbreakable bond of friendship which in the future might make things very confusing for you

>>18249209
>probably bi
>probably
Go now and find any porn with two guys kissing and generally manhandling themselves on
>>>/hm/
If you are bi, you should have no problem liking what you see on hm board. If not, you are probably just another boring hetero who got "too close" with his male friend.

It isnt wrong getting close with friend, but make sure you dont get confused in the process.

>>18249209

just hug him. if he does something super funny or super cool kiss him on the cheek. the first few times do it like a big bugs bunny kiss. slowly transition to regular kiss on the cheek. especially if you're foreign you can claim its normal.

>>18249220

>in so many different forms

well yeah. doesn't make it not love. and it doesn't mean that all humans can process their chemical rushes like some computer.

>you're just getting love as in romance confused with other love

no, billions of people are. you're missing my point. most people blur the lines at some point.

again, like i JUST FUCKING TOLD YOU once they do a little harmless experimentation they realize there is no sexual edge and it helps them better separate friendship from romance etc.

>>18249236
According to your logic i should stick my hand in hydrofluoric acid just to check if it actually fucks up my hand
You know what happens when you try something romantic with your mate of the same sex that is not into it? you lose your best friend

>>18249246

>experimenting with your sexuality due to strong feelings for other men is exactly the same as sticking your hand in acid just to see if it would fuck it up.

this is how retarded you legitimately are.

>you know hwat happens when you try something ormantic with your mate of the same sex that is not into it? you lose your best friend

thats why i said harmless experimentation, the kind you see most males engage in, just a slap on the ass.

its so weird that you can type, but you can't read.

When I was 18 I met a guy who pretty much became my older brother.

He was so postive and outgoing, I had never met anyone like him before. I started to learn from him a lot. Before I met him I was very depressed, coming from a broken home with nothing going for me.
During one drunken night he said to me "I just want to be happy and make the others around me happy".
I took that to heart, it was simple, genuine and good.

It was deffenitly love but not regular love, it was what a man to man friendship should be.
A friendship where the two of you could talk about absolutely everything without feeling weird or anything.

He moved away about a year ago but it doesn't really bother me, he thought me so much and I'm now starting to live my own life like him, hopefully I'll become the same type of postive and outgoing person. And hopefully I'll meet someone like myself that I can inspire one day.

I'm not attracted to men at all but hugging this man that I really liked and trusted felt fucking good.

I'd say having a friendship like this is just a important if not even more important than love.

>>18249118
lmao

>>18249493

thats pretty cool

>if not even more important than love

BUT DISNEY TOLD ME ID LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!