I'm in high school, I'm a nerd, not terribly autistic though. I would want to focus completely on work, but I want to get a girlfriend first, because I don't want to end up as a 23 yo virgin.
But I have two problems:
1. All the girls that interest me are taken
2. I'm shit at initializing conversations
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If you're bad at socializing, practice socializing. If there are no available girls in your social circle, meet some new ones.
I don't know why everyone overcomplicates things.
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>because I don't want to end up as a 23 yo virgin.
What do you think is so awful about being a 23 y/o virgin exactly? What's wrong with you bud?
People on /adv/ want gfs when they can't even hold on friendships
Honestly I think this is just stigma
I don't see what's wrong with being a virgin. I have an old friend who's 22 & still a virgin bc she doesn't wanna lose it to some douchebag that she won't be with for very long. I respect that very much. Whenever you do find a girlfriend she may appreciate that you haven't been with others. Also, a lot of girls in high school are dicks and also, you aren't grown either so there's going to be a lot of immaturity. Sex complicates things and high school is hard enough as it is. Why not try working on socializing better and expanding your circle first before worrying about a girl? You'll go through lots of relationships in due time and find someone worth your efforts eventually. Don't rush everything. Sorry if I sound like a mom with all of that lol.
>>18246798 Rationally speaking, nothing. Rationally speaking, I don't even need a girlfriend - it's not like it bothers me very much. At the moment, I don't have anyone that I could consider a friend - a few people like me very much, but I don't give a fuck about them. I feel the best when I'm alone and I don't think it's a problem, since I'm generally competent in everyday human relations. I have no problem with self-acceptance. However, I do have a sex drive and I do enjoy social interactions to a degree - and I generally want to improve my HR skills, because they are useful in life and work. Having a relationship with a girl is like another tier. And most importantly, I get obsessed over certain things or people easily. That drives me crazy, because I know it's not rational, but I don't want to deny my feelings completely - they will always be there, no matter what I do. And I don't want to look into the past in ten years and have suicidal thoughts because I didn't do x and y. Basically I'm a perfectionist.
You're in high school. You're a kid. Nothing you do now matters. Focus on your work and future and girls will follow. The more you stress about it the more it will prevent you from getting a gf. Your odds go up once you stop caring.