I want to become more sexually active, but I have questions. I know a decent amount about STDs and prevention, but I have questions about herpes.
Every source says there's no cure, and that it can be spread even through protected sex. But it also says that 20+% of humans have it. Is there any point in being concerned about herpes if it's that prevalent? Does it do anything significant other than cause outbreaks?
>>18245770
Actually, the 20% is talking about herpes on the genitles
Herpes on your mouth is at some fucking ridiculous statistic like somewhere between 50-80% of the adult population.
You can transfer herpes on your mouth to the genitles.
Does it do anything other than look gross? Not really.
>>18245770
How about look for more reliable sources than an imageboard where anyone can make up bullshit? Just a quick google search could give you decent info about all STDs.
No point in becoming sexually active. Just wait until you find the one. You're not missing out on anything. People don't practice having sex often enough to be decent at it. Most people don't care about their bodies and don't exercise so you won't find many attractive people to fuck. Prostitutes are an option but if you have a shred of morality you won't be able to do it without realizing and feeling how terrible of a person you're being for doing this.
Having sex for the sake of having sex is leads to a bunch of scenarios you don't want. Accidental pregnancies. Spontaneous development of romantic relationships based on nothing more than "We fucked and it felt nice" which are doomed to fail. STDs like you mentioned.
It all sucks. Sex sucks.
And I wish the sexually rabid virgins on 4chan fapping to porn threads every day would wake up and realize they're not missing anything
Herpes has an overblown stigma. The amount of people who have it are actually much higher than 20%. Especially if you're just talking oral herps.
It's not that big a deal, I've had cold sores all my life, which is oral herpes, since I was a baby.
I rarely ever have an outbreak, and by outbreak I mean, 1 cold sore. Lots of people never do, and therefore never even know they have it. The sores kinda hurt and are uncomfortable, but it's nothing that isnt manageable.
There are some stats that say herpes makes you more at risk for some scarier STDs, however this is most likely due to the fact if you're banging someone DURING an outbreak, you're more likely to bleed and therefore, share blood.
If you don't fuck around while you're having an outbreak, you're mostly fine.
As far as STD's go, herpes is by far the most tame and least bothersome one and it's almost impossible to avoid unless you're screening every partner and having monogamous sex with one person you trust.
You have to take risk to have any fun in life, but this is a pretty small risk imo. Be smart, if their junk looks weird, don't touch it. If it looks fine, you'll likely be fine too.
I'm sure some people will show up to say it's the worst thing ever.
I've had it for almost a decade. The outbreaks occur less and less often and are less severe every time. When I get them they're gross and inconvenient, but not more so than a zit on some other part of my body really.
Only you can decide how much you want to care about it though. I find the more familiar a person is with it the less of a big deal it becomes.