Broken Home side effects

did it really take you 26 years to realize that your issues are a result of your upbringing? you must be a very clever fellow...

>>18244352

Yes...

Well, when I was a child, I just tried to ignore everything. I never thought any of my issues were directly related to family, since I don't really care about family.

>>18244357
>i don't care for my family
>my issues are not related to my family

do you even hear wtf you're saying?

>>18244378
Hes talking about linking his sexual frustration and bad experiences to his upbringing . He is well aware that their are deep issues seeded inside him from the divorce

I don't think about my family when I am trying to get horny so if I had a sexual problem why would it my family even cross my mind ? Family would be the last door I would think to open for this issue.

>>18244378

I honesty don't see what is wrong with what I said.

Can you explain?

You have summoned the guy who mentioned rape and broken home issues on ask the opposite gender.

Okay so here's what happened to me. Parents split when I was a kid, grew up with my mom who dated like 7 different guys, some years, others not so long. Left my home country as a kid, so I was basically forced to live in this circumstance. Ended up molested by one of her bf's, he remained in her life long after I told her what happened. Years go by, things are different now.

In between all this, I realized I was a really crazy kid no doubt, I used to read hentai manga in class, watched pretty extreme porn at a very young age, talk about sexual things a lot, even though I was a virgin till 22; girl I fell in love with. I generally felt disgust toward very sexually active people, yet I hung out in my teens with some of the most sexually active ppl who did drugs, and I did drugs, alcohol, etc. To think that so many of my friends were absolute normies in that respect, they had both parents, my two guy friends, and their home situation was pretty shit, but at least they had their biological parents.

As I got older I realized how much I hated who I was in retrospect, I hated not having the empathy to understsnd the more sexually active people I knew, that -even though I hung out with them, it was an aspect of them that always felt more extreme or unappealing. I wanted sex too, but I was very serious about the possibility of getting someone pregnant. A part of me feels I would have been really no different than them, had I developed a bit more naturally. But in a way, I know nothing happens for no reason.

>>18244342
Eh. I had the the same shit. I ended up with anxiety like my brother and abused mother. I'm not sure sexual repression is something you get from a broken home, problems treating people right in a relationship maybe. Probably you just suck with women.

>>18244462
Those two guy friends didn't do drugs and didn't have sex till much later in life. One of them even got married. They both became Christian. I later did too.

>>18244462

Fuck man, that's bad.

>>18244469

>I'm not sure sexual repression is something you get form a broken home

Oh, well I don't know then. I think it just has to do with intimacy and affection really. I can't accept affection or intimacy (which plays a major part of sexual repression I assume)

Everyone gets fucked up by their parents no matter how good or bad they are. It hits everyone differently. I'm not trying to say what you went through was normal and you need to suck it up. I'm just saying it is guaranteed that in some way your parents messed you up. Everyone has their own scars and neuroses they carry with them.

>>18244528

>I'm just saying it is guaranteed that in some way your parents messed you up

I'm actually very glad to hear this Tbh. Because for the longest time I just thought i was weird. But now, I have someone to blame as an excuse :)

>>18244520
>Fuck man, that's bad.

It's not so bad. I don't condemn those who have done me wrong anymore. Life is just kind of unforgiving in many ways, so you just have to keep going. I have forgiven my mother for those many years. And she has accepted me long after I've confessed really dark shit to her that has stained me over the years.

If I could give anybody real advice, it's that, forgive those who deliberately or unknowingly hurt you. We're more resilient than we think. And none of us are really perfect. Let God deal with it.

>>18244566

My parents divorced over financial matters. No other men or women were involved and neither of my parents dated anyone else. The topic of "dating" was never even spoken in my household during all my teens.

It's crazy to think now at 26, but it makes so much sense. I mean, I can talk to women no problem. I have several female friends and get along fine with female co-workers. But anything past friendship seems fictional to me. A year ago I asked a girl out on a date, but literally it just felt like just hanging out as a friend. That's literally what happened. She ended up actually dating someone else instead. So I sort of gave up because it doesn't seem "real". The thought of someone actually wanted to be intimate and affectionate with me truly sounds fictional. It has nothing to do with my personality or looks. I have my life and looks together. But, even still a girl actually being affectionate with me sounds so unrealistic