Trying to have kids

>>18240066
They say the best strategy to get pregnant is to not think too hard about it and have some sex and enjoy it. Stressing over it is counterproductive.

Ages? Past anti baby methods used? Fat?

>>18240078
I'm 180lb and she is 140lb.
We kinda are just making love, and just I Cum inside her in the off chance it would get her pregnant, but we don't just do it to get pregnant, we're just really horny.
There was a point in the past where she got pregnant. It was last summer, she had sex once in that month, with the thought of getting pregnant, and she got it. I don't understand why she got t so easily that one time, but now it seems so much more difficult. We're not stressed, that's for sure, but she does have a Cyst that bothers her so maybe it could be affecting the chances... please don't judge us on our age, we are well off and prepared (I am 22 and she is 20)

>>18240093
Forgot to mention, the reason we don't have a child now, is that we could keep the one she was having before... she ended up getting extremely sick and it affected the pregnancy so we had to have it removed...

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>>18240093
>cyst
Wow what a generous description of medical issue. There are like 9999 types.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyst
If it is cyst of one of her fallopian tubes, her chances of getting pregnant are halved at best. Talk to gyno doctor.

Have you like talked to doc? Otherwise you are pretty young, so getting pregnant shouldnt be any issue. Classic doc wont try to bother with you unless you are trying for at least 6 months and failing.

I have read on some pregnancy forums about girls having problems getting pregnant and one mother told how after sex she just inserter her fingers inside her and "helped" the ejaculate to get father inside. Claimed it helped her and later two other friends to get pregnant in no time. So try to finger your girl after sex i guess? :-D

Patience is the key. Also see pic related, woman can get pregnant only few days per month. Find out when she ovulates to know when to have sex for sure.

>>18240127
Thanks, ill try that. Sorry I know it wasn't descriptive but I'm having trouble remember what kind if cyst... I believe it's an Ovarian Cyst

Why do you want a baby so bad when you're not married and are so young? I'm not just talking about age, I'm talking about how you're approaching the whole scenario and how you structure your sentences.

Also the fact you're trying to conceive and didn't take into account a "cyst" you didn't know the name of?

Maybe it is good that there has been no conception. Wait a couple more years, enjoy being intimate and getting to know each other, and becoming the healthiest individuals possible, perhaps getting doctor advice before trying again because she was so sick before. Is it really a good idea rushing into this?

>>18240197
We have been together since I was 15 years old. I knew the name of the cyst, I just couldn't think It up at the moment. She was sick due to an infection she got, likely due to something she ate, but the doctors weren't sure. They told us that the infection had the potential to affect the pregnancy and give birth issues, or even a miscarriage... so we decided not to take the risk.

>>18240197
She got a stomach infection that the doctors had told us not to worry about, but as the days went by, she couldn't eat, sleep, or do anything without feeling an extreme pain. She would sometimes cry all night from it, and it was killing me inside. Then we went to the doctor and explained it was not getting better and that it was a problem, and they determined it was an infection that could be lethal. Never in my life have I wanted to have a licence to kill after hearing the same doctor that told me "it's not so bad" suddenly say "yeah it could kill her"

A note do people don't worry about who I am and if I'm fit to take care of a child and soon to be wife at the same time:
I own a house built by my great grandfather himself, lots of land, Vineyards, Fruit trees in almost all plots of land, and I have no bills to pay with my house other then Water. Electricity is usually only about 30$ or less a month. We're in Italy as well (I'm italian)

>>18240211
Because you didn't even know it was an ovarian cyst, I don't trust your judgment that was an infection.
>infection
>it was something she ate!
It was probably a medical sounding word and you assumed infection. Her symptoms onset with pregnancy sounded like hyperemesis gravidarum.

I have dated my husband 6 years and we have been married 7 and have one child on the way together. Our relationship has evolved so much over the years and I'm glad we could build a solid foundation to our marriage.

>>18240221
Just because you've been given everything doesn't make you ready to be a dad. Especially considering your significant other's health. People make the mistake of thinking you can just throw money at a kid and it will turn out okay. Yes, financial stability is one of the most important factors for a child, but stability in other places is just as important

>>18240235
I understand your judgement, and I'm not trying to say that having money will justifies me having a child, but we have also been together for 6 years, I know who she is and she knows me. I know it was an infection, it's what we were told the after we went the Second time to the doctor and explained the pains. The first time they assumed it was something... I'm sorry if I can't figure out the word... I was told it in English and it's not really my first language so memory of it serves badly. Something along the lines of food poisoning but not that (I think? I'm sorry if I dont know the exact terms.)
Sorry if this is off topic of what we were talking about, but her ovulation just ended today, and ever since 2 nights ago she has been having some bad cramps as well as sore pain around her body... is that natural? A friend of mine is telling me it's Implantation, but I wouldn't really know...

>>18240256
And I have been with my spouse over a decade. Things change drastically in your early 20s. Endure them together without trying to raise another human when you barely know what is wrong with your significant other. Apparently you tried to conceive before you'd been together 6 years too, so that point is irrelevant

>like food poisoning but not
You mean hyperemesis?

No, because conception happens during ovulation and implantation happens a week or so after.

Take some time, grow up, get healthy, have her educate herself on the ovulation part of her cycle with her OBGYN, maybe consult a fertility specialist, then do it.

>>18240272
Alright, I'll take the advice, it's what I came here for. I'll contact her GYN tomorrow morning and see from there. I'll have to talk to her about waiting to have a child though and my only worry is that it would crush her to have me tell her that... I just don't want her assuming that I think something is wrong with her or that I don't want a child with her anymore or anything.

>>18240284
She is only 20. If you have expendable income, go travel. Emphasize how you want her to be the healthiest possible physically and mentally for a kid. This would put her at 23-24.

You need to bond with your freedom. I know that y'all have not been living together for 6 years, and things come out of the woodwork slowly but surely into adulthood.

I am set to inherit a good amount of acreage from my grandmother. Fortunately she is 94 and still going strong, but I have had a taste of land management and it isn't something you can just sit back and coast on. You have to actively thing of the future, like your great grandfather did.

We mainly deal in lumber, and obviously that is a decades long investment. With vineyards and winery (only homebrewed beer ourselves as hobby) I'd suspect the same. Unless your vineyard has made your family multi-millionaires, then I guess land and finance management is completely hands off? Either way, she needs to be mature and healthy and emphasize this is for the future of your child.

>>18240386
>actively think of the future

>>18240284
What? You're fine. People have kids at 22/20 all the time. Kids are healthier than in your 30s that way too. This developed-world idea that whites should just never have kids is retarded. I swear it's some Jewish bullshit.

>>18240066
They say you have like a 20 percent chance each month so it could take several months.

That being said my man and I got pregnant right away each time but you never know. I worry when I try for a boy in 3 or 4 years it will be hard.

I can understand your pain for sure.
You need to try for at least 6 months though.
If nothing then see a specialist

>>18240066
i only know the struggle of trying to not conceive
good luck, anon

>>18240403
I never said not to have kids in their 20s. The girlfriend is 20 years old, barely not a teen. Lots of stuff still changes mentally for the next 3-4 years. Hell my friend who has schizophrenia didn't start exhibiting symptoms til 23.

I am 27 and am different in maturity and some aspects of my personality than I was at 19-20. I'm sure you were too, unless you're younger than that, then I think you're lacking perspective. Likely, since the /pol/ is leaking out in your post, might want to contain it.

>>18240066

It can take a while.

My wife and I have two kids, the first we got on the first cycle, barely tried. The second time we tried for almost a year and she finally got pregnant. She had a miscarriage at about 3 months and then had to heal from that for a few months before we could start trying again. It took about 4 cycles to get it with our second child.

She had terrible complications from her pregnancy and ended up being bed ridden, so no more children for us, this problem will only get worse with each kid. I am going to get a vasectomy in a few weeks.

Good luck, be patient, and have fun with it.