ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

Repost from precious thread.

I'm a pretty introverted guy and a bit socially inept. If people did not tell me that a girl had interest in me, I would probably go my entire life thinking she didn't give two shits about me. This has basically culminated in me never being able to find women in my everyday life and hangouts and resorting to Tinder exclusively for sex. I'm fairly successful this way, but I've never been able to replicate this in my real life.

Are there any tips you guys and girls might have for helping me be more forward with my sexuality? I feel like I'm just unable to jump over that hurdle and it always seems forced or awkward in my head if I was going to try it.

>>18239734
Practice makes perfect. Go socialise and attempt to take it further with girls when you notice any interest. Fail until you don't fail.

Also if in doubt, outright ask. "Are you interested in me?" and "Would you like to go somewhere private with me?" aren't that autistic when you feel there's a mutual interest

Girls/Guys

How did you meet your significant other?

>hung up on girl
>we had feelings for each other that went unexpressed
>couldn't communicate clearly because a friend had apparently been lying to both of us about the other constantly
>we argue
>emotional distance, barely talk, for months

I want to reconnect but I barely see her and we don't interact on text anymore, I deleted her number.

How do I do this?

I know that the ship has sailed or whatever, but there were moments where she'd say something verbatim the way I'd said it. We had a lot of unique parallels between us I want to explore.

>>18239765
We went to the same high school. He quietly hung out around my group of friends for a bit, and we would talk some. Then, at a mutual friend's Halloween/birthday party, he saw me sitting by myself while everyone else was dancing. He went and talked to me and we haven't stopped talking since. That was about 6 years ago

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ladies, which would u find more attractive on t*nder

this one

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>>18239834
or this one...


(and why)

Girls, what percentage of women in their 20s have flawless skin without makeup?

As in, no acne scars,no blackheads, no dark circles, no blemishes in general.

>>18239871
>flawless
Very very very very few.

>>18239871
Few. 10% or less, I'd say.

I have blackheads and sometimes pimples.
In general, I don't use make up anyway.

>>18239834
>>18239837
neither, I think you should take a better photo

>>18239871
none, that's not how skin works. best you'd get is minor flaws that you'd have to look for to find.

Girls

Where. when and how do you find it okay to be approached by people who might be interested?

>>18239889
well u can suck my peepee

>>18239834
>>18239837
Both have terrible lighting. First has a better angle though

Girls and Guys,

How early in advance would you want to be asked out for a date?

>>18239905
Nowhere. They don't want to be approached, it is a stressful situation for both, so its your job to force the approach and make it seem "accidental".

>>18239981
the lighting is cool af ho

>>18239834
You won't have any success on this goddamn app. Don't waste time.

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>>18239996
whatever you say

>>18239871
Nobody's perfect man.
I'd say I have pretty good skin, I rarely ever break out, but even I have blackheads and will get some dark rings if I'm stressed and not sleeping.

>>18239905
Bar, club, class, or any social event specifically designed to talk to some strangers.

But, nobody's really gonna complain if you just say hi anywhere. You just have to make sure they have an easy out and you aren't interrupting something. IE, the girl with her headphones in on the bus, doesn't wanna talk.

>>18239986
Eh, depends on the person. How busy they are in general. Usually when you're setting up a date you're asking them "When are you free?" and then matching their free time to yours.
They'll tell you how far in advance they need

K, i've talked to this girl a few times in class, she talks to me and laughs at my jokes.

Today after class we walked outside the building together, and then when we realized we didn't know where we were going went opposite directions to our cars.

Friday when the same thing happens im going to ask her to walk around campus with me.
Good plan?

>>18240157
Just seal the deal man, ask if she wants to hang out and do something some time. Asking to just wander aimlessly around campus is a little weird imo.

>>18240157
"Hey, wanna stick around and hang out with me for a bit?"

>>18240161
>>18240165
W-walking around campus is weird?

>>18240168
Casually, no. Inviting for just this, yes. I believe you only want to repeat the dose because you'll feel safe repeating something that was successful before, but just go balls out and ask her on a date, go out have some dinner and stuff.

How do I be more inviting?

I'm a pretty tall, quiet guy (I'm painfully shy) so people generally don't talk to me unless I talk to them first. There's a girl who I've chatted with before and she always says hi/good morning to me when we bump into each other but it's obvious she's kind of reserved when she tries to talk to me so I have to initiate conversation with her, and I've been called standoff-ish before (I'm actually extremely friendly so I was a bit bothered by that comment).

>>18239765
Met my gf of 8 years now when I was blacked the hell out at some shitty dive bar. We made out and yeah I have no idea how that worked out.

>>18240184
> I believe you only want to repeat the dose because you'll feel safe repeating something that was successful before
Is it really repeating if I only walked like 20ft with her before, and our conversations are quickly interrupted by the class?
If the school has nature hikes n shit does it really matter?
Also what if I said I dislike restaurants and am slightly poor?

>>18240165
isn't that the same thing really?

Girls

If a guy friend of yours liked you, would you be ok if he was completely honest with you about it?

I mentioned to a female friend that I think she'd be fun to date. But I never really got a response. That was a month or so ago, I was thinking of being more direct. But in a calm, relaxed, but also firm way. Just saying "you know, I like you and I'd really like it if we could maybe try something together". If she says no, I still want to be her friend, and I'll respect what she says. But, it's killing me because she never gave me a Yes or No answer. So I have no idea how she feels

I have this close friend and I really want to ask her out. She always asks me to come out to events with our friends, specifically getting other people to ask me if she can't, we both have known each other for a while, years now, and I would hate to make this shit weird by asking her out. It just seems like she's into me and I have no fucking idea if she really is since I don't consider myself the best person at reading social cues. Any advice? I understand it's pretty similar to the shitty questions in the FAQ.

How bad of a person am I if I go after women below my league, because I don't think I could keep a prettier or less awkward one?

>>18239871
I have yet to meet one.

I have good skin. I don't get acne or black heads (maybe a small few white heads every few months), but I have very noticeable dark circles under my eyes. They aren't from lack of sleep, everyone in my family has very prominent, purple, thin-skinned under eye circles... I've had them since I was a baby. Figure it's all genetic, my mom and dad never got bad acne either.

I never wear foundation because there isn't much of a need. I don't like covering up my eye bags because they are just a part of me.

My good friend is the same. She has the clearest, softest skin I've ever seen and is just beautiful with no make up, but she has under eye baggage just like me.

Other than that, I haven't met anyone with absolutely "flawless" skin. Have met a few with really good skin though.

>>18240080

How many have you met IRL and fucked?

>>18240241
I kinda feel like a lot of people do this. I do it too, but it doesn't mean I like my SO any less. Pretty sure I could date higher if I tried, but I also don't want to date anyone else but my SO because he is easy to love and I am happy in the relationship.

I don't think it makes you a bad person, but I think this is a symptom of low self esteem.

>>18240128

tfw I'm a 26 year old male who hates bars and clubs, and my classes are private so I don't have classmates. I'm not into huge social events either. And the few I have been to haven't been very female populated...

Fuck me..

>>18240128
>hate bars
>morally opposed to clubs
>graduated 7 years ago

How fucked am I

>>18240266
>morally opposed to groups of people with a mutual interest that engage in related activities
Explain?

>>18239905
I can tell you but i am not a girl.

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Guys, girls, have you ever pretended to be the opposite sex to answer someone's question in one of these threads?

>>18240294
I think so. I definitely remember pretending to be a girl to ask a question.

>>18240279
Oh. I thought you meant the other kind of club.
Yeah, no, those are a crapshoot too. Chances are you'll run into a decent-ish number of interesting, sociable individuals and then quickly realize each of them has their lives together way the hell better than you do, are regional authorities on whatever the club is about, and you don't actually have that much of an interest in the club activities to begin with and you end up bailing because you don't have a legitimate claim to belong there, and the qt involved in the administration is practically married to the hobby and also the only person there you would consider trying to date.

And then the other clubs I've been in were 100% sausage fests. Don't forget, you're joining a club with the intention of using it to meet people. You're already setting yourself up to fail by entering under false pretenses, or at least with an ulterior motive. Once in, you have to conduct yourself in a way that actively puts yourself in close contact with someone you are interested in, and attempt to build a rapport with this person to the point you begin socializing with them and others outside club activities. This is all highly manipulative and subversive, not alone disrespectful to the people who legitimately are there for nothing but their love of the hobby.

So yeah.

>>18240241
I can't see how you could be considered a bad person. If anything, I am a bad person for having very high standards and wanting someone way above my league.

>>18240294
No, because I'm not a fag.

>>18240241

I think the fact that you believe leagues are a real thing says more about your lack of character than anything.

There is no such thing as leagues. There is only perception. Anyone can get with anyone. Some connections are more likely than others but attempting to categorize something as immense and complex as human attraction into such a simple metric as "leagues" is top tier robot thinking.

>>18240328
>There is no such thing as leagues. There is only perception. Anyone can get with anyone.
As a fat 25 y/o college dropout that sits in his room and watches anime this is complete fucking bullshit and you know it.

Why does pussy either taste like pennies or sweaty arm pit stuffed with pennies?

>>18240336
the metallic taste is often a side effect of hormonal birth control

>>18239706
What's the best way to ask a female coworker out for casual drinks without it seeming creepy or asking her out on a date? Female coworker and I frequent same bars and get along pretty well so would enjoy meeting up with her for some drinks and casual convo

>>18240348
When did the "birth control pills are bad" meme start? I've been seeing it everywhere now

>>18240375
>When did the "birth control pills are bad" meme start?
They day they were created due to the fact that side effects are a thing.

Question open to either gender

How do I verbally get under someone's skin? I want to be witty and ruin a person's ego. What are some of the meanest things I can say to shake them to the core?

>>18240380
Referring to how some women gain a little weight or maybe decreased sex drive, or are there some other ones I'm not thinking of?

>>18240390
There's other shit that happens o slightly fewer people but those are two.

>>18240383
>Heh, hey kid. You know that thing you like? It's shit.

>>18240395
Idk dude, I just never got the impression that birth control pills were bad. They were a godsend for me in more ways than one

>>18240405
Nobody ever said they were bad. They have side effects. Literally all medication does.

>>18240413
Well I mean I've been seeing more and more people on this board say that hormonal birth control is shit and iuds and even condoms are better, and I'm curious as to where it's coming from

>>18240398
I need deeper digging hooks than that. Preferably on how they live with their mom and dad into their late 20s, or that they change oil for a living, or that they orbit girls online with no success

>>18240434
Who hurt you?

>>18240424
IUDs have worse side effects.

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>>18239706
Have any of you girls had your toes sucked by a guy?

Did you enjoy it?

What would you think of someone who wanted to do this with you?

>>18240424
Implants plus condoms are the way to go. Everything has side effects, it's no big deal.

>>18240439
I get off to making other people miserable

Now give me some nice banter

>>18240456
>Have any of you girls had your toes sucked by a guy?
no

>Did you enjoy it?
see above

>What would you think of someone who wanted to do this with you?
total disgust

>>18240462
I'd rather get my tubes tied than go back to condoms. I hate the smell and residue they leave all up in there.

>>18240441
That's what I was thinking too! It wasn't until I saw people talking shit about pills that I started to question if what I'd learned was correct

Ladies, what does it mean if we talk a lot but you're in a relationship? I was trying to get close to this girl for a while and just recently found out she has a boyfriend (she still hasn't told me this, but I'm pretty sure it's true). We talk on social media a couple times a week and at the weekly meetings for a club we're in. She seems genuinely interested in talking to me, so it's not like she's just being polite and putting up with my shit. Is there any chance that my romantic interest is mutual? Would it be inappropriate to ask to hang out one on one sometime? Feel free to give any other advice or ask me questions as well.

>>18240456

Feet stuff is gross

>>18240464
>needing to be spoonfed how to shitpost
You're pathetic.
t. Master troll.

>>18240470
>I hate the smell and residue they leave all up in there.
its better than getting man mayo all up in there

>>18240456
I've had my guy suck on my toes a little while he fucks me. Felt pretty good but I was worried that my toes were dirty or stinky or something. I wouldn't mind someone with an actual foot fetish. What I would mind is if they started off massaging my feet and then started rubbing my foot on their painfully erect wiener without asking. Had that happen before.

>>18240482
Right now I'm on the pill and my boyfriend hardly ever cums inside me. I wouldn't be opposed to permanently fixing the possibility of getting pregnant, though. We both know we never want kids

Is it true that women will match with ugly beta men on Tinder so they can play a prank on them and upload embarrassing texts to social media and make fun of them? I got Tinder a few months ago and have around 300 matches but some of these girls are just too hot to possibly like me so I don't message them. They're not spambots because I read the bios and they're all legit. I don't message because I fear they only did it on accident or to upload it onto Instagram/Reddit to laugh at me if I do send them something. I've messaged maybe 10 girls first and only 2 responded. Because I'm an ugly piece of shit and only 5'8 and not a Chad I feel like this is a mass joke or conspiracy against me by women at my college trying to mock me. Am I paranoid or is this likely?

>>18240210
Ok I changed my mind anyway. After class I am going to ask her to get a beer with me, and go to a nearby bar.

Another footfag (not OP).

>>18240465
>>18240473
You deserve to get cheated on for being so close minded.

>>18240486
Tell us the story. Was it a creeper? How did that happen?

>>18240494
Some meangirl types probably do. However, It's more than likely that you're dealing with the type of tinder user that straight up just swipes everyone to see who bites and then just weed out their matches. It's annoying, but some people would rather do that than read your bio or look at your pictures.

>>18240494
I would talk to a therapist about prodromal schizophrenia and your inferiority complex

>>18240494
>Is it true that women will match with ugly beta men on Tinder so they can play a prank on them and upload embarrassing texts to social media and make fun of them?

Wtf are you gonna say that is that embarrassing? The only way it is funny is if you do something insane or pathetic.
Furthermore, why do you care what women on the degenerate meat market app think if they are going out of their way to be cruel to people?

>Am I paranoid or is this likely?
ur a fuckin nutter.

>and only 5'8 and not a Chad
Yes, there are shallow cruel cunts. No, the overwhelming majority don't bait men to break their hearts.

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>>18240501
>You deserve to get cheated on for being so close minded.
Footfags everyone.

>>18240501
I went to a small party consisting of a few high school friends and a few people I didn't know. One of them was a guy who supplied said friends with weed. He looked like a legit drug dealer, like one long nail and everything. That was the first time I smoked weed, didn't feel anything, but that's besides the point.

We were all talking and at some point me and the drug dealer guy were talking, and he asked if he could massage my feet. Usually I don't accept massages from people cuz they're automatically sexual for me, but I'd never had a foot massage and it didn't seem like I'd feel sexual about it so I said sure.

Holy fuck am I in love with foot massages now. He was amazing, my feet felt amazing. I was decently drunk and just laying back reveling in how my feet had gone to heaven. Next thing I know he's moved the foot he's massaging up against his groin. And he's hard, just fuckin rock solid down there. I looked up and I was like "woah dude, haha what are you doing?" He did some half-assed "oh my bad". I decided to conveniently get up and go talk to one of my friends. No more foot massage for him

>>18240501
>You deserve to get cheated on for being so close minded.

kek

>>18240509
Anything. Just me talking to them is embarrassing due to the fact they are hot and I'm not. No woman has ever been attracted to me.

I would try to meet women in real life but I can't talk to them during lectures because there's no time while the professor is talking. I can't talk to them in my dorm because if I just go up to their floor to talk to them they'll think I'm a creepy rapist, nor can I approach them walking around the campus for the same reason. So I don't know what to do.

>>18240505
I don't have either.
I know for a fact I'm inferior.
I will never be happy until I am the best.

>>18240504
Probably. Hate it when people do that. If you don't want to talk to me just don't fucking match me and get my hopes up.

>>18240372
Not a female, but the best way would be as a group function (something you and some other coworkers were going to)

the second best way would probably be as an incidental invite to something you were already planning to do:

Hey <anonnote> I heard it has really good cocktails/vibe/whatever was going to check it out on x day. I know you like the bar scene too, feel like tagging along and changing out?

Or something like that.

As long as your casual about it, it should be relatively clear that your intentions are casual. If you see her misunderstand, you can always explain it the way you explained it to us, you're not interested in anything romantic you just thought it'd be fun to hang out.

>>18240294
Nope. I do answer questions directed at girls if I feel I have the experience to though. Mostly when it looks like the questions been ignored.

>>18239765
>How did you meet your significant other?

Traded 5 messages on a dating site. Agreed to meet for coffee. Turned in to dinner + drinks.
Went on 2 other dates. End of 3rd date we were a couple. Been together 2+ years so far.

>>18240424
original poster of >>18240348

I honestly wasn't saying hormonal birth control was bad, but there are a lot of side effects that are annoying, and that's one of them.


I mean, it'd be cool if they made a birth control that is as effective and doesn't do all those things, but I'd rather have a metallic vagina than a baby.

Girlfriend is usually off at 430, said she had to work an extra hour (makes sense because it is busy) Last text is around 430.

Just get a text saying shes leaving work at 630, an hour after she said she was supposed to get off. And 2 hours since the last text.

Am I being unreasonable to suspect cheating, especially when she was glued to her phone all day? We are kind of going through a rough patch too. Shes coming to my house soon, should I bring it up?

How do I come up with a good pet name?

>>18240514
I was expecting something much worse. lol

>>18240547
Or you know, she was actually busy with work. Don't bring it up. But if the same thing happens again, then I'd start to suspect something going on.

>>18240185
Im a dude who was always know as kind of being intimidating as fuck (I've heard it from friends who knew me growing up. Family members. Even random people talking to my friends about me when I was mentioned)

I'm all of 5'7", not particular muscular (my body type just gets lean, not bulky), and was always shy growing up.

I guess I've just got an intense vibe about me. which was exacerbated by the fact that I was quieter, and kept to myself.

Nowadays though I can get along with just about anyone (I have literally started half hour+ conversations with people just walking down the streets in random neighborhoods), and people pretty much never have a negative impression of me.

He's changed? I started smiling more, I started making more eye contact, I started approaching people out of my own initiative more, I started making it so people knew I was paying attention to them and acknowledging them.

For whatever reason, people always assumed me NOT paying attention to them wasn't because I was shy, but because I thought I was above them/smarter than them/above them I some way. But that changed if I did something as simple as make sure to take a few seconds to greet them and have some idle chitchat.

So my advice, just put yourself out there.

Don't say you can't. I was socially phobic as fuck growing up. I forced myself to do it. Eventually it stuck and became my default. So I know first hand that "I can't" isn't a valid excuse. You can, you just need to work at it.

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Femanons: Opinions on guys that do "girly" things ?

For example, my hair is medium length (just over my ears) and i dye it a dark purple, it really suits me but since i go to an all boys school i dont really know how females feel about it. I know it suits me.

I also paint my nails on the weekends, i have to take it off for school though, but i only ever paint them black or white.

Im 18, last year in school. No one else i know does stuff like this, i just really like how it looks and think it suits me. Is this a turn off?

pic: the colour of my hair

>>18240567
Why do you want girls opinion on that if you're a faggot???

>>18240567
Unnaturally colored hair is like a big neon sign telling me to stay the fuck away, guy or girl.

>>18240567
guy here,
fags paint their nails.

Their is probably a girl into that but as far as I know the majority of girls will think you are gay

>>18240220
I think you know that the answer is no.

>>18240569
Now thats a good one anon.

Femanon how do I know I can ever trust a girl? My gut tells me not to trust a girl but she has never done anything wrong and is always been ready to prove it.

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>>18239706
Post face on /soc/
>Pretty good
Post body on /fit/
>mirin' no homo
Post salary on /biz/
>Great for your age
Post feels of never hugging a girl on /r9k/
>Fit right in

At least smelly neckbeards in their mom's basements have hope to improve. Where the fuck can I go from here? I've improved myself as best as I can but I'll never overcome my inability to ask out a girl. That is, if I even had a girl to ask out -
no woman has ever remotely expressed romantic interest. When you have become the best version of yourself physically and financially and simultaneously have never been more lonely and depressed, how can you not assume your inherent inferiority is anything but a fact of life?

>>18240586
Post them here and I'll tell you. I get approached a lot, legit go clubbing and its fairly easy for me to do nothing and pick up. In otherwords I'm a good judge, I'll be honest.

>>18240555
For your significant other?

All the one's my bf and I call each other have originated from inside jokes and strange experiences.

>>18240588
My full face, body, and salary after posting sadshit on 4chan revealing I've never hugged a girl? No, I know people that browse here

>>18239765
>How did you meet your significant other?
School classroom. We were 15 and 16, and 10 years later still going strong.

>>18240585
This isn't really a question I can answer. There are so many factors. Kinda seems like you've learned to distrust women, which makes you not trust them from the beginning. That sounds like your problem, not hers.

>>18239905
Anywhere provided I'm not CLEARLY ignoring you or busy. i.e. I have headphones on, I'm reading a book, I'm studying or working. It's just really annoying. Honestly, I'm unlikely to accept dates from someone I don't know at all.

Girls, would you rather have
>a guy who's fit, popular, charismatic and very warm+affectionate, but also distant/ignoring at times and occasionally telling you to change aspects of yourself to what he likes better
or
>a guy who's somewhat chubby, reserved, well-spoken but cynical and very caring+supportive, but a bit too clingy at times and kind of awkward sometimes
?

Both guys are a blast to talk to, and both guys have a LOT in common with you

>>18240220
>If a guy friend of yours liked you, would you be ok if he was completely honest with you about it?
If a guy friend likes me and I'm interested, I'd show it or ask him out. Literally the worst thing in a friendship (aside from bitchy high school girl groups) is a guy fucking it up with feelings like that. If I'm interested, I'll show it and so would this girl in all likelihood. The romantic affection will fade.

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>>18240456
>Have any of you girls had your toes sucked by a guy?
No.
>Did you enjoy it?
Don't know, not interested in knowing.
>What would you think of someone who wanted to do this with you?
Pic related.

>>18240383
Wittiness is innate. You either have it or you don't. But you can become more articulate by reading etc. and eventually it may come to you. You need a unique blend of cutting one liners and intelligence.

>>18240567
I don't mind make-up or hair and I don't assume sexuality because of these.
I wouldn't really care if my bf painted his nails either honestly, but if I didn't know you I'd assume you were gay. Maybe in 30 years, it'll be en vogue for men to paint their nails, who knows.

>>18240456
>Have any of you girls had your toes sucked by a guy?
Yeah, my boyfriend went through a footfag phase.
>Did you enjoy it?
Eh. I did like the foot rubbing though. I'm a sucker for a foot rub.
>What would you think of someone who wanted to do this with you?
I'm happy to accomodate most benign kinks, except if they've got anything to do with the butt. Not particularly interested, but I wouldn't care.

>>18240594
yeah nah you're probably talking yourself up there, cover your eyes and just show face and body if not I'm just going to take it that you're below average aiming for average. No one gives a fuck about your salary jobs come and go, as long as you can live and get by you can always improve instantly on that as long as you don't let it get to far behind. Body and looks are harder and more quintessential a lot more things social revolve around it, that and the belief system in your mind.

So go ahead, post them if you want an honest opinion if not, don't be an eliot roger faggot and accept that you're probably not as good as you could be if you don't work on yourself.

>>18240464
>I could kill myself jumping from your ego to your IQ

>>18240594
>>18240586
Stop roleplaying.

>>18240494
I mean, there might exist someone who has done that but no, normal women don't do that. And unless you say something EXTREMELY stupid, it wouldn't be worth posting it to social media anyway. You're being paranoid, nothing to be embarrassed about messaging women anyway. Relax a little. Can't be that ugly if you got those matches. 300 people aren't in a big conspiracy against you for no reason.

>>18240471
It means I probably want you as a friend. It would be fine to hang out one on one, but not in too intimate a place (your house, for example). But the romantic interest, unless she's a known cheater, is probably one sided.

>>18240494
Saw you made a whole thread out of this question too. Work on that self-esteem my dude, you're overthinking this.
>>18240504
Is right on the money

>>18240456
>Have any of you girls had your toes sucked by a guy?
Yes

>Did you enjoy it?
Did nothing to me

>What would you think of someone who wanted to do this with you?
Wouldn't mind doing it every once in a while

>>18240567
I don't mind the hair or the nails, but the hair is a big sign of SJWism. Are you just still in the emo phase or something?

Like, I wouldn't care if you were normal but they can be a sign of something else.

>>18240585
Eh, girls can be bitchy, but some are trustworthy. Without knowing more of the situation I can't comment-so what's going on?

>>18239765
First time we met I was around 14 and he was 18. He always came over to hang out with my older brother. He was so attractive and really weird. Probably one of the weirdest people at our high school. He always wore weird stuff, like girl pants, or he'd wear open button down shirts, or old tight shirts from elementary school and muscle tee's. Stuff that is probably assumed hipstery now, but hipsters didn't exist yet at this time and it wasn't trendy. I guess he kinda dressed like he was straight out of a teenage 80s movie... He acted weird too. Like he just thought different. Not in an autistic way, but just in a kinda clever and brilliant way.

I basically admired him from afar until I was 18, then I randomly ran into him at a party, got drunk, confessed my long term crush on him, then asked him out on a date. That was like 7 years ago since I asked him out. I swear to god he is the love of my life.

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>>18240615
I didnt even realise that people would assume i was gay from it.

but, thanks for opinion. Also do you think it would good if your bf painted them?

>>18240622
>>18240627
How the fuck am I an Elliot Roger faggot? Elliot Roger wasn't /fit/, and he had a fucking superiority complex. I'm not trying to get rated because I already went to those boards and got rated.
Do you just not believe that a guy could have a good face, body, and career and not be terminally lonely? Because that's my point - I've maxxed out what I can do and I still don't have shit to show for it.

>>18240586
You neglected the oft missed part of 'improvement'. Personality. You sound like a loser and will probably end up an Elliot Rogers blaming women for not touching you. Fix up your demeanour and try real hard to not come off as an entitled, unstable, desperate misogynist prick.

>>18240644
I can believe that, but I'm not sure I believe (You) specifically.

>>18240607
Can I have a guy that's skinny and cynical and witty and introverted?
I don't like fit or chubby guys.

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>>18240383
Off the top of my head:

Attack them personally at every single opportunity.
Talk down to them, give them goofy names they didn't ask for, be sarcastic, sound like a dick.
Look them directly in the eye when you say something "off". Looking away makes it look like you don't mean it, unless you're intentionally doing it to make them feel powerless.
If someone suggests to do something, accuse them of something negative for no reason.
>"hey, we're doing X, do you want to be included?"
>[accusation of wrongdoing - just assume the absolute worst within reason]
See what people seem to care about, and insult it.
>If a guy wears the same shit every day out of comfort/self-consciousness, attack his physical style.
If someone has a passion, talk about how stupid it is in front of them, but not directly to them.
>"X is such a useless degree, I can't imagine why anyone would take it. They're wasting money."
Ask for their personal opinion, then laugh at it.
Ask for personal information, then accuse them of something/laugh at them.
If you know their family members, trash them in front of them without naming names.

>>18240643
Would it be good? If it made them happy, then yeah I guess so. It's not like a turn on for me, so I'd say I'm pretty indifferent.

>>18240636
No im not the emo phase.

My hair is dark, i just think it suits me and i love it.

Same with nails, i just like how they look.

as far as SJW, no, never, nope. All that shits stupid, i know when i go for a job i will put it back to brown and look normal. Just for now my school doesnt mind that its coloured so i might aswell do it now, right?

>>18240644
lmao nah you're below average at best, you clearly shy away from it otherwise you could easily back up your statement.

>Elliot Roger wasn't /fit/, and he had a fucking superiority complex
>Believes he has maxxed out

lmao you can never max out its way to subjective to be at a "maximum"

I always thought that was the case, I'm not even going to talk myself up, I'm not here asking questions or doubting myself so I have nothing to prove unlike you but when I did improve myself I could walk into a club an easily have a girl feel me up just passing by or it was easier to hook in with girls or get a little bit of attention I'm no where near a "maximum".

>>18240656
Yeah, fair enough. But I'd have to talk to you to get that you weren't an SJW. But it wouldn't bother me.

>>18240647
What at all did I post that comes off as entitled unstable, or misogynistic? I guess it was kinda prickish to call out neckbeards, but am I not allowed to do that since I used to be a chubby guy with bad hygiene? I never said I deserved women's love - actually, if you read the last sentence of the first post, I say rather explicitly that I believe I'm inherently undeserving. I don't blame women for my lack of success. I'm just asking for how I can cope with my failure.

I honestly think you're projecting something on me that I don't believe is fair anon.

Girls

I'm a very straight to the point kind of guy and I'm wondering, would it be ok if I just clearly asked a girls "are you interested in me?"

Context, I've been talking with this girl do a bit. I asked her out and the only response was " :) ". I don't know what that means. But anyways, she texts me a lot, but I can't read her intentions. So I just want to clearly ask so I know if I'm wasting my time or not

>>18240607
>chubby, awkward, cynical, clingy
nope

>>18240586
>>18240644

Bro's women don't owe any of us anything, regardless of women society as a whole is about what you can bring to the table for someone, and what they can bring that we too can take away. We all got insecurities, I doubt whatever I bring to table out times but we all got something for someone. You need to find what you can bring that people want, and best it. Say as much as you want but the proof speaks for itself, if thats not working back to the drawing board. We are all going to feel this way, it will ultimately come down to how you deal with it.

Going to have days where you will give up, be humble accept that and push yourself the days you feel more optimistic.

>>18240663
>goes on /r9k/

>>18240607
>a guy who's fit
Stopped reading there
>a guy who's somewhat chubby
Stopped reading there

I only fuck wit fellow spooky skeletons

>>18240607
First one, hands down.

>>18240671
But I said I identify with never being hugged, not with hating women or something.

>>18240607
>>a guy who's fit, popular, charismatic
I wouldn't date the first guy, because fit and popular men tend to be quite shallow and entitled, and I'm not a social person myself. I just don't feel that a guy like that would be interesting to talk to and have a lot in common with me.
>>a guy who's somewhat chubby, reserved, well-spoken but cynical
I wouldn't date the second either, although he would fit my personality more than the first one because those kinds of clingy guys are really awful to deal with, particularly if you ever break up.

I would like a slim or skinny guy who's a bit introverted but confident and interesting, with a bit of cynicism, and is well spoken.

>>18240168
Sorry had to run some errands, this thread moves fast.
Basically, this >>18240184
Everything from doing it as a casual thing to just ask her out and take the risk. Dude put it excellently, thanks bro.
>>18240500
Proud of you anon. Report back in sometime and let us know how it goes.
Also protip, even just asking if she wanted to get lunch or dinner at the university sometime would be fine, if you're concerned about your wallet. It's just the wandering aimlessly thing that was odd. Have a destination in mind.

>>18240577
Okay they think im gay, but in terms of how they feel about it. is it weird, do they like/dislike the idea of it, etc

>>18240664
Ask her out. It'll be more productive than coming across as oblivious or creating an awkward conversation. You'll get the context, she won't.

Men would you rather
>9/10 girl with a mean streak who's really great in bed and who's only hobbies are instagram and makeup and who's going to inherit lots of money
or
>a 7/10 girl who's shy, well read and likes a lot of introverted type hobbies like video games and movies but is not very social and a little clingy and is working an average 9-5 job that's not particularly highly paid

>>18240691
You know full well the obvious choice is the 7/10. Looks aren't everything.

>>18240689

>ask her out

I already said that I did, she never really gave me a response other than ":)". I never got an actual answer. So I stopped texting her for a few days. She reached out to me saying "heeey Andrew! :) " but never mentioned anything about it. I think she's sort of an autist. So I am thinking about just being even more upfront and just asking if she's interested at all

>>18240607
Eh the first one. Because the only real negative thing about him is the "telling me what to change" thing, but even that I can spin to be a rational thing.
I have no issue with my guy telling me he'd like me to be a little thinner, or grow my hair out, or whatever, so long as he understands these are suggestions that are ultimately up to me to decide on, AND he's also open to my criticism and suggestions as well. I'd say that's pretty normal.
Like I could agree, it wouldn't HURT me to lose a few pounds. So I'd do that happily. But if he wanted me to say cut my hair, I'd tell him I appreciate thats his preference but I wouldn't do that because I hate how I look with short hair and it took me years to get it as long as it is now. He'd have to deal with that one. Short version is, my opinion of myself comes first, but I'm open to his too.

The distant thing can be a plus too, since I require a bit of me time myself so the clingy dude would just suffocate me. And his fat body would too.

>>18240698
>ask out
>:)
Yeah either she's an autist or she didn't know how to say no. Ask her again with the more direct question I guess.

>>18240691
Can I pick neither, they both sound very boring.

>>18240704
Fuckin savage. What's your type of girl?

>>18240702

she is sort of an autist. She'll forget things sometimes and then send me long voice notes apologizing.

Other femanons, do girls get nicer at university/college?

I'm 19, and I'm taking a gap year to save money to move to the city (I live out in the country). I don't really have any friends from my high school because I was bullied or ignored by most people due to getting good marks and/or reading and being good at music, and my only friend has gone overseas to live. So I'm faced with the prospect of making new friends soonish.

So do the girls become nicer once all the hormonal psychopathy wears off? Or will it be the same thing again?

>>18240715
>do girls get nicer at university/college?
No, they turn into SJWs. Depends on the state really, but in Commiefornia it sucks ass.

>>18240555
They usually come from some sort of experience. Like, one of my ex's knew German and he'd always switch to German to taunt me or tease me because he knew I couldn't understand him so I'd call him "Deutsche Daddy" jokingly back.

So you'll just have to find some sort of little experience that gives you something to riff off of.
It's like any nick name, they only work or are good if they just strike you in the moment.

>>18240717
I'm not American. I don't think you guys do gap years, do you?

>>18240547
kek yes.
Sounds like you need to break up. If your rough patch is that bad and you no longer have trust for her, you need out man.

>>18239986
At least a week

>>18240691
Not nearly enough description to pick one over the other.

>>18240719
Some do it unofficially between high school/college, we don't really have a term for it.
Get ready for a shitton of them to drink, though.

>>18240715
Yes and no. It's more an age thing than anything, the teens are still pretty catty and bitchy. They mellow out and mature a bunch more in later college. Though it's 1 part the puberty crap starting to die down and one part you're just too fucking busy with your own damn life to be so overly concerned with anyone else's.

But just like in high school, some chicks are cunts. Others are cool. Don't stereotype.

>>18240730
I'm not really a drinker. Like, I'll drink wine or cocktails with my parents, and me and my dad got really pissed once on whiskey after I turned 18, but I don't binge. I'm going to hate university, aren't I?

>>18240629
Hmm... I understand. I guess part of the reason it's so hard to let go is because there are people IRL telling me to pursue her. Her boyfriend is kind of lame (she's definitely out of his league looks and personality wise) and we get along pretty well. Perhaps we are all just misunderstanding their relationship though. She's not a cheater, so I doubt she'd cheat on him like that. Still, maybe if they break up...? I don't know.

>>18240734
I assume it's worse in the US, but everyone I've heard from the UK seems to enjoy alcohol more in general. You'll probably be fine, but a lot of people I knew went downhill in college.

>>18240719
Kek nope. If you don't go to college straight from high school you're generally expected to just never go and be a failure.
Mostly because it is some big statistic that students who take a break in their studies at any point generally don't ever return. So it's kind of frowned upon to ever stop school and start back up again.

Not to mention, from what I know of the "gap year" thing in other countries, and correct me if I'm wrong because I really don't know much about the culture, you're not expected to work or anything either right? You just get a freebie year to decompress from high school before moving onto college?
That shit would never fly here. You have to be busting your ass for something 24/7. Whether it be a shitty minimum wage job or college.

Girls, how often do you cum from penetration?

Most girls I've been with havent finished from normal sex, though I've seen it a few times, I usually just start them off with some head and make them finish that way. Then i proceed to sex.

The thing is girls usually tell me I'm pretty good at sex, and sorry to be a faggot but my dick is just under 8 inches and pretty thicc. Do you guys finish often from penetration?

>>18240715
I'm 25 and due to a load of family struggles I've had to go through college slowly but surely.

Every semester, there are at least 2 outspoken cunts in each of my classes. It really comes out in group projects. I've never made a friend. I have made chatty acquaintances but nothing long lasting.

I'm not necessarily "successful" in the sense that I am going through college quickly, but that being said, I have never failed a class, get high grades, and college has been a breeze academically, time and money is the real struggle.

I've had colleagues complain about my grades if they ever noticed what grade I got. Telling me that I am too smart for the class and make everyone look bad. Recently, in a speech class, a girl literally called me out because I gave a speech on a movie that wasn't girly.


Now it has reached the point where I am not even with my age group anymore because I am going rather slow. Most of my colleagues are 18-20 and it's just weird. No connections or similar interests. Slowly becoming the strange older loser as opposed to the teacher's pet loser.

Girls are still mean in college. Benefit is I could care less, where as in high school I thought my life was over from bullying. My goal is my grade and getting noticed by the professor so I can get a letter of recommendation. Then I just go home. I guess you just become better equipped to handle stress from peers.

>>18240748
I've never one cum purely from benis in bagina. Doesn't matter if it's the best sex of my life, the feeling of a dick going in and out of me just doesn't get me close to orgasm. It's mentally hot as fuck, but as far as how it physically feels, I could get railed for hours and wouldn't get any closer to cumming.

>>18240745
As someone whos grown up in America but traveled around Europe a little bit, I can say the drinking culture is just different all around, but probably the same amount of drinking is going on.
Europeans I'd say drink far more in beer than Americans, but we tend to reach for the hard liquor for basically all parties.
I'd say as far as getting trashed though, American's probably take that one for that reason. If you're drinking in America, especially in college, the goal is to be absolutely wasted.

>>18240750
That's depressing.

>>18240748
Never even once.

Statistically most women either never cum or experience great difficulty cumming from penetration alone. You have to be touching the clit for the orgasm to come.

Penetration is really much more for you than it is for us. A lot of women say while it feels good, it's never orgasm worthy. There are very few nerves at all in the vaginal canal. They're all basically centered in one location, the clit. Which, the back of the clit (which you'll know as the gspot) can be hit from the inside, but it's still the clit.

>>18240754
Ok yeah, thats what most girls I've been with have said but I was afraid they were just saying it to be nice. I will continue eating pussy proudly, thanks for the answer

>>18240748
My gf cums from penetration in doggy style, and I'm way less hung than you (5.5"). Every other position, she cums from a combination of penetration and indirect stimulation of the clitoris, like rubbing my pubic bone on it while we fuck

My ex also did cum from penetration, even if not nearly as strong, and I had flings that also did. Maybe it's the emotional involvement?

>>18240759
Oh yea, I got the most crap in English classes.

I love literature. I always got A's on my essays. Always contributed to discussion.

We were covering some short story that had a lot of sexual symbolism. I got it, contributed to the discussion about the use of phallic and yonic symbolism. When we were split into groups, I heard another girl say "of course she would know when someone's talking about dicks." I just pretended not to hear it.

The world is cruel and I have not seen an end to it.

>>18240767
Oh yeah, English classes suck. I've always been a bookworm and got treated like shit for it.

>>18240715
>tfw women are nicer to me than other men
Why?

>>18240748
Has never happened.

>>18240789
They probably like you.

>>18240700
This is pretty much what I was going to type.

Do girls think it's weird if I just walk into a room and don't even acknowledge them or look at them or talk to them? I don't know these girls but I just walked into this little study room thing earlier and there was this group of girls at a table and they looked at me when I walked in and I just sat down and turned away from them and faced the wall and did my homework. I bet they didn't care because they were trying to get their work done probably but I wonder if maybe I should have started a conversation with them. Is that an acceptable thing to do or would they think I'm a retarded disruptive creep?

>>18240809
Yeah you did the right thing. You shouldn't have bothered them especially if you don't know them.

I HATE it when I'm reading something and some guy who clearly just wants to get in my pants approaches me. Worst fucking thing.

>>18240809
stop thinking people will judge you so much

they don't

they wouldn't have cared either way

if you just said hi they would've said "hi" back
if you didn't they don't pay attention to you

it's not hard to talk to girls. we're not mean judgemental aliens, we're people too :)
your mom is a woman and you don't have trouble just making a conversation with her. you don't have trouble talking to the old lady receptionist right? no trouble talking to some random guys right? it's no different. you just believe it is.

>>18240796
I've never had a gf though

>>18239834
This one
>>18239871
45%
>>18240567
Guys can do whatever they want but I wouldn't date one that does girly things. >>18240607
Neither. They both suck

Women, how much time has to pass for you to consider a relationship a long-term thing? I mean do you consider 4 months a long time or a short time in terms of being a relationship with someone?

>>18240934
Usually around a year before I consider it long term.
4 months is nothing.

>>18240811
>>18240847
These posts really fire up those neurons.

>>18239837
The smiling one

Ladies, have you ever had a long-time or close friend confess to you? If you turned him down, how does it feel?

>>18240967
It happened to me once.
It feels fucking terrible. I cried for 2 hours and had a panic attack.

>>18240972
>I cried for 2 hours and had a panic attack.
That seems kind of extreme.

>>18241003
It wasn't the best moment of my life, I surely did overreact.
The thought of losing my best friend and hurting him felt terrible.

>>18241009
I'd say it really depends on how you react.

I've tried dating two friends of mine, both of them gave me some space after they turned me down. We started talking again because they let me have some space and got over it. It's not really that big of a deal, rejection is something basically every man has dealt with at some point.

Girls

What does it mean when a girl unfriends someone they've been hooking up with? I hooked up with her too, and it ended pretty badly when I found out from other people she had been lying to me so I thought she would have done it already

What do girls think of guys that have a good relationship with their mums? Eg talk to her 1~2 times a week, see her once a month or so for a catch up?

ladies, what circumstances would need to be in place for u to feel comfortable sleeping with a guy on the first date (if any..)?

>hook up with

Jesus dude you think you have fucking problems? I can't even get a girl to speak to me. You have girls you just regularly fuck on and off and it's no big deal? I never understood that. How the fuck do people even manage to do that? Is sex really not a big deal at all to "normal" people?

Hey,
I'm feeling hostile just from reading your profile, because to me it comes off as humble bragging about how much of a free spirit you are, but OKCupid's algorithms are saying you're a top match for me and I'm intrigued.

Good? Bad? Too aggressive? Just trying to be honest.

>>18241167
Reads like a computer is trying to hook up with her. Tone down the autism.

Guys and girls what do you think of a partner that asks occasionally "do you really like me"? They've asked me it for the second time now, each a couple months apart. I didn't think anything of it the first time, but now that I think of it it seems a really childish thing to ask me. Am I being too mean in my analysis?

>>18241178

That's an interesting opinion but I wasn't asking you.

>>18241157
If I knew you for a considerable, extended period of time before then, and we were 100% sure a committed relationship would come out of it.

>>18241167
cringe

>>18240691
why are both options shit? i would rather neither
>do you prefer a bitch or a bore?

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>>18241167
>starting a conversation by critiquing someone's own fucking profile description
For what purpose.

Guy here. Yesterday I met this girl. I thought we hit it off really well because we ended up going on a six hour long date where we just sat down and had really intense conversation. It was the first time I'd connected so instantly with anyone. Today she only texted me back to tell me she had a doctor's appointment and would talk to me later. I told her I hope everything's going okay, but if it's not, I know she's probably not going to tell me, which also worries me. I can't tell if I fucked something up (i.e. by texting her the next day to begin with) or if she ended up just actually being busy today or if something's really wrong. There's really no telling, and I'm probably overthinking this, aren't I? What should I do from here?

>>18241223
You're way overthinking it. Give it a day or two and see if she texts you back. If not then text her and see what she says

People don't wanna be smothered

>>18241223

Fucking hell, chill out, dude. You saw her yesterday and today she has stuff to do, but told you she'd text you later. People have real lives to live, even if they're dating some anxious mess at the side. Get a grip and stop being so needy. She'll get back to you once she's got the time or interest to do so.

>>18241198
Whom are you asking then?

>>18241157
What >>18241200 said.

>>18241182
Annoying, insecure and someone who constantly needs validation. I agree it's immature

To girls and guys:

What do you do with girls' who have absolutely nothing on their profiles besides very basic information and pictures that are just selfies and don't show much of whom they are or are interested in? And why do girls do this?

>>18241236
A related question from someone else:
My gf used to tell me she loves me all the time, during the first two months of our relationship and was really affectionate. For the last two months, however, she's been much less overly affectionate and much less free in her "love yous". But she claims nothing is wrong with our relationship and that she's just not typically affectionate in that way. What happened and should I be worried?

>>18241238
People can't keep up that kind of energy forever.

>>18241238
She's been telling you she loves you within the first two months?

>>18241245
Well by the end of the first two weeks, yes.

>>18241239
So it's just an issue of fatigue? So not too uncommon?

>>18241250
>Well by the end of the first two weeks, yes.
Sounds very honeymoonish then, now the relationship is settling in and it's not all perfect anymore. That's normal, but she (and you?) sound young if that level of attachment wasn't worrying you.

Technically this is for males, but I feel anyone can answer.

A lot of us have been through situations where our partner has had a bad time and we feel we need to tiptoe around them. How do I be a better 'person that needs to be tiptoed around'? My life is awful right now and in true irrational human nature, it's making me resent the people I'm closest to. I had a long discussion (it wasn't really an argument) with my boyfriend about how neglectful he's been to me recently and he sincerely apologised for it. That should be it, right? But I'm still harbouring a lot of resentment towards him and I find it difficult to view him positively recently. I know this wouldn't be a problem if life wasn't beating me so much right now, I just don't know what to do about it.

>>18241250
>saying she loves in in only two weeks
Not fatigue senpai, it's her not actually being in love with you.

>>18241252
Well we both hadn't dated in a few years for different reasons and the last relationship she was in was pretty abusive. We're both in our mid-20s.

>>18241255
Still, people generally don't know if they love each other that quickly, and people in their mid-20s know better than to throw that shit around like that.

>the last relationship she was in was pretty abusive
Then it might be something she's used to. In an abusive relationship she was probably used to pulling away because it was hurting her, perhaps she's gotten into a habit of doing so.

>>18241258
So what can I do to make her more comfortable/trusting of me?

>>18241261
I don't know. I suspect it's more a her-thing than a you-thing though.

Question to everyone: where did you find your current partner?
I am just sitting and wondering. Lets analyse the possible place to meet people:
1) School/work. Bad choice, if you fuck up it will be awkward, if you get rejected it will be awkward, if you break up it will be awkward.
2) Clubs, bars. Bad choice for actual relationships, only suited for ONS.
3) Street. Most men don't have the guts to approach, yet many have girlfriends, so even if some small percentage chose this option, it is still not mainstream.
4) Facebook. Again, I don't see many people accepting strangers as their friends.
So where? I am genuinely curious.

>>18241280
>where did you find your current partner?
School.

>if you fuck up it will be awkward, if you get rejected it will be awkward, if you break up it will be awkward.
Why would it be awkward? Are you 15 or something?

>>18241280
Sister of a friend's wife.

>>18241284
>Why would it be awkward?
Because you pretend to avoid each other?
>>18241285
Social circle.. But again, break up will be awkward.

>>18241295
>Because you pretend to avoid each other?
If you're mature adults, you can get on with your life without it feeling awkward or like you have to do that. Like I said, are you 15?

Or are you just looking for excuses not to meet people, and thus have something to blame for you being single?

>>18240748
My gf always did. On the contrary, she never finishes when i eat her, unless I'm also using finger.

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Shit, I am nervous as fuck.

I have been thrusting the girl here and there, wearing underwear, so she was, too. There were certainly no penetration, but I swung my dick around her vagina quite a bit, this time she was in underwear, I was completely naked.

What's the chance of pregnancy?

Girls.

Why would you suddenly act a bit closer with the guy who told you that he likes you?

>>18241280
Offline gathering in a bookshop

I had my first date yesterday with a girl I met at a club on Saturday. I had a good time, but for me it's still a casual thing. She on the otherhand is already wayyyy into me and I get the impression it's already serious for her.

I am still dating another girl and haven't made up my mind yet who is the better match.

I actually feel a little pressured into sticking with the girl from last night cause she's so into me.

wat do?

>>18241322
>What's the chance of pregnancy?
you left out the most important piece of information so we can't tell you

>>18241345
What kind? I didn't cum in or on her. As soon as I cum I went into the bathroom.

Hey guys please give me good present ideas. There's a guy in my class who is 19, I like him a lot even though I haven't known him for much, and his birthday is coming soon. I want to gift him something good, help

>>18241167
You sound like a dick and if a stranger sent that to me I'd tell them to fuck off if I bothered to reply at all. Is this your attempt at negging?

I guess the answer is sorta obvious

But should I ask the girl I like how her fellow EMT Is doing?

She told me that she was the responding EMT and that she's not sure if he'll make it. She already knows that I'm her from her if she needs someone

>>18241280
I met my bf in school. We were 15. Now we're 24.

Had a great date with a girl from Tinder, 4 hours+. We really seemed to hit it off. She texted me afterwards asking for the pics of us and saying she had a good time, I responded. The next day I asked if she was free over the weekend, then she said she was sick and that we should schedule something when she feels better. I found out she wasn't actually sick (work near her I guess, saw her out and about). She also unmatched me on the Tinder today.

I am not emotionally invested in this person, but I would like to see them again. I'm just not sure if she is just trying to put me on the backburner, or if this is a ghosting attempt. Do I just forget about her until she contacts, or do I take her up on the offer to reschedule later? I don't really give a shit about the lies, I just wanna know the motive.

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Girls

Why are you so autistic in the gym?

>>18241423
I don't gym. So I don't know.

>>18241325
It means she likes him.

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Girls, why are you so stupid and useless? Or are you not self-aware enough to realize this since your every need is being catered to by men?

>>18241430
She doesn't act much closer. Much is a bit less serious now. And more open about what's bothering her

But I guess that is still being closer?

>>18241432
Can you like, not? You're not even trying to hide the bait.

>>18241436
>Can you like, not?
Ugh, ikr, I can't even.

>>18241434
But is a bit***

>>18241400
anyone?

>>18241380
Please help

>>18241380
How well does he know you. we need more details firts

>>18241513
Well what does he like?

>>18241462
Yeah, ask her. Just out of consideration of being a decent person.

>>18241521
Yea. I figured. I'll do it later today

Just didn't wanna seem over bearing or anything. But I guess thats acceptable in this case?

(She knows I like her, and alot seem to think she likes me aswell)

>>18241526
Yeah, it's just human concern. Not even romantically calculated, just makes you seem like a kind person.

>>18241531
True. and its the least I can do following her comforting me and being there for me when I needed it.

I may or may not be an undocumented American. How can I convince an American girl to marry me so I can stay and not be deported by blumpf?

What's an "orbiter" and why should I avoid becoming one? How do I know if I'm one? (unless the definition itself makes it clear)

>>18241325
What did she tell you when you confessed that you like her?

>>18241621
Basically "Well I really appreciate your honesty. I'm just so focused on myself and what I'm doing with my life, I don't have the time to pursue anything with anyone"

>>18241625
Once some female friend of mine asked me what's the best way to reject a guy, from a guy's perspective, and I told her pretty much that, word by word.

>>18241631
True. But given how she acted prior and after, makes my friends feel that she may infact be interested but shy and nervous


But may I ask when this friend asked?

>>18241635
2010 and she was 15 and I was 17.

Anyway I too think that there's a chance that she's interested but shy, good luck!

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>>18241602
An orbiter is someone who hangs around a woman who has no interest in him, and is hoping she'll change her mind at some point. If the relationship is having a bad period, he'll generally try to encourage her to break up hoping he gets to be the rebound (he won't).

>>18241593
You have to go back.

>>18241625
I would say that either she is testing the waters to see if she likes you back.
Or, now that she told you that she doesn't want anything more she is more comfortable about being open and close with you because she knows that you won't take it as something more than just friendship.

>>18241639
Thanks. It seems to sorta lead that way. But yea what she said isn't 100% a rejection. Could be a way to buy time even. Because after that she was sorta more open with me. And a little more relaxed when talking

Gonna text her later for the reasons I mentioned here >>18241400

>>18241644
It feels like she's testing the waters in a way. As I know she cut contact with a guy who may have just been trying to get in her pants. And maybe she wants to be sure Im not like that?

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>>18241322
>>18241345
>>18241372

Bump, I literally feel dizzy right now.

>>18241646
Yeah, it could be like that.
But do keep in mind that she did reject you.
Building up this image in your head that she does like you will only make you more sad if she really doesn't.
It can also hurt your friendship and/or ruin chances of a potential relationship because you will be that douche that doesn't respect her and what she told you.

>>18241237
girls on tinder don't want to talk to you. they want either validation (99% of them) or dick (1%).

>>18241692
True. I'm not pushing her. Im mostly just there as a friend who cares for her. Mostly enough to keep in contact but not enough to alienate her

I accept that she is probably only liking me as a friend but some stuff sorta seems like she may be coming around to the idea

>>18241237
If cute, swipe right
If ugly, swipe left

It's not like a 50 words bio will make me know them much better than this

>>18241280
>Street. Most men don't have the guts to approach, yet many have girlfriends, so even if some small percentage chose this option, it is still not mainstream.

It's the best one but the hardest one as well.

>>18241280
I had two serious relationships - I met my first boyfriend online, and my current boyfriend at a party.

If I can comment on your list, it is dumb.

You can date people you don't directly work with or study with, or people who work/study with you for a short amount of time if you're worried about the awkwardness.
For example, someone you have a class with for just one semester, or people who work in another department.

Meeting at bars is pretty chill, I don't know why you think it's bad. You don't have to get wasted and fuck on the first night you meet. Just meet people, talk to them, exchange numbers and set a proper date.

Approaching women on the street is honestly gross and I'd never date a guy who did it.

You can meet online but not on facebook: dating sites, forums, chats. Internet is huge.
You can meet people through your hobbies, at all sorts of social events like concerts or conventions. You can meet people through your friends.

>>18241253
Find productive outlets for your frustrations.

Taking it out on those closest to you is NOT ok.

Tell yourself you're trash for doing it and--instead if pitying yourself and making that a negative feedback loop--channel those negative emotions and disappointment in yourself to force/motivate yourself to go out and accomplish something instead.

The next time you feel like being a total bitch, take a breath, throw on some shoes, and go for a jog.

Give yourself a healthy outlet that's not toxic to those around you.

>>18241719
There are these types as well but most dont mind being approached on the street.

>girl starts talking to me online
>haven't had female contact in years
>never had a close friendship with one either
>we talk for about 6 months pretty much everyday
>she acts really nice to me and we flirt a little
>think I'm in love and she's the one
>confess
>she rejects me
>tells me she acted nice to open me up
>says she just wants to be friends
>initiates messaging for a while
>stops after I make lots of excuses not to talk
>haven't talked for two months now

Is our friendship over? Would she want me to message her at all? I don't have many friends and it's hard for me to make them so I was just wondering if I should try and reconnect or let her go.

>>18241734
>There are these types as well but most dont mind being approached on the street.
I've yet to meet a girl who doesn't mind it.
I honestly have never seen a girl liking being approached on the street, and whenever it happened to me and my friends we were all feeling embarrassed and annoyed.

>>18241738
Honestly, II think she liked you alot as a friend. And would be happy if you reached out again to her

>>18241741
You are a minority and it also depends on how someone approaches obviously

>>18241738
Let go, you will start feeling resentment eventually because she does not reciprocate your feelings.

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>demisexual
>skinny
>green hair
Where do I find girls like this? and what app or website is this screencap from? Some other anon posted it some weeks ago

>>18241734
>>most dont mind being approached on the street
>there are actual campaigns against """catcalling"""
>women consider it sexual harrasment when a stranger says hi to them

>>18241747
>You are a minority and it also depends on how someone approaches obviously
Not really. Most of my friends dislike it. Most girls who comment on here dislike it too.

It's annoying. If I'm walking on a street I'm going somewhere, I don't want to be stopped while I'm doing something so you can get your dick wet. You're wasting my fucking time.
It is dehumanising. It's a setting that doesn't allow you to know each other at all - you picked me just because I look good, and you want to go out with me without knowing anything about me and just because you think I might suck your dick.
Plus, a guy who approaches girls on the street does it all the time, so you're literally just a number for him.
And PUA shit they always try to pull is creepy as fuck and feels fake as hell.

Worst way to meet girls, by far.

>>18241750
>>18241751
Look, i am saying it by experience and you dont have to agree with me, now i also understand why you hated it, there is a difference between someone approaching and a PUA but i am wasting my time here, your ego's will keep defending themselves.

>>18241759
What's the difference?
I don't want to be talked to when I'm out doing chores. I don't see why you should bother me just because you think I'm hot.

>>18241759
I'm a guy, I do believe you but I'm very skeptical about talking to women I don't know on the street or the bus, I guess it's because the media made me think 99% of the time they'll think I'm a creep. I used to be more outgoing and liked to talk to strangers like that.

>>18241749
>demisexual

She probably wont like you..
I'm a dude, and in practice I'm now very much like this. There is only ONE person I cannot get out of my head. Till they reject me. I'm now and then shaken by temptation, but the same person comes to mind even in those moments.

It's like the person you want is someone your heart told you was ideal, so you just have to try... it's sort of castigating in a way.. but I really like who she is.

>>18241786
>demisexual

whoa I just looked that up it's totally me

>>18241795
>>18241795
Ya know.. I dunno that for me it truly is the word that describes me, maybe I just have a really slow burning crush on this girl.. it's not really an obcession, because I don't see myself browsing her pages or trying non-stop to get her attention, yet I think about her often and the last time I saw her in person was in February. She left a pretty big dent in there.. I wanna forget her sometimes, but I know my heart doesn't lie, I saw something in her I didn't see in anybody else there.

girls, why can't you just say that you want to fuck?

like seriously, i'm a lonely guy and sometimes when a girl smiles, i'm like why the fuck do i have to approach and we have to go over all this... maybe if you smile, you can simply ask for my dick

>>18241817
Any why is it that guys automatically thinks that a girl is DTF if she smiles?

>>18241817
Do you really not see anything wrong with what you typed out?

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I know this car is not exactly a fanny magnet but is it a girl repellent? I really want to drive one of these.

>>18241883

I'd marry the guy who drove that just so I could take the car in the divorce. Jk, but yeah, it's not a problem. It has character and it gets people to places, all good.

>>18241890
Excellent, thanks

>>18241824
>>18241849
Damn you people are dense

>>18241883
Driving that would be cringy as fuck

>>18241894
you stupid cunt, get the fuck out

>>18241894
Cringy because it's very old or because it looks weird? If I had one I'd make sure the paintjob is right and to keep it clean and everything

>>18241883
I ride a bike and get laid

>>18241908
?

>>18241912
To me that car signals that you're desperate for attention. It's like "heh look at my quirky car". Why can't you just get a normal car or at least an older car that isn't so obviously antiquated?

>>18241765
>I don't see why you should bother me just because you think I'm hot.
If you realize this it's just bad game, is all

Day game should be practiced in a way where the girl is unaware you are trying to pick her up. The best game never makes you think it's game but like a naturally evolved conversation.

How to make it look like that can be practised.

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>>18241926
Yeah I guess you are right. Well I think that cars made after the 90s all look terrible, besides the price. I'm still saving up.
I have something like this in mind otherwise but the fuel consumption must be insane.

>>18240691

Second choice. Without a doubt.

>>18241765
>I don't see why you should bother me just because you think I'm hot.
Guess what, every man who talked to you did it exactly for this reason.
Goddamn, I am so fucking tired of you women. You always say one thing and then just do the opposite, every fucking time. It is just hilarious.

>>18241795
Come the fuck on dude, it's a sexuality that was made up by a girl as an excuse to fuck lizard men in DnD.

Pretty much every fucking person out there prefers to have an emotional connection during sex at the bare minimum, it's not a sexuality unto itself.

>>18242006
I guess it's hard to explain because I can't see everyone's perspective but I guess the word describes how I never think of having sex with someone at least until I get to know them. Or like when the average guy tells me "look at that girl's fine ass" or "that girl is smoking hot" I don't see anything special or get what he means, like it doesn't catch my attention the way it does to him.
Noticing someone for their looks is probably sexual at the basics but I guess as a demisexual I imagine other people are thinking about sex way more often than me.

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>>18242012
>Noticing someone for their looks is probably sexual at the basics but I guess as a demisexual I imagine other people are thinking about sex way more often than me.
This needs to end.

>>18242021
>there is a bible version of 4chan that produces jesus memes

>>18242003
Guess what, sometimes I put myself in situations where I am trying to interact with other people - social situations, they say. When I am in a social situation you don't bother me if you come talk to me. I'm there to socialise.
Walking down the street or grocery shopping isn't a social situation. I'm trying to get something done. I don't give a shit about you and your penis needs. You're just annoying me.

>>18242025
Behold his works and despair.
https://www.chick.com/reading/tracts/0042/0042_01.asp

>>18242026
>I'm trying to get something done. I don't give a shit about you and your penis needs. You're just annoying me.
Yeah yeah, and if some handsome hunk appears, then you suddenly were just walking around. Once again, you say one thing, then do another.

>>18242038

Shoo you vile, bitter virgin, back to r9k with you....

>>18242050
Deep inside we all know I said the truth.

For men: when talking to girls you like romantically, do you ever deliberately delay your replies? And if so, why? To not seem desperate?

i just cybered and jacked off with a chubby girl that i dont even like and came hard. the thing is, the whole time i was thinking of another girl who i actually like and upset about not being able to talk to her. now i just feel disgust and shame. how pathetic is this? the only bonus is knowing now i would rather not end up having sex with her. should i embrace this shame? i feel like i deserve it. ive never done this before.

>>18242038
There's nothing more unattractive than being desperate. If someone is hitting on girls on the street, he's desperate so he is unattractive.
I never even looked at guys who hit on me on the street, doesn't matter how handsome they were.

>>18242064
I often do and yes, to not seem desperate. Idk if the girl is actually thinking "wow he must be desperate" if I don't delay them, but oh well. I hate texting in general though, too many unwritten rules of this kind.

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Went on a date with this guy i like. We talked for about 3 months prior to that (we live quite far away from each other thus why we couldnt meet asap).
First date happened a month ago. Yesterday evening we were texting randomly, at some point he says "When we saw each other that day, I don't know, but it felt really good."
He also said that he wasnt even bothered by the thought of having sex when we met, in fact we didnt have sex (we couldnt even if we wanted to, though)

How am i supposed to react? What does that even mean?

I'm really autistic when it comes to things like this.