How long should you wait to be friends with an ex?

>>18238563
Don't do it. If only brings you more pain that will never end.

>>18238563
You probably shouldn't, but best case scenario, it's going to be YEARS before you can actually be friends. If you can at all.

>>18238563
You can be friends with her again when you have absolutely no desire to have a relationship with her outside of platonic friendship.
If you want her back the let's be just friends route is filled with many a heartache.

If you think being friends is a backdoor into getting back together with an ex you are in for the worst heartbreak of your life.

How to get an ex back:
Step 1:

>do nothing.

that's it. how long has it been since you broke up? If it's been less than 6 months to a year, definitely don't reach out.

I'm guessing it's less than that....do not reach out. The best chance you have of getting her to miss you is by disappearing from her life completely. She'll have time to feel not having you available and it will trigger feelings of loss.

Maybe a week, a month, maybe even three months goes by....but if you honestly believe she is meant to be with you, I promise it will happen. But right now you have to learn to let go of her and become happy as yourself as a single male. If she comes back, you don't want to still be in a broken state of neediness and weakness. You want to be at your best. More fit, more confident, healthier, happier, maybe a different style...maybe you even fucked a girl or two by then. Do positive things for yourself and your gf will become even more attracted to you. Reach out, and you're only decimating your chances of reconciliation.


tl;dr the best strategy to get an ex back is to forget about her and move on. Unless it's been more than 6 months do not contact her.

>>18238563
You won't ever be friends

>>18238563
You should never.

As some anon said, it depends if you want friends who will be able to come back or just plain friends.

My Ex said she will like to keep the friendship something like

>We break up for reasons
>Anon, I won't like to keep in touch
>Sure, why not

Months past and she just distanced more from me. It didn't help 200km of relationship and shit, but she knew I was a guy that likes to talk (and I mean only talk) but she went from "I don't mind checking my phone because you could have messaged me" to "I feel bad if I have to force myself into check the phone for if you chatted me" so I don't fucking know what the hell she wanted.

So I guess, although it sounds cliché, it depends on you both. Plain friendship from both sides is perfect, like maths

>Friendship + Friendship = Cool
>Friendship + More/Less Than Friendshit = Bad

I will take advantage of the situation and ask for advice too.

>How do you know when you're over it?

>>18238563
have you ever spoken about your feelings with her? if you want to become friends you have to be absolutely honest with each other otherwise you will always keep your secret and its hard to accept. If you really want to be friends you should tell her how you feel and tell her that she is still a person you find important in your life eventhough you havent talked for a long time. And then go from there. If my ex told me this i would be fine with it and actualy be glad we spoke about it. has she ever made a comment about that she was sorry for braking up or something like that? Feeling never really go away. Thats all i know

when you don't care about shaking hands with her new BF, go to a restaurant with them, see them kiss and talk about what they are doing without feeling kicked in the stomach, that's the earliest point in time to become friends.

>>18239787
Is this plausible, anon?

Considering on trying this