Too old for relations with teenage girl?

>>18234852
She's okay with it and there's no legal concerns. There's barely even a social concern because this is exactly the behavior society expects from you. I literally can't see where third could go wrong.

>>18234858
I guess the large part of the issue is I'm afraid of how much I depend on her presence to stop the the shitty feelings I have over the cheating/divorce. I hope I'm not doing anything improper by 1)loving the support I get from a young girl with no relationship experience and 2)feeling so attached to someone before having found a way to cope with the shitty situation by myself

>>18234876
It sounds like the issue here isn't her age. So what's the real challenge for you?

>>18234876
Nah man, you're fulfilling the basic needs of connecting with other people and having sex. Nothing to be ashamed of, you're just doing what any man does. She knows your age and issues and is still there, so there's no problem with her.

>>18234852

>Too old for relations with teenage girl?

Yes. If you find yourself at 30 years old finding a lot of common ground and shared interests with a teenage girl there is something intensely wrong with you.

Do it dude but realize theres a high possibility your just a fling for this younger chick as well

>>18234913
What are you, 19?

>>18234876
look dude, you're not going to get over that. that shit stays with you for a long time. but you're going to feel better eventually.
Just don't expect this girl to be what your wife was, it wont work like that.

>>18234899
I don't want to do anything unhealthy, that's about it - - whether for her, or me. I have fun talking with her, and she's really cute and sweet, I really don't wanna be so weak that I can't find peace without knowing and maybe eventually loving another woman.

>>18234914
If that's what she wants I guess it's fine, I just hope we keep talking like we do after a fling

>>18234913
The things we share are no more or less shallow than things I share with people twice her age. She acts like most of the girls my age, she's just younger

>>18234876
>I hope I'm not doing anything improper by 1)loving the support I get...
>>18234933
>I really don't wanna be so weak that I can't find peace...
Yes, OP, you're worthy of her affection. Romance isn't something that only perfect people are entitled to.

>>18234970

>Yes, OP, you're worthy of her affection.

But also, keep in mind that she is 19 and not even she really knows who is worth of her affection yet because she's still a child and knows literally nothing about life or adult relationships.

>>18234920
My wife was a mistake so I'm counting on her not being what my wife was. I started dating her and got WAY too surrounded by her family, and pressured into setting the date WAY earlier than I wanted to for the wedding. There was a point where I could kind of feel the foundation of the relationship shaking, but by the time I realized it the Save the Dates were already sent - - half a year earlier than they first discussed. I look forward to taking it slow and easy with this girl with the option open to get serious later on, and very cautious not to just use her as an emotional shock absorber.

>>18234970
I hope so

>>18234975
If she ever gets spooked or comes to a realization I'd completely understand if she were to wanna call off everything

>>18234975
Yes, because she's only had 19 years of interacting with and building relationships with other human beings and that can't possibly be enough to tell when someone is a waste of air. If you've been honest with her and she sees something good in you, it's probably because it's there. Cultivate those good traits and things will end well. Think of her as a child that's obviously deluded because she's attracted to "a loser like you" and you're setting everyone up for an enormous mess.

>>18234996
Not really calling myself a loser or thinking of her as a child, I'm for the most part fine with everything, came here to step outside of myself and workshop/address potential concerns. After this post dies, I'll probably go right back what we were doing: supporting eachother emotionally, having fun talking and exchanging affection

>>18235002
My point is that the issues you've brought up in this thread have more to do with your own self-worth than anything so petty as a handful of years. She believes in you. You need to believe in her ability to believe in you.

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>>18234996

>Think of her as a child

That's good advice. Look at the girl you're having sex with and "think of her as a child"

>>18235011
Haha well, I'll try and keep my insecurities tucked away, go with the flow, and have a good time with a beautiful lady. Thanks for the advice!