Long-Term Relationship with Diaper Lover

File: 1480696975937.jpg (12KB, 229x343px) Image search: [Google]

12KB, 229x343px

>pisses himself
why do you mention it like it's a normal thing?

Just tell him you aren't comfortable duh

>>18228691
Of course, it isn't, but it is for him.

>>18228692
I have. He wants me to be comfortable (at least neutral) with it, because they are heading toward marriage. I totally understand if something was that important to me I would want my lover to be ok with it if we might get married.

>>18228708
>I have. He wants me to be comfortable (at least neutral) with it, because they are heading toward marriage. I totally understand if something was that important to me I would want my lover to be ok with it if we might get married.
That's not how it works, I'm afraid. That's an unusual fetish - it's not like he's asking you to experiment with light bondage or something. If you're uncomfortable with it now, you're probably always going to be uncomfortable with it. You can't willfully acquire a fetish any more than you can get rid of one.

>I was thinking maybe I should tell him that I can't change that part of me?
Yep.

I mean, be gentle. He didn't ask to have an unusual fetish any more than e.g. gay people ask to be gay. Just say, Look, I'm not judging you at all, but it's not something I'm into and not something I think I ever could be into. I hope that's not going to cause problems in our relationship, but I owe it to you to be upfront about this, I'm never going to be comfortable with it. I'm sorry.

It's unfortunate, but it's how it goes. He's an adult. He can deal with the disappointment.

>>18228708
>because they are heading toward marriage
Marriage isn't something that just happens to you, my dear. It's something you do in unity. If you don't like the whole package, then why is marriage even on your thoughts? Seems like you haven't considered finding someone you're more compatible with, among the current year times a million available other people in the world

>inb4 but he's the one
Could you consider being in an open relationship with this guy, so he can live out his fetish with someone more compatible in that area

>>18228658

It sounds like a dealbreaker. Sex is supposed to be equally enjoyable for both parties, and while a little compromise - "This doesn't do much for me, but since you enjoy it, why not?" - is part of almost any arrangement, totally one-sided demands are not.

"This grosses me out, but I'll force myself to do it to please you" is doomed, because you WILL eventually come to resent it. And "I know this grosses you out, but I demand it of you" is a symptom of a larger and eventually more pervasive disrespect for you.

>>18228766
Okay, let's get a grip here, so far he hasn't DEMANDED anything. We have no idea what his reaction will be if she says "Not into it, never gonna be into it, sorry." And people maintain relationships with partners who don't share their fetishes all the time. It doesn't sound like this is something he NEEDS in order to become aroused. In fact, a lot of people would probably prefer to call it a "kink," rather than a fetish, but that's sorta splitting hairs.

It's very premature to say it sounds like a dealbreaker.

Thank you for all the replies! I will give him a call later today and tell him how I feel. See, if we can find a compromise or some other way for the both of us to be comfortable about it.

>>18228736
I will try to be gentle about it. I don't want to say that I can't handle it and then he leaves me or something.

I love him and I think we can make this work. It's not like he needs diapers in all our sexual encounters. It's more of a once every few months or so.

>>18228752
I could marry some other man, but I like this one. I totally agree that it doesn't happen out of nowhere and we both have compromised and sacrificed to be happy with each other.

I asked about a year ago - when we hit a dry spell. My libido is higher than his and I wasn't getting as many love sessions. He got angry and didn't consider it. I don't think he will like an open relationship for his diaper fetish, because he would have to share me with others. I wouldn't want to share him with others too.

>>18228766
I enjoy our usual love sessions. This is could be a dealbreaker, but I rather work on us having a comfortable level or line drawn about our fetishes/sexual desires instead of giving up. I want to work on this with him unless it becomes obvious that we aren't working.

well, time to break up. Bail while it's fresh

File: cat.jpg (29KB, 640x480px) Image search: [Google]

29KB, 640x480px

>>18228658
Hahaha, he's a pervosexual.

First step: Introduce the diapers
Next step: have a little bit of age play
Step after: Induce lactation
Final step: You've now become his mommy

Enjoy!

>>18228658
He's a freak and probably also a pedophile, just dump him.

Just tell him you're uncomfortable with it. It's just finish and he's not going to change it just say that you're not into it. Is better to do it now then when you're living together and closer to marriage