How to stop feeling inadequate?

>>18222188
>No proper friends
You can make friends.
>no romantic experiences
You can get a girlfriend.
>no academic achievements
You can go to school
>no significant work experience
This is perfectly normal at 19.
>no productive hobbies
Then get a productive hobby.
>no friendships with family,
Then reconnect with your family.

Dude, I don't get what your problem is. You're not saying "here's the reason I can't do any of these things" you're saying, "I haven't done these things." Okay. Then go fucking do it. There's nothing stopping you.

>I tried to fill the void with cannabis
Quit smoking until you have a decent job to support that vice.

>I find everything tiring mentally and physically
Get some exercise every day. It will help.

I was in the same boat as you last year, you just have to get out there and start doing shit. For me, it was getting back into fitness and starting to take martial arts lessons (and getting a new job). It gives you something to work towards, something to wake up in the morning for. Yeah, it's going to suck for a little while, but it'll get better.

Do you have low self esteem because you have nothing or do you have nothing because of your low self esteem?

>>18222229
Which came first, the chicken of the egg?

>>18222229
>>18222230
Like this guy said, it's a mix of both and now it's like a vicious cycle I can't break

>>18222218
I can't go to school, because no good school will take me and the UK system is a bit fucked when it comes to getting into Uni without proper A-levels or equivalent. I can go to the uni I have been accepted into but its very mediocre and its in a very boring but expensive city (oil city, so all the people there are oilworkers). Otherwise I have to spend several years and lots of money tying to get the same qualifications I didn't do well in when I was in school. I passed but didnt get good grades.

How do I get a productive hobby? I thought you had to enjoy something to make it a hobby, my problem is I don't enjoy anything anymore. I don't play games now because I don't find them fun and while I try to play them I just feel anxious that im wasting my time

I already quit smoking, and I don't know if I can actually make real friends because i've never had proper friendships. My only friend right now remembers me maybe once a month, never wants to do anything because he is always 'broke' but he can afford drugs and shit with his other friends, and he forgets everything about me but I don't forget the shit he tells me. So I doubt if I really have a friend and if I can make any, because I dont share any interests with people.

My family have never been close and my brother and mum are unstable people, dad is an emotionally closed person who just wants to pray, do chores, and his usual routine. He doesnt share any interests with me either, he is very into religion but I am not so our interests arent compatible.

And can i really get a girlfriend if I dont even have the social skills to make a dude friend? How is this possible?

You say theres nothing stopping me but I feel like im stopping myself and cant get rid of the block. Before you say see a therapist, Im already seeing one but they aren't that good and I can't afford private care.

>>18222266
Anyway my point is, that I lack even the basics that the most simple people have. No social value, no academic value, no skills. It makes me feel very useless and everyone around me does amazing things except me. They avoid me because I am useless and don't have anything to offer to them. I think i'm probably in the lowest % of the population when it comes to success and smarts, and overall 'goodness'.

Obviously I dont like this and I want to feel worthy of something in my life but my life has just gotten more empty and crap over the last few years. my dad is a simple guy and he tells me that i'm not going to be great so I should just accept that normal people work boring jobs and they don't go to amazing schools or do anything exceptional, and to just live a basic life. But I had every opportunity open to me when I was a kid and I squandered every one and I know his words arent completely true. I guess I dont know how to deal with being a mediocre person.

Stop focusing on the best aspects of other people's lives and the worst aspects of yours. You don't k I what they're going through at home, the secrets they hold, the sins eating away at them inside. Stop comparing your life to the people's lives. Just figure out what you want to do and take steps to do it with full focus and self discipline.

>>18222266
>I can't go to school, because no good school will take me and the UK system is a bit fucked when it comes to getting into Uni without proper A-levels or equivalent.
Bullshit, I know a dude who's literally an illegal, and he's going to a UK college. If some random pajeet can get into uni, so can you.

>a very boring but expensive city
Then move.

>How do I get a productive hobby? I thought you had to enjoy something to make it a hobby
Nope. I didn't enjoy Jiu Jitsu when I started, now I love it. I didn't enjoy digital art when I started, now that's where most of my money and entertainment comes from.

>I don't play games now because I don't find them fun and while I try to play them I just feel anxious that im wasting my time
Good, you are just wasting time for the most part. I've probably played thousands of hours of games in my life, mostly when I was younger, and how many of those games do I think really gave me something, helped me grow as a person? Like 3. Maybe 5.

>I don't know if I can actually make real friends because i've never had proper friendships
Worry about improving yourself first. I had the same issue in my early 20's, was an antisocial nerd in highschool, never learned to socialize. Thing is, something you don't realize right now, socializing is easy, you just have to have something to talk about, which is why the hobbies help. If you're skating, and you crash into a dude at the skate park, the two of you are going to have plenty of shit to talk about when you get up. Ditto for any hobby.

>Girl, how do?
For every desperate, lonely male in the world, there's a desperate, lonely female. Still, my advice would be to get your life sorted out a bit first. You don't want to be responsible for a second person until you're good being responsible for yourself.

>I'm stopping myself
I did the same thing for years. Thing you have to remember is that you're 19. You're going to learn and grow. You just have to get out and do it.

>>18222280
Don't listen to your dad Op, like the other anon said, no one is stoping you from doing all the things you want.

I'm in the same situation as you, just try to believe in yourself, we all gonna make it :,)

>>18222188
>19

Stopped there.

Dude youre young as fuck. You dont even realise it right now. But highschool fuckin blows (for everyone), and you arent even equipped for the real world leaving because the system made you learn facts instead of actual wisdom and skills. And not to sound like a "kids these days" 30 year old, but kids are dumb as fuck and dont know shit until theyre like 24. Youll know what i mean eventually. Just vapid clueless morons who think they know everything or are overly hard on themselves for no rational perceiveable reason.

That comes with life experience and maturity.

But dont be all like "wahh im 19 and accomplished nothing". You arent supposed to yet. Youve been a free adult for like a year.

Niggah after hard work and trying my best i cant even say my life was together until i was like 27.

Get out of the mindset of "my past. Oh no :(" because that shits gone. Even if you did accomplish anything, you wouldnt even be feeling it right now. Youd still be on /adv/ bored with your day and wondering why you arent doing shit eight now. What are you gonna do tomorrow, anon? What comes tomorrow.

Start accomplishing bitch.

Okay, you have depression. All those people with achievements you want for yourself do not have depression. You're going to have to medicate that because you'll never be able to magically start caring about hobbies, making friends or studying hard when everything is thrice as tiring for you than the average person.

I was in almost as bad a place as you when I was your age. 18 - 20 was just... a blur. Huge waste of my life, sad stuff. Highschool wasn't great for me, so it was salt on the wound that the years that followed also sucked.

I had friends, but my relationships with them weren't great. I was the most forgettable of my friend group. Hadn't spoken properly to a girl in years. Never had a job. No driver's license. Low grades. Low self-esteem makes everything a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For me, my low self esteem derived entirely from poor body image. So shortly after turning 20, I joined a gym and started lifting, doing SL 5x5. That basically changed my life. Three (3) hours a week across three days was a small price to pay for overhauling my physique and for the first time, having pride in myself as a man. Two years later I have a girlfriend, stronger friendships, work experience, an internship at a big software company and my GPA has gone up significantly.

>>18222370
>You need drugs and nothing you can do without them will help yourself.
People like you are the reason mental disorders are so overdiagnosed.

>>18222372
Sad that that's the message gathered from his post

OP JUST START LIFTING
it's a self esteem hack

What's the easiest and fastest way to make friends?

>>18222394
Go to a convention like a video game con or an anime con. People pick up stragglers there all the time. To this day, I've gone alone to dozens of conventions and I've never once made it through the first day without getting picked up by a group.

There's a strong social atmosphere, everyone is happy and excited to meet new people. On a somewhat related note, cons are also great for getting laid.