Letting go of the past

>>18215950
Just forget her, it'll be better for you
"'Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

Also revenge porn is a crime, ain't worth it

Realize that being with her was a waste of time. Without her now you're free to find someone you can be happy with.

Sounds like you could go for a good dose of self-improvement if you're this hung up about stuff that has already happened.

>>18215959
> Just forget her
I realize this is the grown-up thing to do, but does she really deserve that after wasting a year of my life? Zero consequences or repercussions, not even a reason why?

I stay busy and I've really been trying to move on, but here I am half a year later and still pissed off about it.

>>18215966
It sucks but the alternatives are worse. Wasting any more effort on someone who has clearly made clear they are not worth any is more waste.

Maybe post the nudes on /b/ or something. Anything more than that isn't worth risk

>>18215966
What do you mean by wasting a year of your life?

How was that time wasted? If you spent a year pretending to be someone you're not then that's on you.

No one held you at gunpoint and no one is obligated to keep dating you or give you an explanation.

The relationship ended. It happens. Get over it.

If I had to guess, she probably ghosted you because she realized she'd spent an entire year with an entitled sociopath.

>>18215966
>does she really deserve that after wasting a year of my life?

She doesn't deserve it, but you do. Forgiveness isn't always about saying "What you did to me was okay." Sometimes forgiveness is about saying "I am letting go of the control you have over my life." Right now you are struggling to swim in an ocean because she is weighing you down. You can either choose to let her drag you down and drown you in your anger, or you can choose to cut yourself free so you can swim to shore.

>>18215950
I finx the lens of "tit for tat with random forgiveness" steers me true on when and where to be an asshole to people who've been an asshole to me.
Would leaking her nudes be a proportionate response..? To people she knows, no. To /b/, actually think it would about fit.

>>18216395
Yeah she goes from "I love you" to ghosting overnight after a year together, without neither warning nor explanation, and I'M the sociopath!
Let's see the same thing happen to you, and then you can tell me how it feels.

>>18216405
The crazy thing about all this is that I want nothing to do with her ever again. I've SEEN with my own eyes what a two-faced sack of shit she really is, and know that I'm far better off without her, so in a sense I feel like that's an important step taken care of.
I'm lingering on how the relationship ended, as well as the fact that I'll never get the closure I frankly think is the very least a loved one deserves when a split happens.

>>18216515
I agree that you deserve closure, but you have to accept that (especially if she's as awful as you feel) she's probably never going to give you the closure no matter what you do. No amount of ruining her life will change that, and clinging to that fact will only keep you angry instead of moving on with your life.

>>18215950
You can try and contact her and try to ask for closure and get a reason why she dumped you but I am guessing it won't really do you any good even if she does give some half ass reason.

Deserving closure and achieving closure are not mutually inclusive

>>18216515
Leaking someone's nudes is not appropriate in the slightest, no matter the situation.

Shooting someone after a year together is cruel but it is not abusive and not a crime. Revenge porn is cruel, a crime and has social and employment implications, it's bringing a nuke to a knife fight and is entirely inappropriate.

Seriously considering it says a lot about your character. You don't get to choose what happens to you but you get to choose how to react yo it.

She sucks. Maybe she loved you, maybe she didn't but it's over now.

Move on; she already has.

>>18216871
> Move on; she already has.
I don't care about her, I care about me - and the disrespect she showed me at the end is keeping me from "just moving on, bro :^)"

Dumping her photos on /b/ would serve quite a few purposes:
1) I get even on the unsettled score she created by doing what she did
2) my fellow anons get some new material to jerk it to
and potentially, if she were to ever find out,
3) teach her a lesson about shitting on people who are supposed to be close to you, and how it may (should) have consequences

Haven't yet decided if I'm actually going to go through with it, but in terms of raw cost versus reward, it sure as hell beats getting up in the middle of the night and driving all the way out to where she lives to let all the air out of her tyres.

>>18216946
1. It won't even the score because you'll still feel wronged.
2. Got me there
3. It won't teach her a lesson, it'll just give her fuel to make people feel sorry for her. Then, you'll seem like the asshole, and she'll play the victim card.