I'm not a virgin but everything about sex past kissing and "heavy petting" seems awkward as fuck to me, like dirty talk, asking for a blowjob, progressing to sex, exchanging nudes, trying out any fetishes, that kind of thing.
I know how to go through the motions and get a girl off, but the entire thing just feels unnatural. How do I change that? I don't even know how to "start" being sexual, I've just been lucky enough in life to be a pretty attractive guy, so either girls come on to me, or awkwardly leaning in to a kiss seems to work.
Admittedly the things that I'll find myself sexually fantasizing about can't really be pulled into the bedroom correctly, so I don't know what to do about that. I stopped watching porn and fapping two months ago, in case that's anyone's suggestion.
>>18209670
Be dominant. Confidence is key, and while it can be difficult to remain confident when you feel awkward about it, but honestly just act like you're don't give a fuck. Just keep a cool calm and slightly aggressive demeanor. Push them against a wall, kiss their neck, throw them onto the bed, tease them and when they react to it give them a devious smile. Be strong, but gentle. Make it fun. It feels good and chicks love it.
Effort -> Strength -> Accomplishment -> Confidence -> Leadership -> Results
>inb4 someone gets upset from seeing these words
>>18209710
How in the fuck does leadership help me become more sexual?
This makes no sense.
>>18209670
Stop thinking about sex as that nasty stuff you're supposed to do with girls, and start thinking about it as an expression of warm feelings, a natural extension of cuddling
>>18209716
I don't really like cuddling. I also don't think sex is "nasty," there's nothing off-putting about it to me that way, but I find most of the stuff involved to be awkward, like the same way you'd feel if someone wanted you to get on stage and sing with no experience.
>>18209728
The point is that, though it is very un-hip to admit it, sex as an expression of feelings really is different from sex-for-its-own-sake, and the fact that you don't like the second might mean you should look for the first.
>>18209801
This is a whole other issue but I haven't met anyone I actually romantically like outside of one person in the past three years and I probably won't get in a relationship where I have feelings for anyone, if it hasn't happened up to this point. Sex is really just for casual fun times.
I like getting intimate with attractive girls, it's just awkward.
>>18209670
you fucking awkward asshat.
you should kill yourself and no just kidding
you are cool.
just play 5 against willy, it will calm you down.
no just kidding again.
don't jerk off that often. do a no fap therapy for 2 months.
>>18209814
> I stopped watching porn and fapping two months ago, in case that's anyone's suggestion.
Why not instead of becoming more sexual, you just act naturally? Maybe even pick one girl and have kids with her. Perhaps then, with actual intimacy you would be more open to intercourse, but without the pornographic jew on your mind telling you to fuck her ass/mouth and attempt cringy dirty talk.