My boyfriend has absolutely no sexual fantasies whatsoever. I like to think we trust each other enough to discuss sex openly, we have always been extremely open with each other but he's adamant that he doesn't have any fantasies or fetishes at all.
Is this common? Is it normal?
>>18209601
Everybody has their kinks, try different stuff out and eventually something will stick, there are websites for this stuff.
>>18209601
There are some fetishes that can't be acted upon in real life. If that's what he has than maybe there's no reason to tell you.
>>18209601
It is possible that, as far as he is aware, he is telling the truth.
I see no reason to press the issue, just be supportive and patient - something may reveal itself in time.
>>18209601
I as a perverse guy find this very hard to believe.
But everything is possible. Try searching his browser history for porn or do this with him:
http://mojoupgrade.com/
Vanilla sex is a preference too
my fetish is true love and intimacy
>>18209621
This is it for me. The majority of my fetishes aren't functional in the bedroom, are going to creep a girl out, or aren't going to satisfy me if role played, so it's fucking pointless for me to tell anyone about them.
The best I can implement is bondage, and even then I'm too lazy to go full-on dom even if you were willing, so I normally just don't tell girls about that either.
Is this your bf?
>>18209601
Your boyfriend has a condition that we call "being Boring". This is a relatively common condition, and is usually caused by someone lacking imagination and creativity. It's nothing to worry about, just really, really, really dull.
>>18209924
That's a baseless and relatively moronic assumption, kiddo.
Op made no mention of being unsatisfied in regard to anything, other than her boyfriend's reluctance to discuss his sexual fantasies.
For all we know, his fantasies could simply amount to fucking OP good and right.
That you would attach a negative connotation to his actions after being given such little information is pretty telling.
>>18209601
>My boyfriend has absolutely no sexual fantasies whatsoever
No, he just has fantasies or fetishes that are too weird to share with your girlfriend. I have at least two that I would NEVER share with anyone I personally knew.
>>18209601
I think it's probably fine.
He could be hiding something dark or shameful, but it seems just as likely he's perfectly happy with whatever is normal for you already.
As a married man, I have some pretty twisted fetishes that I wouldn't want to impose on my wife unless she was blackout drunk or high. I dunno OP, how important is this for you?
>>18209601
do cocaine together, my girlfriend wouldn't admit to anything like this until we did.i guess mdma might work as well but the confidence coke provides is probably a big plus