Help with dating someone with an eating disorder

>>18207233
https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/tools/lp/Bo/LogicalFallacies/173/Sunk-Cost-Fallacy

I am sorry anon, no advice for you. Waiting for miracle can suck.

>>18207233
>I hate the east coast
Fuck you too

> People suck
you suck

>Everyone's fake/uptigh
I'd say everyone is more real because they don't pretend to love you if you sit next to each other on the train

>everything closes early
on weekends only

> I hate beaches and rain!
Why would you go to the beach when it rains

>I don't have friends here on the east coast to talk to because people here are kinda shit.
You are kinda shit

don't trap yourself just because you feel bad. Tell her how you feel and stop being a fag.

>>18207371
>t. Typical sensitive Yankee

Not even OP, but there's so much salt in your post I could mine it and sell it for decades.

>>18207233
You should tell her how you feel. It's not worth it to throw your happiness away due to another person, and your time and life is valuable. If she isn't getting better or trying to get better then there's no point to staying with someone who can't even care for herself let alone you.

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>>18207392
1 miserable year vs 3 amazing years. That is my cost benefit analysis. I still love her. I still feel she is worth the fight. Not just because of a sunken cost fallacy, but because there is still feelings there and it is a medical condition that has caused the change.

>>18207345
She's beat it before. I see your point, and if this was some college fling or we'd only been dating for a year, I'd agree.

The feelings are still there. I've been stuck in sunken cost mode before. The love is there. I still light up when she calls me.

I'm also human. I feel alone. I have urges i've kept under control for way too long. I have never dealt with something like this and there isn't much help on it.

I'm not ending it.

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>>18207371

Oh jesus, where to begin with your faggoty

>I'd say everyone is more real because they don't pretend to love you if you sit next to each other on the train

Except for when they do kiss ass and virtue signal to one another to make sure they have approval.

>everything closes early
>on weekends only

Oh, you mean when people have time off and want to spend time out. Yeah, real logical.

> I hate beaches and rain!
>Why would you go to the beach when it rains

The key word there is AND. Your common core education and rationalization skills are shining through.


>I don't have friends here on the east coast to talk to because people here are kinda shit.
>You are kinda shit

From the Yankie so assmad he can't possibly comprehend why someone would prefer living anywhere else.

However thank you for proving my point about the east coast for me.

I'm in a somewhat similar situation.

Girlfriend has severe depression, and it has caused a lot of issues over the years we have been dating. Things will be going good for a little bit, depression with flare up and shit goes sideways for a while which is emotionally exhausting. She is unable to work due to it and depends souly on me because her family is super poor and dysfunctional.

My girlfriends sex drive due to the depression and meds is very low; I'm lucky if we have sex once a month. A few years ago things got really bad and I began to develop feelings for a particularly attractive coworker and seriously contemplated leaving my GF in destitute for her.

Since hitting rock bottom with wanting to leave her I have instead focused all my energy in makig my relationship with my GF as good as possible rather than thinking it will never get better and I am doomed to be unhappy with her for the rest of my life despite loving her a lot.

She and I were doing a lot of things wrong that were making things more difficult for both of us (gaining weight due to little exercise, staying up too late all the time, spending too much time apart doing seperate things, I was watching too much porn and wishing I could have a girl like the ones in teh videos). We also talked a lot about our problems and have been working together on them for the betterment of our relationship, and while it has been slow, progress has definitely been happening. I'd say that us having civil, non-defensive convos about the issues in our relationship and what we need to do to change that has been the most helpful thing for both of us.

Since working on these thimgs, she has more good days than bad days, she has lost a bunch of wieght and it looking sexy like she did when i met her, I have been losing weight and feel better about myself, e have been having more sex, albeit still only a few time a month, but that is an improvement.

I hope any of that helps.

>>18207559
Don't be the person who stays in a relationship just because of the amount of time you've been in it. You're very clearly unhappy and have been placed in this situation without forewarning. You're cherishing the memories but what matters really is the now, otherwise, no one would ever leave bad relationships.

>but because there is still feelings there and it is a medical condition that has caused the change.

It's clear that you're really intensely into her, you moved and uprooted your life for her. Yes you have feelings but it's important to be able to recognize when you should do what's right versus what feels good. Yeah, she has a medical condition but she didn't disclose it to you and hasn't gotten (effective) treatment when she actively knew how bad it could get. She let it get worse, and that's not fair to you. Imagine this was a bad leg that she didn't get fixed and now it broke again and she continued walking on it until she wound up in the hospital.


Part of this is your dependency on her, you shouldn't put this much of yourself into a relationship. Hiding it won't fix it and would be very similar to how she dealt with her issue.

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>>18207623

https://youtu.be/Izin3jTKNik

I was in your situation but roles reversed. After the relationship crashed and burned, Neurostar TMS theropy fixed me. Meds were a waste of time.

That said, losing weight and working out is the exact opposite of what I want for her.

Also to make certain things clear, she does know this has been rough on me and I have been vocal. I just haven't gone Django unchained with it because the truth is painful.

And in a sense I am angry at her for this.

Which is irrational, it's like being mad at someone for having cancer.

She apologizes when I call her out on her bad behavior. She beats her self up and cries. She thanks me for putting up with it and makes some big showy gesture to say sorry.

I feel I may have left out the part where I have a spine and stand up for myself when the bullshit flies, or she hates herself because she doesn't want to act like a monster or look like a monster.

Or the part where she is greatful to me.

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>>18207671
I feel that the 2200 limit edited version of my post really did not do justice to the reality of the situation.

See also post >>18207723

I'm not a doormat, and she's not ungreatful.

>she didn't disclose it to you and hasn't gotten (effective) treatment

I knew she had issues with it. When we first started dating it was one of the first things she let me know.

She did get treatment, and is now under full lock down treatment and gave me power of attorney to keep her from backing out.

>You're very clearly unhappy
This is true

>and have been placed in this situation without forewarning.
This is not. I knew she had this issue. She told me about previous hospitalization. I had no clue it could get this bad. I had never dealt with anything like this.

>You're cherishing the memories but what matters really is the now, otherwise, no one would ever leave bad relationships.

I worry about this. I worry that She might be gone for good. What research I've been able to do has told me this is not the case. There is a silver lining and she will start coming back.

Also I really didn't get to talk about how good the sex was.

Fake a break up and state the reason is because her being so skinny is disgusting.

Stop being a nice person and fucking give her the truth. That's the only way she'll get over the eating disorder.

>>18207793
nigga you trollin'?