Getting over oneitis

>>18195238

Meet more girls. Hang out less with her. Not cutting contact, but, you know, just seeing her less.

Think less about her, be less around her, and be more around new opportunities. She can't be your dream girl because she is not into you. That immediately disqualifies her.

>>18195255
I'm trying to hang out with other people, though her being with my main friend group makes it all a bit harder.

In that regard yes, you're definitely right. It's just that she's the only girl I've met so far in my life that I clicked with so well. Myriads of shared interests, same values and views on the world, etc. It's somewhat stupid to say this but I feel really doubtful about finding someone like this again, I guess that's why the feelings remained.

>>18195329
>It's somewhat stupid to say this but I feel really doubtful about finding someone like this again,

Really? How many friends do you have that share your interests, values and worldview? And you think you can't find another girl who does?

> I guess that's why the feelings remained.

No, don't play that game. You admit it's hard for you to hang out with different people, so first try that and then decide what the reason is, what do you say?

>>18195341
>Really? How many friends do you have that share your interests, values and worldview? And you think you can't find another girl who does?

I'm similar to most of my friends, but not to that degree. You know those times when it's scary how similar someone is to you? That's what it's like with this girl, it's ridiculous.
I kinda feel like I can't, out of the ones I've met so far most have been either very different or barely like me. Even my previous girlfriend was barely like me, took some time and maturing to realize that though.

>No, don't play that game. You admit it's hard for you to hang out with different people, so first try that and then decide what the reason is, what do you say?
Not quite sure what you mean. I'm fine with hanging out with different people, it's just that she's in my circle of friends (roughly 8 or so people) and with the way I live I don't really have time to build up a whole new group, nor do I want to. Maybe I misunderstood what you meant though.

>>18195366

I'm saying this: You say she is so similar to you and no other girl comes close to that, right? But then you say you keep hanging out around her.

So if you really wanna test that hypotesis, you need to meet new people.

And being super-similar is not what makes a good relationship. As you have seen, it didn't make her interested in you.

Wanting to be together is what makes a good relationship. You don't have to share everything. You don't have to date "yourself".

>>18195378
Ah right, thanks for clarifying.
Well I've based that upon previous people and groups I've been around during my life. Not that I've met every person there is to meet obviously, but so far the grand majority didn't come close.
But yeah, thank you, I'll take the advice and try to hang around some new people, at least as much as my time allows.

>And being super-similar is not what makes a good relationship. As you have seen, it didn't make her interested in you.
>Wanting to be together is what makes a good relationship. You don't have to share everything. You don't have to date "yourself".

I kinda have to work on that, because it's usually the way I look for a partner, I've always just tried to find someone who's really similar, since that's when I feel most like I can let loose.