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I think my spouse is manipulative but I can't tell for sure which I know sounds moronic. We got together as kids that partied a lot together and we fought all the time, they would yell out embarrassing things or secrets about me or us to people we knew. When we argue sometime they will leave the house to cool down but I have never once been allowed to, they stop me by blocking the door. Once I waited until they went to the bathroom to leave....they followed me in their car. when I get upset about something like a broken promise, laziness like not helping at all with house work, them losing or quitting another job, or numerous other things, I am made to feel like the bad guy. They also get really depressed when I need space.
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>>18194706
I think your missing a few sentences in your paragraph.
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>>18194706
Who are "they" and what is their connection to "we"?
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>>18194809
Her spouse you dunce
>>18194706
OP this does sound like manipulative behavior the way you phrase it but we only have your perspective and its all disconnected rambling.
You seem to feel like you got the short end of the stick in your relationship and this will keep eating at you your entire life untill you put an end to it and adress the issue, or emotionally detach yourself from your husband and start having affairs.
If you feel you need space, you need to enforce this. Don't wait for them to allow it. Don't let them bargain with you about it. Put your foot down, and take a week for yourself or something. If they resent you for it or try to guilt you for it, then that's textbook manipulative behavior.
What you need to understand is that if that person doesn't give you much, then you need to take whatever you feel like you need. Need to leave ? Leave. Need some space ? Take some space. Don't want to do the chores ? Don't do them. Try to be honest and firm about your needs, and if they refuse to give them to you, consider that this relationship is going to leave you frustrated your entire life.
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>>18194833
Why do you assume OP is female?
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>>18194872
Because I don't have autism and I can pick up on obvious cues
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