How often should I be dating? Is it normal for an average guy

I don't think there's a real "norm" other than like, an extreme. Like you go a decade without even going on a single no strings attached date or something.
Just whenever you're ready. You sound like you need work on yourself before you get back out there anyway. Because when you think of yourself as garbage, nobody really wants to get with that.
Work yourself up, nobody can love you if you don't love yourself. Yadda yadda yadda.

your low self esteem re: being alone is dangerous because its unattractive! love yourself and you'll be able to love others better

>>18183410
>low self esteem
I'm a 32 year old janitor, was a virgin until 27, my relationships last 3 months on average, and my business degree must be useless by now, I've never gained muscle in my life, and I only have one friend. I earned my low esteem, yet I hope to turn this ship around. So many little improvements would make a huge difference.

>be me
>23
>get dumped by gf of 4 years last summer
>Immediately start online dating
>Go on countless dates
>12 hookups, three short term gfs, one long term fwb
>didn't help

Just focus on your career and self-improvement. You'll attract the right girl at the right time. You know when you get there. Hookups are a waste of time.

>>18183446
12 hookups since last summer? I've had sex with only 8 girls over the past 4 years and tinder is practically useless to me. You see I think that's the average guy numbers: consistent hookups in between long term girlfriends

Broke up with my gf about a year ago, haven't touched a girl since barely even spoken to one.
I just don't seem to care enough anymore.

>>18183405

as often as you meet women that you actually enjoy dating and that actually enjoy dating you.

no more. no less.

there is no 'should' in dating frequency.

>>18183462
Most normal people go through life with only 5-8 sexual partners. You shouldn't be upset over listening to broken people on this website and take advice anywhere with a grain of salt.