Dating while changing - fair or unfair?

If you're up front about the fact that you're liable to change a lot over the next few months and that person's willing to stick with you then they're probably alright.

Well, relationships aren't just for sex and fun. If you're able to find a serious relationship they can help you improve as a person (or make you worse. That's the risk). If you want to reduce your drinking find someone who doesn't drink much or none at all. I say go for it but choose the person wisely.

>>18180049
If you have gf already, there is no need to cut contact just because you are on self improvement journey.

If you dont have one, ask yourself if you even need / want gf now. A lot of people just want relationship without even knowing why.

Enjoy your freedom until you enroll to new job / relationship.

>>18180104

I don't want to find someone that doesn't drink at all... that's not going to be conducive with my long-term lifestyle, or my friends. They'd feel uncomfortable around my friends if they didn't drink.

I'm definitely not drinking for a long time, and working on setting up a plan to be a responsible drinker, but someone who's sober would be a bad fit.

>>18180105
I'm currently talking to a few girls, which is why this is a consideration. I'm wondering if I should cut them off - they aren't really aware that just a couple of months ago, I was chunky, perpetually drunk, and all that. They're also not aware I left my job yesterday... so there's that.

>>18180119
You are so indecisive. Answer this question: why do you want gf now?
>sex?
>feels?
>cuddling?
>marry children combo?
>social validation?
>boredom?
>have somebody to talk to?
>other reason?

You sound to me like you dont even want gf now. Otherwise you would be at a date already with sone qtie atm.