Relationship Ennui

After you talk to them the way you posted here, telling them how you truly feel. Long relationships tend to get boring after a while, and we sometimes get confused in the virtue of our passions. Make sure you are truly aware of your feelings, cause It may be just temporary emotional crisis, and you may regret your decision otherwise. Are you interested in someone, or willing to be single and mingle?

Thank you for your reply, I appreciate you taking time to advise me.

I agree that it's difficult to trust my emotions - I have felt this way before, and things turned out fine. School has been stressful and we have been dating for a long time.

The thing I'm worried about is, It almost seems that I have these feelings all the time, and they just happen to reign at the forefront of my thoughts during tough times with her.

These barbs that make me resent dating her are not the kind of thing I feel I can't reasonably ask her to change - they're things like being much less 'ascetic' than I am (in terms of frugality, health, studying, etc.) and a differing sex drive. Letting go and not growing annoyed by her differences from me is becoming increasingly difficult. I just feel as though this desire to break free is always prowling in my mind. She loves me so much. She cares about me. She is so kind. Agh. So conflicted.

I know if I wait these hard times out, things will be ok again, but I think just 'ok' - not happy, exciting, probably just ok.

I'm not interested seriously in anyone else. I think I would be ok with being single, but I would also be ok with staying with her. I'm at a strange crossroads.

>>18164950
you should listen to your heart i know it sounds cheesy. but it seems like there has to be a change either in the relationship or by a break up. do you see each other too often?

>>18165069
Being honest in this case would allow you to ask for some time alone to think and to figure things out.
A break will be hurtful for her, but feeling you distant and not knowing the reason why would affect her way more.
I've been in a similar situation and I can assure you that what hurt me the most was seeing my SO afraid of opening up with me.
Talk about it to her.

By the things you post i think you should give it a bit more time, cause you sound just bored. Do you do the things for her that you wish she would done for you? Are you honest with her or you play moody cards when you feel at the 'crossroads'? Do you do drugs? Also what is your age difference?

>>18165079
Yes, we see each other almost daily, mostly from working on homework together - though honestly I don't think we help each other much. Perhaps a little more distance is necessary?

>>18165099
You're right, I need to have courage. I will keep the way she sees me being more distant in mind, thank you.

>>18165102
I always strive to be completely selfless with her except in the fact that she is my main confidant when I feel worthless and incompetent - but she's been so stressed I feel like I can't share as much of that stuff. Maybe I've been too selfless? Like I subtly think of the balance of effort put into the relationship as unfair because I always try to go above and beyond.

I will admit I act moody at these 'crossroads'. I don't do drugs, and we're both 21 years old.