I feel really weird and awful about wanting to break up with

>>18160646
No

>>18160646
If you're having these doubts then you obviously don't love her as much as you think you do.


I'm 99% sure you'll regret this in six months to a year though.

>>18160646
You're young & want to do young things. That's okay. I bet you'll regret it after not too long though after realizing that being young & dumb is overrated.

>>18160689
>>18160704

So should I just go through with it and get married even though I don't want to? I understand marriage means you have to sacrifice some things so two people can be together in harmony, but you should also be excited about getting married when it's time, right?

I am in a similar situation. My gf and I have talked about marriage, and I want to, but I am very introvert, in the sense that I actually prefer doing things on my own for the most part. This makes it hard when the gf wants to go out, or do something else that goes against the plan I set in my head for myself.

So for me, part of wanting to leave the relationship comes from this sense of wanting to be left alone, but I am holding back because I understand that the grass is always greener. I love my gf and see the benefits of having her around instead of moping by myself. She helps me get things done, because just her presence helps keep me accountable. I can't just whack off all day, fall asleep on the couch, throw a pizza in the oven and finger my taint while watching tv. She's around to make sure I don't waste time doing time-wasting shit like that (as much fun as it would seem in your mind).

I dunno, try and see the good, and stop focusing on how green the other grass is. The more you think about being single again, the more you can convince yourself that it's a good idea.

Maybe try and suss out exactly *why* you want to be single again, and if it is genuine or just you seeing greener grass.

Anything you imagine you can do single, you can likely do right now (aside from sleeping with other girls). If you want to be single so you could have more time doing what you want, why aren't you already doing it? Is your gf really to blame?

>>18160777
I definitely have a lazy streak that can fuck up entire days where I would have the chance to be productive. However, I'm not sure how much time people normally spend together in relationships (this is my first relationship), but I feel like my girlfriend is pretty clingy and stuck up my ass most of the time. She doesn't have any friends and her family is 3 states away, so she's really dependent on me emotionally (and financially). She has a lot of trouble being alone, and I hate it. I feel like she's a part of me now, but in a bad way, like I'm not a person anymore, it's just "us" that's a person. It's kinda been this way for awhile, and I've tried helping her be more independent, but she gets upset anytime she's away from me for more than a day.

I guess it's that I don't feel like I can do anything by myself anymore. She doesn't have a life, so she's interested in what I'm interested in now.

I'm going to go against the flow and say what you're feeling is not necessarily wrong. You don't have to get married. It would be absolutely fucked up to suggest you should marry someone out of obligation. You should only marry someone if you are 100% certain it will make you happy.

From what I understand your current partner is offering a perfect opportunity for a long term relationship but you don't want a long term relationship. You want a short term relationship. Therefore you both want different things. It doesn't matter if she's a nice person, it doesn't matter if you don't want to hurt her, you should focus on the simple idea that you may want want different things. Neither of you are in the wrong here, you are both free to want different things, there is no wrong choice but it does make you incompatible. Plenty of people are incompatible. If you think you are incompatible, and if you think you would be happier with other people, then you should consider breaking amiably to seek happiness elsewhere.

Dating for two years is a very long time. It's not an easy decision to break such a relationship, especially when it's not guaranteed you will find a more compatible relationship. You should think about this very carefully. You should take your time. You should communicate with your partner, ask each other what you expect from the future, listen to each other, speak with with honesty and most of all, you should respect each other's opinion.

My ex broke up with me for this reason. I told him I wouldn't be his second choice. Months later, of course he comes back begging to get back together. I'm not saying you should get marry soon. But consider that it might not be easy to find another girl like her.

>>18160646
whats your job