how do i become less insecure?

You don't have to 'catch up' to someone to feel good about yourself, you just have to be confident and secure in yourself.

>>18159704
and how do i do that?
is there like a book or something you can recommend that can help?

>>18159700
anyone? anything?

>>18159715
You do that by thinking dummy.

When you are next to her and you start feeling like lesser being again, remember:

She spends her time with you and even likes you enough to not call you on your stupidity. In a way you are in symbiose.

And stop overthinking problems!

>>18159824
she isnt the issue. i wouldnt care if she thought lesser of me.I think lesser of myself.

>>18159849
But you do that by comparing yourself to her. Right? We cant be all perfect in everything. Dont be so hard on yourself.

>>18159869
i guess.
in hindsight i dont even know why i mentioned her.
she isnt even part of the issue i just feel like im shit at everything ive ever tried in life and when i look at the people around doing shit good even for the first time puts out my motivation even though i have a mentality where i think "you have to fail first to succeed" or "the first time is important but only to realize mistakes now and fix them later", i don't think im mad at people being talented or gifted but rather that i am not.

>>18159887
should i just give up or something?

>>18159887
You have to learn how to chill. There is no point in stressing yourself about fact that there are other being better than you. Look at sport, science, art, politics. It is always few the best, masses of average.

You are trying to deny it, but I can see how you keep comparing yourself with others. That is not path to perfection or happiness.

Ask yourself what you want to do in life and act accordingly. You dont have to be the top to be happy.

And btw are you a girl?