I hang out with a study group 2x a week and had a huge crush

bumping

guys, what would you want to hear in this situation? i don't want to hurt anyone.

Anyone? I know it's not the most interesting question, but I want to be prepared.

If it was me (f here) is say that I d9nt date friends because you don't want to ruin anything. I did this in work. If the guy you like ends up asking you out and the other guy gets annoyed just make out that you weren't that great a friends to begin with.

You don't want to date him anyway, right? Just tell him you're not interested. No need to say anything else. I think the problem is, what happens if you date someone you do like? Are you gonna dump them if the other guy becomes single? I don't think it's a good idea to keep seeing this guy if you're interested in dating someone else

>>18159497
Don't give him a specific reason. Some guys turn into spiteful jerks when they get rejected, he might figure out who you're crushing on and find a way to mess it up for you.

Just give the standard "soft rejection." Something like "I just don't see you that way," "I'm focusing on school right now," "Let's just be friends," etc etc.

>>18159730
I don't want to say something like that and then turn around and start dating guy A. I want to say something that keeps guy A as an option.

>>18159732
Saying I'm not interested is hard for me, but perhaps you're right. I always feel like I have to have an excuse so it doesn't get taken personally.

I don't want to sit around and wait for this guy to break up with his girlfriend though. That doesn't seem healthy and I've done stuff like that before and it just leads to me being miserable and alone.

If I start dating someone outside of the group that I really do like, then it's a non issue. I will continue dating that person until the relationship runs its course or we get married or whatever happens, regardless if guy A breaks up with his girlfriend or not.

If I'm dating someone else and I don't see long term potential, then I would break up with him if guy A started giving me signs he was interested in again, yes. The guy who is sniffing around me would almost definitely fall into this category and I think it would be really shitty since they know each other. I know I'm thinking 3 or 4 moves ahead and it may not even be necessary, but I don't want to write off guy A entirely yet.

>>18159749
Yeah, I was worried about him telling guy A and guy A figuring it out and avoiding me. Thanks for the input. Giving vague reasons is hard for me, but I think that's probably the best path.

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Waiting on someone's relationship to fail and then swoop on in is not healthy, femanon.

>>18159926
Not waiting, i said i was going to date other people, just not his friends. I think in addition to my crush, i genuinely care about him and would be 100% fine if his relationship worked out, so long as he is happy.

I also don't want to swoop, but I'll deal with that bridge of i ever come to it.