So, my girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and

You should let go.

Basically what she's saying is she wants to fuck other peoples. Sorry OP.

>>18154908
I mean i know she wants to fuck other people. Shes not asking me to wait like a cuck either.

But i question why she still acts like something along the lines of a girlfriend, like why wouldnt she fuck off completely after the break up? there has to be more to it.

>>18154915
you probably feel safe for each other. She wants to venture into the unknown but is afraid to go all the way.

My ex bf pulled this shit on me too. I stuck around because he floated the possibility of getting back together while he pursued other girls. Finally decided this shitty hamster wheel was getting boring and fucked off. Met the love of my life in a drunken party shortly after. Ex wasn't happy and tried to entice me back with empty promises. By then, my world had opened up and I was never going back. Meanwhile the girl he was banging dumped his ass and he got all mopey for what we used to have for a while.

I'd say just bounce. You deserve better than this limbo unless it's what you want. I know it hurts but you gotta disentangle. The world is a big place for you to explore, so embrace the situation man.

>>18154924
Glad that worked out that way for you.

I guess I don't really know anything. I am planning on going out and meeting other women but I do feel like my prospects are kind of shit. And I know that makes it seem like I want to be in a relationship with this girl because I think im kinda trash but its not the case honestly.

Guess ill see how things go however far down the line this goes. Not going to shoot down some other relationship in the hopes of getting back together though.

>>18154915
I am the person you're replying to.

The question that comes to mind for me is, what do you provide for her other than sex? She could be using you at this point if she doesn't want a relationship, weather its for money, an easy fuck or whatever. But if you know for a fact she isn't then I guess it isn't outside the realm of possibility that she would eventually be emotionally available but still, I wouldn't even bother.

>>18154989
dunno if i should continue to bother either which is why i guess if and when she tries to get back together with me ill have to see if thats what i want to do at that time.

I guess i understand her whole commitment argument because we're 20 but the current situation is shit.

what do i provide for her? im not sure honestly, its def not cash cause im one poor college kid but i would think that i was able to provide good emotional support, sex, someone that she wanted/ and still chooses to spend her time with, so i dunno.

honestly that last question is a pretty hard question lol. i feel like thats something that someone would need to ask her so her perspective is seen, given that she is the one who broke up with me.

>>18154924
L?

You need to cut her out of your life, and let yourself be you again, rather than "us". It's hard to lose a significant other when you're really good friends, but it wont work, at least not in the short term. Your attachment will continue and hurt you more the longer you prolong the relationship inside your head when it's already dead. You need complete separation to heal and reflect.

A lot of women will try to keep an ex in their pocket as a back-up plan. Don't let her hold onto you when she wanted to separate, dont get caught up in waiting for her, while she does whatever the fuck she wants.

Take this new time to resettle your life and better yourself for yourself. A better you will bring better girls and better opportunities in time.

>>18155027
replying because i dont want you to think that you wrote all that out for nothing, im here on the verge of going to bed, and i appreciate what you said.

its going to take me time to cope with all that though.

>>18155027
OP this is really sound advice I wish I had