I feel like if i'm not the one reaching out to people, nobody

>>18147364

sometimes it feels like we help everyone else, but no one ever offers to help us.

ive been there, and even with people with shitty self esteem that i help, they seem to return the favor by never reaching out again.

were not perfect, we have flaws, and unfortunately those flaws are glaring enough that people dont want to hang out with us if we dont pressure them.

such is life.

>>18147372
So i'm cursed to superficial relationships built on the condition that i'm the one who builds it?

>>18147380

not always. things ebb and flow. sometimes I feel less like this, othertimes it goes to an extreme. we also have a bit of a 'honeymoon' phase where people think were charming before our repetitive behavior makes us annoying.

>>18147386
My problem is that if i'm not putting effort into building relationships, everyone forgets about me. But plenty of people have people reach out to them, or they reach out to others. It feels as if all of my friendships are one-sided, but only when it deals with me.

Is the only answer that people don't like me?

>>18147394

its hard to say. we dont know you. but in many cases it is that you're just not likeable enough for people to want to consciously take care of unfortunately.

>>18147400
Check'd.

Guess there's nothing I can do but find other friends and hope they're different.

I have this problem too. Eventually it just all weighs down. My advice is to bear with it.

Without those false relationships, which you actually dont need them. Because you've managed to survive via having a fake one.

You'll go full nuclear. Dont care what people think, push everyone away. Ive thought about for a long time. Commiting social suicide.

I know it sucks. But people like us werent meant to be happy in the first place. Just fake it my man. Youll get through it

>>18147427
That's my problem. I want to commit social suicide and push everyone away, but I know I won't. I shouldn't, and faking happiness and getting through it is the path of least resistance anyways.

I can accept that people like us were never meant to be happy, but then what is the purpose of people like us? What should my self-purpose be?