Boyfriend leaving

>get drunk and fuck chads for another 10 years before settling down
vs
>settle down now and keep leeching money off of him

this must be a real difficult choice for you huh femanon

>>18138708
or i forgot the third option:
keep leeching money off of him, but also get drunk and fuck chads on the side, and he won't find out because he's halfway across the country

>>18138714
and is also a major beta bitch

>>18138693
If he means a lot to you, stick with him and keep your legs closed.

It doesn't matter how much he tells you it'd be fine for him, if you fuck around you'll break his heart and he won't be able to see you in the same way.

Also - don't decide what he must feel. He might be content with having had sex just with you.

>>18138708
I'm not leeching money off of him, and I'm not cheating on him.

>>18138723
>don't decide what he must feel. He might be content with having had sex just with you.

Okay but I'm not talking about what he feels, I'm saying I'm kind of uncomfortable with the idea of him not having experienced sex outside of me. It's like someone only having tasted vanilla and saying yes I want to marry it. Is that just a weird belief I have that I should get over?

>>18138736
If you want to stay with him, you should make the commitment and move with him.

We both know that if he moves away, you're going to fuck the first hunk of muscle on two legs as soon as you get a drop of alcohol in you because that's just what girls do.
Don't lead him on.

>>18138736
>It's like someone only having tasted vanilla and saying yes I want to marry it.
>its like your only marrying a mans dick, LOL

holy shit the world i have found myself in! WHAT HAPPENED IN THE 90s!!!! WHERE DID IT GO SO WRONG?!
IM A WHORE BECAUSE YA DON'T KNOW WHO YOUR WITH LESS U RIDE THEIR COCK!

>>18138736
Do you have sex with him just because he fucks you well or because you care about him and you have a bond with each other?
The bond you share with your SO should matter more than the possibility of fucking stranger pussy.

Maybe he just values the bond you have with him more than the experience.
I haven't tried all religions but I know I'm content being Christian. I haven't tried all jobs but I am content being a doctor. I haven't fucked all men but I'm happy with my husband.

>>18138693
Based solely on your post, I would leave you because you seem a dislikeable person.

>I'm worried about him seeing this as me just wanting to sleep around
You do want to sleep around, you're just trying to convince yourself you're doing it for "higher reasons".

>>18138693
He deserves better than you.

>>18138693
I really hope he breaks up with you and finds a good woman.

>>18138747
I love him, the sex is more about us than the sex. We have sex usually because we're horny and it's fun.

>The bond you share with your SO should matter more than the possibility of fucking stranger pussy.

I understand this but I just feel like he might not be getting the full picture because this is the first time he's been serious with anyone.

>>18138693
I hope it's b8.

Because of this men think we're all fucking whores.

>>18138774
>I understand this but I just feel like he might not be getting the full picture because this is the first time he's been serious with anyone.
Does it ultimately matter?
You can never get a full pic, in life. There are countless possibilities and you just don't know. He wants you, he loves you. If you love him, keep your legs closed and be faithful to him.
Otherwise, break up definitely.
Open relationships won't work because he doesn't want them, and is agreeing to it just because he thinks you cannot handle a year of no sex. And you want it not because of him but because you're selfish.

>>18138774
the full picture? is your entire worldview based around sex?
jesus christ.

i am a man and only ever sleeping with one woman would (and is) not only completely fine with me but important to me. im not a slut i value the experience as more than a fuckin drug to get high with.

not everyone is a shallow hedonist some of us have real values and real goals in life.

>>18138780

>Does it ultimately matter?

Yeah because I feel as if people can't really know things without experience. If someone told me they loved their town that they've never left from and bought a house there I wouldn't think that was a good choice because they aren't really making any choice. It's about being able to make a value judgment, if you have nothing to compare then I don't think you're making a full choice.


>You can never get a full pic, in life. There are countless possibilities and you just don't know. He wants you, he loves you.

I am faithful to him but it just feels weird to me that he's experiencing this as his first sexual and romantic experience.

> If you love him, keep your legs closed and be faithful to him.

I can do that, I'm not asking based on me though, I'm asking based on him.

>And you want it not because of him but because you're selfish.

Why is everyone discrediting me in this thread? I'm just asking what to do. I want him to make the right choice and I don't want him to waste his life on me if he doesn't know any better.


>>18138783
>the full picture? is your entire worldview based around sex?

He's never been with another girl before at all, romantically or otherwise.

>>18138821
>He's never been with another girl before at all, romantically or otherwise.
yeah i get that.
i don't think your understanding me.
whatever. doesn't really matter. i wish him luck.

>>18138821
>I can do that, I'm not asking based on me though, I'm asking based on him.
that's a lie
it is freaking obvious

we can tell you're a hoe

I can tell you this: if you break up with him he will never come back, because you suck and he will realize what it means being a decent woman

>>18138821
Commitment is more important than fucking lots of girls, it's an empty and meaningless endeavor. Also, getting to know a single girl really well counts as experience as well.
Do you have any secretive or unknown intents for him? Do you play 'games' on him? Are you trying to get something from him? If the answer for all of the questions is 'no' and you love him and is intent on being a good partner for him then why would he need any kind experience with other girls (who most likely are just using for sex or validation) on dealing with you?

>>18138865
dude your speaking way above the rim here. she is hopeless.

>>18138869
I'm trying to make her see the situation differently.

>>18138865

>Do you have any secretive or unknown intents for him? Do you play 'games' on him? Are you trying to get something from him? If the answer for all of the questions is 'no' and you love him and is intent on being a good partner for him

I don't do any of those things because I'm not a child, and clear communication is important in any relationship.

>then why would he need any kind experience with other girls (who most likely are just using for sex or validation) on dealing with you?

Because I want him to have the experience to make sure he's making the right choice with me. I feel confident in the fact that I love him because I have had all of these experiences to look back on and compare and know that I can be sure in how I feel. Obviously it's not like I'm solely basing my feelings about him due to my past relationships and through other people.

I see moving out with him to be a marriage direction move and I don't want him to make a choice he'll regret because he has nothing to compare me against.

>>18138947
Are you afraid he can't discern infatuation/lust for true compatibility/love?

>>18138947

I mean, do you want him to just fuck other girls or be in a relationship with other girls? I don't think he's dating you solely for your pussy, most men don't. Sure another girl might be better in bed than you or novel for a bit but he's probably not willing to toss your relationship aside to find out. If it's just about sex, why don't you suggest a threesome or series of threesomes with him or a temporary "he-gets-to-fuck-other-women" but you don't get to fuck other men pass for him to get the novelty thing out of his system? Assuming it's just about sex for you.

>>18138964
>Assuming it's just about sex for you.
she will never admit that to herself, lol.
it would shatter her ego.

>>18138978

Nah I meant that as in if she wanted to have him to just have sex with other women and not be in relationships with them, although if she declines the threesome idea or the giving him a pass for a short time thing while she doesn't fuck other guys, then I'd be suspicious.

>>18138981
I think she's referring to relationships, a night of sex with a different girl won't increase his life experience with women.

>>18138955

Yes kind of.

>>18138964
>I mean, do you want him to just fuck other girls or be in a relationship with other girls?

It doesn't matter to me, I just want him to make sure he's making the right choice. I'm 100% down to make this jump in our relationship. I'm more concerned about him making this jump and not knowing what he's getting into since he hasn't been with other girls.

>If it's just about sex, why don't you suggest a threesome or series of threesomes with him or a temporary "he-gets-to-fuck-other-women" but you don't get to fuck other men pass for him to get the novelty thing out of his system? Assuming it's just about sex for you.

I would be ok with him experimenting around like this. How would I bring it up without making it weird or mean?

Should I just be happy with him and trust his judgement? I'm unsure if I'm overthinking the whole situation but it seems like an important thing to think about.

>>18138998
Have you talked to him what this relationship means to you? I mean big boy talk, marriage, living together, maybe kids in the future &c.

>>18138998
>Should I just be happy with him and trust his judgement? I'm unsure if I'm overthinking the whole situation

Yes you should, and yes you are. Your posts are frankly ridiculous, and makes me think that it is more about you than him. Are you sure you want the relationship? Deep down?

>>18138693
OP, would you let him have fun and fuck around while you stay faithful to him and wait?

>>18138964
you're missing the point bro OP's not talking about sex
OP wants him to get to know some other women and have some unsuccessful relationships with them, so he knows that OP is the right one.

>>18138998
if I was in a relationship with you and I was completely happy, it wouldn't matter whether there were 10 billion or 0 other women on the planet.
the only reason I would compare you with other women is if I'm not completely satisfied with you.

you only need to look for greener grass if you're not happy already.

the problem with women today is that their shallow materialistic minds can't really be fully happy, and that is why they're constantly looking for greener grass and trading up guys.

>>18139026
>OP, would you let him have fun and fuck around while you stay faithful to him and wait?

Yes, that's the whole point.

>>18139022
Not really, marriage is a far away thing for him and kids are too and we're both just in college now so these things haven't come up. We do align in these things though I'm fairly sure.

>>18139024
>Are you sure you want the relationship? Deep down?

Yes, I wouldn't be with him or consider all of this otherwise. I'm literally throwing around the word marriage in this thread when I originally believed I wouldn't get married until 30.

>>18139038
>the only reason I would compare you with other women is if I'm not completely satisfied with you.

The point I'm making is that this isn't a comparison thing really but you need to experience all of these different relationship things to truly understand yourself. I've been through heartbreak and flirting and romance all before and I feel secure in my feelings about him because of my past experiences. I can't say the same for him since he hasn't experienced any of this before.

Here is easy solution:
1. ask boyfriend if he wants you to move with him
says yes - great
says no - great
if he says yes and you still keep doubting then the problem is yours and not his. Period. "Experience" has nothing to do with all of this, that's just some bullshit idea you're toying with.

>>18139109
it takes two of you to make a commitment
but you don't think he's ready or "experienced" enough to make that commitment
you can't just rush "experience" and you have to trust him to make his own decisions
he's been in a relationship with you and he's happy
he's an adult
just go ahead and ask him if he wants to move in with you

introducing other girls or a 3 way is not going to be a good idea, you're going to cuck yourself and get jealous and not be able to handle it and mess things up

>>18138736
I don't get this logic. How many fucking people do you have fuck to be sure? Even if he fucked hundreds it's not close to the number of people out there, there's still 3 billion other "flavors" he hasn't tried yet, how can he be sure? Sex itself isn't wildly different from person from person, it's all the same body parts. It's the emotional connection that makes a relationship special.

Also marriages are statistically less likely to end in divorce the less partners either spouse had before, so make of that what you will.

>>18138821
>Why is everyone discrediting me in this thread?
Because your perspective is honestly kind of dumb.

>If someone told me they loved their town that they've never left from and bought a house there I wouldn't think that was a good choice because they aren't really making any choice.
This is like saying you can't really love your parents because you never had any other parents, it really is.

>>18138693
WELL since you're female and on 4chan, you have piercings everywhere, dyed hair, probably gauges, tattoos, and you're also fat, ugly, possibly androgenous, and slightly autistic, and you also like cringy animeshit and weird porn.

Therefore your boyfriend is also a pathetic beta loser and your relationship doesn't matter at all and I hope you guys don't reproduce, for the overall benefit of the human race.

>>18139181
>tfw petite, feminine, traditional girl with no tattoos and long, natural hair who never watched porn or anime

I am slightly autistic tho.

>>18138947
Not everyone is like you. It's pretty silly to kill an otherwise happy relationship on baseless speculation that "maybe he won't really be happy with me". Guess what, if he won't really be happy with you he'll realize that sooner or later and probably sooner. Plenty of happy relationships have started with one or both people being the other's first, this is not at all a requirement.

>>18139109
>The point I'm making is that this isn't a comparison thing really but you need to experience all of these different relationship things to truly understand yourself.
No. YOU might have needed to. You have to understand that there are so many different paths to growing as a person and not everyone needs to take the same path you have.

>>18138693
OP, you are hopeless.

If you are afraid that you arent good enough for him, then points for you.

If you are afraid of hurting him, then points for you.

If you really like him, then there is no reason for you to not try everything you can to stay together. LDR does never work.

Him suggesting you to take a year break so you can fuck around only shows that he doesnt believe you can stay loyal to him or his view on sexuality is completely different from average population. Basically in his eyes you are probably slut and he tolerates it.

And all the "haters" towards you are partially right. There is no reason to believe that your first love+sex cant be the final one.

If you truly love him, then you do stay with him no matter what. Period.

How old are you OP?

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>>18138693

0/10

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>>18139204

Thanks, I really needed some perspective. I think I've always thought of experience as an important factor to me but I can see what you're all saying.

>>18139212
20. He's a year older.