How to be submissive in bed but not a starfish?

>>18137034
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>>18137034

tell him you're happy to do whatever he wants and that he should instruct you.

Trail & error

Keep trying new stuff be active

>>18137034
Submission means letting him play at being in control. It doesn't mean being totally passive. Let him know when you're enjoying what he's doing to you.

>>18137034
>submissive

Master, i am ready to serve your cock today
>get on knees
What do you wish me to do for you today?

The bad part is when he say
>just make me a sandwich bich and we will see later

To be submissive, you need dominant partner in right mood. And when you say
>I don't think I "starfish" during sex
chances are super high that you actually are starfish. But that is fine. At least you let your bf get off and show interest in improving yourself. That makes you better than 50% of your peers.

You know you can try to be submissive and active at the same time? It is all about what you do. But i fear you actually enjoy being passive and wait for your bf to surprize you. That is also cool, but what you lack in activity you have to be extra communicative later to compensate.

Tldr: tell your bf your feelings about starfish and set up sexy scenarios.

- your hips regulate your pleasure and you want to have pleasure, so move those in the right direction for him to hit your G-Spot or whatever you like. This goes for all positions and all the time.
- move against him (same time, different direction) to pleasure him
-body contact is not always but often good, try to lean your body against his, don't do this if he is focused on cumming or making you cum (unless it helps you a lot)
- grab him, squeeze him, wrap yourself around him, maybe even dig your nails in his back, I personally like it, so ask him outside of sex.

Sex is sex whether you two are doing a sub/dom thing or not. You should always be moving your hips while he thrusts. You can wrap your legs around him, etc. The play part mostly comes through in other ways.

If my bf instructs me not to touch him while we have sex then I squirm, apologize, beg, etc. When I get really into it I'll disobey him, scratch him, whatever, and then he'll have to punish me however it is he'd like (slapping, choking, spitting). When we're in missionary or doggy he likes to stop and make me do all the work, so obviously then I'll be doing a lot.

You should always be trying to keep up with his movements. Find other ways to interact, and of course he should be giving orders that you follow.

>how do you stay active
how fucking lazy are you?
Does it not occur in your brain to move too?
It's like you don't want to take any responsibility for your own pleasure, so why do you even have sex?

full disclosure: my gf is 100% starfish every time we have sex and I hate it
she's so lazy half the time she just wants to turn over on her side in bed and do spooning sex, but she never bends forward enough for me to give my dick easy access, so I never do it anymore

>>18137645
Pretty hot desu.

>>18137034
submissive isn't "inactive"

do what makes him feel good, let him take the lead and follow what positions he want to do. If you're locked in a position where you can't grind or move tell him how good it feels at whatever level of dirty talk you feel comfortable