Why is my gf a starfish in bed?

Mentality. It's a chore.
It has to become a desire.

Nothing will change until she actually figures out that sex is something that she wants too. When she does finally jump your bones, it's then your job to get her hooked.

I think there's an inclination for women to be a bit pickier in bed. You treat them the way they want, they'll being clawing at you every chance they get. You misread them (because talking is like, SOOO overrated) then it's a chore again.

Welcome to the world of bullshit social dynamics.

>>18134734
Try giving her orgasm, then more and more. She either fakes it or is really star fish.

>>18134734
Why the fuck do you think?

>>18134734
Because she's not actually attracted to you sexually.

Female privilege. She doesn't put any effort into getting a man, so why put in effort once they finally have sex? You did everything leading up to it. Why expect it to stop now?

What I do: make them get on top more. Occasionally mock them in a playful fashion like "Whew... I'm so tired from all the moving I'VE been doing", or "I feel like being a woman. You do all the moving this time". This is a playful and tactful way of making them move more. Don't be passive aggressive as you say it.

>>18134883
>"I feel like being a woman. You do all the moving this time

i do this and then grab her ass with both hands and squeeze. gets her going

>>18134883
>"Whew... I'm so tired from all the moving I'VE been doing"
>"I feel like being a woman. You do all the moving this time"
>Don't be passive aggressive
Uh...

>>18134734
Because you haven't found the clitoris

>>18134743
This was perfectly worded and can be applied to almost anything else in life that someone treats as a drag.

Awkwardness. It's the female version of jackhammering then falling asleep. Yeah some women are just fucking lazy and expect sex to cater to them, but more often than not it's just not really knowing how to engage their partner and be active as the "receiving" partner who is likely the bottom. They feel so ridiculous picturing themselves talking dirty or doing something "weird" like grabbing your balls or pulling you in that it turns them off to seriously consider. The starfish position (with potential moaning or eye contact) is their comfort zone they don't dare to leave.

As others have said, it can also be a sign that she does not enjoy the sex, but this is not necessarily the case and plenty of women would just let you know that they don't enjoy the sex or choose to not fuck you again instead of taking it passively if it's lackluster to them.

>>18134734
she is maybe more of the clitoris type than the vaginal type, try this out.
get her involve in the action give her the lead this time.
or maybe try some of her fantasy so she will get more into it

>>18135068
Not what you say, it's how you say it. You've clearly never watched Bill Burr or Patrice O'Neal.

>>18135160
I am confident that there is no tone of voice or context which could make those statements NOT passive-aggressive.

>>18135198
I am confident that you suck at talking to people then.

You really haven't had anyone jokingly spur you to correct an action at ANY point in your life? Like a supervisor or teacher? Really? Maybe you just get offended easily.

>>18135206
Of course I've had that. That doesn't make it not passive-aggressive.

Seems to me that people who can't take criticism unless it's disguised as a joke are the ones who get offended easily.

>>18134734
Why are you having sex in the missionary position?
The spooning position is the best way to have sex.
You have full access for foreplay, she can turn and kiss you or you can kiss her neck and erogenous zones, when you have sex you get more into the g spot, its a power position, AND she can pretend you are someone else because she is not sexually attracted to you.

>>18135219
spooning is shit if you have a smaller dick.

>>18135206
Not that guy but none of your statements were a joking spur. It's passive aggressively saying you want her on top. A joking spur would be something like "here you get on top, you need the practice." Your example is pretty much saying that she is being lazy and you are tired of doing all the work. The other is a slight jab to get her to do something that she is already willing to do. Your boss saying "man I wish I could laze around all day like you do" isn't a gentle ribbing if at the time you were sleeping at your desk or something.

>>18135221
Have 5 inch dick, ex gf had a nice ass. Not fat or too muscle but toned. Would spoon sex in the mornings and prone bone no problem

New girl has a big muscled booty. It's not as easy anymore. Have to different angle every time

>>18135221
>why isn't my gf into sex with me
>has a 'smaller dick'

/thread

>>18135235
true

>>18135221
Is this actually a thing? Like how small are we talking here? 3 inches? Or are we talking about fat asses. One of the benefits is that she can bend forward for you to get inside her deeper but the main point is that the G spot is only a couple of inches into the vagina so it keeps you in the right area and she can help steer you there better.

>>18135241
We do, but I can't get deep enough how she likes with spooning.

>>18135252
15cm, not sure how's that in inches

>>18135256
You don't have a smaller dick. The way her vagina is tilted also influences how easy entrance is from different angles, as does how cushiony her ass is.

>>18135256
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=How+much+is+15+cm+in+inches

>>18135258
I guess her ass gets in the way.

>>18135256
>15cm
That's just shy of 6 inches which is about average (nothing impressive though). If you can't get deep enough in the spoon position then you won't get deep enough in missionary. Spoon position is halfway to doggie style. You might just not be compatible physically to be honest. If she is actually hefty then she would need to work out in order to make the sex better.

>>18135268
I get deeper in missionary because it's easier to 'project' my penis into her in that position. It's harder to thrust lying down.

>>18135235
You go ahead and do whatever you want. I've banged dozens of chicks including a contestant on Americas Next Top Model, so I'm satisfied in my way of talking to people and doing things

>>18135285
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Have you tried asking her to be on top?
More foreplay?
Asking her to do something while you're on top?

I find it hard to do that much on bottom. Trying to move my hips too just seems to throw off the rhythm. I can touch his face, hair, side, back.

Top gives me control and more to actually do. Change rhythm, touch his chest, lean down more to kiss, or sit back up, hold his hands down, lean down enough to slightly give him tongue, etc.

She might not know what to do or feel like she can do much. Though it does have to be a desire too. Like, I enjoy being top since I like teasing my bf and getting him more into it.

>>18134734
Because you need more of a freak.

My gf has a tongue ring and gets turned on by sucking dick. She's hornier than me. She also likes being choked and tied up.

Find one of those.

>>18135321
Scratch my back and have me choke you

bite me

>>18135314
>gorilla warfare

Didn't want to make a new thread.

Any recommendations for toys?
My gf likes it when her clit gets stimulated in combination with penetration.
But she also cums when we do anal, only problem is that my dick is too big for her anus and she starts to bleed.

Would appreciate any suggestions.

>>18135531
Womanizer.

>>18135314
I don't want to bump this thread cause it's done, but I have to because this post is fucking gold.

if she's not really into the sex, maybe you're not turning her on?
Try working out and getting a better body, and maintaining your grooming and hygiene better

maybe shes tired and has long days, in which case you should have sex at a different time, like in the morning?

maybe she just has a weak sex drive, and you could try doing some more romance stuff and seducing her better, and doing more foreplay or teasing or something? I think they make female Viagras now too, maybe you could suggest that?

Maybe you should try different positions, or have her go to the gym and work out so she ends up having more energy and stamina for you?

or try getting her drunk?

maybe just fucking ask her since she's your partner?

>>18136530
>fossilised pasta
>gold

This is trolling right?

>>18134734
Because she's bored as hell.

>>18134734
You chop her limbs off and the limbs turn into a new girlfriend and now you have to deal with a cluster fuck amount of girlfriends?

Well, I recommend leaving. That's easy.

>>18134734
Because you're the diggler.

She wants you to take charge, harder and more aggressively.

>>18134883
> i feel like being a woman. You do all the moving this time

Don't say this cringe OP

>>18134883
>I feel like being a woman. You do all the moving this time

Uhhh... Say this without the "I feel like being a woman" part

>>18134734
If your girl doesn't have a sex drive for you there is a small chance it is natural that she has a low sex drive... I'd say the chance of that is very slim.

You need to have a girl who really wants to have sex with you. Or tell her that the sex life isn't enough and tell her to do something about it.

Or try and cuck her.