Fear of affection

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Fear of affection 2017-03-12 04:27:08 Post No. 18120107
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Fear of affection Anonymous 2017-03-12 04:27:08 Post No. 18120107 [Report]

I'm 27 and I'm really scared of receiving affection and intimicy.

Nobody has ever shown me affection my whole life. I've been in a pretty depressed state the majority of my life. But I've spent the last few years getting my shit together and really turned myself around. I got /fit/, good job, good clothes and everything. But I still can not handle affection. I have a few female friends who I became friends with the past year. All of them acted weird when I told them that I'd never had a girlfriend before. One of them, who I have known a while gave me a really long tight hug when she found out that I've never had a girlfriend before. When she hugged me it really gave me anxiety and things got a little awkward around her.

I just can't accept it. It makes me feel sort of down sometimes, because i feel as if I'm doing something "wrong". But, I never want to have a family anyways.. so, should I just start avoiding girls completely?

Anonymous 2017-03-12 04:35:45 Post No.18120122
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 04:35:45 Post No.18120122 [Report]

>>18120107
Doctor, anxiety meds, time. It gets better.
A hug should feel good OP, warm and nice, not scary.

Anonymous 2017-03-12 04:42:11 Post No.18120140
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 04:42:11 Post No.18120140 [Report]

>>18120122

I don't need feel comfortable talking to this with a doctor Tbh. Anxiety medication is not an option due to my career.

You don't understand. For someone who has gone their whole life without someone being affectionate to them, when someone finally is, its feels very unnatural.

Anonymous 2017-03-12 05:23:09 Post No.18120267
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 05:23:09 Post No.18120267 [Report]

>>18120140
The opposite is also unpleasant. Feeling joy when hugged, but knowing it will probably never go further than a hug, and wishing for a relationship with the person. Just perspective.

Anonymous 2017-03-12 06:10:42 Post No.18120390
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 06:10:42 Post No.18120390 [Report]

You don't ever tell somebody you never had a gf before.

Anonymous 2017-03-12 12:20:04 Post No.18121028
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 12:20:04 Post No.18121028 [Report]

>>18120267

Yeah I understand. But what do you think I should do?

>>18120390

I should have lied? I didn't "freely" tell them. But they had asked me about "my girlfriend" so I told them I didn't have one. They acted surprised and followed up with some more questions and instead of answering them I just told them the truth

Anonymous 2017-03-12 06:18:58 Post No.18121794
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Anonymous 2017-03-12 06:18:58 Post No.18121794 [Report]

>>18120107

Have sex

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