Please Help Me

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>he fell for the prostitute meme
and now you can see clearly that you're still a virgin in all the ways that count. you had to pay them for them to give you the time of day.

>>18119989
there's nothing wrong with buying a helping hand, "sex should be special" is a meme , it can be, but it can also be just a thrill

>>18119989

Chill vibes

https://youtu.be/9ka5bgHnHyg

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>>18119989
It's over with and has passed.

Now move on. Work on yourself. You don't like being overweight?
Then do something about it now. Track your calories, exercise, eat healither-more nutrient dense- foods.

I'm a woman, and I don't get the allure of prostitutes. I work them actually (psych nurse), and many are desperate, manipulative, and addicted to drugs.
Now you've experience them. From your post it appears you didn't enjoy your time. That's okay; it's a learning experience.

Now shift your focus on what YOU want to be. It will take time, but little changes add up.

You sound depressed...I find being positive helps. I try to look at things as either a positive or neutral. But not a negative. Of course I don't always stick to that, but I try...Surrounding yourself with positive people is also important. I suggest picking up a few self-help books to internalize more ways to feel better about yourself. I can also offer a few more suggestions if you want; please just reply.

You CAN change your life. You are lucky. You are young! Don't give up Anon, xoxo

>>18120048

>psych nurse
>"Now you've experience them. From your post it appears you didn't enjoy your time. That's okay; it's a learning experience"

Not him, and I don't want to hijack the thread. But since you know things...

I'm 27, and had only 2 sexual experiences in my life. Once when I was 20, and once when I was 22. Both were bad experiences and I regret them. So I've stayed away from all of that shit because it caused me stress. Now at 27, I don't know what I should do. I feel like I want female company, (I've had online female friends tell me I'm good looking), but I don't think I can get a girlfriend because I'm scared of receiving affection. I also don't ever want to have a family, so I don't see why I should get a girlfriend. What should I do?

OP here, thank you for all your advice. I'm scared because, they gave me oral (they were ugly), and I gave them oral. I'm afraid of an STI. I asked the girl if they were clean and she reassured me that they always use condoms. Regardless, I used their mouthwash (waterfalled it) got home and shaved off my head, facial and pubic hair, brushed my teeth twice, showered twice, is it likely I can still get something? I received and gave them both oral. I was going to tell my mother, but now I'm thinking that would be a horrific thing for her to listen to, considering she just lost her husband (my dad) a year ago. I just feel so fucking ashamed of myself.

>>18120048
not op but

>this entire post
>tfw you sound so nice and caring
>tfw I would kill a village of malnourished children to have someone like you in my life
>tfw it'll never happen and I'll die alone

Just fuck my shit up.

>>18120145
Dude, never give oral to prostitutes or kiss them you pay to fuck them. Or pay them to leave.

>>18120145

Just to be safe, go to a clinic and get tested.

Realistically, you're probably over reacting about the STD thing. Just relax anon. You don't have to ever it again. Remember that.. you don't ever have to do it again.


Listen to the chill vibes and relax.>>18120016

>>18120163
>>18120167
Like I said, I pretty much scorched the Earth afterwards.

>>18120169

Well. Like I said, just so KNOW and so you can stop worrying about it. Just get tested.

You're probably fine

>>18120180
Okay, the nearest clinic is closed on Sundays, will I be fine should something arise when I get tested on Monday.

>>18120183

Get tested on monday. Nothing will change between now and then

>>18120190
Okay, thank you for hearing me out. I just feel sick to my stomach.

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>>18120059

I don't have much life experience admittedly (23 y.o. - in psych 3 months), but I will try to answer some of your questions! :>

>scared of receiving affection.
Hm, is it because of your past experiences? Or you don't think you deserve it? You do deserve affection. Everyone does. Showing kindness and receiving kindness is one of the greatest and most rewarding aspects of being human (unless you have antisocial pd or schizoaffective d.o., heh).

>stress, dating
I would say to focus on the present. We internalize anxiety by thinking about the future and the past. It can be very crippling. Think about today. That's hard to do, but I would actively try to think that way. It will help with your anxiety.

Dating in-general causes people stress. Um, in my personal experience I avoided dating for a long time. I had bad social anxiety (speech impediment) and was very introverted. But I worked on those anxieties, and I did finally meet my SO in uni (chemistry partners), and we do have similar personalities/ethics. I'm very thankful for him. There are differences, and it's not the most perfect relationship, but no relationship is. It's always a work in progress and has its ups/downs. When you do find a lady remember that. Work on things (if she ,of course, is mostly a positive on your life & lifts you up).

Meeting people is hard for those of us who have social anxiety. I find with practice you can really improve your social skills. Working in customer service (cashier) was actually like therapy for me.
I recommend actively engaging in the community to meet others. Volunteering is a great option (btw helping others usually makes sure you feel good), school, work, church, professional online dating sites, through friends/family, etc.

Why the guilt?
Virginity is kinda important because we often let first experiences to shape our view about some kind of activity. But if you realize that this time is not really trascendent by itself, then you'll be able to move on.

Obviously what you need to do is making a mid/lng term investment of time and effort in taking care and improving yourself. Bad news: a girl won't love you just tomorrow. Good news: There is literally no reason to assume that you can't be desirable, eventualy.

Every meaningful relationship is a give and take, and having something to offer feels great too.

Watch tv till you're tired.

>>18120218
>Hm, is it because of your past experiences? Or you don't think you deserve it?

Both of those.

What type of prostitutes?

Street walkers?
Shit tier escorts?
God tier escorts?

>>18120241
Decent tier escorts.

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>>18120059
>>18120218
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>>18120059

Building your self-confidence is also very important. It's your fondation. You need to feel good about yourself; it especially helps with building other relationships. If there's something about yourself that is MODIFIABLE (weight, education, job, clothes, hair, etc.) that you don't like, then actively work on changing that. Don't focus on that parts you hate about yourself. Focus on what you like.

>sex
Mm FYI I don't think most women highly prize sexual experience. IMO I'd rather a person with less sexual partners (if none at all); less risk for disease and promiscuity.

>not wanting kids
Many people nowadays have that same goal. If it's something you feel very strongly about then I would be up front about it. It just won't end well if you both have different goals.

>gf, wife, FWB?
Hm. There's studies that say men live a longer, and happier, life with a partner. I haven't reviewed the evidence of those studies, but I personally believe positive relationships are extremely important. I've seen psych patients with NO SUPPORT. Their outcomes are not good. I don't like the basis of FWB. It's like you are using each other for something; won't last.

Your parents will someday die. I'm not trying to scare you, but it's important to build social bonds. This life alone is difficult. Again working on your confidence, social skills, & overall outlook on life will help you be better at that.

You are also young! Take a deep breath. I believe with a positive mind most things are possible! Xoxo

>>18120162
Aw thank you. Not sure how to reply, but I'm sure you are very lovable too! Xoxo

>>18120145
It's hard to catch diseases purely from just oral (& from just one exposure)(especially the Creme de la cream :HIV ((according to most studies). Do you have any active s/s (men usually show s/s)? You can go to planned PH (cheap). They have offer a test (to both men and women) called peace of mind that tests for an array of STDs.

>>18120281
It was 2 women and the oral sex for either of them hardly lasted a minute. Sorry, what's s/s?

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>>18119989
>prostitute
You may have had sex, but you're still a virgin.

Like pay-to-win games, paying for it doesn't actually make you a winner. You win through skill. In this case, conquest of the vagina.

Virginity-loss isn't bought. It's earned. It's a right of passage that all men must go through. If you don't earn sex, you're still a virgin.

That's why it's tearing you apart. You had to PAY someone to accept you. Your souls were never one. You're pathetic to earn it, so you had to buy it.

Prostitutes: McDonald's
A Woman: A fine meal you spent all day on and shared with your significant other; a meal that you were proud of; a meal that satisfied your soul.

You are pathetic. But you're only 23. You have time. Download tinder.

>>18120293
>1 exposure
>minutes to seconds
>oral sex
Mm I honestly wouldn't be too concerned based on those factors. It's possible, but not likely.

Did they have any s/s(signs or symptoms)? Vaginal warts, redness, absolutely horrid smells, discharge, etc.

Even if by chance they had diseases there's active stages and dormant stages. Usually when people are in the active stage they show s/s.

>>18119999
>those digits
>that pic
Brutal.

>>18120306
I couldn't really tell if they had anything. It all seemed clean to me. Is it considered one exposure if there's two women? Like I said, neither one of them was really more than a minute.

>>18120317
Actually two my apologizes.

The more partners you have the more exposed you will be, and at risk for contacting something.

Monitor for s/s. If you notice anything strange in the next few weeks (hurts to urinate, redness, itchiness, cold symptoms,etc.) do please seek treatment. It's better to get treated early.

I do suggest eventually getting tested for STDs. There should be free clinics in your area. If there is a PPH near you they have reasonable prices for all types of services.

>>18120302
lol

>>18120281
>not sure how to reply

Well you can start by being my gf, thanks.

>>18120351
Thank you. I'm going to get tested on Monday regardless, but you think my chances of actually getting something are slim? I mean, the girls seemed to know what they were doing and they did specify that they only participated in safe sex (condom). I think, the reason I did all this, is because I am lonely. I have a wonderful Mother, brother and sister and I'm exceptionally lucky to have them in my life. My father was the greatest man who ever lived, and I had to watch him die in one of the worst ways imaginable (liver cancer). I've never had sex in my life and I don't really find myself to be a big catch. I just wanted to experience what so many others before me have experienced and I have never regretted more in my entire life. I feel like I've killed a big part of myself and the first quarter of my life slipped through my fingers in the blink of an eye. It hurts.

>>18120145
I hope this is a joke.
In which case you most likely contracted either hpv or hps.

Both STD take a long time before you can know you have them.
But with no doubt you have hsp.

>>18120368
You expect these sluts to tell you what they have?

Condom doesn't protect from everything fool.

You can pay escorts for good time (without sex) which is what you most likely need, because sex is only good as a training for your future girl, should this ever happen.


It was long before I realized that what I actually wanted wasn't to get laid but to be liked by someone.

Lose that fat, gain confidence.

>>18120368
Just relax and breathe. Statistics are on your side, but go to the doc regardless just in case.

>>18120429
Thank you.

>>18120276
They do a better job of taking care of themselves

>>18119989

just work on yourself, i was in the same boat as you. my dad died when i was 21 from cancer, i didnt like my work, my girlfriend left me, etc. fast forward to when i was 24 i was in better health, lost my virginity to the girl im still with, good job, etc. years later im still happy

>>18120368

cant do odds, depends if they have an STD or not. herpes and sometimes genital warts can still spread with a condom, but honestly just get tested. most likely you didnt catch anything

>>18119989
Hey, we all make mistakes. The best thing to do is move on and hope it never happens again.
Sorry about your dad, by the way.

>>18120281


>Mm FYI I don't think most women highly prize sexual experience.

But don't MOST women have a lot of sexual experience? That seems hypocritical

>>18120360
But it's actually true anon

It's like bribing a judge with money to side on your behalf. The decision to have sex with you is tainted as soon as you officially put a price tag on it

Sorry, OP here, so if I were to get tested tomorrow (which I will), are my chances good of the results coming back negative? So far, I'm not experiencing anything except stress.

>>18122070
Sorry, my mind is my worst enemy right now.