How to get a higher sex drive?

>>18119719
Did your partner get fat?

>>18119719
This is just the part where the excitement has faded. You should talk this with your partner so he can help you try new things that would bring back the spark. Like try to be more kinky.

>My SO is also way more attracted to me than I am to him

You watched his manhood break. You don't see him as a man anymore. Please let him down gently instead of hard-cucking him and suing him for default child support like the norm nowadays.

>>18119753
No - he didn't get fat.

>>18119804
I see him as a man. The problem is I'm a shitty girlfriend who doesn't have a sex drive.

>>18119829
You're good. You just need to try new things. It will also strengthen your relationship with your bf.

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>>18119719
My SO has a higher sex-drive as well. I care about him and his needs so most of the time when he wants sex I give it to him(def no when I'm on my period, yuck). I might not get pleasure out of it, but it makes me happy that I made him feel good.
Also, on a weird note, I've read that (ingesting) semen can actually boost your mood. Semen in the vagina also has some health benefits (with balancing ph). I'm not sure if there are actual scientific studies that can support those claims....Can just be male propaganda.

>alcohol
You need that to have sex with your SO ?! Sorry for the judgment, but that sounds a bit odd. I hope it's not every time...Sometimes booze can make things more interesting, but it's not something I would recommend doing regularly.

>raise sex drive
Exercise, frequently. An intense workout usually gets me in the mood. Also, overtime frequent exercise gives you more energy. Increasing your overall energy will help...this can be achieved by eating healither, having a positive outlook, accomplishing more on your todo list (by organizing your time better), SLEEP.

Bond more with your SO. Go out with each other! This can be hard work, but ultimately spending meaningful time together will make you closer. He needs to do work on that too. So talk to him about this...him making you breakfast, you packing him lunch, him warming up your car, etc. little sweet things like that really add up. However, it's not a one way street.

Take care of yourself. Durning school I did not do this, and I put my outward appearance on the back burner. There was a lot less spontaneous sex. Now that I'm out of school I take more pride in myself and I believe that helped raise my sex-drive (reducing my stress also probably helped raise it too).

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>>18119949
>>18119719

What turns you on? Being dominated really turns me on. It sounds freaky, but I really liked to be choked and slapped. He actually doesn't like doing this, but he does do it when I ask him. I do what he likes too sometimes as-well (me on too). Get your SO to do the kinky stuff you fantasize about.

Increase foreplay. Dress in lingerie. Tease. Compliment each other. Massage...showering/bathing together. It really gets fun.

>never masterbated
Hm. It's possible you don't know how? When I self-pleasure myself I have amazing orgasms. The orgasms are often better then the orgasms from penetration. I probably self-pleasure myself once a week. Women are more successful with using their imagation as opposed to men who usually need a visual (porn).
I would research ways to self-pleasure yourself. The idea of sex would totally not be great without that piece. You need to experience an orgasm. Have you experienced one before?

If you need more information about self-pleasure please then just reply.

Lastly, long-term relationships do have their ups and downs. It's important, however, to have patience and work things out. It's hard to find a "perfect" person. If you have a person that cares about you, respects you, and is loyal then that's great. Cherish it.

Use therapy as last result if all else fails. I personally don't like therapists.