Low Self Esteem

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Hi /adv/, I'm a 23 yo male and I'm currently going through a breakup with my second girlfriend of one year. I was previously cheated on and it has worsened underlying trust issues that developed as result of childhood abandonment. The girl I'm going through the breakup with met online and we hit it off instantly. We'd spend everyday together and it really made both of us feel like we were worth being loved. She has her own issues and we both bonded over our scars which made our relationship really special because we were so open and vulnerable with each other. These two past months however, we've been seeing each other maybe once a week at most. We don't really have a sexual relationship, I'm usually the only one interested in sex and it's become a chore for her so we just stopped. Deep down inside, I know she's cheating on me at the very least on an emotional level as she's always talking with "gay" friends and always prioritizes spending time with others over me. I'm just feeling like I did something wrong. All I can think about is where did things go wrong? Am I bad in bed? Am I not funny enough? Not good looking enough? I've confronted her about sex in the past before breaking up and she claimed that having sex more than once every two weeks was too much, and that it feels "truly good whenever we have sex less frequently". I feel like I have failed in that department but she's making it sound like there's nothing I can do in the future to not mess up what I thought was an amazing relationship. Is there anything I can do to help cope with the low self esteem and self doubt that I'm dealing with so that I can stop obsessing over my shortcomings?