For the life of me I cannot make friends, let alone even have

>No matter how hard I try
So, are you hanging out with people who don't even have the same interests or..?

You're not alone. Plenty of people know how this feels.

You have to actively pursue friendship

>>18107555
Agree.

It sounds you are doing the basics like being interested in the other people. This is great unless there's just not anything in common then they see you as trying to hard leading to signs of disdain.

Find people with shared interest. Or join a group that does something you could get interested in.

For example theater people are accepting of anyone interested. And most are super dramatic so "trying to hard" won't lead to the disdain thing.

>>18107926
Not him but in my case even if I have common interest with people, they seem to be put off by the 'stramge 'vibes' that I give off, or so it feels. Like I don't feel there's a 'connection' between us. This may partly be due to the fact that I'm often tense and scared to show my real self without giving a fuck, because I crave validation. It's not always that bad though, I've made several close friends in my life and all.

>>18107931
Not the guy you replied to, but I have your same way of thinking. You can't be real due to the social contracts we all have. With that being said, if you keep an open mind and answer any personal questions with honesty, the world is a much better place.

When people ask me about myself or tell me they don't know me, I tell them to ask me a question and you'll receive a broad answer. My book is open to all queries so people gather information they want to obtain than information they could possibly be better off not knowing or better off not questioning.

Yes, I am a narcissist. Egotistical to a point.

This is my version of real and accomplishes what I believe is validation in this sense as I can prove the answers I give people. My answers are wisely chosen for what I can prove and decide whether I want an answer will want proof or if I want an answer that doesn't need proof.