This might ruin me

stop taking viagra

nofap/pornfree

i've went without porn for a few months in anticipation of that possibly being an issue before anything happened. I was told maybe it's just my mental block of being bat shit scared of having a kid.

how do you masturbate?

I used to have the same problem. It goes away with time. Just stop fapping altogether and you'll eventually train your dick to prefer sex.

i usually use shea butter and baby oil as weird as it sounds but slow and not too tight of a grip cause 'deathgrip ruins all relationships' till i'm at my edge basically. then let go

Engage your mental faculties.

I'll bet that you're thinking something like "arg why can't I nut" or whatnot - you gotta avoid thoughts like that.

Number one is to keep trying different positions until you find one that feels especially good. For me, that's prone-boning - I lay her on her stomach, she crosses her leg, and I plow into her from behind.

The second thing to do is - use your imagination. Think of something(s) that really turn you on. For example, maybe there was that one time she was wearing a little skirt with heels and her soft, smooth legs looked so amazing that you wanted to ram her against a door without even taking her clothes off (or something like that). Once you think of a mental image that's really stimulating, keep returning to that though and it's going to get your dick primed to explode.

If I do these two things, I will nut every time - sometimes a bit too quickly.

Hell I remember I was in a similar situation with my first. It was probably the sixth or seventh time we'd been intimate and she'd started to get frustrated that she "couldn't make me cum". I finally tried this thing where I put her on her stomach and a pillow under her hips and then went to town - immediately it felt better than before and I started thinking about how good it was between her thighs - it didn't take long before I started to feel that build up before an orgasm. I kept at it for a little while longer and I was finally able to do it.

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I think you hit the nail on the head, i did keep stressing myself because it wouldn't happen. And I'm such a horny fuck that she can rub against me and i'm instantly hard but yet it just wouldnt happen- It looks like I have to change my frame of mind completely while in the sack to overcome this- but I'll only get to test that if and when she wants to fool around again because I mean she was really down about the fact she didnt get me off. I have to drive 4 hours one way to see her, stayed at her place all week and not once did she want to mess around again since near valentines day..

You need to get out of that relationship. Since you're new to relationships you have no point of reference on what a good relationship is so this one feels fine to you. That's the problem. You're supposed to have an enduring very powerful attraction to her that makes you get off hard to the idea that you're doing anything sexual with her at all. Which has nothing to do with how good her sexual technique is or etc.

You haven't found the 1 yet. You'll know because your brain will be going absolutely wild for her. If you're at the point where you've got this girl in bed and nothing is happening then you've struck out. Find somebody else instead.

Note that this does not mean you stick with somebody because they're really physically attractive to you to where you get boners and perform easily. I'm talking about somebody who is way and leagues more attractive than this. Attractive beyond the levels of lust. Attractive because your brain is going apeshit over her and loves her and is attracted to her in a million ways you can't even understand. From her personality to other things like this.

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This advice only applies if you're 15 and have no concept of what a relationship actually is.