Ask the opposite sex general

>Maybe a "not in her head" case but fuck it

Gf is practically the definition of paranoid. She gets worried about things that only ever happened in her head with no justifiable trigger.

Example:
>we had a threesome
>she's very well into the girl, even proposed going out with her alone
>mybonerisokwiththis.pdf
>suddenly flips and tells me that she doesn't want a full blow threeway relationship
>I zero to pokerface in 0.03s since I never said anything that indicated I wanted that

This is only one example but happen pretty often with other subjects too

>she does knitting
>says she wants to expose it in an artisan's public fair
>I advice against it straight away since the audience won't be her targeted market
>few days lates
>mentions in a fight that I said she should go and changes my mind

Seriously, I can't even classify what array of mental disorder she has, but I'm sure she has more than a few. She sees a shrink once a week but I honestly doubt she mentions her mood swings to him, since it's been going on for years and the motherfucker simply refuses to learn from her mistakes.

What the fuck gives????

>>18096654
*changed my mind, not changes

>>18096654
Sounds like Borderline case if she has sudden 0-100 mood swings

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>>18096608
>meet girl
>literally dream girl
>got dumped by her bf
>we hook up
>we fall hard for each other
>we are near starting to date
>she is very dependent
>has trouble saying no
>cares more about other people feel and think than what she thinks and feels
>her bf says he wants her back
>she says she felt for my dick and is in love with me
>but now she is confused
>says it's 50/50 but she is leaning towards me, but as he was also her friend she is very afraid of dumping him because he is a turbo lone nerd that plays emotional games with her
>I'm confident I could get to date him and still fuck me
>I don't feel like it because I also fell for her and want her
>now chat and talk has died out because we are very busy, when she asks me out I can't and when I do she can't which seems like we are avoiding eachother

I gave her lots of space to think and decide because I was 100% willing to try things with her, but after a couple weeks and now the lack of contact I'm getting genuinely confused. I know women, and specially her, are frequently indecisive but thi indecision is starting to contaminate me. Could anyone give me some advice.

>>18096665
Her mom was a diagnosed bipolar, but I don't know if she ever was medicated. Is bipolarity the same as bpd?

Currently she's under depression and anxiety meds (donaren and pristiq), since after her mother passed away she's been depressed. But she kinda always been like that, comming up with made up reasons for concerns all out of the blue. There's been so many I can't even name specific ones. Like:

>frequently brings up fucking other girls in bed, much more frequently then me
>constantly tries to keep in touch with the girl we did it
>dick doesn't object, I'm totally fine
>suddenly accuses me of needing to do threesomes to feel sexually satisfied
>I don't do anything she isn't ok with and constantly ask for her consent to do stuff like talking to girls we're chasing

I know I'm focusing a lot on this sexual thing but it's just the most recent example. Since ever she has excuses to act moody and not acknowledging her fault, first it was her papers for graduating in law school, then her bar exam, then the death of her mom, and so on (and this has been years before we even started with threesomes)

Girl invited me over to her place for dinner, not really sure what to bring. She said do so if I wanted to, but I figured I should probably bring something anyway.

She's on one of those strict health diets so not sure about food/alcohol, but we're not really that close for flowers or anything like that.

Thoughts?

>>18096654
It doesn't seem so unreasonable as you make it sound.

In your first example, she just realised that if she establishes a personal relationship with the girl it would eventually lead to having her more involved in your romantic relationship and decided to avoid it by not creating a personal relationship with her.
The second thing sounds more like a misunderstanding.

It doesn't seem like she has "mood swings". I don't think you're being extremely fair to her, if these is the kind of thing that, in your opinion, make her paranoid.

>>18096691
Ask her if she has particular dietary restriction that you should be aware of and pick the food according to that.
And maybe specify the "category" of food you're going to bring - like, if you're bringing a dessert or the wine - so she doesn't buy the same thing.
Or bring flowers - it's not something you do just with people you're extra close, a small bouquet is fine in most cases.

>>18096693

The sex parts are pretty bad examples to be honest, because I do realize she gets conflicted with her sexuality and emotions.

But the second was by no means a simple misunderstanding. She frequently misunderstand/mishears things, to the point I have queastioned her communication skills multiple times.

It's really common that she says something stupid and then when I show that I didn't like it, tries to make up an excuse or say that "she didn't mean it that way", when it's cristal clear that she did, but regrets because I didn't like it.

This one was just yesterday:
>Arriving from a trip where I drove 800km
>say I could use a hand to sleep, if you know what I mean
>acts like it would be a total chore to her
>when confronted, tells me that she just tought I'd be tired for it

I mean, I'd totally get it if she just said she was tired for it. Why the fuck act upset that I was horny and then blame it on me supposedly being tired???

We've been toghether for 8 fucking years, and we're not sexually incompatible at all. But instead of being grateful that I still want to hump her after so long, she acts upset when she's not in the mood. Fuck, tons of couples have dead bedrooms after this long, is it really that bad that I still like her that way??

I feel like crying from how much my heart sinks in these moments...

>>18096677
Fuck I don't know why I quoted that guy

>>18096677
Dump her the pussy isn't worth a girl that still talks to her ex.

I've been in that situation and it's not worth

>>18096719
Yeah I'm thinking about that. The thing is, the guy is a ugly nerd that treated her badly. She only got with him because of her low self steem. I don't think she will betray me with him if we ever date. I'm kinda the chad of the whole thing

>>18096720
And she has a hard time letting go (stop being friends etc) of anyone and anything. Literally anything due to being very dependent. I still like her and that is what is killing me

>>18096677

Do the frozen thing and just LET HER GOOO!!! LET HER GOOOOOO...

It's a no brainer, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that can be torn between two guys and clearly state that to me. It shows zero consideration to your feelings, and was it the other way around she'd have dumped yo ass long ago.

>>18096720
There are so many red flags here

>Talks to her ex
>Low self-esteem
>"Doesn't want to hurt anyone"
>"My ex abused me but I still want to talk to him"
>Starting fucking you right out of her last relationship

Don't do it man.

>>18096720

That's the type of women that'll jump the first dick in front of her when you have an argument looking for """"comfort""""

If she's between chad and turbonerd it shows how she has no standards besides "does he have a dick"

Do women ever just stop being attracted sexually to your SO without wanting to break up with them? As in still feeling emotionally attached to them, but not being able to sexually perform ir be intimate?

>>18096711
It seems like you're being overly confrontational and she's a bit scared about expressing herself with you.

There are many points in your posts where you shame her for the way she feels - either for her stress regarding school, or feeling depressed about her mother's death, or being a bit scared of a big change like introducing other people in your sexual life. It is not easy to handle any of these things emotionally, but it seems like you don't understand that she can legitimately feel upset and be a bit moody because her life is a bit stressing.
This kind of attitude makes it extra hard to handle stress because you never have a chance to boil down. If the person you should be more open with tells you to shut the fuck up and not share your feelings, you just bottle it all up and then "explode".
If you keep dismissing her feelings, you make it extra hard for her to come to you with her issues and open up to you, which leads to that "it's not me, it's you" attitude and the bad communication skills. She's probably just very scared of telling you things at this point.

You should learn to be a bit more understanding, and help her come out of her shell. If she's already a fragile person and you keep telling her that it's stupid to feel the way she feels or shutting her down, you're going to complicate her issues. Be more propositive, and don't dismiss her feelings.

Again, in your example, I still feel like you're both communicating wrong.
She didn't want to have sex but still didn't feel like she could be open with you about it, and you are kinda making it seem like she's guilty for not being in the mood.
You're not wrong for liking her, but it's obviously not ideal to make your partner feel like a piece of shit because they don't want to suck your dick, and making them feel like they should come up with an excuse.

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>>18096726
>>18096725
>>18096724
>>18096729
Uhm... I gave till the end of this week for her to decide something and then I'll dump her. From what I could gather from friends, acquaintances, straight out spying she is was not disloyal with any of her previous relationships. I think I may be the first. The low self steem problem is gone, after the girl got a job as a commercial model and after some talks with her (literally why she dated a ugly manlet and some militant euphoric atheists before is beyond me).
>>18096726
The guy is a sticky cry baby. She feels pity and guilt (for being dumped by him (?)) and is locked in a "impasse".


Thanks for the advices bros. I'd hope a grill would help me out too, but we are all cute girls here.

Girls, is it normal for a girl to have her first kiss at 17? When did you lose yours? And did you date the other person for a while afterwards? Did you wish to?
I went out with this adorable girl and she told me I was her first kiss, I really like her and I think she likes me back a fair amount, our schedules don't really work out, she only has classes at night and I only have by morning, but we do study at the same uni.
Anyway, sorry for shitty english.

>>18096744
I suppose it's pretty normal. I mean, I'm a 26yo girl and never gone as far as holding someone's hand and I'm pretty sure I'm the exception. She must really like you, anon! I hope you two can work it out.

Gals, would you want to be around someone who has lost a child/ be willing to date them?

How to socialize after a stillbirth/ abortion/ loss of child?

I met this girl on this tinder, and we are chatting on facebook now as well, she occasionally sends me pictures of herself, but for some reason, she doesn't look as good as on her tinder profile. I know its the same girl, but for some reason she looks differant to me, anyone else experiance this?

>>18096744
I gave my first kiss to my boyfriend, I was 14 and he was 16. Still together after 10 years. So, yeah, we definitely dated.
Some of my friends didn't kiss anyone at 17, but most did.

>>18096754
You put your best pics on a dating profile, send random pics to people you talk to.
My social media profile pic is the best picture of me I have, my best friend gets "it's 6 AM in the morning and my hair is greasy" selfies that I wouldn't really put on instagram for everyone to see.

>>18096691
>>18096701
>She's on one of those strict health diets
>Or bring flowers - it's not something you do just with people you're extra close, a small bouquet is fine in most cases.
Dude, what if you bring one of those store-bought herbs and spices plants you can grow indoors, that serve as seasoning? Like basil and shit. It would be an unique present (flowers honestly sound so cheesy and disposable for me) and you'd be cool on showing how you're into her health habits and stuff

>>18096753
I won't go out of my way to find someone who has lost a child, but if the person I like lost a baby, we got along and he wasn't totally mentally unstable, yeah I wouldn't have issues dating him.

You go to therapy and try to get over the mental consequences that this kind of event has, and then when you're "normal" you socialise again.

>>18096763
That sounds like a great idea, actually. Aloe plants are nice, too.

>>18096749
>>18096755
Thanks for the answers.

>>18096677
>I'm confident I could get to date him and still fuck me
fucking kek you fag

Me and my gf are both 18. Currently 2 months that we have both been together.
When we first talked about sex , she was absolutely against it and said its disgusting. She went on to say she doesnt want to do it as its very hard for a girl the first time. Also that she is sensitive to it. We kiss and tongue of course cuddle all that cute shit. But she also doesnt like it when you touch her bum , she hates it. There hasnt been many occasions where we have been completely alone tho.
My thoughts are that she probably hasnt experienced like seduction etc, she probably hasnt also experienced being horny in a sense.(well maybe but im not sure)
She also isnt what so ever one to send nudes or even naughty pictures.
So slowly as we have more time together alone I want to start to seduce her more with like neck kissing , being on her etc.
Can any of you females relate to this ? Do you think she will come around?

>female coworker puts her hand on my back, right between shoulders
>says she's really happy to have met me and that i always make her smile
>moves her hand down my back as she's saying this before taking it off and just walking away
>didn't get a chance to respond
>it was out of nowhere, we weren't really talking before that
>her voice sounded really breathy and intimate rather than her typical loud/bubbly demeanor

Am i friendzoned, or does she like me?

So basically been seeing this girl for 3 weeks. Last date went really well and we made out which I'm sure would have lead to sex. However my mother came home and she got nervous. Whispered to me we can go farther next time she wasn't home. She was incredibly flirty and biting my shoulder the entire time. Gave her a kiss goodbye and asked when she would be free. She said Monday. I called up on sat and we talked and I told her I'd call her back Sunday. Called her Sunday and she said she may have to work Monday and to call her around 12:30. Called her Monday and she said she had to work. She said she was free Saturday. In her right, she worked from 12am to around 7am then went to her usual volunteer work till 12:30. So she was also probably made tired. I haven't called her since. What do I do?

>>18096773
Fuck! I meant her dating him and I fucking her

>>18096856
She wants you inside of her

>>18096861
>tfw I was marturbating a chick once on her house
>she was like 5 seconds from comming
>her mom arrives
I swear to god I never saw a chick so angry for a whole day

Shut up

>>18096786
She might, but you'll have to give her time. Some girls just aren't as focused on sex and don't view it as important. I'm 19 and I only recently tried masturbating, but I'd still be pretty worried about my first time with the real thing. It's a big step, so if you like her, let her take it at her own pace.

>>18096624
I'm not trying to be sexist but, WHY CAN'T WOMEN FUCKIN DRIVE !? Everytime I drive I almost get into an accident, and 7 times out of 10 it's a woman driving. I mean jesus it just won't stop happening.

When do you think its OK to express political ideas to each other? We don't really talk about politics but I know we have different opinions. So how far into a a relationship is it acceptable?

>>18096925

If it's likely to cause fighting, is it necessary to even bring it up? Imo, just easier accept you agree to disagree and not bring politics into a relationship. Just vote and do your own things and let public life be separate from private life.

However, if this is a major deal to you, then do it early on. Fight until you break up and then you both can move on to find more suitable partners. Disagreeing on something one or both of you consider important could be a deal breaker, so better get it out of the way asap.

>>18096763
>>18096701
Thanks for the help!

>>18096920
Women are safer drivers

>>18096978
No they aren't. They can't stay in their lane, they switch lanes without turn signals, and don't look before they turn out into the streets.

I'm an impressionable asshole who gets all his opinions from the internet

Are all women really slutty or what

All I hear about women is negative shit, I see thousands of images of tits and shit every day just tying to browse the web

I go on Instagram and see slutty pics of girls I've grown up with

I go to college and parties and see girls acting slutty

Sorry for lack of better words

Am I not seeing the full picture

Am I seeing reality or not???

>>18096988
Yeah, they are. That's why their insurance costs less.

>>18096989
Unfortunately it's the majority, in these consumerist/materialist days it's inevitable though, they have been told all their lives that this is how they should act.

>>18097003
What should I do

>>18097006
Try to find a girl who isn't like that

>>18097012
okay

What angles of nudes do you guys like?

>>18096989
Those are some pretty extreme and biased opinions you're sharing, anon. You're either looking at the wrong places or choosing to see only what you want instead of the bigger picture and I hope you can at least tell that much.
Are you religious or something? Chances are you've been taught all your life that showing off skin is sinful and shameful, and that people should act prudish and never act on their desires and attractions, especially (and probably exclusively) if it's a woman we're talking about. God forbid they like this little thing called sex. But really, it's not that big of a deal (at least it shouldn't be)

>>18097049
nice projection

>>18097048
I like art-sy ones. My ex had a camera and a tripod so she could make a few nice ones. I hate when chicks just send a misty, blurred, tilted pic of her pussy very close in.

>>18097055
?
That's the impression I got from his text. My point that this shouldn't be a big deal remains.

>>18097069
Both sides, the slut and the puritan, are overly concerned about what their bodies look like for external validation, there is a healthy middle ground.

Writing a thank-you note to my dentist, who also happens to be my ex girlfriend. She was nice enough to do the repair job (got sucker punched the night before and tooth got cracked) after I had asked her when she could've just passed it on to another co-worker at the office

Said "Thank you for the job, I really appreciate it, a lot."

Is that good?

my boyfriend used to be patient, compassionate, empathetic. if i was down, he would offer words of support and kindness even if he couldn't help with my problem.

a year has gone by since then and it's like he's a different person. everything i do seems to annoy or upset him. if i'm feeling down he will rub it in my face by saying i'm being annoying. he reacts with anger. you would think he wouldn't want to hear what i have to say, but on the contrary, he forces me to talk about it by threatening to leave or saying things like "this is your last chance." i tell him I don't want to talk to him because he just makes me feel worse. he responds with this attitude like "you just don't like it because i don't say what you want to hear and because i don't say "nice" things to you"

if i bring up how he wasn't like this before, that pisses him off the most. he accuses me of just having a "fantasy ideal" of him and that i don't like the real him. but i could literally copy-paste the text messages he sent me back then to show what i'm talking about.

don't even know what advice i'm asking for but i feel like i'm at the end of my rope. i can't even interact normally with him anymore. i want to fix things but i have no clue what to do. sorry for rant/venting

>>18097120

It's impossible to tell the odds of rejection, but a good idea would be to get to know the girl a bit before asking them out (at least a few casual convo, so that she knows you). This will increase your odds, because cold approaches rarely work. But even if you get rejected, most girls do it decently or just with a "maybe" before they ghost you. Making a scene doesn't happen irl, unless you do something inappropriate like feel her up or stare at her tits while you ask her out. So that's nothing to worry about.

>>18097120
Nobody makes a scene for being asked out anon. Maybe americans are diferent than the people here

>>18097114
People change, it happens to everyone, it will always happen in any relationship.
Sometimes you change together, sometimes you change for the worse, sometimes you change for the better.

You know exactly what to do.

>>18097114
I have this same problem. My bf used to be sweet and caring but now he's just annoyed all the time. I could use some advice too, but I'd suggest for your case to stop the threats. I'd even say he's blackmailing you. Let him go if he threatens to leave. Maybe he wants to and is only trying to make you do it instead of having balls and ending it himself.

I've been friends with a girl in college for almost 4 years now, and she's just recently broken up with her boyfriend.

I always liked the idea of us as a couple, but it feels like we've been friends for too long for her to take me seriously.

Thoughts?

How do I stop feeling like women shouldn't bother with me? I get attention, but I feel like I don't deserve it

>>18097164
Our interactions have also never really lent themselves in any intimate direction, we're more like really close colleagues

>>18097169

Then try and include some flirting. You won't know for sure, unless you try. It's not impossible for friendship to become something more. I was friends with my bf for 2 years before he broke up with his ex and I made a move. The transition is surprisingly easy, if both of you are willing to try.

>>18097163
>Maybe he wants to and is only trying to make you do it instead of having balls and ending it himself.
I never even considered this before, but maybe there's something to it. The thing that pisses me off is how he has a total double standard. He has absolutely no tolerance when it comes to me but then he turns around and pulls the exact same thing on me when HE is upset about something. Trying to hide it, refusing to talk, etc. It's so hypocritical and he just expects me to accept it. And I'm just tired of it.

>>18097175
Thanks for ignoring my post asshole

>>18097048
The ones that show tits, feets and ass.

>>18097219
No offense but "just break up" is really obvious "advice." I don't really have a reply for it.

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Question for girls

>you're going through a lot of shit
>shit with family
>shit with work
>shit with self
>shit with friends
>you're a few months in a ldr lasting around 1 year
She wants to take a break with me and be alone to deal with her shit. If it were me I would want to talk about it with my girlfriend. Girls, what do you think about this?

Im not in the worst situation, there are other anons here in deeper shit. I just came for some questions.

A few months back I stsrted speaking with a girl, asked for rides, I declined at first. But as time came around, I guess I kind of liked her. No feelings what so ever, but I like her, its a weird position Im in.

Anyways, I asked her if she wanted to hang out, and she would decline or reply saying she was in a different city. Eventually, I stopped. Just this Sunday, I asked if she wanted to hike. She said no of course, so I rolled the dice and asked if she wanted to be my workout buddy or whatever since I wouldn't mind motivation. She agreed, and asked when my Marine Corp shipdate was. Told her my date, she replied, I didn't.

Now, idk why she would decline everything I ask but when I say workout she is like "cool! Lets do it!" I mean, we are goung to meet up to workout, so idk.

Any anons have any advice to approach this? And when to ask her to work out?

>>18097175
Yeah, I'm having this exact problem, but I guess my partner isn't as hateful (yet).
As I said, the first step is to put an end to these threats. If it works, try reaching out to him and see what is it that makes him so annoyed at you. My guesses are he's not happy with something and won't express it. Worst case scenario is that he likes someone else and he feels guilty about it, thus projecting his guilt onto you.

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Okay, what do women think about the gatebox-o-da? Already shaking of fear? Because you're being replaced by a hologram?

Here is the advert for it. Once it comes out in english I'm going to buy one too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkcKaNqfykg

>>18097229
Sometimes I appreciate a (you), yaknow? Think of others, love. Maybe it isn't him, maybe it's you.

>>18097246

I don't understand why women would feel threatened by advancing tech. There's bound to be a male hologram to cater to female customers and virtual bf games are already a huge hit in japan. It goes both ways. Those who can't find real partners can entertain themselves with substitutes and remove themselves from the gene pool. All of humanity wins.

>>18097246
Females will objectively be obsolete in 50 years. You can say the same thing about men in 50 years, but men build the robots, and they'd make women first, and then realize they don't need to make robot men.

Guess women will just have to prove they're better than robots (they're not lol) when we reach that point.

>>18097248
Didn't mean anything by it anon.
Yeah I consider if it's me all the time. I have told him dozens of times that I'm think he doesn't like me based on how he treats me, and I've tried to get him to tell me his problems with me so we can get over whatever issues there are.

He just insists he does like me. It gets me nowhere.

>>18097255
>Implying even chads won't just start fucking robots that do everything they ask

A woman that cooks and cleans in 2017 is already wife material, robot women will be just that in the future, so females won't be needed.

>>18097268

And if all men fuck robots, then women will too. Why would one sex become more obsolete than the other if tech can respond to all needs better than people?

>>18097259
I'm just shit posting cutie, its probably not you, no need to blame yourself from the sounds of it.

One glaring issue though is that it's hard to prove you love somebody, and perhaps his reaction is to be annoyed because he does love you and he's frustrated that you don't trust him.
I know personally if you asked me that question over and over I'd start getting frustrated. Not because I'm annoyed by you repeating yourself, but more that we've lost trust, and that's when a relationship begins to go past the point of no return. Trust and transparency is everything (((in moderation))), perhaps acting as if you don't trust him might be putting him under a little pressure.

The truth is, he might not even realise how he's changed, and it can be frustrating to hear, because well, how the heck do you go back to your old ways if you didn't even realise you changed at all?

The whole situation is a bit frightening and frustrating. We've all been there.

Try and reset a bit, and build your trust back up. Don't see it as mending your trust, but instead building a new foundation to erect a new pillar of trust. Forget about the old one.

>>18097246
People shouldn't go in relationship to get something practical out of it. People go into relationship to get an emotional bond and companionship, which you don't get from a computer.
If someone dates me to get something that a hologram can get him, I don't really feel like I'm missing out.

>>18097272
The men make the robots, anon.

Western women would never be satisfied with a robot partner, because there is no such thing as good enough to women.

>>18097280
>We will refuse to produce something that can be sold to 50% of the population because we're too busy fucking plastic vaginas and loving holograms to make money

I totally see it happening.

>>18097273
I think you've hit on something important because I do think there are trust issues. I get glimpses and impressions that he is insecure or mistrustful of me. I guess because I complain about how callous he is towards me., and he knows he is difficult to deal with because he has even acknowledged it to me at times. You're totally right about the "asking over and over" thing but it is a hard and slow process to truly resolve something like this. Symptoms and certain behaviors keep coming back, you know? So it keeps being discussed.

Sometimes he does make effort to be better and I see it, that's why "just break up" isn't an option to me. I don't think all is lost. I just want to get back to a good place. He just has a totally different coping mechanism than me and rather than making me be empathetic to him, it is driving me away more. I'm afraid of getting to the point of not caring anymore just so I stop being hurt by him.

>>18097240
Any help here? Or idea

Femanons, (or whoever else interested)

So I talk to this girl in my class and I think she might like me. She always offers to help me without any mentions that I need any. Assuming just a friendly gesture.

Whenever we talk in a group of people she always stares at me and pays me 98% of the attention even when listening to someone else talk. Thought this was weird.

When I was having a private conversation with a friend I caught her looking at me and she just looked down when I caught her glance. After that I caught her again and she just held the gaze for a good 6 seconds. Then she looked away.

Whenever we talk one on one she seems a bit nervous but eases in after a while. She always tries to get my attention when I'm talking to others and she always finds excuses to talk to me.

More so recently she's been asking my opinion on what clothes she should buy and my input on them and what not. I don't know if this is a friendly thing or what?

What do you guys think?

>>18096624
How do you tell if a girl is on Tinder to fuck/vs have a relationship?

The one I'm supposed to meet tomorrow doesn't act like she wants sex although she has said I look really cute and sound interesting from our brief texts.

I've flirted with her but avoided too much sexy talk because I don't want that to be the only thing going on. Not necessarily hoping to start a relationship, I'd like to get to know her a little first before anything though. Thoughts?

>>18097280
>The men make the robots

But market laws determine who they're made for. If women pay for them, the industry will respond to the demands.

And I understand you bitterness towards women makes you wish they wouldn't be as satisfied with robots as men could be, but that is doubtful. After all, robots probably won't get jealous if a western princess type of girl gets as many as she wants to fill the void in her life.

>>18097280
Women would be MORE satisfied because they can get off using their imaginations anyway. A robot fucking them in the meantime will just make the experience 100% better.

>>18097299
>I'd like to get to know her a little first before anything though.

You're going on a date with her, that's what they're for. Chill out and just see what happens.

>>18097303
Do you need porn to masturbate?

>>18097285
I re read your first post and gave it a little thought. I personally think the best course of action is to wait it out, and try not to cause any drastic change. From my own (limited) experience, I tried to "fix" things, I tried to get them back to "normal", and every time all I'd do is make things worse. I became obsessed with "fixing" what we had, instead of just embracing it and waiting it out. It lead to the downfall of our relationship, it lead to things being said that I never wish I said, it lead to us being hurt every time we even spoke to each other.

He does sound a little manipulative, but I imagine that's because he's trying to be blunt and real with you, more so than be hurtful.

My advice would be to take it on the chin for now, roll with it, don't keep pushing him, and most importantly, don't let him push you. If he says or does something you don't like, be playful but dominant. For example if he says you're just upset because he doesn't say what you want to hear, call him a dick and ask him to come cuddle you for a while. (Something gay like that idk lol)
Don't take it as a personal attack, roll with it, playfully talk back, be more intimate and romantic.

If it carries on for a long time, then start thinking of change. It could well be something that comes to pass, and you'll wonder why you even worried at all.

If you think he is being GENUINELY manipulative, then be dominant and assertive, put him in his place in a NON-condescending way. Don't baby or belittle him, just put up boundaries.

>>18097318
Nope

>>18097327
Can I ask you to think of me next time you masturbate?

This is actually a guy to guy question but whatever.

What do tits feel like?

>>18097336

Why guy to guy? Girls have touched more boob in their lifetime than any guy ever will.

>>18097324
Well I think what you've said is good advice, and something I've thought about myself. Like, the part about pushing back and putting up boundaries. I really like my boyfriend even if I make him sound like such a shitty person, but that's just because I'm not mentioning the good things. Even his bluntness is kind of endearing to me but...to a point.

My problem is I'm the complete opposite, I don't like confrontation and try to be conciliatory but, I think you're right about him needing to be flat-out told he's being a dick. It's just that's not my nature and it's unnatural for me to do that so I definitely need to make more effort there. That "you're just mad because I'm not coddling you" thing especially ticks me off because it's not that I WANT smoke blown up my ass but I don't want to be told "your sadness is annoying to me" either. Who the fuck would?

I don't attribute any malice to what he's doing or I'd have already been gone. This personality type is just hard for me to deal with I guess.

Anyway, I really just wanted to vent and talk it out with a stranger. You have kind of validated some things I was thinking about too, so that makes me feel like I'm on the right track after all, maybe. Thanks anon, good advice. .

>>18097336
Bags of sand.

Girls

What do you think of a guy who doesn't "need" sex in his life. If it's there, then ok. But I'm not going to freak out and die without it.

It seems like there is this huge expectation that the guy always wants sex and that's what we want more than anything. But at least for me, sex is not even on my list of priorities.

>>18097342
Because I want another straight guy's perspective

>>18097336
Magic. Really, young tits are made of magic. Also this
>>18097342

>>18097336
The tits are the main attraction. You'd think the boob would be the funnest but no it's the tits.

It's like the cap on a toothpaste tube except it's soft. You can squeeze them and when you rub them they can either move with your fingers about the base or it can bend. They can bend to touch the boob too.

>>18097355

Grab your unflexed ass. Same consistency

>>18097359
>tfw I squat and lift
>tfw gf oves my ass
>it's firmer than hers
pls

>>18097357

>you can squeeze them and when you rub them they can either move with your fingers about the base or it can bend.


Not the guy you're replying to, and I know I'm going to get a lot of shit for asking this. But, what is so exciting about that?


If you think about it. You're just rubbing someone skin. What is so thrilling about this? That doesn't seem like the thrill of a lifetime to me.

I'm a straight guy btw

>>18097289
it's glaringly fucking obvious, mate

>>18097354
There's girls out that who think like you do.

>>18097371
They're fun to play with when you're fucking them. Also it's softer than any other skin on your body and softer than your own tits. It's quite intimate too.

Guys,
What are some hot things a girl could do when having sex to get you really turned on? I don't necessarily mean specific acts, rather than some small changes that could make it even hotter for you. For example, I get super turned on when my bf kisses my neck or bangs me on the kitchen table, but I'm not sure how to return the favour and make it extra special for him.

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So, last night my gf had a couple friends over, we live a few of my friends, two of them gay. I had work in the morning so I go ti bed at midnight, expecting her not to be far off. Then I wake up at 5am, panicked and go look for her, it's just her and my (gay) housemate, she's lying on his lap and they're holding hands, like kinda spooning and as soon as she noticed me she let his hands go, I told her I felt that was weird and she just said "It's anon, he's gay".
Am I worrying for nothing? Please help.

>>18097384
I get really turned on when my partner scratches along the whole length of my backbone

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>Ex and I are on good terms
>She's home for school so we hangout (a few days ago)
>Ever since been in a horrid mood
>Romantic feelings aren't coming back, but still insanely sexually attracted to her and is getting in my head

This isn't the first time this has happened, not with an ex other times but with female friends. Sometimes I find I'll develop what can only be described as a "sexual obsession" towards a female friend. It honestly gets to the point where fucking that specific person is pretty much all I can think about and it has a significantly negative effect on my mood and overall mental state.

I know it's normal for a guy to think about fucking his female friends, and I know it's normal for a guy to struggle to be platonic friends with girls he's attracted to. However I'm very concerned about how much it gets to me. It gets all up in my head and drives me insane, depresses me and sky rockets my anxiety levels. Letting my head get in such a tizzy over an attractive friend not wanting to bang can't be normal

>>18097384
Depends what he is into desu, why not just ask him? I'm sure he'll have something ti ask for.
Other than that, I really like when I'm doing the work (ontop or behind etc.) And she pushes back, really feels like she's into it, that's a big turn on.

>>18097387
Gonna answer as many questions as possible until mine gets answered.

Incase it matters, I've been with my gf for 7 years and she has never had any other sexual partners and I've been friends with my roommates for just under 10.

Guys, I am 22 yo trying to smash a 40 yo teacher of mine. She is giving off some signals, and my cock is exploding. Her body is turned towards me a lot during classes, she makes jokes with me and touches me. Also she is very feminine and definitely being submissive, it turns me on a lot.

Want to smash her so hard. How do I do? She mentioned she might come to one of the bars I am a regular at. But there is nothing set.

>>18097382

I don't really see it

>>18097387
I don't have nough knoledge to answer directly.
But I am a dude and have a lesbian friend. Like, a really good friend that is.
On some ocasions we used to just hug and sleep like this, and there was nothing sexual meant on my part. I guess I would do so even if I had a gf, if only she had nothing against it.

>>18097387
Are you sure he's gay? Even if he is, that's not okay at all.

>>18097432
I mean, since I've known him yeah, he has said in the past that he was interested in "trying" a girl. Idk, I'm more worried about my gf's side of things? Like, if I have to cut a friend from my life, no biggie. But I was intending to spend my life with this girl.

>>18097371
well, vagina and penis are also but pieces of skin. We get turned on by them simply because of evolved preferrence as it leads to sex and reproduction.
So you either have the wiring inside you, that makes you enjoy it or not, nothing to explain here

>>18097432
>>18097431
They've stayed up and had dm's before and it hasn't bothered me much, it's just I got that weird feeling like when you interrupt something and they seemed kinda jumpy (letting go if eachothers hand).

>>18097441
>letting go if eachothers hand
that might have been because of you. Maybe you looked angry for a moment, while you looked at her hand and she got scared. So possibly just reflex.

also,
> if I have to cut a friend from my life, no biggie.
you don't seem like a kind person, you know

>>18097432
>Not okay at all
Can you elabourate? I mean we've all been friends for a long time, and I clearly agree but I don't want to be maybe overthinking this? Could there be more to it than just holding hands?

>>18097448
I guess I seem a little calous. But that could just be how I'm feeling rn. They were in a sortof shed/rumpus room we have in our back yard, so I peered in from maybe ten metres away and was probably looking scared desu. I was worries because she usually comes ti bed much earlier and this friend has been known to make bad choices, drugs driving UTI etc.

Grills, is this a brush off or am I still in clear for next week?

Context: Already have made out (2 weeks ago) haven't talked since

>Some bs previous conversation inserted here

>Me: Let's chill soon, whats your schedule like this week?

>Her: Yea! I actually have my birthday this weekend and all my friends are coming to town and staying with me so I won't be free until like Monday

Just want a second opinion so I can adjust

>>18097460
DUI, Imean..

>>18097449
Yes, we all know how those things can escalate.

>>18097467
Do you think she's intending to or does she really think it's harmless?
Femanons please.

Girls but either I guess:

How do I become more confidant?

Let me clarify: I've been seeing this girl for a bit, we had a date on Valentine's Day, I (finally) kissed her, we went out again yesterday and... I just couldn't kiss her for some reason.

So how can I be better at just going for it? I really want her to know that I want to be more than friends (or have I just screwed up forever).

>>18097474
And that kiss on Valentine's took a lot of me psyching myself up. I wanna streamline that process.

>>18097474
Anon here, you just have to go for it, maybe ask her out again?
Personal mantras work if you actually want ti try and impyrive though, tell yourself things in the mirror, self affirmation is very powerful.

>>18097472
You know that masculine fantasy of 'converting' a lesbian? Some women have that too. You are getting emotionally cucked at the least.

>>18097474
Find an environment you are comfortable in and in which you can seem like a guy knows his way around it. You can't be confident all the time, everywhere.

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>>18097489
Thanks, had a chuckle.
Y.. You're not.. Are you serious?

>>18097489
Also, I don't get that urge.

>>18097507
>((Some)) women.

>>18097501
Yes. And she might not consider cheating herself because it's just spooning and he's gay, but for me it is.

>>18097448
>>18097432
>>18097431
You guys are really helpful, thank you.
I just want you to know I appreciate your help.

>>18097460
that's the problem with /adv/ *you* know her for seven fucking years, then you refer in just two or three lines an event, that in fact would need half of a book written to be understood well.

I'm not saying I'm right. Just giving you a counterexample, proving you may be both endangered or not

>>18097512
>>18097507
>>18097501
>>18097497
>>18097518
See
>>18097495

>p-pls I'm gonna get banned for this

>>18097518
No, you're completely right.
I wish I could pour my heart out, my life story here or even talk to a close friend, but all of my close friends are pretty close knit in this group.
Feels kinda unfair to bring it up with them y'know?

>>18097516
Femanon or?

>>18097526
Man. I had a gay acquaintance (friend of a friend and word got around) who was seduced by a girl once and he did fuck her and enjoyed it. He turned bi after that.

>>18097512
>>18097507
I'm a guy, I meant that as in "I don't understand that feeling".
Sorry if I was unclear.
>>18097521
Also, that 17 yo anon is not me. I am 24 and my gf is 25.

>>18097525
yeah, I know that feel. I have some problems myself, I just can't find a right person to answer. Speak if you like, the anonymous always wishes to listen

>>18097540
Like you said, it'd take a whole book to convey. I'm always happy to help if you need to talk though.

Male here, thoughts?

5'7" and a forth, 145 pounds

Recently turned 18

>>18097537
Coule you count that under bad experience though?
But I could definitely expect him to be bi, but not for her to initiate it?
She's quite timid on the most part.

>>18097546
Try /soc/, kid.

I stared at a girl for a few minutes and then she stared at me for 20 minutes straight. What was this? She didn't stop staring until I left, but it was like she had no discomfort when I couldn't even look back at her. What does it mean?

>>18097546
I think you have misunderstood the purpose of this thread, possibly this entire board.

>>18097546
>>18097549
Or maybe /fit/? 145 lbs?

>>18097545
Thanks. But I don't think anybody who doesn't know me in person would be able to answer me. And I wouldn't even know where to begin. Guess we're on the same boat in a sense

>>18097548
>but not for her to initiate it?

You have a lot to learn about women then. This flirting and touching an so on is like food to then.

>>18097555
some memes simply never get old

>>18097555
them*

>>18097550
Should have talk to to her, you moron. How old are you?

>>18097553
Hopefully we both find what we need. I find sometimes an outsiders view can spark some self awareness or even provide clarity though.
Just a thought.

>>18097559
>Should have talk to to her, you moron. How old are you?
19 but she was like 25 and it was at the doctors office

>>18097558
What do you mean?

>>18097558
>>18097555
Yeah, I feel like this is a pretty bad sterotype, though I can't say I know much about women's psyche.
We're truly different creatures.

>>18097550
>>18097566
Maybe she was messing with you?
Don't think too much into it, the moments gone now anyway.

Whats the best app right now for meeting girls and such

>>18097568
It's not a stereotype (women do need, much more than us men, this emotional affection and contact, ask any femanon here) and it's not bad, I can tell by your posts you are not very savvy about the feminine nature.

>>18096861
Anybody?

>>18097576
Well it wasn't a flirtatious stare, it was just an expressionless straight stare, head facing towards me for 20 minutes. I looked at her sexually though

>>18097567
>>18097568
Yes I mean it is a stereotype. In a sense, that it's saying "all x are z and no y are z" it's untrue, obviously. Some women indeed work just like you said, some don't. Some men do (And I would know, I'm one of them), some don't. So simplifying it like this is pretty unjust in my opinion

>>18097591
Yeah mate, everyone is a special snowflake. I think saying all men have balls is unjust as well.

>>18097578
Honestly, I feel like I offer a lot of affection/attention.
What can I do to make sure she is happy?

>>18097590
>be me
>be femanon
>be so shy that nobody ever talks to me
>start 50+ threads a week on /adv/ asking how to change it
>see this guy
>he stares at me
>start a thread using my phone asking what it means
>the answer comes quickly, together with advice: "stare back, it will show him you're interested"
> follow the advice
>stare at him for full 20 minutes. Never done this before, feel nervous
>he just walk away
fml

>>18097595
>>18097591
This argument isn't going to help me resolve my question anyway, so let's assume she is one of these girls. What can I do? Should I be worried?

>>18097603
do you have/plan having children?

>>18097597
To be begin with, don't put her on a pedestal, like something that needs to be pleased to fulfillment. You have to be the emotional anchor of the relationship, specially long term, when do you act affectionate towards her it has to be natural and bilateral.

>>18097608
Have plans, but none yet.

I'm a 22 year old college senior and I'm tired of being alone. I have tons of friends and stuff, but I really have found it difficult to find a girl I really enjoy being with that also likes me back.

Not really sure what to do, tried online but I always become disinterested

>>18097611
emotional anchor = not needy and clingy and not depending on her for any kind of validation, i.e. having your shit together

>>18097603
Not much you can do besides talk to her about your worries. Be upfront about it and tell her she should stop it (or not).

>>18097611
I act affectionate whenever I am, I think of coming home to her after work and I'm affectionate then, I think of her when I leave work and I'm affectionate then. I still ask her out on dates, I text her on my lunch breaks, we cuddle and watch tv shows together, we just sit together. I don't think of her like a fulfillment metre to fill, I really don't. I enjoy spending time with her, I love her and always will.

>>18097612
our biology is generally set so that couples who cannot have children dissociate. It's the only way to reproduce if you never cheat on the partner and the children never come. It's beyond reason, just hormones and stuff. So yes, in this case I would be worried, but just a bit.

Fuck her hard and impregnate the shit out of her

>>18097617
I'm always upfront, it's hard sometimes to verbalise how I feel but I do my best.

I always try to talk to her about things when I'm uncomfortable with them. I asked her as soon as she came ti bed.
"What were you two doing" she said music and talking I said I felt weird about it and she reassured me he was gay, and I asked her if that wouldnt look weird ti her and she said no. I think she finds it hard ti talk to me face to face.

To both
And here's what you need to know first.

>gf's family is religious as fuck
>brothers don't know I exist for obvious reasons
>this made going out or even seeing each other quite difficult and stressful, especially for her

So what happened today
>she says I never propose any activity outside of my apartment when she spends the week-end
>we've had activities before, and the mental gymnastics, paranoia and lies we have to endure every time we go out has made it difficult to enjoy the activity itself
>I tell her that stress and the risk of being seen pretty much convinced it's not a good idea to go out
>she gets mad. Won't reply anymore
>says she doesn't want to talk to me anymore
>I ask why
>replies she doesn't want to have to explain herself every time she's mad, and I should figure the reasons out by myself.

What do?

>>18097627
I understand the baser instincts. And she knows I want to. But one we're not financially secure and two wouldn't building a house on a rocky foundation be a recipe for disaster?

>>18097630
You could be more upfront imo.

>I don't like you to have been cuddling with another man, it doesn't matter if he's gay and I think you should stop it

>>18097551
>asking someone how potentially attractive you are has nothing to do with advice
Okay

>>18097635
Okay, I'll be more clear. You're right.

how do I find a girl? I've tried online and I don't have enough confidence to try pickup at bars and such

>>18097634
they have this saying
"damned if you do and damned if you don't"
Maybe it will be very hard, but it may - just may - be the only thing you can do.
It's evolutionary psychology. She is getting older, so not having children is wasting precious time for her. It may be the first symptom that she starts to dissociate, and you won't be able to stop it with your words.
And people living in complete povery have children, so it's not like money castrates you or something

>>18097639
If you're not a controlling or overly jealous bf (so she thinks those assertions have no meaning) she won't dismiss you, trust me.

>>18097645
>trust me, I'm a person from the internet

>>18097645
I feel like sometimes I can come off as jealous or untrusting though? I try not to, I want to trust her, it's just some situations get me overthinking. Should I maybe work on that? I realise it's an unnatractive quality.

>>18097643
have you tried /s/?

>>18097650
So is everyone here, I guess we can dismiss everything that has been said here since the beginning.

>>18097651
If she feels any insecurity in your words (or in your person, at all) it won't work. I guess you're screwed.

>>18097656
>>18097650
I think it was just a joke, helped ti lighten the mood a bit. Thanks anon.

>>18097651
Oh god, I mean, I can smell your insecurity from thousand of miles away, so she certainly won't listen to you, forget it. Work on your life before asking for fidelity from a girl.

>>18097663
Ok.

>>18097651
It may go both ways. some jelaousy is good, as it shows you are interested in the other person. More is bad, for it feels like you are controlling them. You have the experience with her, we don't

>>18097656
sorry. I always laugh when somebody here tells the others to trust them. And by the way, we are actually dissmissing it. Just check our bright, shiny disclaimer

>>18097661
Thanks, I chuckled. Guess I'm fucked. Might aswell pop a baby in her like anon reckons. I truly am thankful to all of you.
I'm pretty level headed and I feel I have a lot to think about. I'll have to have a good talk with my gf and really convey how I feel, I may be back with news.
If anyone has anything more to add, I'll be casually checking back. Going into work now, long day ahead.

Truly, thank you.

>>18097671
wellcome, bro.
don't screw up

>>18097669
It was just a manner of speaking, I'm a non-native so I inevitably say some things without even thinking about it.

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Is the no chest hair meme just a weeb thing?

>>18097677
Having a flat stomach like that guy should be higher in your priorities.

>>18097671
Godspeed, and remember to never depend on your gf for anything. It should be other way around.

>>18097677
Go browse /fit/, they're a helpful bunch when not sipping or BRAPing..

>>18097677
No, there's plenty of women who appreciate a hairless man (or one without chest hair at least).

>>18097677
It feels kinda pedoish to be with a guy with no chest hair!

Girls, and what point of the relationship would you have to be to NOT find it weird if your boyfriend tells you he has fapped thinking about you?

>>18097704
What about stomach hair?

>>18097677
Not a girl, but in my experience, girls don´t mind hairy bodies if the guy keeps himself clean.

>>18097709

After we've started having sex it's fine.

>>18097709
Honestly I'd be hugely disappointed if a guy who liked me enough to make me his girlfriend had never masturbated to me.

It's hard to say something universal, for whatever reason a tiny minority of women finds this very concept strange, but I'm pretty confident in saying most women would rather agree with me that it's expected and flattering.

>>18097384
I like when my girls kissed my chest or caresses the back of my head.

So ive talked to this girl a couple times in the past week or so, i made smalltalk with her before this but we had a nice conversation the other day. I like this girl and wanna ask her our but i dont know how to go about it, I dont wanna sound like an idiot or anything. I've never asked a girl out before, is there any advice i could take with me before I ask her, We dont have any classes together, not even the same major, but i do see her around often. There is some other guys around too, so I wanna do it soon. Shes 19 and im 22.

>>18097755
Just go for it dude, if she already likes you fumbling over your words might even amplify the experience for her.

Girls: If you are attracted to a guy who often talks to other girls but you have an idea he likes you, is that a turn off? Does it aggravate you that he may be speaking to someone else?

it's wierd. If I want to get laid in general but can't that's fine but when I get it in my head that I want it with a specific person it just drives me insane. How can i cope with this

>>18097768
If it's literally interacting, then no. Sure it gives me a healthy little dose of jealousy to see someone I desire also connect with other (single?) girls, but obviously if I like someone it won't be surprising to me that other girls might also find him pleasant.

If he is actually dating other girls, or keeping a FWB on the side up until anything's official, then yes it turns me off and I move my attention elsewhere.

>>18097771
Distract yourself. Find something to do. Preferably something physical. Go for a walk.

>>18097772
>claims to be a woman online
>expects me to not think they are a troll
Don't you have better things to do then pretending to be a woman on the Internet?

A question for girls: What's you opinion on pubes (both on yourself and men)?

>>18097777
>claims to be a woman online
>expects me to not think they are a troll
That's indeed the premise of the thread.

Not sure if you are just shitposting or seriously implying that it's remarkable that a woman would spend time on here in this day and age. Look through the feed, there's some threads with a female OP even.

>>18097778
LOVE them on men. I guess if he really could not stand to not shave himself, I would learn to live with it, but it would seriously turn me off to fuck a man without pubes. It's just part of the package. Not to mention I love the happy trail and it's odd as fuck when they don't lead to antyhing.
No trimming either. It doesn't have the same shadow-y look and feels terrible against your skin as they don't have the tapered natural endings.

I am not willing to go bald. It's a hassle but most of all it just makes me feel so unsexy, like both a pornstar and a plucked chicken. I don't dislike my vulva but I don't want to stare at all the details of its design either, thanks.
I'd be willing to keep it trimmed (not supershort though, not so short I'll have the same sight pretty much) or just clean up the bikini area if my partner wanted me to. But having some pubes is non-negotiable. Luckily I'm European and it is less controversial here to have some bodyhair.

>>18097774
>tfw live in canada and is cold af out

But yeah I see your point

>>18097786
>I am not willing to go bald. It's a hassle but most of all it just makes me feel so unsexy, like both a pornstar and a plucked chicken.

God bless you femanon.

>>18097786
This kind of posts always make me smile, I am insecure as fuck, so it always feels good to see that women actually like somethings we men get worried about.

Thanks femanons, your posts help me a lot.

>>18097824
I'm willing to expand. Not only is bodyhair a sign of (sexual) maturity and testosterone, it also draws instant visual attention to the crotch region. Like the whole penis is cupped by this natural highlighter marking the good spot. Nothing like seeing the happy trail of a man you know naked and knowing what exactly it divulges into underneath his pants.
That and if he's clean, the bush traps natural scent in an amazing way. If I go down on someone I want to smell his dick, not just skin and whatever bodywash he uses.

Just try to keep in mind that you can never truly capture your own personal appeal the way an outsider can. Believe me, girls also nitpick on their bodies (hell, I know girls who don't take off their bra even when they go to bed - which is pretty damn uncomfortable - just because they get depressed seeing their tits and feeling they aren't perky or big enough, or the nipples are too big etc) which you would never believe if you saw them walking around. No other choice but to try to build yourself up.

>>18097782
Look, all I'm sayin I'd that Kek clearly sides with me on this one

Femanons.
Is it shameful to ask a female coworker if a coworker I have a crush on has a boyfriend or not?

I'm not scared to show my interest to a confident worker, I just want to:

1- Know if I will look insecure
2- How I will be considered by my friend.

Can I even request her to find out?

>>18097836
>I know girls who don't take off their bra even when they go to bed - which is pretty damn uncomfortable - just because they get depressed seeing their tits and feeling they aren't perky or big enough, or the nipples are too big etc

Yeah, something like that happens to me with my penis, I don´t even like to look down when I pee because is small, not micropenis level, but still below average, I actually shave my pubes just to make it look bigger.

>>18097843
Don't. Try to play it differently and ask her in a playful (but not mocking/fake) way if you think you have a shot with her. If she asks you whether you're serious, tell her something like "yeah sure, not like I'm really invested but she's a cool person, she caught my eye", basically making it clear that you want a real answer and that you're not harboring some deep infatuation for her.

She will absolutely tell you if she does have a boyfriend and it's less weird than straight up asking if she's free to make a move on.

>>18097849
You should groom however makes you feel most comfortable, that's pretty much the #1 goal of doing anything about your appearance beyond acknowledging social norms.
Having said that, I don't want to act like your insecurity is unfound but please try to be aware of just how much porn etc skews your idea of what a normal dick is. (Or, for that matter, how much jackhammering with a huge penis satisfies a woman sexually.) Women also have vaginas that vary in depth and width like most body parts do. Yeah they all get deeper with arousal but they don't wind up being the same size (like men don't, despite all getting bigger). Average (5"-5.5") is average because it adequately services most women. Being a bit below average doesn't mean you are destined to be with a woman who would ideally want more, in the end it's about how bodies fit together more than anything else. (And this is still talking technical piv, not everything else making up a sex life, or a romance relationship.)

>>18097853

Are you really a girl? Because as a guy I can tell you that's making a move. If he likes her, it will show.

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Anyone can answer this question, but how would I approach asking out a shy oriental woman who works a family store?

The fact I am shy is one thing, the fact I am white is another. I see her entire family on a constant basis. I don't know her relationship status or her age (good vocabulary, works solo selling tobacco/lotto) so I assume shes an adult...but being asian makes me worry.

Also I feel if she's not interested things will go south in terms of my business relationship with the family. At the same time I don't want to never know what could have happened.

I assume I have to get to know her more and be subtle say invite her to a group event rather than directly asking her out. How would you approach this?

>>18097862
>try to be aware of just how much porn etc skews your idea of what a normal dick is

Well, mine is 12 cm (about 4.7 inches), so yeah, I am small.

And yes, I know there is more important things than that for a woman, but is still an insecurity that´s hard to overcome.

>>18097866
I think I wrote it too quickly, I meant he should ask his female friend about her in a broader way than simply asking straight up if she's single. Not that he should say this to the coworker.

>>18097867

Dating is Attraction + Opportunity. DO you have either?

1) Is she attracted to you?

or

2) Do you share common spaces to chill and hang out?

The fact that it could hurt your business could be enough to tell you "Don't do it". As I'm sure you will answer "I don't know" and "no" to the questions above, I will say "Don't do it" right now:

Don't do it.

>>18097875

I wouldn't tell a guy friend to do that, but at least that makes more sense that what I read at first.

>>18097870
Actually that's marginally below average, not "small".

But I do understand the insecurity and that will largely only pass with time passing and positive experiences. My point however was not so much that women can "overlook" it, but rather that the whole idea that every woman wants it big is simply not true. Or rather I guess, every woman wants to be filled up but what it takes for her to feel like that (and how much becomes too much) is personal. Guys like to think that women somehow stretch endlessly as long as you do foreplay or lube them up. The vagina is very much finite and big guys will habitually not be able to go balls deep.

>>18097878
Well at the end of the day if he asks her out, it'll be clear right away whether she's single and has interest. But if he does want to ask someone else for input, it's a lot better to me to express general interest than to essentially ask if she's free to make a move on and nothing else.

But maybe it's just the middle school associations that bug me with that.

>>18097886
>But maybe it's just the middle school associations that bug me with that.

That's why I'd tell him not to do it. And she will her from her friend anyway, so it's not like you can hide it for long.

We broke up
A month ago

And she's being saying awful things about me
And I say nothing about her

Feels bad man :(

>>18097853
Why I shouldn't try it that way?

Be assured Idon't care about exposing my interest unless its gonna make me look like a pussy.

>>18097895
Actually I'm counting on that.
If she knows I have interest either she will try to invite me in some way to talk to her or she will on the contrary be distant in which case I'll be set.

>>18097944

Then just ask her out. Why not?

>>18097951
Because I think she has a BF?
Because this is work and I'd like to keep a stable relationship with my coworkers?

>>18097971

What's the differnece between she finding out through a friend or through you, though? Any problems you might have would be the same, dude.

>>18097977
If she doesn't through me she just thinks I am an inoffensive faggot and no awkward situation will result as an outcome.

>>18097985

Really? ust because you aren't there for the awkwardness doesn't mean it won't happen. You are still a co-worker that's interested in her and not man enough to actually say it to her face. Do you really expect no fallout from this?

>>18097991
No.

>>18097994

So you think nothing bad can happen if you just ask through a friend? Are you in High School by any chance?

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Hey girls I got one for you. What if a guy you kind of knew from high school contacted you in a friendly manner after over a decade would you be suspicious, scared of being raped, creeped out or would you be pleasantly surprised and reply back? Also, said guy is not hot.

>>18097637
You have a better shot of getting responses on >>>/soc/ where you can post pictures and get accurate responses.

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Does anyone find this eyebrow trend attractive or do you just deal with it?

>>18098153

I've never seen anyone with eyebrows like this before. Is this a trend?

>>18098153
Little too high.

And this comes from a guy who actually fancies bushy eyebrows in a girl.

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>>18098153
I am a girl with naturally Thick eyebrows and I never got why all the sudden women want to make their eyebrows super thick.

>>18098005
Maybe he just wants to hang out with people he didn't see in a long time and catch back?
Actually I thought of doing so with one my hs friends but scared of what memory is left of me in his mind.

>>18098167
because yours are disgusting and shapeless

>>18098167
They look fine to me.

>>18098178
Thanks

>>18098167
Because unlike what popular opinion says, it gives a natural look that some guys(like me) find hell of attractive.

>>18098167
your eyebrows are average, if not thin, but I'm glad you got some attention.

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I mean like this, does anyone find this attractive

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>>18098194
This is a natural eyebrow.
I think it has some shape but I don't like artificial arches or like pic posted above ... too much for me. It isn't a trend I understand too well but it's become very popular lately.

>>18098153
This is a bit too much.

>>18098153
>>18098201
I don't like the look. It's too big.

>>18098201
The person (man or woman) ism't attractive to begin with.

>>18098201
disgusting

>>18098206
I wish I could show you a picture of my mother in her youth.(maybe thats why I like it)
Girls can be cute looking with natural or thick eyebrows not even kidding.

>meet girl through friend, hit it off wonderfully
>long story short, friend is a sociopath who fucks with is severely
>manipulates her into seeing someone else
>we both find out, she drops him after catching him in a lie
>we both leave campus for winter break, a month passes, i dont know that she's stopped seeing the other guy
>break ends, ask her if she wants to hang out, she tells me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore

?????
Its been like 6 weeks, we had an argument where we said really shitty things to each other.
Is there any way for me to convince her it'd be nice for us to genuinely get to know each other like we could have?
Shes special and we had a great connection.

>>18098263
Ship has sailed dude.

>>18098263
>Is there any way for me to convince her it'd be nice for us to genuinely get to know each other like we could have?

>>Last conversation was you having an argument where you unloaded on her

Nope.
Just move on and stop telling yourself she's special. She's not, she's one of hundreds. From your perspective the only special one should be (You)

Guys,

What's it like to do 69?

>>18098497
why, fantastic. Though in fact both of you can have more pleasure from taking turns instead

>>18098201
too cold

>>18098471
>>18098496
That's about what I've been trying to accept. I think about her more intensely than I want to, though, even when I'm with other girls.

What gets me is that she actively denied having feelings for me before, which I accepted at face value, so her telling me that she didn't have feelings for me anymore was surprising.

I apologized for being hurtful and she understood toxic and destructive the manipulation was for both of us, where I was coming from, etc...

I dunno, im not pursuing her romantically, i just don't like that we were robbed of agency by a mutual friend we trusted.

>get rejected

>go full retard and put her on a pedestal, make my life goal to try and impress/win her over

>it actually works, she seems to have caught feels

>cold shoulder her for nearly 2 years anyway because im a prideful retard despite being crazy for her

so ive written that off, but how the fuck do you not get nervous when you're infatuated with someone? literally impossible

>>18096624
>>18098291

For girls: how do you guys get laid? I am sure you guys get an itch every once in a while, and flicking the bean by yourself just doesn't cut it sometimes.

>be me
>8-9/10 face
>4/10 body cuz fat but dress well to cover it
>6'0 240
>still trying to work up courage to talk to qt but average looking girl in my HIS class
>make eye contact a lot, sometimes look over and she's looking at me
>can talk to other girls fine who would be considered way hotter
>people seem to like my personality

Why the fuck can't I just approach this girl like a normal person?

I feel like I'm going to say something stupid and ruin it. UGH she's so cute!

What do femanons?

>>18098544
Pedestaling a girl is a fucking meme.
Its when you place her so high you think she is well better than you are worth for her.

But this is bs because you don't necessarily control who you want and not falling for the oneitis is literally impossible, I can't think of any way a guy can avoid this shit.
Even if you get tons of girls and you are targeting the one that resists you, you start developing this cancer.

I described much more about it in my own thread >>18097140

Btw anybody that can help cure this shit, I'd appreciate it.

Girlfriend apparently broke up with me. Her cousin (who hates me) told him. Nothing was going wrong, but she's a distance away. I'm certain she wouldn't cheat or anything.

Could the cousin be lying? Why would someone suddenly do this, let alone not personally?

>>18098633
facts are that you don't want to be with someone that trust others over you in the first place.
If the only thing it took for her to dump you was for someone else to tell, you are better off without her.

>>18098680
I don't know what caused it. Apparently she's getting in touch "next week" so I'll find out then I suppose

>>18098685
doesn't matter man.
She's treating you like a disposable tampon, I wouldn't even bother talking to her anymore.

Girl I used to work with just randomly asked me if I smoke weed. What should I say? I don't smoke.

>>18098693
But we literally never had an issue like this ever. It's just so outta nowhere. I'm convinced her cousin is lying.

>>18098699
Be honest. Say: no I don't smoke, why do you want to smoke some together? ;)

Guys generally like me and I get along with a lot of people really well, but for some reason whenever I try to date or even just befriend a girl they always treat me horribly. Mostly blowing up over small things, manipulation, and just cutting contact for no reason.

Why is this?

>>18098773
Because you're befriending shitty girls.

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>>18098582
>pic related.

>>18098773
all women are like that.

>>18098780
How do I find a not shitty one then?

>>18098556
If you're ugly, you struggle the same as men do. I know from personal experience lol. I couldn't even get an ons until I bumped myself above a 5.

If you're moderately attractive, yeah, getting sex can be much easier than our male counterpart. But, you gotta keep in mind that most women's sex drives are different from men. On average, we just don't want it as much as you, and usually toys do the job just fine.
But you're right, even the most repressed chicks get the urge for human contact. So it's kind of the same process. You hit up tinder, you go to the bar, you contact some friends.
Sometimes you'll win, other times you'll flop. The process is really the same as men, but the win/flop ratio might be a little different.

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>>18098016
>accurate responses
>soc
pick one kek.

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>>18098153
Is the Groucho Marx look cool now?

>>18097387
It's me again, I talked ti my gf about it. I was stern and clear, she said okay, I wont do it. But she was defensive about it all, I didn't know ehat ti say after that, ahe juat said nothing was going to happen, it's not like that between us.
Then she gave me the "you don't trust me" "do you really think i'd do that spiel". What do I do? I feel like I'm in a deeper hole.

Manon here
I have never actually tried dating and I don't know how to start. Wat do

Thought I'd post this here for any of the anons who were helping me earlier. I need you all again.

>>>18097387
It's me again, I talked ti my gf about it. I was stern and clear, she said okay, I wont do it. But she was defensive about it all, I didn't know ehat ti say after that, ahe juat said nothing was going to happen, it's not like that between us.
Then she gave me the "you don't trust me" "do you really think i'd do that spiel". What do I do? I feel like I'm in a deeper hole

>>18098852
Tfw you can't do anything right.

>>18098852
Is English not your first langauage? You use "ti" instead "to" a lot.

Anyone, based on what you've said about the gay roommate "maybe wanting to try a girl", them being up late for deep meaningfuls and them holding hands and cuddling and shit then immediately stopping when they see you AND then her being all defensive about it later really doesn't look good.

Honestly you have every right to be suspicious as fuck of what's going on here.

>>18098848
The best way to meet people is through mutual interest. Easiest way of doing that is mutual friends. These will create the strongest most effective and happy relationships.
Harder will be joining special interest groups/clubs,
After that through work/school.

Last ditch effort, you're going to bars or using online dating to attempt to make a connection with some rando you know nothing about and have no guarantee you have a lick in common with until you've wasted at least a day or two talking.


If your goal is long term, just remember that they're called your girlFRIEND for a reason. You should be looking for new friends first and foremost, and just allowing that relationship to grow into something more, or accept when it doesn't. Worse case, you've got yourself a lot of new friends. Win win.

>>18098861
>Is English not your first langauage? You use "ti" instead "to" a lot.
He probably just has fat fingers

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>>18098861
Typo, sorry. Thanks, is there anyway to know for sure?

>>18097114
Maybe he got tired of your fucking whining and expected you to become stronger with his support but you didn't so now he's at the point where he doesn't feel like coddling you anymore.

>>18098869
Fat thumb, actaully.
>Inb4 mobile users are ruining 4chin

>>18098871
Well not really besides catching them doing more weird shit like cuddling up on the couch. What you need to put down is that it doesn't matter if he's gay or not, cuddling and a lot of what they do is not okay.

>>18098875
That's exactly how I feel, I just really wanted a femanon's opinion, desu? I want to know if it's just me being a guy and insecure?

>>18098862
>Easiest way of doing that is mutual friends.
Man I see this all the time, but my only real friend is like the polar opposite of me, and I'm never interested in her friends for the same reasons I'm not into her that way. Trying to find a club on meetup but it seems like it's mostly for single moms and swingers around here.

>>18098862
Thanks anon, this is actual good advice. I have fee friends, so I should probably fix that first

>>18098882
It's not about gender, it's literally about her being affectionate with someone else and doing things that are usually what you'd do with someone you're interested in. Even if it was with a girl instead of a gay guy, it would be a little weird to be up at fucking 5am cuddling on a couch and holding hands.

Females

Do you notice differences between virgins and non-virgins? Like is there something "off" or autistic about them?

>>18098890
Thank you. You've put a lot of this into a wider perspective.

>>18098893
No, but I usually have a hunch if a guy is a virgin or not.

>>18098890
>Even if it was with a girl instead of a gay guy, it would be a little weird to be up at fucking 5am cuddling on a couch and holding hands.
if this is whats going on with that "gay but possibly interested in women" guy then this anon needs to shut this shit down asap.

>>18098884
Then your goal would be to make more friends first.

>>18098893
The only difference is if they have that obvious complex about it that makes them feel the need to tell me/warn me about how they're not going to put any effort into it because they've already resolved themselves to be terrible at it.

If a dude never says anything and just acts semiconfident, then I'd never even know.

>>18098896
>usually have a hunch if a guy is a virgin or not.
What?

>>18098897
What more can I di though?
I spoke to her and she shrugged me off as insecure.
I'm planning on talking ti him when I get a chance aswell...

>>18098911
What part of that don't you understand?

>>18098920

What's the hunch?

>>18098896
my gf didn't know I was virgin, and I had only been with two girls before her and all of them said I kissed well. I guess it varies.

To women, what constitutes a good kiss?

>>18099212

Have you asked her though? She might know and not have said anything.

>>18099319
Yes I asked her. She is usually brutally honest about this things.
>you know, the first time I met you I didn't want to date you, you were nervous and very weird
>I'm happy I pushed through that and we managed to get so well
>your first kiss was horrid, but when you calmed down I discovered you are actually a good kisser

>>18099325

How was your first time? Most girls can usually tell virgin guys when they try and have sex.

>>18099329
Mine? Was terrible. She had said before that my dick was kinda thick, I never got any problems with it before and I'm not well versed in dicks so never gave it a thought. I bought a normal condom, shit was tight as hell, had trouble putting it on and couldn't fuck her well because it was so tight it made having a erection difficult. Plus her mom arrived a few minutes later. (I had an apartment at the time but we were at her house). She was understanding and we joke about it now and then.

>>18099435
But she knew I was a virgin, because I told her so. She said that because I didn't looked ,kissed or acted like a virgin, whatever that may be for her.