Long story short: Finally had a date with an older guy in my

>>18096181
He's obviously a turbofaggot
or
you're pig ugly

>>18096190
He's not gay, but I am not the best looking. That being said, thanks for the non-advice.

>>18096181
There is a possibility that he is interested in you for a relationship or something and just doesn't want to fuck it up into a 1 night type of thing. But Honestly everyone is different and weird, so you gotta ask him the questions. Not much help is gonna come from here with so little info.

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>tfw have literally had 3 girls ghost me because I didn't want to have sex on the first date because I'm still a virgin and I've realized that I just get too nervous for it to possibly work with someone I don't know well
I don't understand this and it's beginning to make me sad because I'm so fucking lonely

>>18096181
Maybe he just plain out meant what he said?
Jesus christ, women. Men aren't fuck machines. And that's not even the most important thing in a relationship.
Also body contact with someone you barely know can be wierd and uncomfortable. If you kissed and hugged a lot of times before sex is almost natural. If you go out and have sex on the first date it's awkward and unnecessary.
Don't rush things. He's not your fucking dildo.

>>18096220
What else would be important?
>>18096262
We've known each other for close to a year. I've tried touching him before, but he never responded, so excuse me for getting a little excited that maybe he doesn't find me disgusting.

>>18096181
>preppy girl and him being the bad boy
You're in bschool but your post reads like high school. Disgraceful.

>>18096206
Some guys really like the chase, its alot more fun if he convinces you to take your shirt off

>>18096181
I'm sure he knows you fuck all the guys first time you are alone with them and you just confirmed.

Your guess is as good as ours. Better, probably, since you have more information. There's a ton of possibilities
>he's scared of intimacy
>he doesn't find you attractive
>he thinks sleeping with girls on the first date is degrading (or something)
>he thought you're too nervous and didn't want it to be awkward
>he was too nervous and didn't want to make it awkward
>he wasn't in the mood because he masturbated 5 times that day
>he hadn't washed in 3 days and his junk smelled

Point is, there are a million reasons why he could have reacted like that, not only you scaring him. Obsessing over it is pointless, better just take his words at face value and try again later.

>How do I tell when I'm visibly nervous?
Do you feel nervous? If not then you're probably not visibly nervous. If you do feel nervous think about how you acted, what you said and try to imagine your face expressions. Does it look nervous to you?

Contrary to what you might believe people can't always tell how nervous you are, especially if they're nervous themselves. Unless you make it obvious they'll most likely be too self-absorbed to notice. And they probably won't obsess over it later to figure out if you were nervous or not.

>>18096220
this most likely.

OP, when a guy wants to treat you with respect, and genuinely wants something with you, he doesn't act out on desperation, he really wants to appreciate every moment with you, and not force anything.

Let me explain it from my perspective. A few weeks ago I fell hard as hell for a girl, crushing like a dog. But I kept it inside, for reasons. The day before, or before that, I was just jacking off to the thought of random girls at the same event. But when I ran into her, something changed... I even stopped masturbating to orgasm for a long time till very recently.. it's like she warped my brain.. i was smitten with her in every way I love to fall for a woman, and it's super rare. I wanted to dance with her.. cuddle with her.. and yes, even make love to her, but if I did just that on the first day, I would cheapen myself, and her... and it's just not the kind of thing you wanna do when you wish so badly something amazing came of it, something potentially lifelong.. versus something that would just kill what I feel..

I don't wanna fuck her, as badly as I wish I could transmit my attraction to her.. and it was a lot stronger than some bullshit one night stand, which I don't do.