I am trying to improve my life in the relationship sector. I come to you guys because I just need help figuring out manageable ways to reach my goals. I will list my goals and you guys maybe list some effective ways of reaching them ?
Goal 1: meet a new woman and get her name and number.
That one seems hard to me because I don't go out to bars and I have very male dominated hobbies.
Goal 2: kiss a girl that actually likes me back.
This goal may seem easy to some but I have not even shared a kiss with a woman yet.
Goal 3: make new female friends
This goal is more or less to help me get acclimated to being around women.
These are my current goals. Can someone lend guidance?
>>18095212
id recommend making your goals about what you do and not how people react. otherwise you'll be aiming for the lowest hanging fruit you can get.
instead of goals that require someone else to have a specific reaction, just put yourself in the situation that could ellicit that reaction.
you can't guarantee someone will like you, and even if you could it doesn't mean she'd be a good girl. crossing that off your list would feel empty and being unable to cross that off your list makes you feel like you failed at something that isn't even an accomplishable task.
>>18095307
I see.. I had not thought of it that way.
>>18095619
it helps. make a goal to go out X number of times a week and while there to just talk to Y amount of people. regardless of where it leads you'll know you put yourself out there.
>>18095631
thats where it gets tough man. I am super concerned about being creepy. I don't want the only reason for me to be going somewhere is to troll around for women.
However, I honestly don't really go anywhere where women would be UNLESS I go there specifically to troll around for women. Its hard.
>>18095653
thats why i said people and not women.
regardless, you're going just to talk to women/people so why pretend otherwise, its just putting pressure on yourself.
anyone who finds you creepy doesn't have to interact with you ever again. no consequences.