Uncertainty

>>18094422

What country do you live in?

International travel has been a big thing for keeping me motivated. I haven't celebrated any holidays in years, I have no relationship with my family, I have no girlfriend. Career wise I have a decent paying job and I just made a switch to go on a new career track that I am very passionate about. But even still, I feel very bored in my life. The only thing that keeps me going is I'll take a vacation by myself overseas every year which completely clears my head. I'm going to northern France in June, it seems too far away and it's hard to think about it now. But I know once I'm there and even once I come back home, I'll feel refreshed

>>18094447
I live in England not too far from London.

Travelling has always been a big part of my life, and in the past was always the biggest thing I looked forward too - and at the risk of sounding ungrateful, but all the travelling I was taken on with my family and the trips I have gone on with friends has meant that travelling has become neutral to me alongside everything else, which I would say is one of the biggest things contributing to my problem

However I have not tried travelling alone - and it is definitely something I will look into

What do you hope to achieve in your life? What goals do you have? The best cure for what you're feeling is having goals and working towards them - it's extremely satisfying and self fulfilling

>>18094476

Traveling alone is totally different. Because it's really just you. No pressure to do anything. Literally you can do whatever you want whenever you want. Plus, your mind is more active because you have to figure everything out yourself without relying on someone else. So it's actually a really interesting experience

>>18094480

Unfortunately another part of the problem, I have no real aspirations of interests. My numbness to things extends to not feeling particularly interested in anything. I have complete indifference to everything ranging from politics to sport, I just don't FEEL particularly inclined to anything and that becomes a problem in terms of motivation.

However a goal of mine which I could start actively pursuing is to run a business of my own, but that brings me back to the problem of what area I would go into as again.. No interests

>>18094422
I feel the same way, along the road i realize what i really wanted is what i have already. I am married for 2 yrs already and it feels like i accomplished all i want, i am happy with it, happy but also empty.
I recently found that things you do on a daily basis can be revisited next time as a challenge and you treat these things like a game. You'll have to agree that everyone likes to play games.

>>18094487

I'll definitely look into a weekend away on my own - a good suggestion thank you very much

>>18094507

An interesting approach, I'll try to see some of the things I do daily as more of a task to be completed and hopefully that will help

>>18094422
Life is long and unpredictable. Things will change in ways you can't anticipate, and it will never be the same. You don't have to think about 20 years down the line, bc not only is your life is going to be totally different by then, but you'll be a totally different person, too.

When looking too far in the future is daunting, the best thing to do is focus only on today. How can you live the best you can today? Be the most loving? Help the most people? Challenge fear? Be more honest? If you spend your life anxious about the future and not focusing on today, time will slip away and you'll do the whole 'never started to live' shtick.

>>18094599

A very good point and a good outlook on it - I can only agree with you as recently I've been seeing photos of myself when I was younger (from 6 months ago to 6 years ago) and reliving a lot of memories and it really feels as if that was a completely different person, so I could only wonder what things will be like in 20 years, if I am so lucky as to live that long.

Focusing on today is a good idea and I will definitely keep that in mind and see where that gets me. Thank you