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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, that guy who says monogamy is dead and fart guy
Fuck off
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>>18092138
Girls,
Where do you draw the line on feeling responsible for your partner?
I feel like the past years i sacrificed a lot and broke a sweat everyday for my relationship to work out and moving together and such, i am at a point where i honestly believe she would not have tried this hard for me though.
On the way there i feel like i accidentally picked up the responsibility for her life and i am feeling quite pressured about it since she always comes at me full force with all her problems.
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>>18092162
Really difficult to give a standard answer for because so much depends on the variables. Is he making me responsible just because he cannot step up and take his own responsibilities? Or is he simply prevented from it by life circumstances (like getting sick)? Has he shown or do I trust him to bare the same devotion towards me if necessary? Or does it feel like it's always about his needs? How much do I love this man? How much do I empathize with his issues - or do I feel like he caused them with his own irresponsibility/immaturity? How much acknowledgement and appreciation do they show me for picking up their stuff?

You get the idea. It is obvious that in your situation, it went too far and it feels lopsided.
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Girls, or even guys doesn't matter

I do not feel in love.

I have been in this relationship for a bit more than a year. It has been nothing but great. Spending any kind time together is always fun, we work things out easily, amazing sex, communicate well, we work together so easily, and similar interests and morals.

She loves me but I do not have that feeling, even from the above and that I do care about her, see a future with her. I have been in love before but I just do have that feeling this time, I feel like I should, and I do not think it is fair to her.

Basically I do not know what to do and I need some advice or ideas on what I should do.
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>>18092194
Honestly I don't think you can salvage this after being together for a year. Chances are she would not want to stay with you if she knew this, and the longer you stay the more attached she gets to you.

I think it's time to buckle up and tell her that this... while being prepared for a break up being ahead.
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>>18092170
Alright thanks.
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How bad is it if a girl has no friends, and have weird hobbies? Not a shut in just generally weird.
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>>18092216
Well, if you can't interact with her through her hobbies or cannot go out with her without friends it's pretty bad. The worst kind of girl is the one who only sits on her phone and takes online shit way too serious.
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>>18092138
girls,
are a movie, coffee, and dinner at denny's good for first dates, or are they terrible?
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>>18092237
No movie, unless you already know each other or you're super awkward. You want to talk on your first date.
I usually prefer coffee over dinner.
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>>18092233
But where goes the line between interesting girl and weird girl, especially with the no friends bit?
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I literally cannot cum during sex . I dont know why. Is there anything a girl could maybe do to help me actually cum
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>>18092254
What do you do to make yourself cum? Can a girl do that?
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>>18092256
Well i guess ive fapped a weird way my whole life. I kind of rub the tip my dick on my underwear by pushing and stroking it over my underwear. I think she could yeah its just a little odd in a way
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>>18092216
no friends is the weirdest part desu. can't the weird hobbies make you meet people?
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My night out with the boys consists of me drinking a six pack with a headset on playing competitive video games with my online team.

Is that a turn off for most girls?
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>>18092162
I don't know if I'm the right person to answer that, because I personally have my shit together. If my partner was a manchild, that's actually a dealbreaker for me so I don't even know if I'd ever have to 'be responsible' for my partner

>>18092194
If you're not in love after a year, then I don't think it's fair on her for you to stay in this relationship.

>>18092237
That's fine, though maybe change the dinner location. Nothing wrong with a movie if you plan to go coffee -> movie -> dinner ->maybe drinks.

>>18092280
There are worse ways you could spend time with your friends. That said, I'd be a little concerned if all your friends were online friends
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>>18092299
Not all are online, just the ones I like to hang out with.

Sure I invite real friends over for football games, and working on cars.
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>>18092310
That's not a problem at all then.
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>>18092280
>>18092310
No big deal unless you are the type who goes insane with the screaming and cursing people out while gaming and expects me to be okay with being around that.
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>>18092280

I once dated a guy like this. It was all fine and dandy until he started to pick his "guys' nights out" over doing anything with me, because it was easy and he didn't even have to leave the house. The loneliest fucking relationship I've been in.
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>>18092310
I wouldn't mind that but it'd depend on the vidya. I couldn't live with myself if my boyfriend was a casual
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>>18092341
What do you think is casual?
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>>18092348
Mostly everything I dislike.
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>>18092341
You're the casual
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Can I, as a man, use my looks to compensate for my social skills? If so, how?
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>>18092364
If your social skills are that bad, no. No one can use their looks to compensate for a severe lack of social skills
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>>18092364
Not really, no. You will benefit from it in the sense that you might have girls show way more interest in getting to know you, or interest in a one night stand, than warranted based on how you present yourself socially. But it won't compensate in the long haul, women don't care enough about just the looks for that. It's a smaller part of male sex appeal than it is for women.
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>>18092364

Say little and look pretty. Instead of awkward you'll appear mysterious and that increases your attractiveness.
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>>18092216
>no friends
You probably have at least a few friends, but you're too aloof to realize it.
>weird hobbies
Be specific
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>>18092381
I have friends but they all live far away and I rarely see them anymore. My weird hobbies are outdoorsy stuff, survivalism, primitivism, stuff like that.
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>>18092196
>>18092299
Thank you both
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I'm having a hard time making friends. I'm a married 25 year old woman without kids. Most of the friends I had wanted to sleep with me, or they're getting married and we don't have anything in common anymore. The worst is the parents with children. We're not planning on having children.

Is there anything I can do besides join a meetup or yoga class? Should I just become more active in discord chats, or something?
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>>18092470
How did you lose all your girl friends on the way?
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>>18092194
I don't really have any advice, but I figured I'd let you know that I've been in practically the same situation as you.

We ended up separating, there wasn't any drama to speak of either.
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>>18092477
They're baby crazy. I was friends with mostly guys to begin with, before I realized they just wanted me as a GF.
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>>18092489
>they're getting married and we don't have anything in common anymore
>They're baby crazy.
You must have had some pretty shallow friendships if these are legitimate reasons you don't have friends
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If I, as a 24-year-old guy, get called 'cute' a lot, is that a bad thing?
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>>18092509
people are finding you attractive
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>>18092493
Yeah, they were pretty shallow friendships from High School. I'm looking for some deeper relationships with friends at this point.
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>>18092513
It's not like that, though. It's not like I get told it to my face but people tend to just mutter it under their breath sort of, it's hard to explain but not directly to me but more at me, if that makes sense. I don't know, makes me feel weird
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Been on and off with this girl in my social circle. We hit it off great but she has this one friend that influences her pretty good. I don't like her and have told her off a few times before for dumb shit she's done so in turn she poisoned what was going on with this girl and I.

I really don't have a filter sometimes but I'm the type who doesn't back down easily

Finally called it off completely. Another girl in the group texted me saying that "you deserve better anyway".

Does she know something I don't? Or that this girl was just giving me the run around? I'm unsure how to take it?
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>tfw i will never be this guy
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>>18092536
Either she knows something you don't, she's hitting on you, or she's just trying to be comforting.
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>>18092536
>you deserve better anyway
someone like her
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Guys, genuinely curious,
What's the deal with (unsolicited) dick pics? Like, what's the thought process there? Never in my life would it occur to me to send a stranger photos of my genitals, even if I were very proud of them for some absurd reason.
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>>18092562
Can't really answer that sinceI have never sent a dick pic to anyone
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Why do girls beliece in horoscopes? I got dumped because, according to her own words, she doesn't do scorpios and I'm apparently expressing all scorpio qualities.
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>>18092562
Guys tend to think that if you see a picture of our dicks you'll get turned on and want to have sex with us, mostly because it's what we would do if a girl ever sent a picture like that to us.
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>>18092584
find a girl that isnt that basic
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>>18092584
I think we discussed that a few threads ago. tl;dr, keep well away from crazy people.

>>18092585
Yeah but has anything in the history of male-female interaction ever led guys to believe that we instantly want to jump on whoever first shows us their junk? If that were the case, why don't we see men whipping it out in the streets by the dozens?
I just don't understand how guys can possibly think because they're online, suddenly girls would like getting bombarded by dicks.
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Both, I guess

What should I make of it when a young, female teacher (PHD-student) at my university is making long and excessive eye contact with me several times during each of her classes?

I'm early 20s, she's mid-late 20s
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>>18092593
>they think their dick is big
>big dicks make women go crazy in porn
>my own big dick(true r not) is pretty juicy
>that woman online must think it's juicy too
>if I show my big juicy dick to her she'll want to suck it
that's the thought process in most cases
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>>18092598
fuck her, but make sure your performance is A+
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>>18092604
So basically just retardation, okay.
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>>18092613
well yeah it's a retarded conclusion, but they'd send nip picks if women considered male nipples hot

not saying you find a ranfom dick Rasheed Namhaputra sent you hot, but it's really the only sendable body part of the male body
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>>18092623
I don't think so at all, personally. Abs or butt would definitely be a much better idea than dicks.
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>>18092623
no your muscles
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>>18092635
>implying an average dickpic sender has well defined abs or a good well defined manass
>>18092637
>implying an average dickpic sender has well defined muscles
>implying that even if he did have a toned body, he can capture its erotic beauty in a pic well enough to make you moist downstairs
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>>18092644
Fair enough, but if he's lacking in both artistic vision (to appear attractive) and actual attractive attributes, how much would one have to love his own dick to think it alone could convince anyone otherwise?
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for girls

ok, so one of my coworkers is very touchy feely with me, and she gets giggly when i act the same way towards her. yesterday during my shift, we were goofing around and things started to escalate a bit to the point where we were almost wrestling eachother

is this good or bad? she'll randomly bump her butt into my thigh when she passes me

also, would it be weird to add her on snapchat? she shows up in my "add friends" thing, but she hasn't added me yet so i'm not sure if she'd want me to.
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>>18092662
well to me personally it's kind of absurd to love your cock so much you think it's huge and that t hypnotizes anyone who sees ut into sucking it but it's the only cock you will ever get so might as well love your cock

you can see counterexamples to this unwarranted self-love on this board all the time where guys don't even want to have sex since they think their 5 incher is tiny and no one would ever want to suck it
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>>18092677
Yeah, so in summary straight guys spend way too much time thinking about dicks.
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>>18092674
adding people on snapchat is never not weird
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>>18092680
no they spend a lot of time worrying about their own dick which they perceive smaller than others because of porn and offhanded comments by "townbike" type women. I don't really care anymore because it's on the bigger side but it took time to realize it. In my past I thought my cock was a thin dicklet even though it hurt my partner at the time.
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>>18092674
from what you say might as well, seems into you
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Kinda late to reply, but if she is still here, I want to thank >>18088228 for her reply, I understand better now.
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>>18092717
>>18092697
so she might be weirded out, but in a good way?
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>>18092729
she might want to lock her thighs on to the sides of your head when you wrestle the next time if you do it
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>>18092729
i dont think she would be weirded out
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Girls, do you think you would risk your life for the man you love?

I know women in love are willing to do lot of effort for their man (like, when an old woman takes care of her dying husband until the end not matter how hard it gets, for example), but it seems that going as far as to put your life on the line is something that is almost always a one way street.

I am not accusing nobody of anything, I am just saying what my current perception is, and want to know what you think.
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When she compliments the size of my dick, should I believe her?
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>>18092789
No, be objective and measure your cock.
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>>18092789
Not a girl, but if she says that, even if she is lying she is saying it because she loves you and wants you to feel good about yourself, so I wouldn´t worry either way.
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>>18092796
Well, and how would I know which is the right size?
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>>18092392
Those are cool hobbies though. Maybe not the most feminine, but neat
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>>18092804
Right size for what?
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>>18092804
You measure length when fully erect, from the base, where it connects to your body. You measure circumference by wrapping one of those flexible rolls of tape measure around the thickest part of the shaft. Measure width by measuring across the top at the thickest part.
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>>18092375
I wouldn't go so far as to say severe, but I'm definitely no social butterfly
>>18092375
>interest in a one night stand, than warranted based on how you present yourself socially.
Is this why the women who approach me seem to only want to have sex with me?
>>18092379
I am generally quiet an a bit of a natural stoic already
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Both I guess?

Ever since I was a kid, I haven't been with a girl all my life.
Like for example, before you say, "Have you even tried?" Yes, I have, many, but mostly they all gave up on me. I don't know what to do, or what. Like none of them come up to me, I am a very nice person, and mostly quiet and not like a chad type of person that you see. I do get /fit/, and workout. But still, doesn't do anything. I do not know what they want, or anything. And yes, I am a kissless virgin.
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>>18092884
>Like none of them come up to me
Women will never pursue, you need to get this femdom fantasy out of your head.

>but mostly they all gave up on me
What does this mean?
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>>18092889
>Women will never pursue, you need to get this femdom fantasy out of your head.
Well shit.

>What does this mean?
Like they get into, and then just get bored and just leave.
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>>18092891
>Well shit.
You actually didn't realise this?

>Like they get into, and then just get bored and just leave.
That's because you don't fucking do anything, you moron.
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>>18092899
Thanks for the advice
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>>18092789
You should know that she wants you to feel good whether you believe her or not.
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>>18092884
They want confidence. You gotta approach, you gotta be happy with yourself first and foremost, and you gotta trust your gut. Women give up easy if they sense disinterest. If you're too shy, they'll think you're uninterested and move on. You gotta make a move when it feels right to you, and stop second guessing if you're misreading or moving too quickly. Relax, it's a lot easier than you're making it in your head I promise.
Will you flop from time to time? Yes. That is a given. It's going to happen, it's part of life. It's ok to flop every now and then. You have to fail in order to succeed. Don't get too hung up on rejection.
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>>18092777
I am not a girl, but the truth behind your suspicions come from cultural expectations, not the inner workings of the female brain. Plenty of women have died for their partner. Some have died *from* their partner, if you catch my drift...

Hey, I think your complaint boils down to "men are expected to be self-sacrificing and not complain about it in certain areas of a relationship." You are complaining, though. And you don't have to be self-sacrificing. How does it feel to stick it to the matriarchy?
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>>18092777
Probably. Because my whole life is basically centered around that specific form of love, I really don't have any reason to live if they're gone. But, saying such a thing is usually a red flag that scares them, so I keep it to myself.

Think about it this way though, most people won't directly risk their lives for anyone. We have a biological instinct to preserve ourselves.
The only thing thats somewhat common is parents risking their lives for their children. This bond is usually the only one that overrides your instinctual efforts to save yourself first.
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>>18092674
She wants to fug. Ask to see her outside of work
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Fellow guys and girls as well

Does this happen to you?

Sometimes I'll flirt with girls for a while, but it seems as soon as they start to saying affectionate things toward me like "I wish you'd be here to cuddle". It's like my mind turns off and I lose all interest. It happens everytime. I haven't touched a girl in 5 years because of this. It's not really a "problem" I guess, but it seems weird.
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>>18092674
She seems into you, but I would be very careful what you're doing at work mate.
You'll get yourself, her, or both of ya fired or in trouble if you're getting too handsy on the clock.
Add her on snapchat so you can get it all out of your system out of work. She's friendly enough so it's def not weird to add her
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>>18092933
You like the chase
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>>18092884
I know this is a shitty cliche advice but from personal experience, I've never tried being something different than what I am now and I've been in relationship for the past 4 years.

How old are you? Lost my v-card at 20s.
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>>18092943

Perhaps...

I mean, I'm no Chad. So it's not easy for me to meet cute girls. But even when I do meet a cute girl, as soon as she starts showing interest for me. All of my attraction toward her disappears instantly
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>>18092194
Love is not in the way you feel abput someone. It comes from acting toward your partner in a loving way...picking them up when they are down and forming a partnership where her needs matter just as much as yours. If you are not up to that, then you should leave your marriage. This happens sometimes. People rarely marry for the right reasons, and it's easy to feel trapped (fellow married anon here, but very much up to being loving toward my wife). Sit down with your wife and tell her that you are having doubts about the marriage. You will either survive them or split up, and both can be good outcomes.

p.s. How old are you? "I'm not in love anymore." is a common line used during a mid-life crisis.
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>>18092194
Anon, I think I read ypur question wrong snd assumed you were married. If you are not, just end the relationship. That is best for both of you, and you don't need to have a "good" reason. Any reason will do.
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>>18092364
Not really. Men are visual creatures, women are mental.
Men can see a hot chick and let some shit slide because she's hot.
Women though, will see an average-below looking guy but let it slide because he's got mad charm.

In a nutshell, the differences in male and female sexuality usually means women have to have more in the looks department, but men have to have more in the charisma department. Being a good looking guy doesn't do the same shit as being a good looking woman. Just like being a really charming lady doesn't do as much as being a charming dude.
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This question isn´t for any specific gender, but it is about differences between the genders.

Why do you think women are less likely to be non-religious than men? even though the 2 top main holy books in the world right now (bible and q, qur'an) treat women as second class humans? (which the followers of said religions may or may not follow)
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>>18092958
Not the anon you are quoting, but it kinda sucks that the most important assets each gender has (looks for women, charm for men) for getting mates is something you are born with, sure, you can improve them a little, but it´s mostly natural.

I guess that´s probably the one problem both genders have in regards to sex.
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>>18092970
Yeah, but that's life.
The bright side to both of those things, is that its subjective. What I find charming is not what my best friend finds charming.
One dude loves the thick girls, the other likes em holocaust skinny.
Etc.

So instead of thinking of it like "I was not born with something" Its more that "I was born with a different form of this, that statistically speaking I'm bound to run into a matching person eventually"


But, not that I want to start a war here, building confidence and charm is arguably easier than becoming "attractive". It's basically just acting. Yeah, some take to it better than others, I'm not a good actor myself, but you can train it much easier.
Sure, the most important factor in looks is not being fat, which is easy to fix. But there are also a lot of shit you cannot fix about your bod other than through surgery. Having a bad body shape, having large nipples, having large labia, having a bad jawline, and more, are things that you can't really do much about but also play pretty significant roles in being more "universally attractive".
Where as confidence, though it may be a hard long process, you can always continue to build upon if you work at it hard enough.
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>>18092978
>It's basically just acting

That´s correct, but that´s exactly the problem for some of us, I personally don´t feel good when I am pretending, I know most guys probably aren´t like that but I can´t help it, it just doesn´t feel right for me.

But yeah, I don´t want to start a war either, I really like these threads, don´t want to push anyone away.
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>>18092962
I'd need some sauce for that claim. I've never really noticed much of a difference in gender regarding faith.

But assuming this is true, I got one guess.
Most super religious parents POUND religion into their kids from birth. They ensure their children are going to follow their beliefs the same as they did. Because those beliefs make women out into being lesser beings, those lessons are probably going to be driven harder into their daughters than their sons, since the holy teachings tend to put more restrictions and consequences on women. Their sons will get it too, but not as hard, therefore they might have more of the self control to leave the religion if they want.
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>>18092987
>I'd need some sauce for that claim

http://www.pewforum.org/2016/03/22/the-gender-gap-in-religion-around-the-world/
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Girls

I'm 25 years old, never had a girlfriend before, but I'm about to get heavily invested in several parts of my life and I really can't afford any distractions. Would it be ok if I wait until I'm in my 30s to start dating?

Note that marriage and kids is not on my list of things to ever do. I just think female company would be nice
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>>18092962
Male
My guess would be that its the same reason you see more general conformity among women, its just safer in groups. And if your group agrees with you then how can you be wrong?
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>>18092984
Yeah, but then I revert back to
>different folks different strokes
Someone will like your certain breed of charm eventually if you just keep at it. There's billions of people on this planet. Yeah you won't meet all of them, but nearly everyone does. Might take time, but someone will like you.

But, I don't really see it as "pretending" myself. Like when I go to the gym to work on making my body more appealing, I don't feel like I'm pretending to be a hot chick. I'm just working on myself so I can be a hot chick eventually.
Same with building confidence. They say fake it till you make it for a reason. There's no reason to ever feel bad about "pretending" to be confident, because you eventually will be confident. I just see it as self improvement, and self improvement is always ok to do.
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>>18092991
Thanks for the sauce.

Still, only guess I got is what I said. Bible puts more focus on the wrongdoings of women, ergo they get it drilled into them more.
Like, you're far more likely to hear the "If you have premarital sex you will be a sinner and burn in hell for all eternity" speech given to a daughter than a son.
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>>18092993
Are you asking our permission to do these things? And regardless, I don't plan to wait around until 30 to find a partner, and I definitely do not want to wait until I'm in my mid-late 30s to start having children
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>>18093006

>are you asking for our permission to do these things?

Yes
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>>18093015
Do whatever the fuck you want, it's your life.
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For women


Short version.
What are your thoughts when a guy you broke up with deletes you off social media? Is it seen as immature or like he is trying to move on? I did it for my mental health.
Longer Story.
She ended things cause her school/work/family schedule didnt leave her any free time to be with someone. she said she had strong feelings for me and didnt want it to be the last time we saw of eachother. she started posting things on social media showing her studying, being busy, being with her family. I over analyzed it as her trying to show me she wasnt lying about her reasons for ending things 3 months ago. So I deleted her cause I miss her and didnt need that false hope since it couldve not been posted for me in the first place.
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>>18093017

Yeah, I just don't like getting judged. I work really hard to make myself as best as I can. I already have issues with self esteem, so when I get judged it makes me want to fix whatever the problem was.

Unfortunately, I get judged because I've never had a girlfriend, but getting married and kids is something I really don't want. So it's very confusing to me being told I'm "wrong" and wanting to fix whatever my problem is, except... the "problem" is something I sort of don't want to fix. It's really confusing for me
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>>18093018
Mmm, if it was a bad break up, I'd expect it.
But if I were still trying to be friends or something, I'd be sad but I would still understand.
Personally, almost every break up is a death sentence for friendship or maintaining any connection, so it's pretty understandable.
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>>18093039
Hmm ok thanks part of felt like she was too proud or stubborn to want to talk to me. but i'm most probably wrong since i over analyze every situation.
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>>18093047
Yeah, I mean I don't think most people would actually go out of their way to "prove" their lie like that.
She was probably being honest, you're just hurt and that's ok.
Take some time man.
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Girls, is the "I think we should just be friends" always just a nice way of saying "I think you are cool but I am not attracted to you" or have you actually ever been in a situation where you do feel attraction for a guy but you would rather have him as a friend?
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>>18093062
lol if they say they just want to be friends after you offered a relationship or whatever, no, they aren't into you man. That much is clear, otherwise they would have accepted.

I suppose there are extremely rare, specific circumstances where I'd turn a dude down that I really liked, such as, he lives across the world from me, but frankly I'd probably find it too difficult to be friends with someone I feel strongly for.
Too frustrating knowing you'll never have what you want.
But it'd basically have to be some situation where it is just physically impossible to be together.

99.99% of the time though, she's just not into you man, move on don't hold on hope of being that 0.01%.
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>>18092280
Nah.
My idea of a girls night out is lots of liquor and binge watching tv shows.
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>>18092379

This is exactly what I do. It attracts lots of women, but relationships fade because of my shitty social skills.
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>>18093071
I have actually never heard that from a woman, I have never really tried to get a gf, but I am asking because I was recently in a similar situation but from the other side of the fence.

I have this female friend that´s really hot (I have dedicated some faps to her) and we get along really well, last week I found out (from overhearing a conversation) that she finds me attractive, but then I realised that I don´t really see her as a potential gf since we have some key differences that would make a relationship impossible (to put an example, I am a degenerate atheist and she is a mormon that DOES takes her religion seriously, can be a cunt sometimes and she is always nice to everyone).

So I thought that maybe this is sometimes what´s behind the "I want you as a friend" that women give men so many times.
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Girls, what is the best way to maintain attraction through texting?
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>>18093098
Oh well, when you said attraction I wasn't thinking purely physical. I was thinking attraction all around.

Of course you can still be physically attracted to someone but not want a relationship. That's basically how fuck buddies are born
There's a dude I'm fooling around with with like, complete opposite political beliefs that make it impossible for me to imagine a future with him, but he's sexy as fuck so I have no issue being friends and fucking on the side.

It's just that I wouldn't be able to deal with someone who's that fundamentally different from me if it ever came down to like, raising kids and living together.
I can be friends just fine with anyone of any opinions or beliefs, but I can't imagine being a family with someone of the opposite end of me.
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I've talked to this girl a couple times and I like her, should I talk to her more or just ask her out. She's 19 and I'm 21.
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>>18093100
By making plans to meet in person because texting is the worst form of communication.
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>>18093111
Are these talks significant? And define a couple.
If these talks are longer than 15 minutes, and a "couple" is 3-4, then you're good. Ask to hang out and do something significant.
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>>18093117
We talked close to a half hour the other day
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How do I find a borderline autistic 4chan gf who is loyal and acts like an anime girl

I've been lifting for years and realised it just attracts shallow women....
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>>18093119
But this was the longest talk
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>>18093110
That´s exactly how I feel about my female friend, she is a very kind person and I would love to fuck her brains out, but I can´t imagine a live together with her, I am sure she is going to be a great mom someday but we would never agree on most important life decisions.

Maybe deep inside she is not as chaste as she looks like and I might have a chance to get her in bed haha.
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>>18092950
>>18092956
I'm not married btw and I'm 25, she is 26. But I do feel I am up to what you said, and it is what I do.
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>>18092962
Male

Women are more connected with their emotions. Faith feels good.
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>>18093119
>>18093124
If you feel like you've at least crossed over the "random acquaintance" line, then it's fine to ask to hang out. I would not phrase it as a date or anything just yet though. Just to hang out.
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>>18093125
Yeah, idk. Given she's religious I don't think you're gonna fuck her casually.
But whatever, you can certainly try.
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>>18093112

what if me and her are both busy all the time?we both like each other so I know for a fact she isn't making excuses.
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>>18093138
Interest will die eventually if it's only text based. It only goes so far.
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how do people with no friends or interesting hobbies meet other people? why do I keep trying to find answers for my loneliness on 4chan of all places?
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Girls, I know some girls actually like chubby guys, but what exactly do these girls find appealing on them? I have a hard time understanding that since fat actually "deforms" the male form.
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>>18093302
Actually chubby guys are fun to cuddle. The key is 'actually chubby' - that doesn't mean codeword for obese
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Genuinely curious - Do girls actually go off and do lesbian shit in college?
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Girls

Would you make fun of a guy if he came before even being have to penetrate you?
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>>18093215
getting interesting hobbies.
>Ok how do I do that?
Try them. Literally anything, no matter how much you think you won't like something. Try it at least once (twice if you're serious about fixing this problem) before you can it and move onto the next thing
>Yeah anon but what about all my other excuses-
can it and do it anyway.

>why do I keep trying to find answers for my loneliness on 4chan of all places?
because this place is both a cesspool and a warm inviting home all at the same time. I truly believe 4chan is some magical place because it can somehow be both the best and worst place on earth all at the same time.
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Girls,

A girl forced herself on me when she was drunk and i pushed her away multiple times. I stayed with her because I wanted to make sure she would be okay on the way home.

She messaged me the next day saying that I took advantage of her and has blocked me on everything.

What the fuck is her problem, and how much trouble can i get into? Keep in mind, I initiated nothing.
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>>18093308
Not really, that's just a porno fantasy.I'm not gonna say no girl has ever experimented in college, but it is in no way the majority or a common practice. If anything, the "experimentation" is in other kinks, such as group sex, casual sex, other fetishy stuff.
The only girl I ever knew to "experiment" in college was actually just a real closet lesbian and admittedly used that line as an excuse, but she had always known she liked women.
>>18093335
Nah. Hell I wouldn't even be disappointed, I'd consider it a score for me. Don't have to put up with the part of sex I hate and get nothing out of anyway.

But I'm probably not the majority.

Overall though, just knowing human beings, I don't think any girl would actually make fun of you. Because that's an awkward situation for both parties. You moreso, I'll give, but she's probably gonna feel awkward too and is likely not going to call attention to that awkwardness by making fun of you.
Will she be disappointed? Maybe, but shit happens. Just make sure you go down and/or make her cum regardless. That's just the polite thing to do.
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>>18093381
I mean, I'm assuming you never let her get penetrated by you, so you're fine morally.

Legally you're probably fine too, since she won't have any evidence of something that never happened.

Socially is where you get fucked. She might tell all her friends about you and shit, who will then in turn likely side with her blah blah blah. But who gives a fuck. If these people mattered they would hear you out.

All you can do is tell your side of the story if asked. Otherwise I would just ignore it and move on.
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>>18093381
you're fucked, leave the country
you WILL be wrongfully imprisoned
goto Russia where they will not give a fuck, plus you get to be part of a country whose musical traditions include accordions, which is cool
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>>18093391
The republicans are in office now mate, he's fine.
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What do i text my girlfriend of 3 weeks about? We usually see each others on weekends, as she lives about 40 minutes away. We've exhausted most of the conversation topics (favorite music, food, shit like that). We snapchat daily, and if something interesting happens we talk about that, but if it's just a regular day, we don't text at all. I guess what I'm asking for is a couple good conversation starters for couples
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>>18093392

Yeah!

We are tired of this Politically Correct shit!
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>>18093388
Essentially this. As long as he didn't sleep with her, he's absolutely fine. Just to drive the point home too, he should offer to even take a lie detector test and everything.

Either way he's socially damaged though. There's no way to recover from this.
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>>18093062
yes I'm in that situation right now, i was more attracted to him before i heard him speak

he's nice but he's a god damn dweeb. I wish he could be chill like all he normie guys i know but all his responses has to be long winded reddit tier remarks. his personality comes off as contrived to me, he's super fucking sensitive and passive aggressive. trys way too hard to be witty but comes off as a sarcastic unfunny asshole 80% of the time.

at this point i only like him cause he likes me
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>>18093399
>Lie detector
Nooooo no sweet anon. Those things have very little scientific merit and are usually thrown out in court for that reason. Taking one is pointless in the first place (provided anon even had remote need of even going that far, because he doesn't), but would likely just be incriminating if it gave false results (like they often do.)
>T. daughter of a lawyer who raised me on all the tricks of the law and how not to get fucked by it.
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>>18093399
>>18093406
And also, its not like his social life is inherently ruined. Not all of these cases end up like the mattress girl. Most likely, as I said, he'll have a small pack of people who are closer friends with the cunt who hate his guts, but who gives a fuck. His real friends will trust him, and any rational minded person worth being friends with who might have heard the story will be willing to hear his side of it all and pass their own judgement.
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Anyone else noticed how girls on 4chan are so much more friendly and understanding than irl?
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>>18093411
He'll have trouble meeting new people though if she spreads shit around, especially dating anyone who doesn't know him well.
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>>18093412
its cuz they're men
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There's this girl I met who I have feelings for. But she seems to act normal around other people, and awkward and shy around me. I don't understand what this means, and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. What do you think it is?
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>>18093412
It's probably just more that we all have a lot in common. We're all faggots who have similar taste and problems, that's why we all congregate here. We're nicer because we can relate to you, or have been in your shoes.
I think even most nonchan dudes would probably be meaner to you irl as well, just because they don't understand you the way we do.

But also, to a smaller degree, it's probably because the types of girls who congregate here tend to have more masculine traits. Speaking for myself, I have a masculine sense of humor, I have more masculine hobbies. I get along with men in general more so than women.
So I can talk with you guys pretty easily, because I think like you.
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>>18093420
Speak for yourself, I am nothing like the guys here. I just like helping people.
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>>18093413
ahem,
>any rational minded person worth being friends with who might have heard the story will be willing to hear his side of it all and pass their own judgement.

I know if I caught a story like that my first instinct is always "Well did you go to the cops with your evidence and are awaiting the trial?"
"W-well no! But-"
"So you have no proof this happened"
"WELL YEAH BU-"
"Ok, I'm not going to take your word for it. I won't necessarily take his either, but I'm definitely going to hear his side of it all and see which makes more sense to me"


Though 2bh I am far more likely to side with the dude on these cases because I don't give a fuck, if you were actually raped and you're crying about being "too scared" to go to the cops then fuck you. If you were actually raped you'd go to the fucking cops. If you won't then you dont get the right to whine about it.
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>>18093423
Idk how you think you're going to help people when you have no idea what they're going through is like then.

Like, am I a raging robot REEing at all women?
fucking of course not.
Do I understand their frustration of being constantly rejected and plummeted self worth because of it? Hell yeah. I went through it too and was able to build myself up a little. Therefore I can help them by giving them one example of a process of dealing with it, in order to see if that might work for them too.
In the end though, you can only ever help someone who wants to be helped.
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>>18093431
Who said I don't know what it's like? I said I'm not like them, not that I've never been like them.
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>>18093427
A lot of people wouldn't ask those questions. Plus there's simple word of mouth, even if nobody talked to her directly, it would be "hey did you hear about what anon did to femanon?" and that's just it. They wouldn't do any follow up on the story, they'd just avoid him in the future.
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Tried this on my own thread: no responses

Hey /adv/ straight faggot here.
My gf recently got interested in being dominated. I've been into that shit for years, so I know how to keep up my end of things.
Problem is, I've only ever done that type of stuff with women who were already experienced in such ventures. My GF was a virgin before I met her, and while she seems naturally talented at blowing me, we haven't tried deepthroat yet.
I figure I could probably teach her about most everything involved in domination stuff, but I can't really give her advice on deepthroating other than 'relax your throat'.
I really don't want her to bite my dick off or get turned off to this kind of thing cuz of a bad experience.

Any femanons or gays who can give me some advice to share with her, or tips on what I can do to make it easier on her?
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>>18093438
Ah, well, same difference. We know the feels, we've just recovered more.

Idk, I still like around 80% of the people I meet on 4chins. Lots of chill people around here. I'm not ashamed to say I'm like them.
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>>18093444
Well, again
>any rational minded person worth being friends
>worth being friends with.

If someone too much of a sheep to think for themselves, why the fuck would you want to be friends with that?
As far as I'm concerned, nothing of value was lost. Chick did him a favor by weeding out the morons.
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This isn't really worth starting a whole new thread for and maybe guys and girls will have diff answers but how often should you wash fitted sheets? I see online says you should change your sheets every week or two weeks. I assume it means the flat sheet so what about the fitted sheet?
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>>18093457
Whenever I do the rest of my bedding, which honestly is hardly ever because I'm single and gross I guess. Once a month at best, unless it smells or I spilled something on it.
And by I, I really mean my roommates asshole cat who likes to dump my drinks off my headboard because shes a cat and that's what they do.
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>>18093419
Are you retarded?
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>be 5'10
>women at 5'4" or below find me amazing
This is common, right? For some reason, short women are openly attracted to me, even if I'm uninterested.

Also, what's a definition of sexual tension? Someone said that me a girl have it, but when I asked them to define it and provide evidence they just responded with "you two obviously need to bone." Masters level student right there.
The only thing I can think of is we might act slightly out of the norm around each other. I feel I don't, but she seems to. She does seem to go quiet and stupid around me, but I'd rather chalk that up to being scary and stinky.
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>>18093457
Once a week, in a load with all the rest of my laundry.
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>>18093469
Probably desu.
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>>18093457
Be careful with a manufacturer recommendation on washing that frequently, especially if it's a cheap set. You'll just wear it out. If your bed is under a window or other UV source (because obviously you're using a tanning lamp in bed), leave your sheets pulled back and in the sun for an hour or so each day. Or all day, just ebware of fading.
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>>18093396
A-anyone
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>>18093471
sexual tension is when your flirt hard as fuck but you're both to retarded/scared to make a direct proposition
PROPOSITION HER
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>>18093462
>>18093478

With the way my bed is oriented it's a pain in the ass to put the fitted sheets on. I was hoping I could do it less frequently.
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Girls

How do you feel about guys who visit sex workers?
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>>18093495
Ask her some thought provoking questions. Google is your friend. Plus it can help you find out early on if she's crazy or she's long term material. Also just try doing stuff together. Make memories so you guys have something to talk about.
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>>18093498
I can work with that definition. I don't flirt with her at all, she seems like a mess.

>>18093396
Make up hypothetical bullshit (What do you think of penguins as a pet?)
How often do you text now?
Why do you feel you need to text more?
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>>18093511
I had a similar thing, chick wanted me,
she was hot but i din't like her
dont do it!
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anyone here purposely not text back as a test to find out if people are too clingy/needy if they double triple text back etc?
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>>18093493
Thanks for the advice. Ya it's a cheap set. I got them when I was a brokeass student and they don't have any washing recommendations in terms of frequency. I figured I'd wait until they ripped to get new sheets but I'm also trying to find the right balance between not overwashing my sheets, maintaining that hygiene and satisfying my laziness.
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>>18093516
Nah I can sense clingy from a mile away. It's pretty obvious just from the wording, density and frequency of their messages. It's kinda dick move cos you might end up not replying to people that aren't clingy but want an answer.
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>>18093419
can someone help me here?
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>>18093532
That's usually a sign a girl likes you, you aspie.
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>>18093532
Define her "normal."
Does she find ways to be around you or is it the other way around?
Why would she like you?
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>>18093471
For women 5'4 and below, around your height is kind of perfect. You'll hit in all the right places when hugging and fucking and shit.
>>18093501
It's a turn off for me personally.
>>18093516
No but I might not text back because I'm thinking the same thing.
"He'd gonna think I'm too clingy if I respond too quickly"

Though my advice is if someone's not responding then move on.
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>>18093538
O-oh...
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>>18093542
She's usually a lot more talkative around her mutual friends, whereas she's quiet and harder to talk to when we're alone.
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>>18093510
Thanks for the reply anon. You think you can lob me a thought provoking question, just to get a feel? I don't wanna look at some bullshit buzzfeed article or something
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Just out of curiosity,
Do you get your tinder match's number before or after the first date?

I typically like to wait until after because well, it's easier/less awkward to cut contact if the date goes poorly. But I know a lot of guys ask for mine almost immediately.
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>>18093545
>For women 5'4 and below, around your height is kind of perfect. You'll hit in all the right places when hugging and fucking and shit.
Is that really the first thought when examining a man's height? Or maybe a better way to phrase the question: do women really look at height first and with that mentality?
>>18093554
Assume she has no way to start a conversation with you. Break the ice and use those reactions (does she laugh too much, does she not want to talk at all).
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Why is it that girls get away with a lot more creepier shit than guys? I mean, if I bumped into all the girls who rejected me with my shoulder, I'd probably be in jail by now.
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>>18093559
Would you fuck a goat and have no one know or not fuck a goat and have everyone think you did?

Kek jokes aside stuff like what historical event would you like to see in person, if you were chosen to colonize a new planet what's this new planet like, who's best girl (and obv you have to reply your waifu is trash), etc.
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Women: what's your dream in life?
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>>18093572
Physical diff in sexes. A guy can do a lot more physical harm to a girl than vice versa should he choose to escalate it.
Inb4 women can hurt men too.


>>18093567
Not my first thought but height is taken into consideration. The reason varies for people not just girls. I mean some girls are like midgets but want a 6 ft + guy. Like how is that comfortable at all when fucking? Idk but that's their fetish.
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>>18093567
Idk it's what I think of.
But I've dated/been with dudes of varying heights. I dated a guy around my same height and it was just kinda awkward fitting our body parts together. Then I dated a dude who was like, super tall. Like a foot and then some taller than me. Dude almost had to bend over like I was a child to hug me. Some sex positions were basically impossible too.

So I think around 5'10 is pretty good. Tall enough I can rest my head in his chest when we hug or when he holds me. Short enough for everything to fit into place too.

Can't say thats the appeal of height for all women though, or thats why they like it.
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>>18093584
To be married to a loving husbando I can devote myself to making happy.
>like that will ever happen.
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>>18093457
Depends on how much you care about acne.
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>>18093567
>>18093595
A good rule of thumb for maximum comfort is around 6 inches height diff I think give or take an inch or two. Once you start getting to 9-10 inches it starts to get into armrest territory. I wouldn't decline a guy shorter or taller than that if I liked everything else about him but ya if I check out a dude he's most likely gonna be in the 15cm range.
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>>18093599
if you're white, come to germany so we can repopulate the the white race
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>>18093584
Date a kawaii haafu
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>>18093601
I haven't seen a diff so far between washing every two weeks and every few months but it's nice to have a clean bed.
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>>18093613
kek I was just in Germany in December on a school trip.
Some dude in a helmet came yelling at us in German, which between our limited German and him switching to broken English we deduced he was not happy about us Americans invading his homeland.

Meanwhile we just stood there like
"Why the fuck is this guy wearing a helmet on the subway?"

So that was fun I guess lol.
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for girls:

a girl i'm like has started being pretty open with me. it's mostly about family and work related stuff, but still. i think she likes me, but i'm too scared to ask her out.

anyway, the other day she was venting to me about her problems and said she was glad she had someone to talk to, then said something along the lines of "too bad i'm gonna be alone forever" or something of the sort.

i've sort of opened up to her, but i'm still hesitant to say anything about how i feel or be more upfront in asking her out rather than asking her to hang out.

i don't know. Would you vent to someone you were interested in? I'm so confused. I like her and don't want her to feel bad, but I"m also worried she's just using me as someone to complain to.

it's weird, but part of me is ok with being just friends since i like talking to her and spending time with her, but another part of me wants to ask her out..

:'(
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why do men only view women as something to fuck/not fuck instead of as actual people? considering men ripping on the suffrage women in white today for being "weird" and ugly, do all men think like this? do men only address women's concerns if it means women will like them and therefore fuck them?
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>>18093645
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>>18093645
No, I thought the opposite. Women only see men as objects literally to fuck and fight wars, but I guess both ways. And there are women who are seen as inferior to men in old societies, that's fucked up
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How do you get over someone you like? Inb4 ask them out
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>>18093648
but that also is a mindset that dehumanizes women, since there are plenty of women that want to fight for their country/not fuck every guy they see, but are hated for it. if you see any news that's about women, it's about how they look, who they're dating and if they're pregnant, but there is nothing like this for men in the news. so why do you think like this?
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>>18093645
Women will do the same thing to men when it comes to gender warfare. Look at criticism of any MRAs or MGTOW, it's generally not directed at their arguments.

It's human nature to dehumanize opponents, more than anything. Easiest way to do that is sexual objectification in a lot of cases.
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>>18092536
Just a guess, but the girl who texted "you deserve better" wants to get with you. Your relationship with the ither girl is over. Dwelking on it won't help.
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>>18092538
Yes you will.
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>>18093667
You can't complain about every small thing, women have it bad for more brutal reasons but not because of things like what I said, especially when men are treated the same way over the same animalistic or sexual reasons.

I think
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>>18092598
Don't make anything of it. If you are interested in her and single, then ask her out.
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>>18092884
I lostmy virginity late in life, so let me give you some words of wisdom: it is extremely hard for most guys to find a willing partner. You seem to be at the point where you think that there is something wrong with you. There is not.

You will have sex by pursuing the kinds of relationships that lead to sex. If you need specific dating advice, I really like the book "Models." You need to start by answering this question: who is attracted to me and what I have to offer. I'm not female, but I'd urge you to talk to someone who is so that you can get honest feedback on how women perceive you. People here may call you a whiner, but your problems are actually quite common. You deserve to be happy, anon...but making yourself happy is no one else's job. It's your job.
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>>18092933
If you want to touch girls, then it's a problem. You may have something going on that would best be treated by a counselor or therapist. This is keeping you from living the life you want, so don't be afraid to get help.
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>>18092962
Having a role that requires you to subordinate yourself to someone else does not make you a "second class citizen" unless you are so uncomfortable with the role that you refuse to accept it. That applies to both men and women.
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>>18093675
Personally, my issue with MGTOWs is their hypocracy- saying they don't want anything to do with women (fine, most of them are probably thoroughly unpleasant or potential abusers anyway) and then spending all of their time spewing legitimate misogyny online.
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>>18092970
I think you have got it wrong, so I want to throw this out there. The principle for what each gender finds attractive is applied evenly across both genders, but in opposite ways: size matters. Not too big if you are female (I think about 160lbs is the cutoff), not too small for men (confirmed manlet, so I should know). That's why Vin Diesel is sexy, even though he looks kinda rough. That's why men chase after women who look like they haven't eaten.

Yes, charm matters...but really all it amounts to is paying the right kind of attention to women. Giving them what they like (being made to feel desirable and important), without expectation.
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>>18093808
I'm not really sure how it's hypocritical to suggest that a system is stacked against you and that people need to wake up and see that to reclaim their value. A lot of the stuff they emphasize is personal improvement for yourself rather than for someone else, and doing things in general because you enjoy them rather than for someone else's sake.
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>>18093022
Not a woman, but...

...you are actually showing respect and concern for your ex's feelings, and that is a very good thing. You might consoder reaching out to her and letting her know that you did it to help you heal, and that you weren't trying to "send a message." You can wish her will when you do. But...you aren't obligated to do that. You aren't together anymore, so any judgment she might bring against you isn't really that important.
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>>18093819
No, the hypocracy comes in when they say they don't want their lives to revolve around women and then have their lives revolve around hating women. It seems self defeating.

I don't give a fuck about them in any other sense. I don't agree, but I don't see the point in arguing- afterall, they're free to live their lives as they wish.
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>>18093121
If you want to make a connection not based on appearances, then remove your appearance from the equation.
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>>18093829
This.
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>>18093022
To her, it looks like you're moving on and wont be trying to come back to her all clingy and shit
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Girls:
I met a girl off a social app for college students, which we both go to. We sexted and phone sexed for a couple days and she said she wanted to end it. I continue to snap her anyway and so does she. She keeps sending me pictures of what she's doing and where she is, which really teases me because I want to meet her and put moves on her but I don't want to just go straight to where she is without her asking me to. When I ask her if we can meet she says "no I dont think thats a good idea" But then she sends me an article titled "how to date an introvert".

I feel like I'm being teased and led on. Next time she sends me her location in a picture, should I just go to her and confront her?
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>>18093850
Oh and she has an LDR BF. I'm assuming she's distancing herself from me but unable to let go because she's both horny and has a conscience... at least thats what I think. We have convo's about art, music and resonate pretty well
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>>18093850
>Next time she sends me her location in a picture, should I just go to her and confront her?
Risky move. If you can pull off making it look completely by chance that you're there and saw her, maybe it can work.

>>18093855
>LDR
Why do people do this dumb shit. I'd say she wants you then, feels guilty about it and wants to keep you at arms length. If you see her then things will end up advancing.
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>>18093666
You can't get over it if you haven't made a move
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>>18093631
Ask her out
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>>18092138
Why are chinese people so ugly and stupid? Everytime I see one I literally want to brick them in the face because they are Irritating.
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>>18093921
ni hao ma
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>my gf is an EDM normie
>I mostly listen to antinormie and seminormie EDM
>She always gets pissy and annoyed when we're having fun with my best friend and his gf because both me and him like said non-normie EDM
>Best friend's gf has no opinion either way and lets boys be boys

Why is she like this? She always wants to control the spotify queue on our nights out and when I don't let her impose a musical tyranny she gets annoyed.
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>>18093957
Some examples of her normie shit and your antinormie please
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>>18093939
Ching chong wring wrong! Me no speak communist.
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Both, but mostly girls, I guess.

How to handle possible sexual incompatibility? My girlfriend and I have been dating for close to a year. We have had a lot of discussions about what we both want/expect from sex. She is about 8 years older and has had more experience than me. At first, there was pretty much 0 reciprocation of any sexual acts - I would kiss her, lick her, finger her, etc. and just put it in, and she wouldn't really move much or say anything. I eventually got fed up of this and told her to start giving me a handjob/blowjob at least before I put it in, though she has only recently started to be able to do that without prompt (we started discussing this last November). Recently we were fighting about how she never does anything else in bed other than that, which we have maybe remedied by agreeing that she'll do some kind of foreplay on me after I lick her ears (something that really turns her on). I still feel that I'm starting to be less and less turned on by her, partially because she never initiates sex, though mostly because I don't feel any real arousal from her, since she never does anything of her own volition in the bed room. Does anyone have any experience with this/have any advice for how best to discuss this with her?

Tl;dr: my girlfriend is not really an active participant in bed, and I'm starting to not be turned on because of that. What do?
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>>18093960
Well her taste is mostly big room house-esque shit. I never bothered to delve into the normie tier EDM and haven't look at her tracklists since normie EDM is so fucking boring. The few I know are Martin Garrix, those former Swedish House Mafia dudes and Headhunterz + Showtek after they moved from hardstyle to the house scene.

I mostly listen to things like
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4C0077-TQN8

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MCumxYoHYEI

And
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NMQlQ0yIO4Q

Also we certainly don't blast fucking industrial hardcore all night long with my friend, we just want to listen to a few tracks of our shit and then it can be her and my friend's gf's choices again.
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>>18093456
Except potential consequences are not just limited to losing idiots for friends. If you're trying to get a promotion and word reaches work, you can be fucked in the ass by that.

That said if it gets that bad the only thing he can really do is move.
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>>18093420
A lot of women here definitely have weird desires too though. Like of the women from here that I talk to, a good chunk of them have this weird desire to reform robots etc.
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Do men ever truly get over their ex wives?

My boyfriend says they'll "always have something" because they have children together, and that he doesn't wish her any malice, but that romantically he doesn't feel anything for her anymore. Should I be worried?
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>>18094000
>My boyfriend says they'll "always have something" because they have children together
> they have children together
>Should I be worried?
Shit yes you should be.
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>>18094000
>they have children together
well duh. this isnt a gender specific situation, this would be the same for both genders.
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>>18094000
It is normal to love and care about a person you spent a large part of your life with, even more if you have a child with them.
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Question for the women. Why y'all fucking batshit crazy?
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>>18093987
I'm sorry, but how does anyone actually like music like that?
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>>18094093
Europeans are fucking retarded. """""Music"""""" like that is pretty popular there. They have these festivals dedicated only for shit like that.
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>>18093987
This is some pleb tier shit. I can only imagine how much worse your gf's taste is.
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>>18094107
I never claimed my musical taste is objectively good, did I?
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>>18094110
Still, you're calling her stuff normie and boring. People in glasses house shouldn't throw stones.
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>>18093423
Hey, if you are female and can offer your perspective, then I have an issue with my wife that I need guidance on handling. I don't have a problem posting it here, but just want to know if it would be OK before asking for your feedback.
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>>18093453
Not a femanon, don't identify as gay, but I have had a dick in my mouth...

I've heard that curling your index finger and touching your palm can help overcome a sensitive gag reflex. You can also use a tongue depressor (or popsicle stick) and place it at the back of her tongue until she just starts to gag, leaving it there for longer and longer periods of time until she gets comfortable with it. She can also practice working on calming her gag reflex when she brushes her teeth. Whatever you do, make sure she knows that she is in control when you are trying it with your dick. Work out a signal that she can give that says "everybody out of the pool." Good luck.
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>>18093471
Confirmed manlet here. Height is attractive. You are very close to the "magic height," which is 6' tall. (Seriously, change your height on an online dating profile and see the difference.) Very short girls might simply respond to your height because they find you attractive or (bitter projecting in 3...2...1...) they may insist on a taller partner because they keep getting hit on by guys who are at their height, whom they are not intetested in.
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>>18094125
>don't identify as gay, but I have had a dick in my mouth
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>>18093631
Ask her to ask you out. She will do it. You will have wonderful, but awkward children.
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>There are real grills on 4chan

Really makes you ponder
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>>18093645
You know all the shit you have to put up with due to unwanted sexual attention? Men don't have to put up with that...because most men never get that kind of attention. I think this principle motivates a lot of the behavior that you see as "men looking at women as sex objects."

As far as men being openly hostile towards women and their concerns, a lot of this is pushback against a social movement that vilifies a lot of male behavior.

Most men *do* care about women's issues, because they understand that outcomes are better if women stand the same chance to succeed as they have. Unfortunately, low self-esteem is rampant among men (and, paradoxically, a lot of a man's self-esteem rests on how attractive women find him).

When you see men lash out and call you names, dismiss your opinions and revel at sharing naked pictures of women, try as hard as you can to see them as human beings who have made those choices because they don't know how else to deal with their pain.
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>>18093666
Write a letter explaining why it won't work out. When the feelings become intense, read it.
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Girls
How much is too much. I met a girl from another country and the time zones are about 12hours out. While she was here on holiday we had an awesome time but over messages she seems a lot less interested than me, like on whatsapp i might message her 1.5 times what she does. Probs reading into it too much, but advice would be very welcomed
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>>18093667
I'm male, so let me tell you what I see in the news: a bunch of people who think they are *way* smarter than a guy who won the biggest political upset in history, and who will not stop critcizing his appearance, his opinions, and everything they think he stands for. And those same people don't really know what he stands for, because they can't engage with his beliefs past the point of how *wrong* they are.

Sorry to be so forceful in how I put that, but "Would you say that to a man?" has never been a winning argument for me. Going on /b/. That is how men talk to each other. Outside of /b/, that's how they feel about each other, too.

None of this changes the fact that women have their own unique challenges, by the way. So please don't think I have no sympathy for your experiences.
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>>18094147
Guy here, but seriously bro always follow the rule of thumb that with any girl keep the ratio around one text from you to every two or more texts from her.

I don't care if she's your crush, girlfriend, fiance whatever, once your affection is too much of a "safe" bet this girl is going to leave you for the gutter trash you are.
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>>18093850
Not a girl, but let me channel one: she is sending mixed messages because she doesn't know what she wants. That is completely normal when you are young. What do *you* want? Think about it, then ask her for it. If it's an in-person relationship and an end to all this flirting, then tell her. Here's the hsrd part: if she says "no" then stop following her and stop texting her. If you ask for what you want, don't get it, but then allow her to define the relationship past that point in such a way that you are angry or frustrated, then it is your fault, not hers (and to be clear: I am *not* telling you to be a dick or to give her an ultimatum. I am suggesting that you set a boundary and enforce it.)
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>Me and gf fucked a girl
>gf wants to fuck said girl alone to try it
>said I could do the same

am i a cuck?
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>>18093974
This is a very common problem and it has a common solution: talk to her about how you feel and what your expectations are. Ask her to tell you how she feels. (Anon, you probably have little sense of this, but indicating that you are dissatisfied with your partner's performance can be very difficult to hear. Try to make the conversation about *her* as much as possible, but make sure you ask for what you want directly before it is over). Tell her how to make you happy, and ask what you can do to make her happy. Be careful not to come across as critical or dissatisfied.
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>>18094000
If you suspect infidelity, ask. Whether or not you worry will not change his behavior. His feelings for his ex- hurt your feelings. Tell him this, so he knows to keep his feelings to himself.
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>>18094135
"If that makes me gay, then I'm gay." There is nothing wrong with being gay.
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>>18094153
kek,
>"Make sure you ignore her"
>"Why do women always lose interest in me?"
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>>18094158
Yes.
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What am I supposed to do when the girls I'm texting with complain about something I can't help them with? Like:
>Ahh, Anon, it's terrible, I have to waste 2 hours of my life every week at this extremely boring lecture
>Oh, Anon, my cough is killing me, I can't sleep since it wakes me up every hour
I mean, there's not much I can do to help apart from saying something like "I'm so sorry for you, hang in there", but that alone sounds kinda of lame. I'm baffled.
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>>18094227

I'm a dude, not a girl. I do think I can offer some insight, though:

People usually don't want help in solving some problem, they want someone to listen. So yeah, all you need to do is say "That sucks" and let her unwind.

Doesn't mean you have to be an emotional sponge all the time, but you'll have to learn to differentiate when someone wants actual help or just a friendly ear.
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>>18094201
The ones who lost interest came before I implemented this policy.
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>>18094227
Sympathise with her. Make a funny remark on the situation, ask a question related to the subject, tell her a story related to the subject.
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>>18094227
>maybe you could think about me the whole lecture to make time pass bby
>maybe you should stop deepthroating me so much bby
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Girls, would you date a 29 guy who didn't know that girls use deodorant?
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>>18094227
These are requests for support and validation. You are supposed to say, "That sucks! Hang in there." or "Hope you feel better."
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>>18094159

We've had this discussion many times before, which is why there has at least been improvement. She says that she is extremely uncomfortable/can't take any sort of initiative during sex, saying things like 'it's just not me' and that I don't understand how difficult it is (which is true - I don't see too much difference in doing something every time when you're told to, or eventually cluing in that your partner probably wants you to do it). The only way I even got her to agree to any form of foreplay on me was to remove initiative from the equation, by telling her to do it after I lick her ears and then after I lick her back. But I feel that this doesn't really address the problem of her not being an active participant in bed.
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>>18094232
>>18094317
Nice, so I'm doing it right.
>>18094235
>ask a question related to the subject, tell her a story related to the subject.
>turn the conversation into a one-sided questioning session, or make it all about you
Yeah, I'm not doing that senpai
>>18094242
crude
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For both gender,

Let's say you have relatives living with you for years since they are children. They do nothing but leech your resources, money, stealing your changes.
They do not respect you and even show contempt after all you did like paying for their school until they graduated college. After they got job, they still lives with you, but never split the bills or even buying you something nice to repay all shit you've done to them.

What would you do to these relatives?
Would your treatment to them different if they was male/female?
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>>18094356
Dude here,

That's literally called having kids, and to be honest if you never saw that coming (despite the seriously good chance that you were one of those little shits at some point) then to be honest you've never really been responsible enough to be a parent, and how they act now is just that shit coming back to kick you in the ass.

I wouldn't treat them differently based on gender (but may, based on attitudes); however, I would ideally prefer male children simple because while girls "mature" faster, guys tend to get out of teenager mentality quicker, based on personal experiences, and furthermore the girl may perceive her treatment as unfair due to societal standards which tell us to go easier on women and protect them therefore she'll expect me to be more lenient (i wouldn't, you be an asshole I call you out on it regardless of gender).

As for what I'd do to these relatives, as adults with jobs that still live with me?
What any good guardian or parent would do - slowly introduce them to things like paying rent (board) and buying food. Teaching them how to cook and getting them to buy/cook their own meals. It'd be cheap at first, like the board, and maybe getting them to cook once a week. Gradually making things tougher for them until they are ready to live on their own. At which point I'd help them search for a place.

Yeah, they'll hate me. It's not my job to be loved - it is my job to love though, but also to prepare them for when I'm six feet under.
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>>18094356
Guy here, I'm only 22 but that line about them not giving any respect makes my blood boil.

Male or female doesn't matter, if you don't show some level of courtesy to a person who does something for you, you shouldn't expect them to do that for you any more.
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>>18094367
This entirely
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>>18094367
This. I couldn't have said it better.

I am a girl by the way.
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>>18094158
It's possible, you didn't fuck up and let them "practice" on each other beforehand so it can't be nearly as bad as another anon I saw.

If the prospect makes you uncomfortable you should just talk to her about it and explain your feelings.
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>>18094356

>Let's say you have relatives living with you for years since they are children.

They are practically your children, then. It sounds like they are not biologically your child, but you did raise them. If they are ungrateful little shits it's your fault. You taught them that.
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Mostly to girls:

Would you have any issues dating a "shut-in"?
I've had the opportunity to go out with girls during my time at school, but refused to, since I rather just stayed at home, and enjoyed a comfy evening.

However, now that I've moved out, I started to get the itch for women.
The issue is that I still like to enjoy most of my time at home. Not that I'm lazy - quite the contrary, I keep my studio tidy, and it's furnished for maximum comfy.
Occasionally I do go out on weekends for a nice movie, or a couple drinks, but that's about it.
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>>18094367
Couldn't have said it better. I applause you. I will remember that when I become a parent. I suppose you're an experienced parent?

>>18094386
I am male 27, it indeed made my blood boils too, I agree with you about showing courtesy.

>>18094394
They are actually my distant cousin from mother's side children. two female early 20s. Maybe saying "since children" is not really accurate, they started living here when they're at teenager age (14).

To provide some background, their parents died. My late father took them under our family since the only other option would be making them live in street (nobody else wanted them for some reason). Since then my father would be firm and teaching them lots discipline. But it all seems a little too late, because they are still being such a brat like I've described in above.

They act sweet and docile when dad is around, but behind they always talk shit and scheming. Never try to integrate to be really be a part of our family even when dad already thought them as his own child.
Now my dad passed away last year, and it seem they still being an ungrateful prick, they even upped the ante. Being the only male ln the house I tried to reinforce the rule and take my dad's place.
But I fear for my mother, for she's old, and I couldn't always keep my eyes on that brats, I often have to go out to another states due to my job.

In my situation, what would you do?
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>>18094327
You are not married and have serious incompatibilities in the bedroom. It is time to break up and find someone who moves at your speed.
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>>18094356
You need to set boundaries and enforce them. Tell them they either have to move out or are welcome to stay, but must help pay the bills. If they are freeloading and you are letting them, then it is on you, not them.
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>>18094435
>But I fear for my mother, for she's old, and I couldn't always keep my eyes on that brats

How old are they now?

> I often have to go out to another states due to my job.

If you aren't around, then I don't see you changing things. They might eventually behave in front of you like they did your dad, but as soon as you are out the door you will be ignored (again, like him).

If a reasonable adult discussion with them does you no good, then it falls unto your mother to set the rules of the house.
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>>18094449
They are 24 and 23.

To be fair, I recently identified the source of problem is in the younger one, she also treats her sister like slave and shit. I wanted to kick her out once, but my mother stopped me since she still wanted to try discipline them, something I thought to be futile as long as the problem remains.

Now, would kicking the problematic one and let the good one stay is a good solution?
I kinda sympathize with the other good one since she's shown signs of goodwill and changes, but every single time the little shit would abuse her (behind me) and hinder her progress towards betterment.
As soon as I got home from my travel job, I'll deal with them.
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>>18094466
>I'll deal with them.

No you won't. Like it or not, the one that's running the ship is your mom. She lives there and she is the one that has to deal with them.

You plans will fail for a very simple reason: Change comes from the people that need to change, not from outside. You can't change the dynamics between the girls, and you can't change their dynamics with your mom.

I know doing nothing is hard, but that's all you can do. You can talk your mom into asking them for rent, for example, but you can't enforce that by yourself.

Early twenties is still an age to be a dumb piece of shit, so they might still grow out of this. Just remember, you don't make the rules there. I don't know what you meant with " I'll deal with them.", but I can already foresee it's gonna be a mess. Chill, and let the people that have to do it, do it.
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>>18094479
I feel like I am in the presence of the Buddha. You are very wise, anon.
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>>18093868
Yeah I feel like I'd only be able to advance if I just engage her face to face, I've just never seen her face or know her name, but she knows my face and name, and she's seen me around before but hasn't approached me. I just know what her lips, and body look like.
>>18094156
She's 22, I'm 25, we're both seniors. I do feel like she'll say no to that question, because she has already. I honestly just want her as an fwb. I could maybe ask her that. She's concerned about privacy and has a lot of friends who know she has a bf. Then again I have a lot of friends too. I would need to make her know I wouldn't be vocal about it. She already showed appreciation for not saving her nudes, but she won't even talk to me on voice chat anymore, just the teasing pic stuff and alluding texts.
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>>18094479
I hate to admit, but you are right. You spoke of wisdom, anon. I can feel it came from experiences, am I wrong?

I'm thinking of dealing it with talking to my mother about evicting them from the house if they don't pay their share.
Or separating them, I know it changes little about their dynamics, but at one time my parents were considering it, so I want to bring it up again.
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>>18094501
>I can feel it came from experiences, am I wrong?

Oh, yeah, it does. I learned that you can't save or change people if they don't want to.

>I'm thinking of dealing it with talking to my mother about evicting them from the house if they don't pay their share.
>Or separating them, I know it changes little about their dynamics, but at one time my parents were considering it, so I want to bring it up again.

This sounds good. Just be ready to take no for an answer. Good luck.
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>>18094524
>Oh, yeah, it does. I learned that you can't save or change people if they don't want to.
Truer words have never been spoken. That was the hardest lesson I've learnt so far. We could use some 'game', persuasion, or maybe NLP, hypnosis, but if the people refuse to from their inside it'll amount ot nothing.

>This sounds good. Just be ready to take no for an answer. Good luck.
I'll ready my heart for my mom's answer. Whatever she chose, she might have the wisdom unknownfrom me beyond that, all I can do is to trust her choice.
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>>18094430
I wouldn't. I'm not an extrovert but I do like people a lot and value my family and friendships greatly. I can't imagine having much in common with someone who is content being alone besides wanting a sex partner. I want someone who will be enthusiastic about (occasionally) being around my friends and playing a role in my life not just in the bedroom or when we're watching tv as a couple but also presenting ourselves to the outside world.
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>prostitutes are very expensive
>sluts are prevalent
Is it safe to assume that the sluts are usually fucking the chads? I'm not even just talking about girls who are extremely hot.
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>>18094645
No, some are just delusional and think sex is all that a relationship is.
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>>18092392
like the other anon said, these are cool as hell, but not to everyone
you just need to find some /out/doorsman
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>>18094645
>Is it safe to assume that the sluts are usually fucking the chads?
Yes. 20% of the men have 80% of the partners.
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>>18094645
It isn't, unless you're one of those who thinks Chad means "any guy who gets laid and isn't me". A girl who's looking to get laid will typically have these priorities:
>is he safe? does he seem like he won't turn disrespect her boundaries on her behind closed doors, won't videotape or photograph her without consent, won't try to pull off the condom in the heat of the moment?
>does he make it seem like sex with him will be fun? is he good at flirting/dancing/foreplay? does he make her feel sexy and relaxed with the way he approaches her?
>how attractive he is - yes his looks, but also posture, way of carrying himself, confidence, voice, smell, good kisser and so on

Basically, all kinds of guys get laid but that you don't have to be a supermodel doesn't mean you can just go out and expect to take someone home.
I feel like many guys have completely forgotten that seducing someone means making them -want- to have sex. Not just checking whether they are up for sex on their part, but actively warming them up to the idea and teasing the stuff they could do together with looks, flirtations and/or touches. Whether or not you can do that is the biggest factor for whether you can tempt random women into sleeping with you.
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>>18094658
If you're an average guy that's so damn hard though, you have to nail everything perfectly, and lots of girls like different things.
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Okcupid any good?
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>>18094666
Nah, I don't agree. I'm not trying to imply that it's easy but I think in most cases they think it's hard for the wrong reasons. Yes there's an element of luck to it of course, and you can't just hang out with your friends and lock the rest of the world out.

But from a female perspective, most guys who give it a shot aren't written off because they fucked up a tiny detail. The reason I don't want to sleep with them is because I find their frat guy attitude and sloppy drunkenness unattractive. Or because after talking to them for ten minutes they are already half crying about their ex or their virginity. Or because they don't talk to me like a human being, but do this whole "hey this is me, talking to you, trying to get you a little turned ooon... is it working yet?" act. Or because they're twenty years older than I am. Or because they beg or sulk for sex like it's something I'm withholding from them.

If a reasonably sober guy tries to connect with me, I'm not going to write him off because he made a lame joke or looked at my tits or there was a tense silence at some point. It's not about whether he does it all perfectly but about whether he makes it easy and natural to go with him and see him as an option.

In my experience, the guys who are best at getting girls are the ones who like to go out in general and know how to have fun flirting and chatting girls up regardless of whether they end up going home with anyone. The issue with many guys who try it seldomly is that they cramp up and make everything so unnatural that it's obvious they are trying to go to the motions hoping she'll have sex. Ironically their nerves and insecurity keep them from having fun and seeing if there's sparks.
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>>18094680
>Ironically their nerves and insecurity keep them from having fun and seeing if there's sparks.

literally the circle of no experience ->no job ->no experience ->no job only in relationship form
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>>18094680
And for the record, I'm not trying to sound like I necessarily think it's worth all this effort or that you are obliged to put it in by any means. But if you want to get good at it, this is what you have to become good at - talking to girls, teasing, making small talk that isn't completely vapid/impersonal. If it's any consolation, these skills are honestly great in life in general, whether for getting girls or for professional networking.

Either way, in case anyone wants to comment that girls are too picky or whatever, please consider that guys want us to. I'm pretty thirsty and you bet I'd approach men more and get mine - if that didn't mean that my value would go down in the eyes of others.
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>>18094689
Fair comparison, but luckily this is not something you can only practice with girls you want to have sex with. The small talk part is really not that different from learning how to break the ice with a male stranger. And especially if you're the kind of guy who feels a bit reverent towards women, getting to know more even if just on an acquaintance level will make you more in touch with the fact that women are people who come in better and poorer editions. Once you have real self respect, the worst anyone can really do is tell you no. Anything "worse" (like calling you names or spreading some false gossip about you just because you showed interest) and you'll feel more embarrassed for them than for yourself. Basically build up to the confidence to hold women accountable for how they treat you and not take everything to heart they throw at you, that's too much honor.
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>>18094692
>if that didn't mean that my value would go down in the eyes of others
You do realize that it's the same for guys, right, you fucking dumb cunt? If a guy gets rejected there's always a chance that the girl tells her friends about it which means that the guy will have no other options because of the whole ''if she didn't like him, why should I?'' mindset.
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Girls,

Ex friend at work who i think used to like me told me not to talk to her again. I would like to talk to her but i don't know if its possible. I will say i'm very popular and a lot of girls like me so i have that going for me but i feel shitty that we aren't friends anymore.
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>>18094708
I think you misunderstood, I meant that girls tend to shut down their own desire to fuck strangers because they get many offers thrown at them as is and men don't actually want to be with women (for a relationship) who are easy, they just want them to make an exception for them personally. In which case, yeah, it better be a good offer.
I wasn't referring to the literal act of offering. Obviously anyone who steps up to show interest first is making themselves vulnerable.

I don't care what you wish to call me, but realize that if it makes you this angry and/or it's such a normal reaction for you to spout off names at someone because you were irked, that might be part of the reason why girls aren't lining up to spend time with you.
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>>18094709
Leave her alone. It sounds like she was hurt and distanced herself because it was not possible for her to get over you while you were in touch. That sucks but it's her decision.
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>>18094720
>I don't care
>and here's why I don't care
Back to tumblr, dumb cunt.
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I kissed an ugly girl and cringe at the thought even now 4 months later

it weren't even a proper kiss too
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My girlfriend and I never have sex and it's really starting to get frustrating.

We haven't had sex together at all. We tried once, but it didn't end up working out since she was really tight, and I couldn't get it in. So that experience was just awkward for us and maybe part of the reasons we haven't tried since.

I love her, and I want to be physically intimate with her. We cuddle for hours, which I enjoy–but when you have blue balls for months, and you're that close to the person that can fix that, though it never happens, it's making me not even enjoy cuddling anymore. I just end up frustrated, but I don't want to show that to her, because then I worry about making her feel guilty. And that's not something I want because I don't want to pressure her into it. I want us to have a sex life that we both enjoy.

What do I do? How do I talk to her about this without making her feel pressured?
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>>18094757
Are you 13?
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>>18094763
No. Are you?
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>>18094757
Look up vaginismus. She most likely has it. It's not normal for a grown, aroused woman to be completely unable to accommodate a penis. That's not tightness, it's locking up. If she knows she has this issue, it would also explain why she's not more on top of trying to have sex anyway.

Talk to her about it. Show her some stuff you find online and ask if she recognizes it from her own situation. Vaginismus is treatable.

And in the meantime, there's a whole lot in between cuddling and piv. What about oral or even mutual masturbation?
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>>18094757
well, there are other ways of pleasuring the partner
for example, you could finger her, and she could just blow you.
But before that, you need to talk to her about it. She might feel uncomfortable, but so are you.
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>>18094757
try again to fuck her

if she refuses, leave the house and have fun with friends and don't return until the next day.

the next day try again, your chances will go up 200 fold
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Saw the girl I like talking with this other guy, me and her talked a couple times and really enjoyed it. Do I still make a move?
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>>18094792
Yes. You should do it even if only because if she'd wind up dating that guy and you didn't try to ask her out, you'd probably wonder whether you could've been in his position if only you made a move.
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>>18094766
Nah. Just asking.
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>had my first and last fuck 4 years ago
>awkward and hilariously incompetent
>now I subconsciously keep cockblocking myself

For example I meet a girl, we are both interested, but I fuck off somewhere else or don't keep contact, most times I don't even try to approach anyone

wat do
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>>18094490
It wasn't clear to me earlier that you were trying to have a sexual relationship with someone who already has a boyfriend. Of that is how she treats him, what makes you think she will treat you any better? New advice: ignore any further attempts to contact and find someone not already in a relationship.
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>>18094671
Fwiw, I met my wife on OKCupid.
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>>18094680
Since I'm twenty years older and probably somewhere on the autism scale, this was hard to read (married, btw, thank God!). But this advice is golden. I'd like to propose something that ties it all together and I'd be interested in your feedback.

Here's the covering principle: it isn't the most attractive or most stylish guys that women prefer: comfort plays a large part
Make a woman feel comfortable around you, and she will be receptive to your advances. Don't, and get called a "creep." Agree? Disagree? If I'm even headed in the right direction, I'm curious to hear what things make you feel comfortable and which are dealbreakers.
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>>18094792
Yes
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>>18094720
You handled that insult really well. And you still tried to help the anon who hurled insults at you. I'm impressed.
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>>18094741
Do you know what? Nobody cares. I mean that in a nice, not mean, way.
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WHY DON'T YOU ANSWER MY STUPID QUESTIONS?
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I was a passive participant in a dumb conversation regarding women and masturbation / sex habits. It was between a few male and female seniors in high school, who were all of legal age at this point.

The dudes, who were well-respected popular guys were trying to get the chicks to reveal their masturbation habits, whether or not they've lost their virginity yet, did they rip their hymen before or after losing their virginity (e.g. sticking something up their vag in preperation, in the same way someone would do for anal srx with toys or some shit). These girls of course had no intention of openly talking about this kind of thing, and the guys came off as slightly autistic and creepy.

However, this made me question whether I really know enough about the opposite sex, since I might not be privy to all of the information, so here goes.

How often do girls actually finger themselves instead of just sticking to clitoral stimulation?
How common is fingering?

oh shit i forgot all my other questions
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>>18092562
Guy here, when I'm horny as fuck I'll send a dick pic to a girl whom I know socially. Everytime I do I get a barrage of smiley faces. I guess, that means they're grossed out? Shiiet
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>>18095422
>Guy here, when I'm horny as fuck I'll send a dick pic to a girl whom I know socially
stop that immediately
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>>18092562
Besides what people already replied you with, some guys just get w thrill about women seeing theirs dicks, they don´t care if the reaction is disgust or even if they get small-dick-shamed, they just like it.

Most of them would rather flash women IRL but that´s more risky that just sending pics.
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>>18094792
I also never asked out a girl before, how should I go about it? Just ask her to hangout or what? I'm 21 and she's 19.
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