how to START dating?

I don't think you need to lower your standards, maybe change your approach. One of the reasons why people aren't sticking around might be because of the way that you look at things. I find it helpful to look at every situation and person as an individual, rather as a collective, and that was what was really holding me back for a long time. So it might be best for you to find out what is holding you back this way. You might be thinking about sex first and foremost, when you should be thinking about it as getting to know people. Maybe you don't instigate conversations enough. It's all about finding out where your weaknesses lie and trying to improve upon those.

>>18091709
First Rule: No one knows how.

Could it be that you're bad at sex?

>>18091709
First and foremost never lower your standards. It will wreck your drive to actually pursue girls,slaughter your sex drive in the event you do find someone and it will drain you from an accomplishment in life.

>it's my personality driving women away

Probably so. From the outcomes you listed i'd wager that you're too persistent in contacting them and do dumb things like having full on conversations with her over the phone instead of in person and constantly going out to see them on notice. Don't let the phone become your bat signal and don't try to use it to keep conversations alive unless the topic is where you're going to meet next.