Escaping the NEET life...

>>18091234
>1) I feel lethargic & unmotivated all the time. Sleeping & eating well don't seem to have any positive effect.

Probably caused by your depression due to a lack of direction in your life.

>2) I've been doing some preliminary lessons in html/CSS, but I don't actually know how to turn that into a real job.

You need a range of skills instead of just focusing on one skill. You also need a portfolio.

>3) Every time I get into a few days of being productive, I start to feel trapped, get overwhelmed and return to my old ways.

You need to go outside. Staying at home all the time will fuck up your mind.

>4) My social life is in shambles.

You need to fix your main issue first. No one wants to hang out with a sad sack.

I would also like to know

>23
>final year of law school, decentish grades
>no relevant job experience, internships, volunteering or extra curriculars
>can't apply for any because I don't have any references and everything is exceptionally competitive.
>stay at home all day on welfare while my housemates work and often come home late as they go out or go to the gym
>increasingly feeling ashamed and worthless
>drinking excessively every night for the past year (at least a bottle of wine a night)
>feel like my gf is ashamed of me, and that I'm a child or that I'm retarded and doomed to failure

I think I know the only way to get myself out of this funk is just do something, but I can't bring myself to do it since I am so lazy. I need to do something like a team sport or running but always put it off. I know that I can be successful if I put myself out there but am just struggling to do it and always find a reason not to do something.

I am thinking that I might see a psychiatrist, as I just don't know if I can pull myself up.

>>18091264
>Probably caused by your depression due to a lack of direction in your life.
Anything I can do to lessen this besides just "manning up" and working through it?

>You need a range of skills instead of just focusing on one skill. You also need a portfolio.
Any advice on what sorts of stuff to look into?

>You need to go outside. Staying at home all the time will fuck up your mind.
I go out for walks and whatnot, but it ultimately reminds me that I'm stuck here and all of my friends have moved on.

>You need to fix your main issue first. No one wants to hang out with a sad sack.
I'm actually kind of funny/charismatic (or used to be), but my lack of experience leaves me limited in what I can talk about/connect with people.

>>18091272
>no relevant job experience, internships, volunteering or extra curriculars
Recent law graduate here. You need to start volunteering, that always looks good on a law student's CV. Also do you have ANY work experience?

>>18091274
>Any advice on what sorts of stuff to look into?
If you look at the job postings online, you can see what skills on are in demand.

Hello I am a neet loser currently on the road to recovery, and I see the finish line.

I am currently seeing a psychologist but it took me a while to find a good one, luckily my parents are well off and so I can go to a rather expensive one. I was recently put on meds (fluoxetine) to help with anxiety and depression and this has helped tremendously. At the start of the year I decided to go back and finish my high school education which helps me with my social problems. This has been a great help for me so I'd recommend some form of casual education if possible. As much as I don't like to admit it, I used the computer a lot in 2016, I spent most of my time on it and towards the end of the year my parents took it away. It took a while to make an effect on me cause I still had the issue of depression and anxiety so once I was put on meds I think having no computer helped a lot for me. I've also just recently got back into contact with old friends which I feel really good about, I never contacted them prior because anxiety.
It's going to be tough if you're content with how you are. When I was a neet I'd rate my days 5/10 on average and sometimes a little above. I thought that it was all okay and I was fine. It wasn't till a few months ago my days have been 8 or 9/10s and now I kind of agree with my past psychologists who said I was depressed. My point being that once you are no longer a neet or at least in recovery life feels good once again. Now I like the idea of going out and doing things, previously I'd do it, but I'd always rather be at home, no longer.

Another thing that has helped me I think (might just be placebo) is the song always look on the bright side of life. I listen to that everyday and think about it as much as I can. It helps me remember, so find something that helps you remember a goal you've set.

Anyway that's my advice, I hope it will help someone.

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>>18091288
>taking away computer

Not OP, but damn this would be the toughest thing for me to do.

I have a part time job and that's about the only accomplishment I have in my life. I was living with my ex for a while but after the breakup I was broke and had to move back home. I'm still trying to save up enough to live on my own again, preferrably without roommates this time (had a bad experience last time) but it's damn near impossible in my area.

I stopped going to school maybe 5~ years ago because I'm just too fucking stupid to understand anything. The anxiety makes it worse because I don't want to bother any of the tutors on the campus with my slow brain (even though it's their job). Now I've built up quite a bit of experience that I needed for the career I have in mind, but that career also requires a degree of some sort in Zoology or Biology. When I'm in class I just space out and draw all day. Even when I take notes and study, I still fail every test we take. It's also embarrassing to keep going back and notice that your professor remembers your face now.

I know the solution is just to "man up and do it", but it's getting the courage to start that's really difficult. I just know if I go back to school, I'll fail the same fucking class yet again.

Stay NEET. You think the grass is greener on the other side but you will miss your freedom.

Just rot away.

>>18091234
>I'm only a quasi-NEET (shitty part-time job) but I am a piece of shit.

As long as you retain this attitude, nothing you undertake within it is going to change anything. The problem is you're trapped in your own narrative, you're at the mercy of your own opinions and assumptions about who you are.

>Here are, what I think are my biggest problems...

For most people, thinking *is* their biggest problem. Their thoughts only reinforce the idea of the problems they have. You state conclusions/assumptions about yourself. You'd be better off understanding that what you think you know about your own limitations and abilities is a fiction; you'd be better off waking up tomorrow with your memory erased because then you'd be free to think and try those things that you now think are impossible or pointless.

Set goals. Meditate. Exercise. Eat well even if you perceive no change. Learn something new. Limit computer usage only to those activities that are necessary and productive.

Keep moving. Keep changing. This is how the old skin sloughs off. Get excited about your possibilities (yes you have them), once you have an energy and a momentum the problems of lonliness and isolation will take care of themselves.

You can do it.

I wish I were in your positions
>Very late 30s
>Only HS diploma
>Odd jobs here and there but never consistent because insecurity over obesity was crippling mentally
>Still live at home of course
At least I've saved about $25k
Still feel like kms
Was going to enroll in school a since I could get financial aid and study nursing maybe but things in my family are at a point where the remaining sibling wants to move in with his chick so I wouldn't be able to just go to school if he's not contributing to the rent like he has been so forget school

>>18091234
How can you have a job and not have a drivers license?

>>18091234
I feel the same way! it helps me to commutate with my home planet through my scared geometry crystals and absorb her healing frequencies please call me 407()929()1530

>>18091585
>>Very late 30s
Don't mean to be a prick but how can you go on living that long like that without pulling the trigger?

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Don't have any friends but I got semi-out of NEET life by getting my driver's license, getting a therapist, going to online college full, then getting a part time job.

You need to take small steps.

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>Lose friends at 16, sort of just draw back into my own little shell
>Graduate HS
>Basically drift aimlessly for 4 years as a turbo neet
>Start going back to college
>Make a couple of friends, but only one that's close
>Said friend is moving away in about half a year though
>Start a decent paying internship

Currently 24. Turning 25 in 3 months. Still have 2 years of college left. Not really happy with where I'm at, but I've definitely improved as a whole. Sometimes I just sort of mentally shut down, friend thinks I'm depressed and has suggested a therapist but I'm not especially sold.

My gameplan roughly is to move as soon as I can because I'm stuck in the sticks right now. Continue focusing on graduating. Maybe join a club or something, but I'm not really sure where to start with that. People suggest meetup but there arent many options where I live currently.

I just went back to college and got another degree, one that would help me find a job.

Going back to college as a 25+ gets you lots of pussy.

>>18091598
I've considered it, life isn't so bad really

>>18091234
>kissless virgin

How do you guys ignore your thirst? Porn doesn't quite quench it. I mean, there's no one around that matches my criteria which is pretty and consists of, having similar geeky interests and doesn't look horrifying.

I'm at the point of trap porn and considering finding one after I saw a chubby dude at a con with a girl on a lead, who on closer inspection, turned out to be a dude. He looked like a slightly less fucked up Pete Burns, but at this point the thirst is strong.

>>18091892
>which is pretty and consists of, having similar geeky interests and doesn't look horrifying.


*pretty low

>>18091548
That's why I suggest seeing someone if possible. It helps once you find the right one, I was like you only a couple months ago, I had no idea where to find the courage but I got a new psychologist and went on meds and that seriously helped me. I think the meds did it for me though, so I'd recommend that.
If going to school is too much, start out with something smaller, find a night course or something that isn't quite so tough and less demanding. Getting a social life back really helps, at least for me it did.
Unfortunately I have no advice for your issue with studying and all that. All I can say is you must be motivated to actually do it. You can say you're motivated but you must actually believe it, the issue though is finding out how and what will motivate you. Taking away a computer could help, you'll have less fun at home and maybe you'll want to go out more or find some other activities to do.

>>18091288
>rich
>support system that actually enforce rules and don't enable you
>meds that actually work

Most people don't have this and not trying to shit on your progress just that it isn't very helpful when you literally had all the resources to make your recovery successful. I'd be a bit surprised if you didn't make decent progress under these circumstances.

>>18093323
Fair enough, I didn't really expect to help everyone or for everything to be suitable for everyone. A lot of neets though tend to be well off (I assume) so I expect some may find some use out of it. If I was unable to help I'm sorry.

>>18093470
>A lot of neets though tend to be well off (I assume)

That's a reasonable assumption. The NEETs that are poor are probably the worst in terms of how much they stress they put on their family and probably the most fucked up psychologically as well. If they don't feel enough guilt and shame to change, then they likely have an extreme sense of entitlement and victimhood.

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There used to be a NEET adv discord floating around, what happened to it?

>>18093621
I started it and people didn't post at all

NEETs graduated or fell deeper into NEETdom...

>>18093624

Your name in Discord?

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I was a useless neet for a couple years. About a year ago I turned my life around, but I've stopped making progress.

I'm having a hard time even wording what my issue is. It's just... what do you DO?

Learn shit. I learned all kinds of shit, self-taught, or with small classes.

Work. I go to work, I do my job, I go home.

School. I go to school, I do the assignments, I retain the information, I go home.

My problem was that I played video games, so I stopped. The void was filled by exercise and self improvement but it's literally just intellectual masturbation.

What the fuck do normies do that causes them to interact with eachother?

>>18093640

>What the fuck do normies do that causes them to interact with eachother?

The '''normies''' stop trying to find problems where there aren't any.

>>18093627
>>18093624

Don't be shy. Say it

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>>18093642
I go to work. I go home. I don't talk to anyone.

There's an objective problem.

If you don't have anything useful to say, don't say anything useful, I guess.

>>18093652

Ah yes a ''problem'' of which you know the solution. Now the search for the solution you know of has become another ''problem''.

Well... Good luck with your life anon. Tone down the ego and the arrogance next time.

>>18093672
The hell are you being so hostile for?

"Talk to people xD" isn't a solution, if that's what you're suggesting. I'm asking a very specific question about time consumption.

How do I do things that are not immediately conductive to self-improvement, or work?

How do I... I don't know, 'motivate' myself to do things that aren't objectively beneficial in the moment?

Does that make sense?

Fuck this socialization meme.

I was a worthless neet, only went out of my house to play magic and spend most of my time watching anime (because my pc was too shit to vidya). At some point I realized that if my parents died I would've become a hobo so I decided to go back to school, get a job and basically be able to survive by myself.

Now, I wanna make a point that university is fucking amazing and the best part of life.

Now I'm a grown man who lives by himself and has a job and stuff and let me tell you what, fuck people, humans are annoying, youre better off as a neet.

>>18093534
Stop responding to yourself.

>>18093711
Don't you realize you're contradicting yourself? How are you better off as a NEET when you would eventually become a hobo if you remain as a NEET?

>>18093847
Dude stop giving yourself (you)s
No one cares