Struggle to maintain platonic friendships with women.

>>18089407
I'm never "just friends" with women. I don't know why anyone would be. They don't seem like they would make for good ones. I've met like 3, maybe, that would.

>>18089437
So should I just drop them from my life?

Despite these issues I have they really are good people and good friends to me. Super caring, loving and helpful.

Learn how to self control yourself. I have no clue how old you are but hormonal changes isn't a surprising thing when it comes to the opposite sex when we're young. Just learn to deal with it, I mean mate... women aren't only there to sexually please people.

>>18089443
I'm 20.

This is easier said than done though. I don't even know where to begin.

>>18089439
You aren't me, I don't know how well you do with having chick friends. Maybe you do get along with them well. Girls either want to have sex with me or have nothing to do with me. I'm attractive so when I give any girl any attention she thinks I'm trying to fuck her anyway. One girl I know is cool but she never reciprocated that she would want to hang out. Plus if a chick has a bf he wouldn't want her hanging out.

Just seems like it wouldn't work unless you're so unattractive that the dude sees you as a nonthreat. Or if the chick is in her party years and has no risk of that static. Or if you remain group friends exclusively and never hang out one on one.

>>18089451
It's just I know so many guys who seem completely indifferent to whether or not they pick up X attractive girl that I wonder why I obsess sexually over these people

I'm a guy that prefers female friends and honestly it's natural to have feelings sometimes. Obsessively having sexual thoughts is bad, but I guarantee you your female friends have thought about having sex with you before too. A few of mine have told me this and you kind of learn from having female friends how they think sexually. The important thing is to not spill feelings or nothing dumb like that. If something is to happen, let it happen naturally. I can't stress that enough.

>>18089458
See, they fact I sexually obsess over certain people is what's concerning me. I need to figure out what's causing this.

it sounds like you're horny more than anything
time to delete that 600GB folder

>>18089467
So just swear off porn and wracking it?

>>18089458

Basically this.


Sometimes you become attracted to a friend. That's perfectly natural. If you're attracted to all of them that is a little different but okay. Different people have different boundaries. In your case i would assume your hormones are making you crazy for women because you don't have a girlfriend right now.
Is there one in particular you like most?

In my case, I've found some of my friends attractive but ive only had sexual fantasies about them when I'm single.
Opposite gender can be friends just find providing neither of the two are starved for physical interactions with the opposite sex.

>>18089456
Are you a virgin?

When you fuck a girl regularly multiple times a night multiple times a week you stop caring about fucking so much because your needs are met.
Sex usually gets good by the 3rd night you fuck. So just fucking a chick to fuck her isn't a huge deal. And once you feel open enough to start doing what each other are into. Choking, tying up, dressing up, etc

Get a gf and keep your thoughts to yourself. Everyone has them. You aren't acting upon these thoughts this far, so big deal. Everybody thinks about fucking chicks they know.

>>18089474
Yeah there definately is like, a "main person" in my head with these obsessions. And yes I'm definately depraved of sexual interaction at the moment.

The reason I find so many of my friends attractive is because I'm simply not picky when it comes to looks. I like bigger girls, smaller girl, tall girls, short girls. I'll find something attractive about most people.

>>18089485

Have you considered asking her out?
I gaurentee that if you get a gf to deal with your frustrations the thirst will calm down quite a bit

>>18089475
Not a virgin, but sexual interaction is very few and far between for me. Slept with two girls, both of which I was in long term relationships with.

Like I said, I know these thoughts are natural, but the way it's fucking with my head isnt.

>>18089491
She's not romantically or sexually interested in me in the slightest

Similar situation.

This girl and I broke up well over a year ago. I don't have romantic feelings for her anymore nor her me. However whenever I'm around her I still feel an intense sexual attraction towards her.

Is this something that'll probably never go away

>>18089497
Then stop being friends with her.

How are you developing actual feelings for a girl this easily? That's what's weird. I hold off on feelings for a long time when dating girls. Especially when she hasn't displayed anything toward you.

>>18089509
I guess I'm a little bitch.

I don't even want relationships with these people desu. This distress is usually just based off of sexual urges towards them. Sexual urges should not be bringing me down this much

>>18089497

Then find someone who is and put distance between yourself and that friend.
Why torture yourself by remaining close to someone you want this much?

>platonic opposite sex friends

uhhh for what purpose?

>>18089516
I guess because dropping friendships bcz they don't wanna have sex with me makes me feel like a huge fucking asshole and feeling this shitty because these people don't wanna have sex with me a huge fucking problem that I should probably look into solving because it isn't even remotely healthy

>>18089522
Stop being friends with chicks and problem solved.

>>18089522

You dont have to drop the friendship, just make reasons to not be around them. If you're only talking to them on social media or something the urges will decrease

>>18089527
So I should just message all my chick friends and say "srry never talking 2 u again"

>>18089533
no, just literally stop talking to them platonically that being said, you said plural? That's very alarming, why do you have so many chick friends, are you gay? Or have you literally been friendzoned THAT many times?

>>18089532
I suppose, but even when that's the case my sex drive is still crazy high without much I can do about it

>>18089537
There was like 3 people I had in mind. But yeah I do get friendzoned a lot. I'm no good with womyn

>>18089533
No, just stop hanging out with them.

>>18089540
>staying friends with chicks that reject you

What the fuck my dude.

>>18089471
if you think it'll stop you from thinking about sex as much, sure. no guarantees it'll work though
the ideal situation is to find a gf and commit to her, but that's easier said than done.

>>18089540
Okay let's break this down.

>You struggle with women.
How are you surprised when we say that you're doing something wrong when it comes to women? Why are you so fucking shocked that there could be a correlation between you wanting to be friends with women and being in the literal fucking friend zone?

Stop being friends with women. There's not a woman you were friends with who you would have turned down banging. You're not friends with them you're masturbating and pretending to be intimate.

>>18089538

First of all, throw out that defeatest attitude. Any guy can get a gf if he puts in effort. Maybe not the particular ones you're into at the moment but there are lots of women that would date a guy like you. Try a dating app or something. Don't go into it with the pretense of friendship. Be honest about your intentions. You want to fugg? then go fugg.

>>18089551
Maybe it's to appease my conscious because thinking "yeah I only want sex from this girl" makes me feel like scum

>>18089561
Stop thinking these chicks are better than you. It's why you're bad with women. You sound like such a girl.

There's noting wrong with wanting sex from women or even just sex from them. Guess what, a lot of them want exactly that out of us.

>>18089555
It may be all in my head. However I've delt with bad anxiety all my live and it's especally bad when it comes to women. I've simply never felt comfortable meeting new women. I can't approach a new woman and say hi, on the off chance I do meet a new girl I often feel timid and nervous, I'm afraid to flirt and I jusy can't make conversation, my mind just kinda freezes y'know.

>>18089561
That right there, that thinking is why you can't get laid.

Thanks alot, now i'm going to sound like one of those cliche dating coaches. But girls don't want a timid guy always worried about what she thinks of him. They want a man who knows what he wants. You're allowed to just want sex, and girls are allowed (and have clearly shown) to not be interested.

Be more forthcoming, not like. I WANT TO BANG YOU, NO? OK BAI. But just be straight up. Flirt, make your intentions clear and if they reject you drop contact. Girls will keep you around for the orbiting+self confirmation. Your problem is you think you're being so evil just wanting sex you don't realize how nasty these women are being dragging you around on a leash, you have stockholm syndrome.

>>18089570
You act like this is something I can change overnight. I don't even know where to begin with all this.

>>18089578
>you don't realize how nasty these women are being dragging you around on a leash

Ever think maybe these girls do legitimately consider him a friend?

>>18089581
Most girls are fucking stupid dude. They're extremely easy to talk to.

>>18089584
Girls say one thing and do another.

Maybe they say he's a good friend but what do their actions say?

>>18089586
It's moreso most things I'm familiar with/like to talk a out are completely uninteresting to your average thot.

>>18089575

That's the point of online dating. If you don't get a positive response you try someone else but they all know what you're there for ahead of time so the rejection is not as hard as it would be approaching a stranger in public.
If you don't force yourself to try it'll never get better. I'm anxious asf too but that's what worked for me

Just normal if you're under 30. You'll watch girls you slept with get married and have kids, and you will have to accept them as platonic friends. Part of growing up

>>18089584
I'm sorry, but the girls clearly know he has sexual feelings for them. And they are totally okay with stringing him along.

He said it himself, he's a timid shy person. Literally what could he bring to them even in terms of friendship? Conversation would be boring as fuck because he'd just agree with them constantly

>>18089593
The average chick just wants to talk about the people she knows and relationships. All you have to do is keep asking questions and making comments.

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>>18089439
>Despite these issues I have they really are good people and good friends to me. Super caring, loving and helpful.

I think that's the reason you are so attracted to them. Did you grow up in a dysfunctional family by any chance? Because if you have been deprived of affection in your earliest days it is very likely that affectionate traits in women have such an impact on you. I mean, who can withstand the motherly caring nature of a woman? You'd like to make them feel really good in return, amirite?

Don't worry, my lad. Pick the best one and plow her like there's no tomorrow. Ultimate satisfaction guaranteed.

Trust me.

>>18089597
I sure do love being such a fucking mess

>>18089607
Actually my parents are super loving an supportive people. However I simply struggle to just... get by emotionally without constant support from others.

>>18089614
That makes even more sense. Since your parents have been a role model all your life, the traits other people have in common with them makes you affectionate towards those people.

Hmm, it doesn't address your original question, but did you try to be on your own for some change? It's frightening in the beginning but it will strengthen your character by a lot, meaning you'll be way less dependant on others.

>>18089627
See, but it isn't I feel a sense of dependence to them. It's pretty much sexual frustration I guess.

>>18089627
this guys going all armchair psychology on you >>18089652


Just fucking nut up, state your case and move on if rejected. Take the rejection with grace for your own mental health. What you're doing, is NOT taking rejection gracefully, you're taking it the exact opposite by still clinging to them

I am friend with chicks. Previoisly I could say I had much more guy friends, now it is vice versa situation.
It's not that I could ever get laid, anyways. So I just get basic human interaction by befriending them.

>>18089606
This. It's hilarious how often shit they speak about are their acquiantances, gossip, etc. I was also told I am person very easy to speak to, of course, only shit I do is affirm what they are talking about and pretend to listen. Sometimes my dialog consists of me going "uh-huh", "yes", "right", shit like that.

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>>18089652
That's all advice I can give you then, nothing holds you back, my son.