How to have a low-key wedding?

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>>18084226

ask him for a non traditional wedding.

keep it to literally just friends and family, and make it a pot luck bbq type deal. do it in a bcakyard or at the park, or on the beach (i saw a beach wedding while walking by, took pic related) and it was awesome.

basically if you hae to ahve aparty, throw a party but make it the kind of party you'd want to attend. and if people say 'well you shoudl do this' the final answer will always be 'no, its my wedding'.

if people want to bring you 'social consequences' up then tell them you dont care.

just brush it off.

>>18084226
Talk with him.

>>18084240
I have tried to, but here's how it goes:

Me: Idk if I want to have a wedding.
Him: But I bought you this shiny rock, and and I love you, and my family will be really excited...

And then I just feel pure guilt and give up because I don't want to break down about it.

>>18084267

it sounds like you shouldn't be getting married at all desu.

but if you insist upon it, then throw a really simple bbq, wear something you like to wear and enjoy it. do it your way. and if he complains then say 'okay then lets just not have a wedding cuz whats the point if we wont enjoy it'

>>18084239
I've tried suggesting the potluck thing, but my bf/fiance felt it would be tacky and he would rather have people bring gifts than food.

I've never really hosted any social gatherings (or been to ones I considered enjoyable), so I am not sure what people like other than making things look nice and making it easy for them to hang out together.

>>18084239
PS - that's a neat photo and the carnival silhouettes are awesome.

>>18084297
>>18084321

those arent silhouettes, thats an actual pier in the distance with rides and shit, this was taken by santa monica pier.

>excuses

heres the thing, you can complain on an advice forum, or you can put your foot down.

no matter what we advise you insist on being a victim who cant change peopels minds and must do what everyone else says.

so either give into that (and stop complaining) or put your foot down, show your boyfriend this thread and explain why this is a shitty situation.

>>18084226
how about an outdoors wedding in a nice place in the summer. you can ask family to help set up.

>>18084226
I once heard the wedding is never about the couple who is getting married, it's about everyone else there.

>>18084327
My bad-I never thought they weren't real-I just thought it was called a silhouette when it makes the dark outline in the back like that.

I thought this forum was 1/2 vent life problems 1/2 confront life problems(?). I am sorry if this seems like a waste of your time-your comments do mean a lot and are helpful in making sense of things.

>>18084387

sure but even with that logic you're still doing more than 1/2 venting, you insist htat no answer will work because oyu want to pussy foot around because 'social consequences!'

apparently the man you want to marry can't even understand that you dont care if somethings tacky.