How do you get over someone who will never love you back?
I've fallen for my best friend and I know for a fact that they will never reciprocate these feelings.
I love spending time with them but at the same time, it kills me
How do I work past or shut off this feeling?
>>18082079
You don't. If your friendship is predicated on your affection then there really isn't a friendship because it's not two ways. You think it's deep and meaningful but that's because you've got a boner in your brain.
you just have to think about it rationally.
imagine your life without this person. would you prefer never spending time with them ever again?
if not, just be satisfied with what you have, because the only alternative is giving it up completely.
i went through kind of the same thing and that's how i got over it. but this was after an extended period of time not interacting with the person so it really put things into perspective.
>>18082079
Go out with other people. Eharmony, tinder, match, plenty o fish,etc. Place a little distance or these feelings will come out and make it uncomfortable for you both. If you really can't handle it, tell them. It may ruin the friendship and maybe cause the person or you to not see each other again. That's ok. People can be in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime. Good luck.
>>18082086
We've been friends for over a decade and these feelings are pretty new, over the past 3 or 4 months
I don't know why they hit all of a sudden and I hate myself for having these feelings
>>18082098
>these feelings are pretty new
Doubt it. You're just lonely and looking for comfort. See >>18082097
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