What do men and women argue about?

>>18080675
What the heck do people in relationships argue about?
go take a look at the /adv/ catalog

Male here. When I start the argument it is
>hey you did this thing and it bothered me
>excuses
>blames me
>tells me i have no right to be upset
>turns it around on me
>brings up shit I've done
>gets defensive
>i get more frustrated because she wont acknowledge anything I say
>que feedback loop that ends with us both being furious and not talking

Her

>you need to clean up after yourself more
>you need to stop having feelings because i can't handle that (not her words, but the gist of it) every time I tried to tell her I was upset she accused me of manipulation and psychopathy

Needless to say we arent together anymore.

>>18080675
Bf and I never really argue about the small stuff. And our arguments aren't really like getting mad at each other and yelling. Our arguments basically are like:

>i felt weird in that situation, what do you think about it
>bf then proceeds to tell me I am either over thinking, or he agrees but doesn't know how to address it
>if i dont think im overthinking I give my evidence that supports why I feel the way I do
>bf and I reach solution


We typically have disagreements over friend stuff, family stuff, money etc. Even then, we may argue like 2 times a year. We've been together for going on 7 years. In the first two years, a lot of arguments were about insecurities. Not just on my part, on both parts. I'd get suspect about the way some of his female acquaintances treated me, later found out I was right and they really don't like me. Bf expressed insecurity over my exs, and tried to start a self-defeating argument that I thought my ex was more attractive than him.

Now that the insecurities of the relationship have died down, there are way less arguments. And as I said, they are less about trivial things and insecurities, more about money, family, and siding with our friends on certain subjects (which may be seen more as gossiping desu)