ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Girls, would you marry me?

Why is every guy I meet either a total normie or straight outta /pol/?

>>18078571
Because the globalists must be defeated.

Can you retract your foreskin without using your hands?

>>18078612
I have phimosis so not even with my hand.

Girls:

Why does my crush flirt with my friends in front of me (she has no interest in them whatsoever, I know this for sure)?

>>18078612
No.

>>18078616
I can, but it hurts.

>>18078623
Clearly you don't know for sure she's not interested in them

Do most guys have phimosis? Is it too tight to get a tongue or finger in?

>>18078627
Not a guy, but what do you think phimosis is...?

>>18078625
She told me they're totally not her type of guys.

>>18078633
>phimosis
Tight tip of the foreskin

>>18078623
make you jealous, push you into making a move
if she makes you feel like she has potential to be with someone else, it might encourage you to want to ask her out... that kind of thing.
unless you just have poor judgement and she actually does like them

>>18078641
And where are they supposed to inserting a finger or tongue?

Sorry if it's too long, but I'd rather post here than to create a thread for such a simple question.
>I usually look at random places when I'm talking to my friends
>This one time I realized I was kind of staring at a girl while talking to a group of friends (I also have poor eyesight)
>She was staring me back
>Since then I started avoiding her everywhere I saw her because I've probably creeped her out that time, but she won't stop staring at me now and her (male and female) friends also keep staring at me
>They also don't seem quite happy when looking at me, so she probably isn't interested in me
She might think I have a crush on her, but the truth is that I don't give a damn about her. Still, she's the one creeping me out now. I feel very uncomfortable when she and her friends stare at me.
How do I tell her to fuck off without having to say it to her face? I'm not that good with body language and I don't want sound too much of dick.

>>18078645
BTW sorry for the shitty grammar. Not a native English speaker.

>>18078627
You can put the smaller finger. I've been stretching for the last 5 months but the progress was minimal.

>>18078612
???
Do you think there are muscles in the foreskin or do you believe in telekinesis?

>>18078627
No. Are you retarded?

>>18078645
>but the truth is that I don't give a damn about her.
No. If this was true you wouldn't have made this post.
My advice though, is to act as if it were true.

>>18078659
I really don't care about her. I don't wanna meet her or anything else. She's just creeping me out.
I stared at her once and it wasn't because I wanted, I just didn't realize that I did.

>>18078668
If you didn't care about her she wouldn't be creeping you out.

>>18078571
Men have a hard time forming their own opinions so they just follow a hivemind

Guys (or girls) -

1. I'm an absolute beginner at sex. What does one, as the girl, generally do during it? What would you like me to do?

To get an idea of how beginner I am, I didn't know that sex involved thrusting / moving back and forth or in and out until very recently.

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>>18078728
Did you never watch porn? Jeeze.

Go watch some homemade porn first. Keep in mind, its still acting to some degree, but the movements are more real. Use that as a basis for the general education.

What could possibly be going wrong here. I try to make female friends because I never really had one. I talk to them how I talk to guy friends and I don't initiate contact with them. It always ends up with them wanting sex. For example in the past few weeks I met a girl in class who we share a mutual male friend. The girl is of a different race then both of us and I figured she won't like me sexually since she didn't go after our mutual friend. Im fairly certain she's starting to get sexually attracted to me.

Can anyone enlighten me as to what the fuck I keep doing, because I don't even know.

>>18078740
You're not 'doing' anything, they just like sex.

>>18078740
While it is possible for men and women to be friends with nothing sexual going on, it's kind of rare.
Just keep looking.

>>18078728
>To get an idea of how beginner I am, I didn't know that sex involved thrusting / moving back and forth or in and out until very recently.
What did you think sex involve?

Do men have it worse off than women?

>>18078728
>I didn't know that sex involved thrusting / moving back and forth or in and out until very recently.
What the fuck?

Watch some porn I guess. Since you know literally nothing you need to just to be familiar with the act in general before you need to get the specifics.

>>18078760
No, it's just the volatility of the difficulty of mens lives is higher than for women. The difficulty of womens lives tend to cluster more around the mean. Put another way, some men have it off great, while some have it off awfully, but women generally have it off well

>>18078760
In lots of ways, yes.

>>18078760
Personally, I'd say so.
And I'm a woman. I wouldn't trade being a woman for the world, the smaller social issues being a woman do not outweigh the benefits imo.

>>18078548
Asked that before, but gonna ask it again.
Girls:
What do you think of men forcing you to abandon all your male friendships?
How would you react if your SO insisted on you dropping all contact with your male friends?

>>18078780
I'm dump him. That lack of trust is deal breaking to me, and you know, I've always said whenever 2 friends are fighting and one asks you to choose between them, I'll always choose the one not asking me to.
Same applies here. My friends have been around much longer than you, so if you're gonna make me choose, of course I'll choose them.

>>18078780
I wouldn't date him. There are men out there who don't have trust issues that I could be dating instead, why would I waste my time with someone who doesn't trust me?

>>18078782
Great. So as a male who's been forced by a girl to do such things, do you think it's justified? I know it might sound weird, but for some reason there are double standards and i want to know if they are the reason my SO forces me to stop being friends with certain people.

>>18078737
>>18078755
>>18078765
No, I've never watched porn nor masturbated. I'd try to research the subject except there are astonishingly few articles on the fundamentals of vanilla sex - only the more exotic positions and tips that assume knowledge of how to sex already. I'm worried that this lack of regular vanilla sex will be the same in porn, although I'll definitely try looking at / trying to find some.

I knew what they basic parts were (thing a in thing b etc.), just not exactly what or how, until recently.

>>18078792
No definitely. I would never ask my dude to dump all his lady friends either.
Relationships are built on trust. If shes saying you can't have female friends, she is directly saying she doesn't trust you not to cheat.
No other way around it really.


Now the only thing I can say, is when you phrase it "certain people" that can have a slightly different meaning.
Like for example, if I had some sort of orbiter who was clearly hitting on me all the time that I for whatever reason stayed friends with (idk why I would tho), I would understand my bf telling me "I don't really feel comfortable with you hanging out with him one on one."
Vice versa, if I'm watching some bitch very obviously put the moves on my man, and he's not really doing enough to tell her to back off (or if she's not anyway) I'm probably gonna be a bit miffed if he keeps hanging out with her. But if he is making clear efforts to tell her to back off he's not interested, then I don't care. I'll trust him to continue to tell her to fuck off if she's getting too flirty.

But if she's really just saying "no women despite their character or action, if she has a vagina you can't talk to her" she's just got this bias.

GUYS, does it feel good when she keeps sucking after you've nutted? Just wanna make sure I got it all but if it hurts then why even try. Why do you cringe?

>>18078817
It's a good kind of pain, like really good spicy food.

>>18078804
For fuck's sake. Go, educate yourself right now. And no, don't watch whatever porn comes in first. Just google it. Besides, if you're a virgin you'd defintely want to do it missionary. There are alot of vanilla porn, watch that. Also, be vocal. If your partner is hurting you, tell him so. If you're being uncomfortable, tell him so. If you want to try something different, also tell him so. Try to get as much comfortable as possible. And tell him to be god damn patient. Like seriously, "hymen" is a myth and if your partner is patient and calm, you won't bleed at all.

>>18078817
I'm not a guy, but in my experience it does vary.
Like my first serious bf, the second he came he didnt want any touch whatsoever, because it was super uncomfortable to him.

The dude I'm seeing casually now will continue to jerk off and/or thrust for up to a minute after he cums.

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Is it bad to "punch below your weight"? I've been told I look good a fair number of times, but I don't fully believe it. I'm also an asspie, so I'd prefer to have someone who is willing to bear with my ineptitude

>>18078814
Well she did say i can't have female friends, and was mad i wanted to have my female bestie around. I have no bitchy girls around me, and when somebody tried to make a move on me i've told her because i wanted to be fair. I've trusted her until this point, but right now i'd rather stay alone than let her outbursts ruin everything.
>>18078817
No. I don't exactly know how girls feel after their orgasm, but when we finish we get hit with fatigue. You can hug us, we can hug you but there's no way any sexual stimulation would feel good.

>>18078837
Yeah, she doesn't trust you and if you've never done anything to warrant mistrust, that's a bad sign. I'd dump her too 2bh.

What makes a girl go from "I really wanna have a future with you", hinting at marriage and all.

Then 2 weeks later "I don't love you anymore" ?

Didn't cheat, didn't fight, everything seemed normal.

>>18078836
This post makes no sense.

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Do I have to be extroverted to land an extroverted girl? It always seems like I'd never be able to keep up with them as an introvert and it just seems like a turn off.

Just wanna get some last minute advice.

Theres this girl i'm sorta friends with (Atleast enough for her to give me her number) and this girl has been pushing me to become an EMT. So, when I finally began the process, I texted her saying that I have. I would think that she would want to hear that?

But there has been no response, which is very strange for her. And its been Over 3 days already. Usually would respond damn fast. Typically same day at worst.

I've been told by 3 separate people to give this a shot and see. "Hey, I just wanted to check in and make sure that everything is all right"

Would it be stupid to send that? Any other options here? .

>>18078814
Different, male anon adding to this.
A lot of people regardless of gender that have major trust issues/fear of you cheating without reason are actually cheaters themselves. A ton of cheaters think 'oh, if I can get away with it so easily and well and never get caught, my partener can do the same. Better keep an eye on them/be controlling'. Of course this isn't always the case, some people just have major trust issues or are just controlling for some other reason, but it does happen that way a lot of the time.

>>18078856
Could be anything. People get set off by the strangest reasons.
She also could have been lying when she said the first thing. Either to you, or herself , or both.

>>18078856
Obviously she was lying

>>18078623
She enjoys attention?

>>18078864
Agreed

>>18078856
She got bored of you. Get more interesting.

>>18078865
It would make it easier. Also easier to have a relationship with.
An extroverted lover would want to spend a good amount of time with you. They would want to go out most weekends. Can you handle that?

She will mostly think you don't love her or don't want to spend with her whenever you reject hanging out with her.

>>18078864
Is it bad to go after women who don't look as good as you do, because you're an autist?

>>18078865
Not necessarily, but it is difficult.
I mean I have a very outgoing friend who's boyfriend basically is either at work or home, and has no friends outside of his online gamer friends. They work out just fine somehow.
I think the key to their relationship working so well, is 1.) he doesn't care what she does without him. If she wants to go clubbing alone, he couldnt care less. 2.) he humors her from time to time, and goes to parties/events as a couple, but usually only big things like that. and 3.) She doesn't ever push him to do things he doesn't want to often. Like, the going to major parties thing was a compromise on both their ends. She doesn't ask him to go to small social gatherings, he'll cave and at least go to major ones. Fine middle ground.

But yes, it is going to be very hard to find someone willing to compromise like that.

>>18078817
Right after orgasm the penis becomes hyper sensitive. For some guys sexual sensation during this state feels incredible. For others very uncomfortable or painful. For even others it changes each time. Go for it, but stop if he tells you to.

>>18078817
Depends on the guy. I have friends who can't stand the tip being touched after they nut, but I can keep getting sucked/keep thrusting as long as I please after I cum. I'm not an expert on this so I may be slightly mistaken but I have studied it to some extent. The head of the penis mostly has pain receptive nerves, but when erect and involved in a sexual action the pleasure nerves take over and 'mask' the pain receptive nerves. After ejaculation, for some males the pain receptive nerves immediately/almost immediately kick back in, because the brain wants you to stop having sex as the head of the penis actually acts as a 'shovel' to remove a potential competitor male's sperm (back from when we were cavemen and mated with multiple partners in a row, your dick shovels the other male's sperm out so you're the most likely to fertilize and pass on your genes) so you're effectively removing your own sperm if you keep going after ejaculation. So In short, some guys can't stand it and others are fine with it.

Fuck me /adv/.
I just went out with this friend I'm madly in love with. I had built myself up to confess to her, but I just couldn't say it. I was feeling sick with nervosity and I just couldn't say it.
I don't think I will ever be any more sure than now that it could be mutual.
As we said our farewells she said we definitely shouldn't wait as long until our next meeting. Should I just ask her out for something real soon? How do I muster up my courage and say it the next time? I just have no idea how to put it.

>>18078868
I'd send that, but let it go if you don't get a response to that either.

>>18078900
I was almost having second thoughts on that.

The other two options would be to just come clean and hope theres something of a friendship left if she doesn't feel the same, or to just text her with a EMT specific question (Seeing as its common ground)

>>18078886
Yes. Also, do you literally have autism or are you just using the buzzword to describe your social ineptitude?

>>18078906
The buzzword

OK it's a long back story but I'll try and sum it up
>Girl at work
>We get close, text every day, become 'the work couple' that people ask if we're dating
>Go out but neither of us are brave enough to say date
>Few weeks later she asks me on a date
>Ofc I say yes, but she had to go out of town that weekend
>During the week I get a text saying that she doesn't want to lead me on and that her and her ex wanted to work things out.

NOW to ~3 months later:
>Pretty heavily flirts with me (lots of hugs, pokes me in the side, asks me what's wrong if I'm quiet, felt my bicep and told me I'm strong, etc.)
>Goes out of her way to not mention her boyfriend to me, to the point it's weird that she doesn't
>Gets visibly bothered when I interact with attractive females

Can some girl or guy analyze this to wtf I'm supposed to do? I do want to try things with her but fuck it I got rejected once already, but it's just her actions and words are different and frankly I'm kind of tired of being blue balled at work.

I was dating my dentist for about 8 months. I met her outside of the clinic and chatted here and there without prior knowledge of what she did. Walked in one day for a checkup and there she was. Then it started to kick off between us.

When I'd go in, of course she knew I had an appt and would do the checkup herself.

Now we're broken up amicably I guess. I have an appt coming up. Should I send her a text to let her know or just be there in the waiting room. There's maybe 5 or 6 other dentists working there also, so it's not a single doc clinic

Girls

So.. I'm going to be taking a vacation alone to France in June. I met this French girl on the internet and we've become good friends. I'm going to the Airshow in Paris and I asked her if she'd like to go with me. She said yes and she seems pretty excited! We are just going to hang out for the 1 day because she's busy the rest of the time, plus I will be going to a different part of France after that day anyways. Well, I'm not hoping for a relationship or anything because of distance obviously. I don't expect sex at all. I expect for us to just have a nice day together. But, i sort of would like to kiss her I think. I've never had a "real" kiss before, and I feel close enough with her that it would be meaningful to me. How can I read her body language or tell if she actually wants me to kiss her when we hang out? She's a friend, so I wouldn't want her to be uncomfortable.

Guys:
How would you feel if a girl you've been low key fooling around with asks you to take her virginity for no other reason than she's just sick of it? You have no intentions of ever dating her, and you know she's a tad fragile emotionally.

Would you do it?

>>18078728
>I'm an absolute beginner at sex.

If you have a regular partner, ask him what he likes.

Ignore porn, most of that its for show. Instead, go look up some positions and tips. Pick what looks fun to you, try it.

Everyone has their own style. Some people like soft intimacy and sweetness, some, spontaneous and passionate, some rough and dirty. The important thing is that you're enjoying yourself and in to it.

If you genuinely enjoy what you're doing, that's something that can excite your partner, which will excite you, which excites him, etc, creating positive feedback loop that elevates things.


>>18078740
>What could possibly be going wrong here.
As a dude who has female friends. Don't overthink it. If you're not interested, just don't act. Sexual tension doesn't have to lead to anything.

Hell, one of my best friends and I have it, and we just use it to flirt compliment each other just as an occasional pick me up. We know it's there, but we know we don't have to act on it, and because of that choice the friendship feels almost more genuine.

Really, it's just kind of nice having a 3rd party of the opposite gender (someone that isn't your significant other, sibling, parent, or anyone in your inner circle who'd be obligated to be behind you) that you know can see you as attractive, have your back


>>18078817
>GUYS, does it feel good when she keeps sucking after you've nutted?

It depends... Sometimes it feels really good, sometimes it's sensory overload. It's pretty much the same as what your response would be

I don't know if you've ever experienced this yourself, but I've definitely seen it in women where when you cum super hard, everything gets VERY sensitive and tender. Like even the slightest touch can send aftershocks and make you spasm, and it feels good at first and can trigger secondary waves of an orgasm, but it can also interrupt one that's going on and eventually everything becomes so tender it just starts to become painful.

Same concept.

>>18078918
You're a beta orbiter, sorry to tell you that mate.

>>18078912
Then definitely don't set your standards lower. If you've been told (genuinely) that you're attractive, do what I do, don't go lower than yourself, go higher. I've only ever dated one person that was less attractive than myself, and that was because I got to know her and really loved her personality. And I know you here this from everyone everywhere, but confidence confidence confidence. Women respond to it more than looks. Don't be an egocentric asshole, just be a little more confident than your looks would indicate you are. Aka, if you're a 7/10, walk around with the confidence of an 8/10.
As for talking to women, you just have to 'man up' and do it. The worst they can say is no, big deal, there are a billion other women you can hit on/ask out.

>>18078928
You say fooling around with, but then you mention virginity. What's your definition of fooling around?

If she's attractive enough that I've done other things with her, sure. I like sex.

>>18078931
Idk man I've been the beta orbiter before also, doesn't feel like that. Also she's the one that initiates this crap I don't chase her, she asked me out the begin with and she's pretty physical with me.

>>18078936
stopping at 3rd base. Thats what I meant by "low key" I guess.

Like I'll admit I wouldn't be fucking him for the right reasons, and I'm a little worried it's gonna make me feel even shitter than before, but I just don't believe I'll ever have my ideal situation so I just want to get it over with and I at least trust him.

>>18078938
It doesn't matter, women are active parts of the whole beta-orbiting phenomenon too, they love the validation. I think you should focus on another girl, let her be jelly.

>>18078928
Only if she understands 100% that it's just casual sex and will never be anything more. Even then she may get attached.

>>18078928
>Would you do it?

This is a coinflip and COMPLETELY up to the guy.

Some guys would jump all over this chance and say, "fuck it, let's do it".

Other guys would nope the fuck out and say, "uhhhh that's too much of a potential burden/risk" because they'd feel like being someone's first would be a lot of pressure.

Personally (I haven't been single in a little bit so this is hypothetical) but it would depend on how emotionally fragile I think the person is.

If I thought they'd be the type to be able to have a fling and not fall, I'd probably try and make sure to make it be as attentive and--for a lack of a better word--fun experience as I could make it be.

But that's also because my first time was horrible, and it wasn't until my third partner, the one night stand where we spend the entire night laughing, giggling, smiling, being silly, and just talking about random things and enjoying ourselves, that I truly ever enjoyed sex.

I'd want to recreate that for them to let them know that, this stuff can be amazing if you don't take it too seriously and just go to enjoy yourself.

But, if I didn't think they could separate themselves from the act, and were the type who'd end up feeling hurt if we parted ways, I'd advise them to wait, because I'd already made the mistake of not, and in the end, it does more harm than good. All things come in good time, and it's good to be eager, but rushing in to things--especially things you're not ready for--rarely ends well.

>>18078945
Oh kek no I am dating other girls, I just think we'd be a good match and frankly I'm asking more what to do about the flirting, I kind of want to leave the option open you know?

Girls

Rewording from what I asked earlier. How will a guy know if it's ok to kiss a girl, if she's a friend?

>>18078956
sigh, I know this is the correct answer, deep down I know it and I shouldn't even ask.

I really want to lose it to someone who loves me. But I feel like that's never gonna happen, love is just a fairy tale. I finally meet someone who I'm not only attracted to, but he's attracted to me as well (sexually at least), and the biggest factor: He's actually come around more than fucking once. I hate the ONS shit. He at least keeps coming back for more.
I don't want to lose my chance I guess. I feel like this is as good as it's gonna get for me, and I should take what is offered to me instead of holding out for a fantasy that's not gonna happen.

>>18078918
>OK it's a long back story but I'll try and sum it up

I'm a dude, but figured i'd chip in.

> I kind of want to leave the option open you know?

So... why can't she have that opinion too?

Look man, while she was with you, she obviously ran in to the problem of you vs the ex, and she chose to see if the ex was still an option, and i guess it turns out it wasn't.

Now people might say that's finicky, and you're second choice, or whatever bullshit, but humans are finicky things and it's rare we actually know what it is we want.

You yourself admit you're still kind of undecided and are looking to keep your options open, so why can't she have that same indecision?

If you think she's truly over her ex, go ahead and ask her out. As a fellow human who has had moments of indecision, give her the benefit of the doubt

But at the same time, I don't advise you do it unless you think she's actually over him, or else you might get yoyo'd around again. It's one thing for her to not be sure about you at the start, but it's another thing to still be hung up over the past once she's ALREADY gone to check out what's there. If she can't make up her mind after already having gone back once, then she's the type who will be stuck there for a long time and isn't the type that can be with anyone until she gets over it.

Here goes the "you're a shitbag" replies
>GF breaks up because of emotional trauma that has nothing to do with me blablabla
>three weeks go by, I go out and my crush (before I met my gf) shows up and says she heard fromwhobitch.jpg
>anyway, I had asked her on a date right before I met my girlfriend two years ago and she said yes but I didn't follow up because I got into a relationship
>She asks me now, I say yes
>me and ex patch things up a few days ago right after me setting up a date with aforementioned crush

What do I do? I can't possibly say I got back with my ex so see ya later and ditch her for the second time over the same girl. What's a nice way out of this? Crush is hella pretty but she's had her eye on me for the full duration of my relationship seemingly waiting. Should I maybe take her out on a fun date and just play it cool?

>>18078964
You are acting like those girls who have always a back-up guy on hold, despicable behavior if you ask me.

How do I erase my ex from my memories? She doesn't even deserve to be there I fucking hate that liar. Or least get somekind of closure

>>18079000
Oh that's one thing I forgot to put in I guess to make the story more compact: she's still with the dude.

But your argument does have some merit, I hadn't thought about her keeping her options open, it comes off for me as her not knowing what she wants.

>>18079012
Learn to forgive her. Not for her to be forgiven, but for you to move on with your life. Bad feelings are feelings towards her too, yknow.

>>18079010
Dude if she was single I'd ask her out right this minute. That's my only real option is to see whatever happens after they break up

>>18079023
she doesn't fucking deserve to be forgiven I just want to feel even or just some kind of closure on the whole situation. Are you saying I should just be a push over & not give a fuck?

>>18079012
Work out until you physically can't. Repeat until you move on

when first going on a vacation with your SO whats the pooping arrangement? as in how do you do it if you aren't at that level of 'comfort' yet?

>>18079053
Just take a shit first "hey gonna crap" or let her go first whatever. If she's really shy just say you're gonna go down to the desk or something and that'll give her enough time or turn the tv up. It's a bodily function, don't hold it in or else it'll cause problems. If you make a stinker just make a joke no big deal

>>18079036
What do you want 4chan to tell you, to kill the bitch? It doesn't mean you are a pushover you imbecile, it means that you move on and be happy and when she sees that you are happy and not some grieving bastard - then that's the revenge.
Or you could stay bitter and fuck up your own life by calling her to tell her what a lying whore she is, which will be pathetic as fuck and she will look down on you and be even happier she broke it off.

Your choice kiddo

>>18078970
>I really want to lose it to someone who loves me. But I feel like that's never gonna happen,

That's the thing, it doesn't have to be someone that "loves" you. It just has to be someone you're genuinely attracted to and genuinely want to do it with for no reason other than you want to.

So to expand on my story, part of the reason my first time was so particularly bad was pretty much because i was in your place. Feel free to skip to the TL;DR if you want to.

I believed in abstinence until marriage. I was 23. For the first time I'd met a girl who I'd fallen head over heels for, and for a brief moment I thought she felt the same, but I screwed it up, and it fell apart. I was crushed, but at the same time felt liberated because for once, i'd put myself totally out there to someone, and just decided fuck it, I'd have no reservations anymore and just put myself out there.

So I threw myself in to dating, but the thing was, I was slightly rebounding. Partially in bitterness I said I may as well just get it over with and find out what all the hubbub was about. So literally my first date out, I wasn't too in to it, but the girl was obviously interested, so I said fuck it, why not.

It was so fucking empty. I even tried it again with her another day, but I just felt so cheap and dispassionate, and such a disappointment after hearing so much hype about this all. I'd never really bought in to any of it, but i'd been wondering, and this just kind of confirmed everything I knew before that lead me to believe in abstinence. But it was over with, and I just moved on.

My second partner was my best friend. We were both just drunk, and horny, and she wanted to, and I was curious, so I figured why not. It wasn't as terrible as my first time, but it wasn't anything special. I found trying to get her to orgasm more entertaining than anything else. And we'd casually continue to do this for a while, until I found someone I wanted to try being serious with.

1/2

>>18079070
>2/2

But my third partner, this was just a random encounter. A friend of a friend, that I just one night just started talking to, and became fascinated by. She came visiting with my friend, and when her friend retired for the night, we both stuck around in the living room continue to chat, becoming so immersed in our conversations and in learning about one another, that did it until we basically passed out. Even then, halfway asleep we naturally just started fooling around until one thing lead to another, and we ended up back in my room.

We both knew nothing would ever come of it past this--because she lived literally half a thousand miles away and neither of us was the long distance type--but we just decided to enjoy ourselves in that moment.

This was the first time I genuinely enjoyed myself, because it was the first time I actively chose to be with someone not just out of convenience, but because I genuinely liked and was attracted to them, and it was pretty magical.

Even with my best friend, I think she's attractive and I of course like her, but it's just not the same kind of attraction or chemistry, and it was always something done, just because of a certain apathetic "eh, why not", and not because I was genuinely excited.

And THAT'S the difference.

>TL:DR:
Your first time doesn't have to be because you're madly in love with someone, but it should be because you truly actually want to do it. You don't have to have to deep romantic love or passion--whether that's a fairy tale or not I'll not discuss--but just a genuine want to share a moment with a person.

As someone who DID believe in waiting for the right person, I've now come to believe that sex doesn't have to be about deep love, but it should at least be about sharing a moment or experience with someone, even if you never see them again.

It doesn't have to be any deeper than that, it just has to be something you both genuinely want to do.

>>18079015
>she's still with the dude.

Then yeah, the bit at the end where I said she's the type that will be stuck there and can't be with anyone until she grows up applies.

My girlfriend unblocked her ex. This isn't the first time as well since usually if he contacts her she says she tells me she blocks him, but the is the third time with the same guy. Should I be concerned, what do I say?

>>18079088
So essentially wait it and out see if it's worth it when and if they break up?

I went on my first ever date today.
It went horribly.
we met on a discord server (a chat thing similar to irc) a few weeks ago and it turns out we lived relatively close as far as internet things go. So a few weeks pass and while we hadn't even talked very much, he said he "Wanted to get to know me better". Alright. That's fine. Now, I'm a very conservative person when it comes to relationships, I take things glacially slow and I like to keep them discrete, especially being gay in a conservative state. And then he, the server owner, tells the entire server we're going on a date. So now the entire server, mutual friends and all, is all-eyes-on-us, exactly what I didn't want.

I could already tell it was going to go bad when he told me he wanted to take me bowling. I figured I'd give it a shot.

So I had to ride my 250CC motorcycle on the interstate for 85 miles (a harrowing task on any bike, but a 250 is barely larger than most scooters) and then my wallet wiggled loose of my pocket.
so he had to pay for my game on top of me losing my debit and credit card, and my driver's license.

Then, the entire time whenever I'd try to start a conversation he'd just go "haha" or "yeah". Or there was no conversation at all, just us silently taking turns bowling for two hours straight.
The entire time this was going on he'd been posting to the discord server and chatting with the other people, hinting at wanting us to do sexual stuff. Well I did my best to neutral response to everything and try and enjoy the game.

I told him I'd find a bank near by and see if I could do an emergency withdrawal to pay him my half back, and because I didn't want to ask him for gas money seeing as how my motorcycle was half empty.

Well, I managed to get the money, pay him, and in the parking lot he asked if I wanted to kiss. There was awkward silence before I had to tell him it was too soon and I didn't want to. Then we shuffled around, I gave him a condolence hug, and that was it.

1/2

>>18079108

I feel nothing romantic or sexual towards him and I don't see it changing with a second date. This is why I like to keep things discrete. Now that I don't want to do anything with him, the entire server is gonna be up in arms about me not wanting anything more once it finds out and I don't want to lose the friends I've made. I also really, really don't want to hurt his feelings
what the fuck do I do

>>18079109
Could u tell me please senpai, why do you care about some random server?
He clearly wanted to just use you. What i can tell you right now as a normal, easy going male is run as far as you can. You wanted a normal date, he wanted to stick his dick inside any vagina and went on with everything that was neccesary. Be happy he didn't try to force you to do it.
Also
>Fuck discord, fuck whatever they say

>>18079116
I agree with you but just to correct: he's a gay dude not a femanon

How on earth is it possible to get close to a creature you know turns into a monster every month?

>>18079119
Shi, if he is then nothing changes. Don't care if he's gay, he's a female or whatever. Never let somebody threat you like a cumdumpster/cumgiver. Fuck those people. OP, i'm straight and i have alot of gay male and female friends. There are alot of them who want a stable, loving relationship. Be patient and the proper person will come.

>>18078868
Anymore advice?

I can just come clean with her about how I feel just to get it off my chest. Or something else EMT related?
Dunno, I am mostly concerned with our friendship, if you can call it that?

>>18079124
By not being a pussy.

>>18079116
Because the people on this server are the first friends I've had in many years and I get along great with most of them. That's why I care

>>18079154
If they are your friends, they won't care about whatever this guy says. If they do care on the other hand, they weren't your friends at all.

Is it always a bad idea for the guy to ask about the "state" of the relationship? I don't want to come off as pushy; but we've been hanging out consistently together for a month and both of us seem to be having a good time. I'm used to women requesting we should be exclusive by now but this girl isn't very emotional and hasn't suggested a relationship yet.

What's the deal? Is she waiting for me to say something?

>>18079166
Can't say, you're to vauge. Please give more context.

was looking forward to tonight, supposedly, have a hot date and get laid with cutie..
she takes care of someone as a job, and her (the patient) fucking family is taking forever to get back so she can leave to meet with me
Now its near 23h on a friday and I'm stuck watching youtube with a hardon...
kill me now....

>>18079168

Not sure what else you want to know. I met her a month ago, got her number as soon as I met her. Hanging out every couple weeks became a consistent thing, we get along really well. Haven't had sex yet but I've been more touchy lately and she's been receptive to it.

She's always in her head which makes it difficult for me to read her emotions, but I've been observing her actions and she's been making more time for us to meet, and leaning on me when we sit together.

Maybe I'm being impatient but the relationship seems pretty vague right now and I'm not sure if we're more than friends yet.

>>18079191
It's been a month mate. Try taking her on some intimate date first. Like, late night dates, walks and all that shit. There are alot of people in my environment who get touchy-feely and yet they don't feel like they're in a relationship. She may be considering being with you, but you might still need to "prove" yourself.

Girls:

1. What is it that you enjoy about sex?
2. Why do you have one night stands with people you barely know? (if you do at all)

Obviously sex feels good (for most of you anyways). But what is it that makes you act on your urge? Is it because you like a certain person and it's an intimacy thing? Or do you sometimes just simply have taste for sucking a dick? I've always been told women think of sex more psychologically and don't like looking at penises which is why they don't like getting flashed, but they are attracted to penises only if it's attached to a person they like.

>>18079001
pls respond

Where do you go or hang out in order to find a an asian-american gf who actually loves America? I could go to the local Republican political rally and scan the crowd for asian women, but all the asians I think I see invariably turn out to be mexican mestizos.

>>18078740
you are being natural and not trying too hard
Is it bothering you they are into you? They'll get over it so just wait it out.

i need a good line ASAP
chatting up a girl on Tinder, feel like my ability to be cute is running out, need to convince her to go on a date
i'll draw you if it works out

>>18078760
It depends.
In some ways there is more pressure to succeed, to get laid etc as a man. In some ways there are downsides to being a woman. Mostly living is hard for most people

>>18078780
Fuck them off

>>18079226
just plain go ahead and ask
>hey, you seem interesting, I'd like to meet you face to face
>I promise not to be a stalker and only a bit weird

>>18078792
Nah
I don't think a girl should be forcing you to do that either. It is emotionally abusive and bullshit. Being a woman I can say that women can get batshit crazy jealous but then so can men. And ultimately the jealousy should remain their problem.

>>18079226
Q: This might be a little out of the blue, but do you have rasin?

A:No.

Q:Oh, ok. Then how about a date?

My GF broke up with me on monday. Last night we talk for about one hour on the phone, I asked her to tell me she doesn't love me anymore so I can move on and be at peace. She refused and I couldn't change her mind. Why would she act like that?

>>18079247

Because she still likes you

>>18079311

So, she still likes me but at the same time she doesn't want to be with me. WTF.

>>18079068
>just move on and be happy xD
yea so if anybody itt that isn't a complete fucking idiot like this person & could actually gove some solid advice that'd be great

>>18079321

My best friend and his girlfriend have broken up 5 times. All by her, and they always get back together within a week.

Girls are dumb.

Are relationships not for losers?

>>18079247
If you want to get over this, it's best if you do not talk to each other.

She broke up with you, but apparently, she still wants to talk to you and have some kind of affection and doesn't care for your closure. She wants the best of both worlds. Time for you to get off this ride

>>18078790
Because trust is earned. And if you really felt the guy was worth it, you wouldn't start things off by rubbing you plan B list all over his face.

>>18079337

There are plenty of losers in relationships

>>18079208
1. Obviously, sex feels good. Outside of that, I enjoy being that close to a man. Not only for skin to skin contact. The emotional intimacy. My boyfriend looks so unbelievably sexy, animalistic, and so on. It's fun to experiment. And since we have a really good sex life, it feels like a big, awesome secret between the two of us (relating to intimacy).

2. I haven't had a one night stand in almost 8 years... And I have only had one in my entire life. I don't like to think about it. Wasn't what I look for. Basically, I don't get what I like about sex (answer number one) from a one night stand. That being said, the reason I did it was because I had recently got out of a really controlling relationship. My ex used to tell me what to wear, used to get mad at me if a guy even looked at me and blamed it on me looking like a slut. That may even sound conceivable by some men, but I literally only wore tshirts and jeans, sure shorts in summer (but doesn't every girl do that). When we broke up, it was like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. A new found freedom. I was no longer under the spell of beating myself up whenever another dude gave me attention.

So, I had a one night stand with, not a complete stranger, but a friend that I had not really ever spoke to like that. It was enjoyable, but I didn't feel emotionally close to him. It was awkward after when I'd see him around.

In short, I did it just to do it. It was liberating in a sense, but also didn't make me happy or fulfilled in any way. Can't really be myself in the bedroom when I don't really trust or have emotional connections with a man.

>>18079375

Not him. But that was deep.

I'll never know that feeling, but it was still very interesting read.

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>>1807861

Only while hard. Be weird as fuck if I did it floppy.

Girls:

A girl I haven't spoken to in over 5 years added me on facebook. Apparently she liked me but I never knew. What does this mean, and if it actually means something then what should I do?

how do I stop thinking about how things could've been?

>>18079389

Tell your self "fuck it. It's fucked"

And focus on something more important

>>18079389
You just do it. I have been in the same boat. There was this girl at my gym who I'd never seen before. She was cute and everything and I believe she was checking me out. I had multiple chances to talk to her and I didn't because I bitched out. Ended up never seeing her again. After that I kind of just manned up and got tired of letting people slip through my fingers.

FF a month and I took notice of this new girl at work. Saw her a few times and finally collected all my courage, waited till she got off work and talked to her. Ended up getting her number and we've been on 4 dates so far. The thing is because of the nature of my job if I had not waited to talk to her and said "I'll just ask her next time" I would have been sitting here right now regretting it because I literally have not been scheduled to work at the same job site as her since.


You are always going be wondering "what could have been" if you never do anything about it.

>>18079398

tfw you're a skinny guy and will never get checked out at the gym by girls

>>18079398
100% not what I was reffering to but ty, story is beneificial

I've had a thing for one of my friends for a while now and I want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if I should straight up tell her I want to go on a date or if that would be too forward.

Do girls masturbate thinking about fucking their guy friends?

Because I have jerked off to the thought of almost all the girl friends I've ever had

>>18079476
I've never schlicked to the thought of any of my guy friends with maybe two exceptions and both were guys I was pursuing romantically--there was sexual tension from flirting. Most of the guys I masturbate to are completely fictional or whoever I'm involved with romantically.

It goes without saying but I can only speak for myself. I have no idea how typical or atypical this is.

>>18079512
There is sexual tension with all my friends

If there isn't I lose interest

>>18079518
Even the male ones?

>>18078571
>either a total normie or straight outta /pol/?
What other options are there even except normie and /pol/ack?

>>18079557
Neckbeards and autismos.

>>18079557
/pol/ IS a normie board.

>>18078969
Does she look at you in a way that says "why the fuck is this idiot still talking?" even though you're both obviously enjoying the conversation? If yes, go for it

Have I made a mistake
I was eating dinner with two friends of mine today and one (who I worry has a mildly unrealistic perception of her weight) asked us if we thought she had gained weight since we first met her. The question was kinda absurd since she's always been pretty petite so we said so and that she for sure didn't. She disagreed and said she had apparently gained 5 lbs over the last 2 years and that she looked better then, our friend quickly replied that wasn't sure and she looked at me pretty intently and asked what I thought.

I've been kind of half flirting with her a lot recently because I'm a cowardly fuck who can't be direct with women out of fear of rejection and I continued this by pretending to be deep in thought and saying I'd get back to her later. She looked sorta disappointed and I shifted the convo elsewhere.

I drank a bit later on in the night and decided it would be a good idea to get back to her via text and say "So after thinking pretty hard about it, you're at least as cute now as you were then, maybe even cuter"

Sobering up now and I'm getting an immense feeling of dread over how cringey that must seem to her and now I'm going to be pushed out of this implicit flirting stage into awkward colleagues fuck my life.

Is this as bad as I'm imagining? How would you guys react?

>>18079476
I don't have any hard evidence, but I'm pretty sure grills have masturbated to me

>>18079608
It's not nearly as bad as you think it is. You could even cash out big. But this all depends on her reaction.

>>18079592
So... your theory is that anon wants an autismal bf?

Women:
When a somewhat popular girl says she's to her other friends had lots of guys show interest in her lately but isn't interested in relationships at all because she's too much of an introvert, is that just bullshit girls say or is it sort of really how she feels? She didn't say it to me and I'm wondering if that means she's not interested in me as well.

>>18079608
I mean I wasn't there in person.. but I can imagine scenarios where you might have played your cards rather well. I think I woulda been alittle more direct though. Words like "maybe" and the way you put it are pretty flirty and low-key but I think sometimes if you just say like "I thought about it and you're a hell of alot more cuter the more I see you" might have gone over well. Not pretending like I'm a stud though but... anyone agree?

>>18079518
Why is the world like this? I've met people now who say the same thing, and it's just so damn true. And honestly i feel the same way. I no longer want a real good pal anymore, I want someone who makes my loins tingle, otherwise I just have little care about their opinion or anything about them sometimes.

Conversely I'm lonely as fuck, but I bring it upon myself because I only want the companionship from people who feed me sexual tension, frustration or relief.

Has it always been like this or is this a side effect of our overstimulated generation?

How do you know when it's the right time to kiss a girl?

>virgin here

How do I find a woman in her early thirties who is not a feminist?

>>18079653
my burning question

>>18079217
>>18079001
"Patch things up" You mean you got back together?

But eh,i'd not give a bitch who breaks up with you a second chance when she couldn't talk it out. unless you feel attatched to her. She does it once,she'll do it again. Give the crush a real shot since she's been incredibly patient (Two years is fucking impressive) and let the damaged woman who was your ex stay in the position of your ex.

>>18078899
Anyone? I'm thinking it doesn't really matter what I say. If she's interested it's gonna work, no matter how awkward it is, if it wasn't meant to be, then no smooth line will save me. Am I correct?

>>18079773
I'm someone like that.

I recently started going back to church, I do drawing and ballet classes and I'm in book shops a lot.
I'd also suggest looking for young but professional-looking women in bars shortly after work is done. I don't go to bars at night anymore, but sometimes I have a drink with some friends or colleagues before heading home.

I'd say, watch out for the normal stuff, no crazy oppressed haircut, no fishmouth, no glasses, not fat etc. You'll be surprised that most slightly older women are only into a mild brand of lipservice feminism and not hardcore tumblrina's. If you have a job you stop whining about oppression at some point.

>>18079001
Choose the new girl over your ex.

>>18079541
I don't have any male friends

I used to have a friend online who used to work at a trap cafe but never met up since I realized he wasn't into it anymore

>>18079001
If the first girl was decent you wouldn't even think about the second girl.

Go with the second girl.

>>18079864
trap cafe? Sounds like bullshit.

>>18079864
>trap cafe
Is that what I think it is?

>Girl I took out one or two times times moves to a different city
>Ask her out and she says it sounds fun
>But need the address of where she is and say so

>After asking her address she intentionally(I can tell because we both have Apple Icucks) just ghosts the shit out of me and it's been two weeks

Is it even worth it to keep hoping.

>>18079870
Yeah

I live in japan

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>>18078548
>Women
Assuming you and your partner were not sexually active for whatever reason, would you rather you man
>fap to porn with relatively average women and men
>fap to pics of erotic models WAY hotter than you
Would it make a difference if you were sexually active?

>>18079898
I'd rather not know what he faps to.

Like yeah yeah cool we both know you fap to shit just hide it at least.

But if I had to pick, I'd say hot porn stars. At least I know its 100% for their bodies because he wouldn't date the cumrags once he's done beating his meat.

>>18079911
Why are hot erotic models better than watching porn with average people? I didn't quite understand.

>>18079933
Because they're way out of your league/ones you wouldn't want to use as anything but fun. It's like a really expensive sports car: you'll never own one but you can at least fantasize about having one and enjoy looking at them, plus you deep down know it would be too difficult to maintain it and it would be more trouble than it's worth.

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>>18079965
>you'll never own one but you can at least fantasize about having one and enjoy looking at them, plus you deep down know it would be too difficult to maintain it and it would be more trouble than it's worth
a pretty good metaphor for hot women.

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>>18079965
>average women think this about attractive women

>>18078548
Femanons.

Trying to dispel or confirm a myth here.

Is it true that you decide whether or not you'll have sex with a guy by the first 10 minutes of meeting them (first impressions)

>>18080033
Not at all.

One of my boyfriends was someone I thought looked meh but then as we grew closer I appreciated him more physically as well.

Are guys willing to have sex when girls are on their periods? Or is that gross? I get really horny when I'm on mine </3

Femanons, riddle me this.

Why do you browse this imageboard? It's a complete boys club and you will be told "tits or gtfo" once you expose yourself to be female.
Why not browse Tumblr or something if you seek to be alternative?

>>18080065
Absolutely degenerate, no.

>Tell my gf that my fantasy is to tie her up and act like she's my personal fucktoy for one evening
>She freaks out and calls me a weirdo
>Ask about her fantasy so we can do a trade, she fulfills my fantasy and I fulfill hers
>"Uhhh it's nothing important and you're still a weirdo..."
>Insist
>Turns out she has a rape fantasy
>ask her who's the weirdo now, she gets flustered
>Suggest we combine the two but make sure bith of us have control over it and can stop anytime if it starts to feel bad
>"NO!"

Wat do?

>>18080065
It can depend. I usually do it on the condition that we both shower after it.

Mostly it's just great since my gf is really up for it when she's on hers, so she does a lot of things to coax me into it. I cave to her every time.

I mean, it's gross because it's messy, but it's not horrifically gross or anything. I'd call it more of an inconvenience than anything.

>>18080075
Not much you can do, she's a retard.

>>18080077
Fuck. My #1 fantasy for a very long time has been having a tied up fucktoy.

>>18079642
>is that just bullshit girls say
You guessed it.
Girls can't really be introverted when half the population constantly wants to fuck them.

Guys, how aware are you of your dick during the day? Is it constantly on the back of your mind kinda? Or just when you're horny?
Also when you're horny, is your dick one 'entity' or do you feel the head and the shaft separately or something like that?

>>18080105

I don't know, are you constantly aware of your vagina?

>>18080105
>how aware are you of your dick during the day?
Honestly not at all unless it's sitting uncomfortably and needs adjustment.

>Is it constantly on the back of your mind kinda? Or just when you're horny?
Really just when horny mostly.

>Also when you're horny, is your dick one 'entity' or do you feel the head and the shaft separately or something like that?
I've never really thought about it or noticed to be honest but I believe so, yes.

>>18080106
No, but for example if I'm ovulating I'm more or less constantly aware of the position of my clitoris, kind of? Like it's nothing pressing but just the slightest tingly feeling in the back of my mind for most of the day.
But obviously guys don't undergo hormonal rollercoasters like menstruation so I'm wondering.

>>18080065
This is one of those "depends on the guy" answers.

I'm not bothered by the menses, so I'm fine with it. If you've never done this, put down a LOT of towels to avoid staining whatever you're having sex on. Also make sure you have a lot of lube available because blood is terrible lube for sex.

Try not to take it too seriously if your boyfriend is squicked out by the blood and doesn't want to do it though.

>>18080075
Combining the two isn't a good idea. Given that both fantasies involve HER being put in a very vulnerable position, I would probably bring up trying her fantasy and then take it very slowly and carefully to make sure she's ok with how it goes. That means you're going to make it about her and making sure she's ok with what's going on.

If she realizes that she enjoys being dominated in a "rape" game, she may be more open to being "used".

>>18080075
>>Turns out she has a rape fantasy
Dump her for being basic.

>>18080068
I assume you mean 4chan altogether? Simple answer, when I started browsing /b/ I was an awkward gangly, titless teenager, face full of acne and deep in the closet and 4chan helped me laugh at the world and myself. Sounds cheesy but it really helped me as a teen, even just to get my mind off things.
And I guess I just never stopped browsing, just left /b/ behind. I don't reveal my gender unless relevant so I don't get asked for tits a lot either. It's a fun website that's all.

>>18078571
Functional people know how to hide their powerlevels. /pol/acks don't count as functional.

So your best bet is hanging with the normies and digging for some delicious spaghetti.

>>18080105
I know it's there, but it's not like something I focus on. Adjusting the balls so they don't get squashed is second nature and doesn't require much thought.

I'm aware of the different sensations between the shaft and head when someone is being nice to my dick, but I consider it to be one entity. It's kind of like if someone touches my fingertip vs the back of the finger -- there's a difference in sensation and sensitivity.

>>18080126
Thanks, that makes sense.
Speaking of balls, can you actually accidentally sit on them? Because wouldn't that totally squish them?

>>18078627
Had surgery when I was four because of phimosis. Couldn't piss anymore.

Now I can infiltrate yahweh's chosen people and cash in on German guilt!

>>18080122
Thx for the answer

>>18080143
No worries.

>>18080129
If you aren't careful, sure. Most guys just automatically adjust before sitting if necessary. My balls aren't even all that big and I've had them squashed before (like if someone jumps in my lap). Since my cousins and brother had kids I learned to be way more careful about protecting against such surprises.

It's not like legs are completely inflexible logs though, so even if the balls get a bit squashed, it's not going to completely rupture them or anything.

>>18080163
Yeah I imagine I'd know about it if tons of guys were accidentally busting their own balls.
Thanks for the answer.

Do girls like big balls? My balls are pretty big and they make my above average dick look smaller than it actually is.

>>18080167
Don't really care. Balls are fun to play with but I don't think I've ever given ball size any thought.

>>18079476
Only if I'm crushing on them, romantically. I can't really shlick to people I know unless there's some sort of romantic spark.
Definitely prefer random stuff or fanfiction or something though, in any case.

Why do guys scribble dicks over everything?

Girls, what's the difference between you being nice to a guy and you trying to send him ioi?

>>18080191
What's ioi?

>>18080192

indication of interest

>>18080196
Oh. Touching him more, laughing more, playing with my hair, talking about personal/sexual stuff.

Do dicks float in the bath?

>>18080204
No t. knower

How do vagoos keep my tadpoles in long enough for them to fertilize an egg? Every creampie I've done seems to just leak out.

>>18080199
Thank you. This gives me confidence. She wouldn't stop laughing and fidgeting. My pathetic attempts at humor, she seemed to find hysterical. And idk about girls, but I tend to laugh when I'm nervous.

>>18080215
Orgasms help with fertilization since the contractions push the sperm further towards the ova.
So, I guess you're outta luck is what I'm saying.

>>18080216
Yeah that's normal for everyone I guess. Fidgeting is a good sign too. Oh, and rubbing her thighs together or criss-crossing her legs a lot.

girls if you were formerly a strigger and you had it listed on as past employment on your facebook. would this be some type of signal, and if so what.

>>18080231
A signal that I'm retarded, yeah.

>>18080234
how so. forgot to add that profile is private for context

>>18080235
Dunno. If I ever had to be a stripper I'd try to forget about it and never ever tell anyone.

>>18080237
huh okay. so do you think that this gives out a general announcement of "im really really dtf (as in easy)" not to everyone obviously.

>>18080240
oh and supposedly she "got married" like a while ago but now theres no trace of relationship status on her profile

>>18080240
Not necessarily.
If I was a guy it'd give me a "danger of dick rot" signal first off all.

>>18080245
thanks for your input

What do you girls think about fighting? My ex used to hate the idea and practically begs not to start anything when some guy starts shit and now the girl I'm kinda into told me she's into watching dudes fight.

>>18080249
I hate it, I hate seeing people hurt and I'd want my boyfriend to avoid it whenever possible.
That being said, if it's not possible, I would still want him to stand up for himself (or his friends, family etc).
But if a guy actively seeks out conflict for kicks or to prove how big his dick is, that's a turnoff.

>>18080252
Im not talking about starting fights but fighting in general. My brother told me way I shouldnt fight infront of girls since they might get hit but there's some people who just want to start shit so do you want your guy to take the shit and look like a bitch or to get violent.

>>18080261
I'd rather my guy doesn't care so much whether he looks like a bitch. If someone attacks you, fight back. If someone calls you a fag, give them the finger and keep walking.

Girls

Is it a red flag if a 27 year old guy has never had a girlfriend before? If yes, why?

>>18080278
It depends on the reason obviously. If he's never had a girlfriend because, I don't know, he's never been in love, oh well.
If he's never had a girlfriend because women are whores made to be bred by his superior cock and he'll only accept the finest of Aryan virgins as offering, well then, time to slowly back away.

>>18080278
We have this question every day

>>18080284
Most guys who are virgins at that age something in between that.

>>18080284

Alright, so it's not a red flag if a 27 year old like me never dated or had gf before because I've just been focusing on things I need to accomplish?

>>18080297
I wouldn't say so, but I'm just one girl. It won't be a problem at all to some, and a deal breaker to others.

>>18080278
If you're 27 and a virgin, fake it till you make it. Lying about not being a virgin literally hurts nobody. If you're really concerned, lower your standards and fuck a fat woman. Get it over with, you know?

So... Cuddling in platonic relationships?

>>18080306
Yes, but I'm a total slut for cuddles.

>>18080302

>If you're really concerned, lower your standards and fuck a fat woman. Get it over with, you know?

I'm not a virgin. But that is shit advice.

>>18080307
There's nothing wrong with that, so long as you practice responsibly. Always wear a snuggie.

For the girls.

If a guy unconfident, awkward, and nervous - afraid to flirt or make any romantic moves. He's very courteous and pleasant and indicates he's attracted to you. Would your willingness to date/try a relationship with him change if you found out that he has psychological problems stemming from child abuse which are the reason he finds it difficult to touch/make moves?

>>18080320
Probably, I'm a selfish bitch and have enough brain problems myself, I couldn't deal dating someone who has tons of complexes too.

How do the women here feel about waiting until marriage until sex, or at least until so far into the relationship that the level of trust/intimacy means a couple are effectively married.

>>18080326
Seems absurd to me. What if we wait 5 years and then it turns out we're completely incompatible sexually?

>>18080332

Not him. But isn't that something you can learn and improve?

>>18080336
Not always, some people are just incompatible. Disregarding the possible biological hindrances (say I can barely fit a hairbrush handle but you're as thick as a coke can), what about kinks? What if I'm really submissive but you can't be dominant? What if your biggest fantasy is anal but I am adamantly against it? What if I need someone to blindfold me, tie me down and fuck me silly, but you think that's basically rape?
That kinda shit. Sexuality is complicated and wonderful but it's a big part of most relationships and a big deal to most people. It's worth knowing what you're getting yourself into with your partner, preferably before marrying each other.

>>18080341

Why does any of that matter if you love each other?

>>18080343
Because real life isn't a Disney movie where everything magically works out because of love, sadly. Relationships are hard work, and even people who genuinely love each other won't just have it smooth sailing all the time.
And not being able to alleviate stress or other problems with fucking each other's brains out won't help there.

Gf will only do doggy if the lights are out. I assume she is self conscious about her ass. Ive told her her ass is a huge turn on for me but it hasn't seemed to help. Why wont she do doggy with lights on?

>>18080347

I remember seeing a statistic tho that couples who waited until marriage before having sex were generally happier and much less likely to divorce.

>>18080350
Well, that was Dean Busby of Brigham, a Mormon doing a study on a Mormon-owned university. Not the most unbiased source.

>>18080349
Would you feel sexy if your girlfriend was staring at your anus? Probably not. Either she finds it hard to subconsciously accept that you find it sexy (or is afraid that you find the idea sexy but if there's a speck of toilet paper or some hair or whatever you're turned off anyway), or she just can't feel sexy herself with her shithole on display.

>>18080353

I don't think that was the Survey i saw. but I dunno.

It would make sense to me why waiting until marriage would make people happier. But, for me personally it doesn't matter. Because I'll never marry, and realistically I'll probably never experience "real" sex anyways.

>>18080356
To each their own, of course. If you want to wait, wait, if you don't want to, don't. But definitely be upfront about this with a potential partner.
And don't throw a pity party, we're all gonna make it.

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>>18080347
You're incredibly shallow and vapid. Relationships are hard work, but love is not contingent upon the sexual performance of partners. If you need to have an orgasm in order to be close to someone, I feel sorry for your children and the rest of your family.

>>18080350
There are non-religious studies. Pic related, it's CDC.

>>18080359

it's not about waiting for me exactly. I mean, I don't want to have a hook up or random sex. Fuck that. But, I won't be able to have sex or have a relationship. I can't accept affection. If someone is affectionate toward me, it makes me distance myself. There was 1 awesome girl who really liked me, but I couldn't accept any affection from her. So obviously it ended things.

>>18080363
We weren't discussing number of sexual partners, we're discussing having one stable partner and whether or not to sleep with them before marrying them or not. Your picture is irrelevant.
>people who fuck around might have more STDs than people who don't
Stop the presses.
Love is not contingent upon sexual performance, but sleeping together sure is a good way to express love, no?

>>18080370
You don't see the causal relationship between premarital sex and many premartial sexual partners?

Look at all the charts. They show stats about stable marriage rates, etc.

>Love is not contingent upon sexual performance, but sleeping together sure is a good way to express love, no?

Sure. But you really are saying that if you had differing sexual preferences to a man you otherwise loved incredibly and had done nothing to wrong or harm you that you'd drop him? You'd jettison happiness and stability just so you can have your perversions tickled?

Does cum in cunt feel as good as planting it there?

>>18080377
It's a psychological good feeling, the vagina is lukewarm as is sperm so you don't literally feel it.

>>18080380

Isn't there also a chemical reaction as well?

>>18080376
No, I'm saying it's irrelevant to the topic at hand because our initial premise was "stable relationship with the intention to marry eventually, should sex occur premaritally (within that same relationship obviously) or not?"

No, I wouldn't drop him. But I'd rather know before we get married whether I'm ever going to have fun in bed or not. And he deserves to know the same. If you already love each other and are even seriously considering marriage down the road, why wait with having sex?

>>18080377
Don't really feel it. But the idea is hot.

>>18080383
Not a chemist so not 100% sure that there isn't but nothing that you actually experience.

>>18080387

I thought I saw on TV that the release of all the testosterone and protein into the vagina is suppose to fire off pleasure neurons for the girl

There's this guy I've met online and we've been talking for quite a while. He admitted that he likes me a lot. We would talk pretty much everyday until a few days ago when he clearly slept with someone else and made me notice it by a text.
Is he trying to make me jealous and react or some shit like that?

>>18080388
>release of all the testosterone and protein into the vagina
Nah. If anything bareback (apart from psychological stuff like knowing it's natural, you could potentially get pregnant - if that's your turn on - and that it feels better for the man) feels better for the woman because the rubber of condoms doesn't feel great for the lady either.

>>18080388
I read somewhere that cum has some kind anti-depressant and when you shoot a huge load into your girl she'll get a lot of dopamine that stays in her system for a long time.

>>18080395
For the record I'm not a guy but I would bet my money on him being the kind of dude who is convinced that you will like him more if you think he's pulling pussy left and right.

>>18078687
Hence why they have contributed almost everything to humanity and founded nearly all ideologies

>>18080402
True. I thought of that aswell, he would quite often tell me about his past sexual encounters describing everything as something really special. I just don't understand why would he disappear for a few days after he had an "encounter" (it could be possible he has met someone more interesting, of course, but it's unlikely), and made it clear with a text message!

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Is r9k right about women?

>>18080399
>getting dicked would literally cure my depression
Well I knew that already but I didn't think there's a scientific basis for it.

>>18080410
>is a bunch of basement dwellers with extremely little relationship experience more right about women than the men who actually dated and loved women

No. It's paranoia and resentment. Plus a lot of the stuff you run into when trying to research how to seduce women or get girlfriends as an inexperienced guy has a very cynical and pessimist outlook on what drives people.

>>18080407
Wait, I'm confused now. Were you with him when you realized he slept with someone else, or did he break the news to you without further communication? Because if it's the latter, that kind of sounds like he might want to pursue someone else and is too much of a coward to come out and really break it down for you, instead hoping that you get the implication.

If this is not the case, him disappearing might be to clear his head? Or maybe he felt guilty because he does like you a lot and this was his way to see if you could look past it and still wanted to move forward with him?

Have you asked him about it at all, what this means for saying he really likes you?

>>18080412
Not specifically getting dicked, a huge load of cum in your cunt would, at least for some time.

>>18080426
Curious, do you have a source for that? I never heard of it before.
Also can't someone please synthesize cum so I don't have to interact with people?

>>18080429
If you google it there's some links, but don't expect too much. Sun is a natural antidepressant. Endorfines from being active are. Or from being cuddled. St. John's worth is an antidepressant.

Just because it has those properties and there's a slight statistical pattern doesn't mean it will change an individual's life around. Actual antidepressants, which is strong medication, doesn't even always do that by any stretch of the imagination.

>>18080431
And here I was getting my hopes up.
But yeah I figured something like that. Guess it's back to normal SSRIs.

>>18080418
No, he didn't "break the news". All he did was texting me in the middle of the night with an ambiguous message and disappear again. I asked him what was he doing that late and he didn't reply.

He often told me he finds me really beautiful and interesting and all that stuff. He'd like to know me better but the problem is that he lives quite far away. He wants us to meet up in order to get "closer", as soon as possible, but I can't now because I'm busy af.

Girls and guys

Anyone else here live through other people's experiences?

>>18079103
>So essentially wait it and out see if it's worth it when and if they break up?

No dude. What I'm saying is that at this point, if you're interested in anything remotely serious, you should probably walk away.

Her behavior shows that this girl either does not value fidelity, or else has a habit of flaking which means that even if you DO end up with her, she will probably end up doing the same thing she's doing to the other guy to you.


>>18080065
>Are guys willing to have sex when girls are on their periods? Or is that gross?
Some are, some aren't. I am, but I like hoping in the shower straight after sex anyway, so the mess has never really bugged me.

>I get really horny when I'm on mine </3
That's pretty natural.


>>18080105
>Guys, how aware are you of your dick during the day?
>is your dick one 'entity' or do you feel the head and the shaft separately

How aware are you of your breasts? Do you feel the the areola separate from the nipple?

Pretty much the same. You are not aware of it unless it's a situation that brings it to your attention.

>>18080190
>Why do guys scribble dicks over everything?

Because it's funny *cue Bevis and Butthead laugh*
Honestly, I'm 28 and my sense of humor has always been more on the dry side so it's never been funny for me, but it's not like it's unimaginable to me.


>>18080395
>There's this guy I've met online [...] Is he trying to make me jealous and react or some shit like that?

Probably. Sounds like he's trying to play some kind of game like he was a playa/PUA.

>>18080429
>Also can't someone please synthesize cum so I don't have to interact with people?
You need to get it au naturel, because the cumload is only the finale in the treatment. The prelude is also just as important. So wanna start your depression treatment?

>>18080323
So you expect other people to tolerate your daddy issues but aren't willing to take care of somebody who has their own troubles?

I guess you conceded you were a selfish bitch. But I would have thought that would be more shameful than anything else.

How do you ideally break up with somebody yet not be a complete bitch?

My partner isn't even that bad, I'm just bored and irritated by them. I can tell they are trying to improve themselves and be optimistic in order to save the relationship and it is just highlighting what a burden they are and I no longer want it. Because I'm not reacting in the expected way and their antics just come across cringe worthy I can tell I've fallen out of love with them.

So if I open up and tell them how I feel I think they'll be devastated and be hurt that they've been trying and I've got all these issues with them that I've not communicated to them so they can't fix them and they've tried so hard to make it work and they'll want to know what is wrong and I'll have to be like..

You aren't that bad. I just hate your dumb sense of humour and your clumsy attempts at sex combined with poor self esteem make me retch even though at first it was sort of cute and you are really shit at cooking and cleaning and basically taking care of yourself because you are like a retarded puppy or something and you stomp around when you walk and chew with your mouth open and you constantly break everything and your friends are all losers and I'm plagued with a kind of existential dread that this is now my life unless I change something and I think you've got to go because you are irredeemably awful.

Except maybe I should just say "it isn't you it is me?", but I know they'll rage at me for being a bitch who didn't try to work it out and just ghosted them and didn't let them process their anger and frustrations and feelings and jeez.

>>18080485
From my experience things like this require some bad emotions. I believe the best you can do is to make them angry at you, so that they move on and feel glad of the change in the end. So being a total rude bitch may be an option. Honesty may bring sadness or depression and destroy their self esteem completely so I'd avoid it.

I mean - you are dealing with emotions here and the only weapon against those is more emotions

>>18080395
While the other answers could be correct, I think he might just be letting you know as a courtesy. So it's not some big secret he's hiding from you.

>>18080497
>be a rude bitch
>but be a lying rude bitch, not an honest rude bitch

Girls

Would it be appropriate to ask a girl if I can kiss her, if I've been hanging out with her (not a date), we are both having a great time and I notice she's smiling at me a lot, getting close to me and putting hands on me? As I said, it's not a date. But, since she's a friend, I wouldn't want to make her uncomfortable.

>>18080514
as strange as it might seem - yes, exactly.
I keked tho

>>18080505
Hm, I guess. But then why ignore me completely?

>>18080516
Don't ask. It makes things very uncomfortable if she's hesitant because it's the kind of question that only has one "right" answer.

Try to give her a kiss on the cheek, like a playful peck out of nowhere, and if she's visibly pleased go for the lips.

>>18080520
But why? How do you expect the guy to better himself if every break up he hears the same old shit?

>>18080033
Absolutely not, I despised my current bf for months.

>>18078899
DO IT. DON'T WAIT. What she said is about as good a signal a stop can get.

>>18080523

Yeah I guess that makes sense. The only thing that makes it confusing for me, is she's French. So, I know kisses on the cheeks can be seen as common gestures. To me, that's not very common. So I just don't want read the wrong signals and overstep her boundaries

>>18080549
For the record, I'm also from a European country where a kiss on the cheek is a pretty neutral greeting. But that's not the same as spontaneously kissing someone after a pleasant moment together.

>>18080527
I do not expect him to become a better person. But Anger, contrary to grief, is the emotion that makes you feel powerful, able to cope with the situation and self-sure. So by telling him he's a loser you push him into depression - he really must be a loser if he lost a person so good she's worth loving. But By angering him to the point in which he himself wishes to break up he may start viewing you as a person not worth him. This implies he *has* some worth inside him.
Of course I do not claim there are no other things that can happen. The situation may resolve in some harmful way, but I have tried it myself and it worked. That's the only thing I actually claim

>>18080552

Yeah that makes sense. How will I be able to tell tho if she liked it? What if she giggles and sort of pulls away? She's sort of a shy girl Tbh.

>>18080562
so completly lie to the person because you're too much of a chickenshit coward to fix things? Like it's better for someone to be constanly angry at a person? You're a fucking idiot, I despise people like you. You're still causing tons of damage you selfish cunt. You only lie so you can feel better about yourself for being a shitty partner. Fucking hate liars like you

What is the least awkward way I can talk to a girl in my lecture? I'm really fucking shy.

>>18080574
>too much of a chickenshit coward to fix things
>implying this hard

what are you, 16?
I did this because I had very good reasons to end the relationship, yet still liked my partner enough not to abuse her amotionally about this.

It's a situation similar to described in question - fixing was present, nothing beneficial can be done.

I never suggested outright lying, only not mentioning some of the painful stuff.

So take your fantastic opinions for a walk to the real life and stop spreading hate here

>>18080527
>But why? How do you expect the guy to better himself if every break up he hears the same old shit?

Alright... I gotta admit, I chuckled a bit reading this...

I haven't been a part of this conversation, and I'm a dude, but let's be real here:

Even if he hears what went wrong, he's not going to fix jack all.

That's not how change works. That's not how human nature works. Believing that it would actually change anything is naive at best, and risks being harmfully delusional at worst.

As humans we have this tendency of hubris to not truly believe anything unless we experience it first hand. Humans don't change when things are pointed out for them. In fact, there are times when people have the opposite reaction and become stubborn, doubling down on whatever thing is pointed out.

Think about it, when your parents scold you about something what is your natural reaction the vast majority of the time?

Is it to instantly radically change your behavior forever more from that point forward? Or is it to say "My bad, Sorry" then MAYBE fix whatever they were scolding you about a few times, but then after a couple of weeks you forget/get lazy and stop doing that and just end up getting scolded about the exact same thing again?

The latter right?

That's what happens when OTHER PEOPLE point out what's wrong for you.

The only way REAL change happens is when you internalize and realize those mistakes for yourself, and decide to change on your own, for no other reason than because you want to be better for yourself.

People become better people because they're sick of their own circumstances. Because they want to be able to say they're proud of who they are. Because they want their kids to look up to them. Because they want to be able to say they're the kind of person that can support others. etc.

They don't change because someone else told them something this one time. Even if they do listen and they do alter their behavior, that change is always temporary.

>>18080587
>I never suggested outright lying
Are you actually fucking retarded?

>>18080033
usually yes but not always

>>18080068
i browse both

and because it's entertaining plus the boards i mainly browse such as /fa/ and /mu/ aren't that gender realted

>>18080588
You didn't exactly give a reason to be a liar and that's what it was about. I have far more respect for an ex who lays it out honestly and says "this is why" and doesn't tip-toe around the issue like a 12 year old caught shoplifting.

>>18080596
>>18080650
kid, there are more (you)'s waiting for you on /b/.
Farewell

>>18080654
Did you actually get mad because someone dared to suggest that honesty might be a good thing?

>>18080654
2nd one wasn't me
you still haven't substantiated your claims at all you fucking dumbass

girls
is that cool if someone talks to you online before talking to you irl
even tho you take the same classes

>>18080657
Sure? No worries.

>>18080655
no. Because they decided to offend me pointlessly instead of stating it politely

>>18080678
Pretty incredible that you can't brush off a simple "you're retarded".

In any case my point stands. Tip-toeing around and getting someone angry for all the wrong reasons without actually pointing out the grievances you have with a person achieves nothing and is fucking stupid.

>>18080691
>my point stands because I have very strong opinions. I require you to back your claims, but mine are fine unbacked as well

>>18080650

The fuck? What are you on about?

I'm guessing you didn't read my post since I pretty clearly stated: I have absolutely nothing to do with anyone who posted before me and I never said anything about how you should deal with a breakup.

Look man, the ONLY thing someone who breaks up with you should have to say is:

"Hey, it's not working out. I don't feel the same way anymore."

That's it.

The rest is on you. You bettering yourself is always on you. They have no obligation to fix your shit, and what's more even if they wanted to, they don't have the capability to, only you do.

Stop expecting people to hand you shit on a silver platter, that's being lazy and it's what's making your ability to cope and evolve atrophy.

>>18080485
>How do you ideally break up with somebody yet not be a complete bitch?

There is no way really.

The best you can do is just be upfront and tell them that you appreciate them, but life changes, and you just don't love them the way you used to anymore.

Is what it is. People fade apart. People grow, and it's not always in the same direction.

Don't give him false hope, don't do something that would make you feel guilty towards yourself to try to spare him, (also, avoid dumping a shit load of criticism. That won't make either of you feel better). Just part as cleanly as you can, in a way that hopefully maintains your own dignity.

The good memories will always be there, even if the end soured.

Like i've been telling this other guy, it's on your soon-to-be-ex to figure out what went wrong on his own, and you caving and pointed out shit actually risks being more harmful than helpful.

>>18080699
>Look man, the ONLY thing someone who breaks up with you should have to say is:
>"Hey, it's not working out. I don't feel the same way anymore."
See this is what I can agree with. My problem was that another anon was suggesting that it's better to get the guy angry for some dumbfuck reason without ever mentioning why he's such a fuck up.

>>18079124
By not dating werewolves

>>18080699
I dumped a bunch of criticism when I broke up with this girl. Given it was all true, it really didn't help the situation much at all at the time. Especially when she was at work. I was in a burn everything state of mind which in retrospect I should've could've handled it much better like saying nothing at all

Hey femanons

I'm a guy who's been single for a while due to personal issues I have not been feeling motivated to chase girls. Now I feel better about myself and I guess I'm ready to start dating/hooking again. But I'm still stressed out by the fact that with every girl I've been with I have had problems maintaining an erection the first night, and I guess it will happen next time too. My heart just starts pounding and I start getting nervous then it just happens and I feel really embarrassed. I exercise regularly and have had several girlfriends in my past with great sex. But right now it's really making it hard for me to make the first move.

>Is this more common than I project?
>Should I stop being worried even if it happens?
>What do girls feel when it happens?

>>18080395
it sounds like he's either trying to make you jealous or just let it be known that he is seeing other girls. i wouldn't do this, but it is implied by default that girls think i sleep around.

>>18080407
i've discussed sexual details and experiences with girls i know, but it's more of a mutual thing, not like high detail so i can increase my ego. on the bright side he's at least letting you know what he is about, rather than having hidden motives and ending up "playing" you.

>>18080349
>>18080355
she wants you to view her a certain way. being at that angle, it's a more insecure position for her to be in. kind of light standing up straight when you have a weak posture. it can and is actually an insecure position for a lot of people to be in because they aren't used to how it feels or how others look at them.

i think it's very silly to only do doggy when lights are off because of being self-conscious. if anything it puts more attention on her ass or bootyhole because she is self-conscious about it to begin with.

>>18080288
lol wrong.

>>18080297
bro it sounds sort of like a cop out. but at the same time i won't date sometimes because i need to focus on more serious things in life too. my logic is if i have a gf i need to be able to apply my existence and beliefs to the relationship 100% because it's part of my lifestyle. not some chick i can easily get as a gf. so again i think it is kinda a cop out for you to be 27 and say that. however, i ain't hating on you at all and i do get where you're coming from. just be aware some girls might try to take advantage of it. also when you get in arguments or break up she will talk trash about you being a virgin back then.

>>18080190
same reason why girls do it. to be silly or semi-funny cause of boredom.

>>18080105
>Guys, how aware are you of your dick during the day?
not much at all. only if i like slide up against the edge of a table or something in order to get by and my front area rubs on it. i think about how i wouldn't be able to do that if we were all naked. also clothing and modern hygiene allows us to tolerate one another more in close proximity.

>Is it constantly on the back of your mind kinda? Or just when you're horny?
when i see a female staring at my package i think about it more often. or when they brush their thigh or hand against my dick i think about it too whenever i see them. kind of like an unspoken thing. when i walk around and do regular things i don't think about it.

>Also when you're horny, is your dick one 'entity' or do you feel the head and the shaft separately or something like that?
to me it all feels like one organ with blood rushed to the area. however i do associate my balls with my dick and it does feel like one complete "package" but being born with one it doesn't feel "foreign" at all. i'd assume same thing goes with females and boobs.

>>18079331
>no replies
>me the idiot

I had hopes of turning you, but go ahead and be a pathetic fucking loser that wants revenge on a girl that's probably riding a much bigger dick than your insecure one.