First date

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>>18073454
>hey guys what should I do on my date with this girl that I know and you don't

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>>18073463
thanks faggot, every bit helps
i meant like shit to talk about or ways to get somone to open up

>>18073454
Start off with her job? the roastie can't want to lifeguard for kiddies forever

>>18073493
she frequently speaks of hating her job, so good start
I dont think she wanted to go to the place or with me when i asked her out.
she responded saying "ok sure, thats fine I dont care".

>>18073504
>ok whatevs
bad sign anon. don't get your autist hopes up, just use the cunt to improve your spaghetti skills for next time

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>>18073516
spoke to an irl pal of mine who has known her for a while and said that shes never done anything with dating and probs thinks that is just a "friend date"
what are my chances on this?

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>>18073454

>Im taking a girl out on a date tomorrow and I have no idea what to do.

Take everything about your personality, combine it with every piece of knowledge you've learned from r9k and do the complete fucking opposite.

So long as you aren't yourself you should be good.

>>18073532
never actually spent time on r9k just knew they were all virgin weebs, but yea im not far off ill try

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blease

>>18073530
well there is chance that she might dig you if you guys really click, but if she's the kind of person (which from what you say she sounds like it) that's always uninterested, there's not a great chance.

Use this as a learning experience you faggot OP, consider yourself lucky

Just try not to act like a total fucking weirdo. Unless that is what you are. In that case you won't be able to hide it long. If it's her first fate too then she will probably be as nervous as you are. Good luck playboy. PS If you get the chance beat it out the frame for me.

I'm a 24 year old kissless virgin, r9k type.

I'm fat and ugly, but I take the classes half-time as an education major, which, if you don't know, are 10:1 female to male. I make small talk all the time and find it easy to get girls to giggle. One common bit of advice, is to treat girls like guys, and that's really it. Just talk to them about anything and everything. Really, I've made this realization myself. It really as simple as "just talking to them".

Also, when they talk about something, pretend to be really interested, they're really into guys listening to them, it's like biological programming. So that's another thing, if you suck at conversation, which is fine, everyone starts somewhere, then try to get her to do all the talking.

As for dating tips? I don't have any. Never been on a date. So take this with a grain of salt. Just make sure she isn't bored, and try to do something generically. Get her an ice cream cone and go for a stroll in the park/town center, pier/beach (I live on the coast). I don't know your geography. Whatever is interesting to do in your town, do it with her.

>>18073599
im tryna turn that shit around.
socially i think that we hit it off its not hard to get her to laugh and we're pretty level in interests and school
if all else fails i will be in a large hiking trip with her in july

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>>18073607
we are going to a new ice cream parlor/ froyo place that opened up, also we go after my sports shit and ill be all dressed up is there such a thing as over-dressing on the first date?

>>18073607
Cont.

I'm not sure if I would recommend a movie, early on in the dating process. Movie dates become excuses to basically just leave the house late at night to make-out/fuck - I've heard this from reliable sources. A movie is actually a pretty awful setting for a date because you can't interact much, and the focus isn't on you.

>>18073608
if so, good luck my man sounds like it's good to go.

don't go in tryna get down her pants, if anything treat her like a friend too just so you won't act like an autist if that's possible, and she'll be all over you afterwards.

>>18073616
This is very hard to answer without knowing details about you or the girl.

Everyone has a style. They look good in certain styles, and not so much in others. Everyone put on their 'Sunday best' outfit, but for some, it may look like they're trying too hard. Not everyone cleans up elegantly in other words. Maybe you look better grunge style like kurt cobain, maybe you're fine in a generic tee and faded jeans. If you're a jock, then have some windbreaker or some gym shit that shows off your muscles/contours.

The other half of the equation is the girl. Do you have any idea, what she looks for in a guy? You need to size her up. Is she trashy, normal, chic/fem - what? Based on how SHE looks, that should also guide you.

>>18073530
Make it clear it is a date for starters.

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>>18073633
no idea on her interests in partners but shes a popular girl who was on the girls swim team in high school ( i was on the mens and thats how we met) shes blonde and has a slender figure with an a cup maybe.

that help?

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>>18073638
So you're both athletic types, huh. I don't think she's gonna dress like a girly girl, and so you probably shouldn't be in a button down with slacks. Do you have her facebook? If she just wears tees/gym clothes, with the occasional blouse, then that gives credence to my theory that you don't have to try too hard.

Look, if you're skinny yourself, then a tee and jeans are fine. But if you're a medium/athletic build then maybe you should go with thicker outerwear. Something like a button down jacket/work shirt - do you have anything like pic related? This looks good if you're buff IMO.

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>>18073454
Here's an easy way to make conversation, that almost always works:

Ask a question.

It makes someone have to answer, and unless they know nothing about it or don't want to talk about it, will reply with more than a one-word response. They'll probably say something about how they feel about it, which would prompt you to reply with how you feel about it. Remember: BE HONEST on first dates, unless it's just casual or you're young. If you want the relationship to last long-term, she has to be someone who is cool with the real you, otherwise you'll have to play the role of pretend-you for the whole relationship.

Besides, being honest, open, and comfortable with who you really are shows CONFIDENCE, which everyone finds attractive, men and women alike. Even if you're nervous, even if you're into really nerdy things, don't show embarrassment. Be proud of who you are, and women will find you more respectable, even if you're into some weird stuff. Just maybe don't open with your Magic: The Gathering win/loss ratio or anything too far from average interests, but if you ever touch on your weird interests you can even acknowledge that it's nerdy and laugh about it, and that usually smooths it over, establishes that you're a "normal person" behind it all.

A first date is almost like an interview, but with two applicants. She's trying to get to know you to see if she'd want to be with you, and you should be trying to get to know her to see if you want to be with her. If you seem comfortable and relaxed and try to have fun with it, things will go as well as they can, unless she just really doesn't see herself with you. REMEMBER: Never date on looks alone, again, unless it's casual or a fling and you know it won't last long. The most attractive people often have undeveloped and unattractive personalities, because their looks make up for it. Not an absolute rule for all them, but a fairly common pattern.

That's all I've got off the top of my head.

Good luck out there.

>>18073652
she actually dresses surprisingly girly for her personality, when i asked her out she was wearing a pair of jeggings an a type of cream mesh sweater on top of a trendy white tee as for work shirts im out i do have a 3 button polo that is a thin striped black/grey ill look for a pic

>>18073666
checked
also problem, i lied about not going the place before.
I Feel like that isnt a big deal but yeknow

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>>18073652
>>18073668
close to this but with a pocket thats completely black like the collar

Just be yourself man

>>18073669
>not going the place
.../r9k/?

You actually shouldn't admit that you live on 4chan until you've been on a couple of dates, at least. That's one of those need-to-know basis kind of things.

The first few dates are to show and tell the most prominent parts of your persona, and to ask her about the things that matter most to you in a partner.

For all you know, she might be into, like, snuff porn, or torturing animals, or being a jehovah witness or some crazy shit.

>>18073674
Ah. You're a polo guy. Well, if it doesn't drape, and look baggy on you then, it should be fine desu. But again, you don't want to be under-dressed if she's in some pretty blouse or even a dress. I say, air on the side of caution, and go with a 'Sunday best' outfit: collared shirt with slacks or some stonewash/dark jeans. Only use your polos once you know for sure, that you won't be upstaged.

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>>18073685
no, not what i meant sorry my typing autisim kicked in

I told her that i hadnt been to the place before but I actually have.

>>18073682
The real advice is:
Just be yourself, and if, after a decent sample size of tests, it turns out that no one likes yourself, try to figure out what to change in order to become a more likeable person, then if you've really changed and are comfortable with who you are, attempt further tests. Otherwise, stay your unlikable self and attempt to find interests/pursuits other than sex or relationships.

>>18073693
i could always kill myself, but thanks /adv/ this really helped and calmed my nerves.

>>18073692
Oh, that's cool.

As long as there's no way to show that you've been there before (perhaps a strange ordering process that a new person may not know), you're fine.

>>18073694
The ultimate red pill is this and you can choose to accept it or reject it.

There is no such thing as a soul mate. You're not going to meet the 'perfect girl' by happenstance -- none of that romantic novel/soap stuff is real.

I have friends and family members who are in committed relationships and I've asked them how that came about -- how it all works out in the end. And they all tell me similar things. That what it boils down to that is that they found their partners reasonably attractive, but it wasn't about looks alone. It wasn't about one single quality or experience. They all say, that they liked their partners after getting to know them and forming a bond/friendship with them. What it boils down to, is that they were all reasonably compatible with one another, shared enough interests/goals, and decided to make a lifelong commitment.

So yeah, it's not about a love at first sight, or cringey-dorky pick-up lines or romantic advances. It's about bonding and basically selling all your pros and cons to a person, and having them accept you for who you are: and vice-versa. That's it. Those are the relationships that last anyway.

So yeah man, don't go suicidal/emo because this one girl wasn't the one. The best analogy is that you're kinda like a used car salesman. You're not gonna know how to make your first sale, it will take practice.You're going to need to put yourself out there and possibly employ sleazy tactics. Remember: all is fair in love and war.

>>18073454
shes probably a slut if shes a lifeguard so anything should work

>>18073479
Just be friendly and not a dick.