i have a lot of friends, but not any close ones. im also quite

spend more time with them

>>18072658
>spending time
>with other people
epic meme
id rather stay home

>>18072856
Might be a meme but I think that anon is right, besides of my childhood friends that I had to leave behind I haven't made a close relationship with anyone ever since.

Yeah, spending time with people helps, but what you do in that time matters more than anything. If you go out every day and talk about weather for 2 hours then go home you won't feel a deep connection to them.

There are 2 things that will get you really close to other people:
Having stimulating conversations and being open. Having deep conversations, talking about subjects you're both passionate about, sharing intimate traits, beliefs and memories with each other, that kind of stuff.

And even more important, having extraordinary experiences together. Any activity that's not daily routine and that stimulates you in any way will make you more attached to the person you're doing it with. For instance, surviving a car accident can get you really close to a person. It doesn't have to be something this extreme though, it can be something like an exciting vacation, a game of hide and seek, or a walk at night in the woods. It can be something even more mundane, like a team sport or completing a challenging project, but, of course, the more extreme it is, the closer it will make the people involved. Basically anything that offers you some stimulation, excitement, or involves overcoming a challenge will bring the people involved closer to each other.


Stuff like having common preferences and beliefs, similar tastes, similar backgrounds etc count to some extent too, but they're not as important.

>>18072891
the exact same is true for me
>>18072929
thanks man, actual sound advice

le bump

pls respond

>>18074279
It's hard to actually have a deep relationship with someone when you're actually not interested in having one. First of all you have to fix your own attitude. Find people who have the same interests as you, invite them over for a drink or even better share said interests. The more often you see someone the closer your relationship will be with that person. Try to find common ground with that person, spend time with that person alone, try to give that person more private information (I.e. secrets, stuff you wouldn't tell just anybody) and most important - become a good listener. People will love you more if they can be sure that you'll always be a 100% listening when they're talking.

About girls - tease them a bit, touch them lightly (no creepy stuff) and they will become more interested in you. Don't appear needy and let them do the talking (same principle as above). 100% focus on a person when she is talking to you, hold eye contact etc. There are tons of books and blogs out there that will teach you that stuff.

But like I said - you need to want that. I usually use high energy days to meet with people as it is easier for me to keep conversation and listening up for a longer time. Also motivation is higher.

>>18074296
interesting
so direct initiation is best?