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Single and sexless...how to cope? 2017-02-21 07:39:48 Post No. 18070155
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I'm really trying to improve my life. I live at home and I'm broke. I have anxiety and very bad self-esteem. I have put together a plan to try and improve life over the coming months. I'm self-studying web development full time for a few months before I try and get a basic wagecuck job. I will then save some money to move out whilst continuing to study part-time until I'm ready to start applying for junior positions in the future.
Its about the best I can hope for.
The problem I have is that I can't deal with the day to day frustration of my situation. Its been this way for years. Short-term pain is affecting my ability to stay focused on achieving long-term gain. And being single and seriously sexually frustrated is just depressing me all the time. I haven't had sex in over 3 years. I know I have no chance of getting a gf or getting laid in my situation. I know I have to improve to stand a chance. But the frustration is stopping me progressing. Its a never ending loop.
If I was just getting laid it wouldn't be so bad. I'd fuck escorts if I could afford it. But I have no good looks, no game and no independence so I don't even try shit like Tinder etc, what would be the fucking point? Jerking off does not help, in fact it makes things worse in the long run. So I have begun abstaining to try and build some self-control.
How do you get through the days of suffering when you know you have a long term goal? I just want to grind and be sure that things will improve. But I just end up getting so down that is sabotages all my efforts.
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m8 im in the same boat.
For me the trick is trying to not think about it all at once. If you're super worried about hooking up with a girl and then pissed because you dont have a girlfriend, you're just going to work yourself into a frenzy.
So the way i deal with that is just focusing on why i dont have a gf, and then looking where i could possibly remedy that situation. There is no point at worrying about what comes after meeting the girl before you even meet her.
As for the living at home part, dont even worry about it. Lots of people are forced by economic circumstance to live at home.
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I hope your goals are realistic. You may have to compromise. My advice is get a wagecuck job ASAP. You'll feel better getting paychecks.
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My advice would be to start SOMEWHERE, at least. Get a bsic wagecuck job, improve slowly on your social skills, go from there. For savings: try to save as much as possible to move out if you wanna, see from there.
To be honest: I think sex is good, but overrated if you do it with a person you have no real connection with. Making love with a person you love is one of the best feeligns on earth, with that. Should not be a goal, imo. I haven't had sex for over a year, but at this point in my life I am also not really looking for something serious so that puts sex automatically a bit on my downer list.
The point is that you have to cope with change, and adapt. Try new stuff. Get the wagecuck job, or try to do something with the web development thing.
Good luck, anon.
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