Friend keeps complaining

>>18067346
You're not a dick for not wanting to listen to this constant stream of negativity. It gets old, fast.

She's a dick for taking advantage of your friendship to treat you like a dumping ground.

Occasional venting to a sympathetic ear as a catharsis that then lets you get on with life is fine. What she seems to be doing is just wallowing in misery, and talking about it just keeps her miserable. She's not doing anything to make her life better, or to find meaning.

She needs to find something to do that will occupy her time with something other than "woe is me, my life sucks, I'm so depressed". When my thinking goes along some fucked up track and I want it to stop, I go out running, and I run until I'm so fucking exhausted that all I can think about is forcing my body to keep moving.

She wants some meaning? Go volunteer to help people.

When my friends get like this, I usually just make them go out and do stuff.

If it's a constant thing, I tell them they need to go find a shrink to whine to, preferably someone who is going to help them either figure out some coping strategies to stop focusing on the negative or at least stop whining, or to actually come with with a real plan to try to deal with what's bothering them.

>>18067454
Why can't I have friends like you?

In the same boat. These types of people flock to me. They find me no matter where I go. I need to stop being such a good listener or stop feeling sorry for people so much. I swear I am always putting out other people's fires. Than when I have my own problems, I don't even get to talk about them bc I am always interrupted so they can talk about their problems. Sigh.

>>18067346
>I have this friend who only talks about her problems to me
Stopped reading there. She's not really your friend

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>>18067454
Solid